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Hurt my butt haha, would it still work if i did it on a bed?

Haha, the same happens to me. I'm not sure if doing them on a bed would affect the exercise at all, but it could. I would suggest still doing them on the floor, but try placing a pillow or a folded blanket underneath you to support your butt. :-P

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My friend's grandma is really close to dying, and she is really upset about it because she has been through more than I can even describe and if I did it would take me a long time.. But I never know what to say to make her feel any better about it.. I usually just say I'm here for you and it'll all be okay and stuff along those lines but I don't know what to tell her.. Any suggestions?

Blah, I know exactly how crappy that feels. My best friend's grandma just passed away the day after Thanksgiving. She had been sick for awhile, and my friend had always come to me for help.

Since you obviously can't prevent what could happen in the future, there isn't a whole lot you can do, other than what you've been doing.

But honestly, just letting your friend know that you're there for her, might be a bigger help than you think. If she needs to talk or a shoulder to cry on, then just be there for her and let her know you care.

And if the unthinkable happens, and her grandma does end up passing away, I would suggest going to the funeral with her, if you haven't thought about it already. I went with my friend, and she said it was a HUGE help, knowing she had someone with her, when she was dealing with such a rough situation.

I hope this helps, and I offer my condolences to your friend. :-\

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my boyfriend is a senior and im a sophmore. hes lets say alottt more experienced then me. and its not that i dont feel comfortable with him. but its just kinda weird that i dont have as much experience. we havent gone farther than handjob and fingering so far. but i would wanna lose my virginity to him but i feel that it would be alittle uncomfortable for me knowing hes done it times before and i havent done it once...so if this happened to anyoneee pleasee help :].
&& boys howw would you feel with a younger virgin being less experiencedd and if it wasnt "good"?

Well I'm almost 20 and my boyfriend is 25. I haven't ever had sex (and don't plan to yet), but obviously at his age, he's had some experience before. So I know how that feels, and yes, it's a little awkward.

But the good thing is, when we finally decide to take that step, he has told me that it's really a good thing, because it shows him that I trust him and love him enough to let him be my first. And I'm sure your guy probably feels the same way.

And if your guy really loves you, then it's not going to matter whether you're "good" at it or not. I doubt he'd expect you to be completely perfect anyway, since it's only your first time. And from what I've heard, a caring, genuine guy isn't going to mind "teaching" you either. ;)

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16/m

i have the life some kids dream of. if i'm persistant i get whatever i want, within reason of course. in other words, if something is realistically within my reach, my parents will get it for me, and money is almost never an issue (until i start asking for BMWs and Mercedes). and other than one time i can think of, there is no time in my life where i was anything but utterly happy.

my girlfriend has had her dad leave, her sister die, had an abortion, lives with a single mom who had JUST RECENTLY lost her job, and in no way shape or form can i relate. they're short on money, and the only thing other than me that makes her happy is cheering, and that is a financial burden to them. what's even worse is that she is the best girlfriend i could imagine having through highschool, and she is so positive ALL THE TIME, and she's just been really down on herself lately. and there's nothing i can do.

ULTIMATELY:
i'm a 16 year old boyfriend. and she's my 16 year old girlfriend. i care SOOOO much about this girl, but i feel absolutely TERRIBLE for not being able to do anything except be supportive and tell her that everything is going to be ok, when in all reality i can't promise that. i have been the best boyfriend i could be, and that doesn't even seem like enough. so here i am, asking strangers for a bit of advice.

i rate, so please quality answers only.

To me, it already sounds like you've done all you can really do. You can't change what has happened to her, and you can't really prevent what happens in the future. But letting her know that you'll always be there for her, might be a bigger help than you think.

I can't in no way say I've had a life as bad as hers, but when I'm feeling down, whether it's on myself or my current situation, it always helps to know that my boyfriend is always there when I need him, either to talk or simply offer a hug. It feels so much better knowing that someone cares, and it really makes me feel a lot better.

So as long as she knows that you're always going to be there for her when she needs you, then I think that's more than enough. And I can just tell by what you've said, that you really care about her, so I give you major props for being such a great boyfriend to her. Not every girl is that lucky. :)

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So there's this guy that I've recently started liking. He's in one of my classes but we've never really talked too much or been good friends. We were more like acquaintances but then he did some stuff that made me and my friend think if he could maybe like me.

Before I liked him my friend and I were in the lunch line and him and his friend come up and we all just start talking and at one point he just comes up and puts his arm around me and my friend. My friend told me later on that he didn't put his arm around her until after he put it around me and she thought that he only did that so she wouldn't feel left out or something but I don't know.

Last week, after I started liking him, I was walking to class with a friend and he was walking by himself in front of me and once my friend left to go to class he turned around and started walking backwards really slowly and started talking to me. But then one of his friends came up and they started talking so I went into class but then he comes up behind me and puts his arm around me and I put my arm around him and we hug. It was just really sweet and it totally made my day.

A few days later we were kinda talking a bit more here and there and after class I asked him for a hug and he gave me one. But then a couple days later my group of friends somehow ended up sitting with his group of friends for lunch and he was kinda rude to me. The next day I saw him before school and I waved to him but he was really awkward about it like he didn't really want to but he wanna be rude or something. In class the next day he ended up grading my quiz and since he sits right by me he just turned around to give it to me and I said thank you but he just gave me a blank look. A little while later the teacher asks him to give me a piece of paper and he just kinda throws his hand back and kinda throws it to me in a really rude way but I said thank you anyway and he didn't even say anything.

So today I was expecting the same kind of treatment from him and I wasn't even planning on talking to him because I didn't like the way he's been acting. But when me and my friend were walking over to the building our class was in I saw him standing by the door just holding it for people as if he was waiting for someone and then he looked back and saw us and he kinda straightened up a bit. We walked through the door and my friend said thank you but I didn't say anything I just kept walking and I was kinda expecting him to stay by the door but he was walking behind us and he ended up walking next to me with my friend on my other side and they started talking a bit and I just piped in here and there and when my friend left to go to class we walked the rest of the way together and we were talking and laughing and he was just being really nice to me.

I don't get it! I mean one day he's so sweet to me and the next he's like ignoring me! What's up with this?! My friend says that he could like me since guys treat girls weird sometimes when they like them but I don't know! Why is he acting this way and how can I find out about how he really feels about me?

The best way to find out how he feels is to ask him. It sounds like he does like you, but he probably thought he was coming on too strong, too soon, which caused him to back off a bit. He might have been a bit embarrassed about it, especially if this only happened within a few days. Give it time, and see what happens. But like I said, if he keeps acting strangely, ask him what's up.

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Could people list songs that have to do with a girl being over her ec boyfrann because she found a new guy?
Anything that sounds good
Song title & band name please&thankyou

Pink - So What.

I'll add more if I can think of them. :)

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okay, so dont know this guy at all, but i have seen his myspace and stuff alot since some of my friends are like best friends with him. and i went to go see my friends band preform, and hes in it. so i asked to be friends with him on myspace, and commented him and said ," you guys did really well last night, i dont think i got a chance to meet you last night, im ashley" and he commented back and said, "hey thanks! im jake btw since we didnt get to meet =]"
and so i said, 'nice to meet you' and he said back, 'nice to meet you too =]"

and i saw these SMILEY FACES in his comments and it kinda made me think he ment it in a flirty way? is that true or not?!?! what does it mean? if your a guy let me know if you add smiley faces to be flirty or what? and if your a chick, let me know what you think? cuz i might be freaking out since i thought he was adorable to begin with hhahha,.

I think you're probably overanalyzing haha. He could very well be flirting with you, or he could just be a friendly guy. Either way, I think you should keep talking to him casually and see if anything develops further. :)

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how do you make your hair curly or wavy without using a hair straightener or curler?? because i have stick straight hair and i want to do something with it but i dont want to fry it and whenver i use a curling iron it doesnt work and my hair doesnt curl anyway with it...

Scrunching is good. You can use something like Aussie Catch the Wave 2-in-1 mousse and leave-in conditioner when you get out of the shower, and then use their scrunching spray. I have naturally wavy hair, but they definitely help to accencuate my waves and look really pretty. :)

Also, you can take a shower at night and put your hair in braids while it's still wet. Leave it like that over night, and in the morning, take them out, and your hair should be wavy.

Sunsilk also has a line of shampoo, conditioner, and spray, specifically to make waves, so you can try that as well.

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So, Christmas is coming up soon, and i have NO IDEA what to get my boyfriend. i dont really have much money. but any ideas would be great!

I am getting my boyfriend some nice cologne (probably from Marshall's, because they have good cologne for about $10). He also went to Penn State, and since I currently go there as well, I'm getting him a PSU hoodie.

You could also get him CDs of music he likes, DVDs, or video games that he's into.

Hope that gave you some ideas. :)

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Am i a slut if ive been fingered and eaten out at age 11?

I'm gonna have to agree with the other person. No one should be experimenting THAT early..

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14/f. on my right boob there is this yellow spot around the size of my pinkie nail. is this anything i should be worried about?? thanks

That does sound a lot like a bruise. Just wait a few days, and if it doesn't get any better, try seeing a doctor, just to be sure. :)

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how do you get pictures from your computer on itunes & on your ipod?

Go to iTunes and click on the part that say's "(your name)'s iPod". from there, there are links at the top of the screen of things that you can add to your iPod. click on the one that says "pictures" (or photos, i don't remember). and then from there, you can add whatever pictures you want that are saved on your computer.

hope that helped, let me know if you need anymore of a description. :)

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18/f

okay well i saw somewhere that someone said you have more control over what your vagina smells/tastes like more than people think. i was just wondering what kind of foods make it smell bad, like is it fast food? junk food such as candy, chocolate? and what foods will help the smell/taste and how much of it a day do you have to eat? anything will help :)

i've also heard that pineapple makes it smell better. fruits in general, really.

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How can i look older? i'm 17 and i dont really look it. And most of my friends look like that are like 19 and could serioysly pass for 21, its SO annoying! I don't wear that much makeup and so i try to wear more, but like too much looks stupid on me.

Any ideas?
THanks!

Other than what the person below me said, there's not a whole lot you can do. I'm almost 20 and still look like I'm 16, so I know how that feels. But on the brighter note, when you're 40, and can still pass for 30, you'll be appreciative. :)

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is bad eyesight entirely genetic?

It isn't entirely genetic, although it can be. Both my parents have poor eyesight and so do I.

But there are other factors, such as staring directly into the sun, sitting too close to the TV, or staring at a computer screen too often.

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i can't decide!!!

I just got the env2 a couple of weeks ago, and so far, i absolutely love it!

You can get it black or maroon, or buy a sweet cover for it (i got blue).

It's a flip phone with 2 screens, and you can talk or text with either one. There's a neat little keyboard on the inside. :)

You can also send picture and video messages, both good quality.

There are also add-ons, such as internet and VZ navigator.

I think it is about $200, but depending on your plan and contract, you can get it cheaper.

Sorry, I don't know much about the voyager, but I hope that helped some. :)

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everytime i keep going back to my ex boyfriend who always keeps cheating on me and stands me up. and today we finally started talking again since the summer. i dont know if i should go back to him or not. this would be the third time i went back if i did.

Well he's cheated on you and stood you up before.. who's to say he wouldn't do it again?

I personally don't think you should get back together anytime soon. Stick to friendship, until he can prove he's more trustworthy.

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i love this radio station and basically all the songs they play...does anyone know the names of some the songs they play? thanks

I don't think anyone is going to be able to answer that, because radio stations differ from city to city. Your best bet is to go to their website. Normally, they will have their playlists on there. The stations I listen to do anyway, so give it a shot. :)

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I really like Picnik but I've been told that there were better photo editors but I cant really find them.

Anyone have suggestions for photo editors that are like or better than Picnik.com?

I'm not sure if it's as good as or better than Picknik, but I've always used Irfanview. I really like it, and you can do all the editing and effects you want. It's easy to use, and doesn't bring any viruses when you download it, so that's definitely an added bonus. Here's the link if you're interested:

http://www.irfanview.com/

:)

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I am a small person and it is kinda hard to put on weight. Many people think it is a good thing but I don't like being skinny. I am trying to put on weight but now that I do have a little bit more meat on me I want to tone it without losing it. I tried getting together little stretching or workout routines but its really hard to keep up with it. I start to slack off or forget to workout. My question is, what would be the best thing to do: Yoga, stretching, weight lifting etc. Another thought is what if i join a gym? Do you think I would be moer into getting fit. My main concern is my body image, i want to be "sexy" or "hot" or "fit" whatever you want to call it. I want to have a nice frame when im older not just now. I want to always love who i am and keep up with my image i am just finding it hard to find a routine that fits my day. I am young, plan on going to school work 4 days a week and still like to go out and enjoy my life. What do you think I should do. And what would be the best way to get the tight but, nice stomach and nice legs and women want???

P.S. Do you think it would be a good idea to try and involve my bf in going to the gym with me???

This isn't going to be very detailed, cause I'm short on time, but I've been taking yoga classes at my college, and it's really toned me up. I'm a petite girl like you, and I'm really happy with the results. It's toned mainly my arms, legs, and abs, and it's just awesome. It makes you feel good as well. :)

And btw, I think it would be a GREAT idea to get your bf to go to a gym with you! It serves as positive motivation, and you will get to spend more time with each other doing something that's good for you both. :)

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