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ok so me and my boyfriend had sex like 2 weeks ago i dont come on my period yet till da begginig of month.but as me and my bofriend was doing it da second time im not sure if he came in me(he said he didnt) because all of it was on his stomach but we pulled out kinda late.well yesterday i took a pregnancy test and it came back negative. it seems like i get a feeling of something moving around in my stomach can someone tell me what dat means? (link)
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Nervous indigestion will cause a butterfly effect in your stomach - it most definitely will not be caused by a baby at this stage. There is a high chance that you could be pregnant and you need to have this confirmed. You need to wait until your period is late and then take another pregnancy test. Hope this helps.
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well i heard that if you have sex to much your vagina gets loose.how does that happen? (link)
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Actually it's giving birth that will loosen the vagina more than the sex part. It is the stretching of the vagina walls when giving birth that will cause it. Yes the vagina does lose definition over a very long period of time but if you do pelvic floor exercises every day that will definitely help. Hope this helps.
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I broke my pinkey and i cant do anythung now its fractured in to places and broken in one
LUV,
Nothing to do (link)
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You have seven other fingers and two thumbs - there must be a lot you can do on the computer. It's no joke breaking a bone but it does heal eventually and the time does pass. Try reading or watching a DVD. All the best.
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So like, everyday when I go to the bathroom I notice that theres this whiteish clearish stuff that "comes out". Its really gross! and it comes out like a lot. So is it normal or what?? I wear a liner everyday but sometimes i feel like its not enough. Help? (link)
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It is a perfectly normal function of the female body and nothing to worry about unless it changes into a nasty colour and starts to smell 'fishy'. If that happens then you most likely have a yeast infection and will need to see a doctor to get it cleared up. It is natures way of keeping that area inside of you lubricated and healthy. You are right in saying it is gross, I still don't like it but we have to live with it. I also wear a liner every day to stay fresh. All the best.
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if your on birth control can the guy cum in you?
dont say use a condom because STD's .. me and my partner dont have any so in other peoples experience or heard of stories how likely would you be to get pregnant .. not very likely right? (link)
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If you are using birth control properly according to the instructions then you should be fine. However, if you do not adhere to the instructions or are sick/taking antibiotics, don't rely on the pill alone use a condom as well. If you think that your birth control has failed in any way, please see a doctor for the morning-after pill (you should not rely on this as a back-up continuously). Hope this answers your question.
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OK, well, can you tell me signs like when the day before you have your period..?
thanks in advance! (link)
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Every woman is different but here are some signs to look for:
Tender breasts
Slightly bloated tummy
Feeling annoyed or just a bit 'off'
Slight show of blood in the panties
A slight chance of a runny tummy
There could be many more signs that only affect some women and not others. Hope this helps.
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Well, me and my boyfriend had sex like 3 or 4 days ago and he told me he got off in me, twice, 'cuz we had sex twice that day and that he got off in me both times. well, he said that he's had sex before with like 3 girls and he's got off in them and they didn't get pregnant. He says that he thinks he may not be fertile, but I'm just scared that there may be this chance that I could be pregnant. If I am, my parents would absolutely kill me. What are some of the syptoms that you get right after you get pregnant..like food cravings?.. things like that? is there a big chance that I could be pregnant. answers asap will be appreciated very much!!! (link)
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Oh dear! That was not a very good idea to believe him. You also put yourself at risk of catching an STD.
However, damage limitations. You need to do a pregnancy test when your period is late. You should also consider testing for STDs or any other nasty things he may have passed on to you.
Usually the first signs of pregnancy are:
No period
Tender breasts
Nausea or morning sickness
Food cravings don't generally happen at the beginning of pregnancy.
If you start to experience these symptoms (they will vary from person to person) you will need to
establish whether or not you are pregnant. You should then see a professional who can take you through your options. It will also be necessary to tell your boyfriend because you will need his support.
I suggest refrain from saying anything to your parents until you know the facts.
I will also say that despite you thinking they will kill you - they love you and will want to be supportive eventually. Yes they will be disappointed and may get very angry, but that will pass.
Please learn from this and always use a condom regardless of what the boy may say. Also, you could have gone to your doctor for the morning after pill. I feel that too much time has passed for that to be an option this time. (I may be wrong and it is worth checking).
I wish you all the best.
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Hello.
14/M.
On the outside surface of my scrotum (NOT ON A TESTICLE)
I have a small, hard yellow bump that is not going away. Its about the size of an average pimple, except yellow. What should I do? What is it? Will it go away?
Advice is EXTROADINARILY appreciated. (link)
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I appreciate that you might feel embarrassed to go to the doctors but this is the advise that I am giving to you. It is very difficult on this site to give advise on something like that without actually seeing it. Please ask to see a male doctor and have him put your mind at rest. All the best.
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okay so i have a boyfriend who really loves me and i was in love with him but im more in love with his personality than looks. but i know you shouldn't go by looks in a relationship but it helps. we've been going out for 6 months and i recently became friends with this guy i like knew about before i was going out with my boyfriend and hes extremely attractive. he even likes me and ive hung out with him a few times and we have a lot of fun. i know ive been going out with my boyfriend and i would never cheat on him because im not like that but i feel like i want to be able to like flirt with people and explore, but i feel like im not able to with a boyfriend. Like sometimes i love having a boyfriend and sometimes i feel like i wish i didn't have one. but my boyfriend is in love with me and i don't want to break his heart. he got mad at me for hanging out with this other really hot guy who likes me, but i feel like i should be able to hang out with whoever i want. i dont know what i should say to my boyfriend or what i should do. this is a tough situation because i know my boyfriend will be there for me but this hot guy i kind of like but i don't know if he just wants to just get with me, be friends or anything more or less. this other guy seems really nice and likes me and im attracted to him. i dont know what to do, please help me. (link)
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It can be extremely tough in your position and there is no clear-cut answer. Only you can decide whether or not you want to stay with your current boyfriend or move on to someone else.
You need to ask yourself where you see your current relationship in six months to a year. If you can see yourself still being with your current boyfriend then I suggest staying with him. If you see yourself trapped and unhappy you need to end it now. It may hurt your boyfriend for a while, but he will get over it. However, the grass is not always greener on the other side and just because the other guy is hot on the outside - what is he really like?
You are still very young and you should be having fun dating lots of other guys. That is the only way you will discover what you really want from a long-term relationship.
Just one further thought - if your current boyfriend is getting mad at you hanging out with other people, do you really want to be in a possessive relationship?
I hope that this has helped clarify your situation a little but if I can help you further please let me know. Good luck.
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i have to say i am concerned about the fact that i have a smell to my "jewels" cant seem to get rid of it shower bath it doent matter still there (link)
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You may have a yeast infection that needs to be cleared up. However embarrassed you might feel, please consult a doctor or have a word with a pharmicist. Many, many people have this problem and a doctor will probably deal with it several times a day. All the best.
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I was just wandering.. but if you have sex with a guy, but he doesn't cum inside you, can you get pregnant? I have a friend that had sex, but she said he didn't cum inside her, that he held it back.. so is there a chance where she could be pregnant? (link)
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The answer is definitely a YES. Precum contains active sperm and your friend can most certainly become pregnant.
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I was having sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke while he was inside me. I got my period about a week later but only for three days and it was really light. I told him i was pregnant cause I thought I was but i feel bad cause now im not sure. Do you think i could be? this all happend in the past three weeks so im not sure if it would show up yet. (link)
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The best way forward with this is to have a pregnancy test done at the doctors or family planning clinic (confidentiality will apply). Only when you are sure about the results should you decide on what you tell your boyfriend. If you are not pregnant tell him you made a mistake and I am sure he will be totally relieved. If you are pregnant then you will both have some big decisions to make together. It will not be easy and I suggest you both get some advice from the FPC if you are pregnant. I hope that it all works out for the best for you both. Good luck.
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My dad told me that, he sees his girlfriend's daughter who's in my grade basically more then me. I mean, it wasn't my fault my parents got divorced in the first place I was like 2. Anyway, I havn't seen him in 3 months,
I feel so guilty for not seeing him. And I miss him, a lot. I've cried a couple times. And I want to see him, but everytime I'm about to call him, I keep hearing all this stuff about his girlfriend's daughter (Who happens to be in my grade, and gorgeous but really mean).
Anyways, my life kind of feels like a cinderella story but different. I'm not feeling sorry for myself or anything. I just don't know how to talk to him about it, I feel like he doesn't love me. I don't really even know him.
Any adivice before I start like, balling on Fathers day?! (link)
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If you feel that talking to him would only end in your tears, why not write him a letter from your heart. Tell him what you are feeling and what you would like from him. He needs to know that you are important in his life and that you want a relationship with him. Invite him to meet you on neutral ground for a cup of coffee or something to eat and ask him how he feels about what you wrote. You need some answers and only he can give them. I wish you all the best.
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Can anyone be very DETAILED in answering: would you allow your child to go on a stay away from home visit - with ANYONE whom you do NOT know where they live, or whom they live with? (link)
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When it comes to my children I want to know everything I can about who they would be staying with. I definitely would never allow her to go on a stayover if I didn't know where she was and who she was with. The adult is the one who has to make these decisions, not the child. The other people may be very nice BUT YOU DO NOT KNOW FOR SURE. Safety is paramount because once a deed is done, it cannot be undone. If you have to be the horrible, mean adult here so be it. Good luck.
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iv had sex loads of times but i actually bled the last time why ?
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The inside of the vagina may have been scratched accidentally during intercourse, which will cause a little bleeding. If you continue to bleed after sex, you may need to have it investigated by your doctor. If at any time you have concerns about yourself always seek medical attention.
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I am 15 years old. I am Catholic and I really need help from other Christians.
I love going to church and I love praying. It just makes me feel so great to see all of the people who have close relationships with Jesus.
I believe in Jesus but the sad thing is is that I never have actually "felt" him like some describe it. I am always wondering, "Am I doing something wrong?"
I need your help. How did you guys get a relationship with Jesus?
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You are not doing anything wrong if you truly believe in what you are doing. I suggest you ask your Priest for his help in 'feeling' Jesus within you. He is there to guide you spiritually and will probably be highly delighted to be of assistance. All the best.
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I never really was the type to study for tests. Pretty recently, since my test grades have dropped, I'm not allowed to go on the computer during the weekdays, since I will be expected to study to improve those grades. I do well on homework, since I have the resources [internet, notes, ect.], but when it comes to tests, I feel that I do SO well on them and am SURE to get a good grade; when it's handed back, there's a big C written on it. I don't understand what's going on. I know the material, and am NOT about to let my grades slip down the drain. I just don't understand what's going on. I think it's because I rush through the test, and don't go back and fix silly mistakes. I'm just not motivated enough, I guess.. I just need some tips.
Do not say the following:
'umm idkmibffjill look it up on google?'
'eat breakfast!!!' [I already know that]
Please put some effort into your answer.
Thanks. :) (link)
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The best advice I can give is to read through the paper completely when you first turn it over. Then go through it answering all those questions that you know the answer to and make sure they are spelt correctly and accurately. Finally, with the time left go through all the questions you do not know for certain and have a go at them, again making sure you spell words correctly and use the correct grammar etc. If you have any time left at the end, use it to tweak your answers to get every possible mark you can out of them. Also, lastly, make sure your writing is clear and legible. Good luck.
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last night i got into a fight with my friend rachel and she was drunk and ive fallen out with her and she keeps saying that she going to kill herself but im not friends with her now and if she kills herself will it be my fault because ive also been think about doing the same but my friend and her boyfriend convinced me not sowhat about rachel ?? (link)
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Your friend was probably letting off steam and her threat was most likely an empty one. If someone takes their own life, it is not your fault at all, it is theirs.
Once your friend has sobered up she will probably not even remember making the threat. If you do not want to remain friends with her then make sure you tell her so and be honest about the reasons. If you do want to remain friends then you need to both sit down and talk about why you argued and why she felt the need to threaten suicide. If you feel she needs more help then guide her towards getting counselling. I hope this has helped you make a decision and remember please that if in future someone threatens to commit suicide they are usually crying out for attention. Good luck.
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I'm a 42 y/o single man. Less then a month ago my best friend died in an accident. I have not been able to come to grips with his death. I have recently been having thoughts of ending my life. This happens whenever I am alone, especially at night. I have lost loved ones before, including my parents and brother all within a year of each other, but I never felt this type of despair, or loneliness. I am afraid I may eventually give in to my suicidal urge. Can anyone help me? (link)
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You have been given a lot of good advice so far so I just want to say that it will take time to recover from this. It does hurt and it is hard to come to terms with, but you will get through it eventually. It may seem like life can't get any better, but it will and there will be days when you feel guilty for being happy - please don't be. You have one life to live now and bereavement counselling will get you through this terrible time. I wish you all the very best now and for the future. Take care.
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If a guy your dateing doesnt call you and stops texting you, does this mean he doesnt like you anymore? I havent talked to him for over four days. almost five, and we havent even been dateing that long. I mean i texted him and he never texts me back.and left him a voice mail. and i dont do it constently either. I do give him space..but i dont know. is he iggnoring me or avoiding me? twice i called him and it rang 4 times.. it was on. (link)
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There is always that possibility, but you could also consider that he has lost his phone or had it stolen.
If he does not get back in touch with you I do think he does not want to carry on seeing you. However, give him a chance to explain the silence if he does get back in touch though.
It is never easy to accept that someone doesn't like you any more and if he has chosen this cowards way out, you are better off without him. Good luck.
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