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Hi..I am a 23 yr old female.My ex bf and I have been on and off again for about a year and a half or so. We met when I first moved to this city and went out for a couple of months. Then he drifted away ,barely called me..never returned calls so I gave up. I found out a couple months later that he was in jail. A couple months later (he was in jail for 6 months) he called me out of the blue.Told me that he just got out and wanted to see me. So I visited him and we chatted and hung out a few times. Then I asked if he wanted to go out again so he said yes. He said he tried to call me while in jail but you can only call collect and he only knew my cell number. He said he was trying to get himself out of trouble. His family loves me because I am totally opposite. I have never been in trouble and don't do anything that serious to get arrested for. I have a full-time decent job and a new car. We went out for a month and things were really good,he was calling me and everything..even got his sister to wake him up so he could call me while I was on vacation to wake me up one morning at 8 am for something my family and I we were planning on doing. Then things were good and all of the sudden he's gone again..A month later he called me through a 3 way call to get my house number because he wanted to talk to me and was in jail again.Since he was on probation when he got caught fighting,was drunk and on drugs, he got arrested again.. So this time he was in jail for 4 months..we spoke the whole time...he'd call me a couple times a week..then he was out on house arrest for 5 months. He gave up calling me then. He later told me and apologized because he said it wasn't fair and he didn't want me wasting time on him. So I went out with other people the whole time he was gone since we weren't talking anymore. Then he was out working and I ended up seeing him. We just said hi and that was it. He called me about a half hour after I saw him to apologize for not talking to me and stuff but he was surprised to have seen me. So we hung out a few times and I assumed that he wanted to go out but he said he wasn't ready to jump into a relationship again. We had a big fight then after a couple days finally spoke again and said we'd just be friends. We started hanging out alot as friends and after about a week he calls me wanting me to hang out with he and his friend and says he's been thinking about me all day. He has been really nice ever since then and we started going out again. His friend isn't in trouble..doesn't have a record and they hang out alot so as long as that keeps going on he might be able to get himself straightened out. He actually has a job now working in construction. Now I don't know if I should be going out with him or not. I love him and that's why I even talk to him but I now enough that just because I love him doesn't mean we can be together. The guy I was going out with while my ex was in jail wants to go out again and I don't know now what to do:S My ex,well current bf again now, could be anywhere if he keeps doing what he did last time and I am not sure if I should put the trust in him to try to have a relationship again..
I have no idea what to do..I am totally confused..I just want people's opinions on the matter to help me decide..I know people might think I am crazy to go out with my ex since he's been in jail but when he's around me he is really nice to me..really thoughtful.He's not a bad guy just keeps hanging out with the wrong ppl. And we have had our fights about him being in jail and getting in trouble so I didn't just let him get away with being an idiot to me before.
Please give me some help!:S
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Hey. It might be hard, but from what you've said I think you two should just be friends. It's not fair to you to be dating someone who keeps getting themselves into trouble so you can hardly ever see him. If you don't want to go ahead and break it off now, maybe you could talk to him about everything. You can say you'll date him as long as he stays out of trouble but if he gets in trouble and gets sent back to jail, it's over. If he likes you as much as it seems, it shouldn't be a problem for him to stay out of trouble to be with you. Even if you two do break up, you can try to remain friends. It sounds like he needs some positive people in his life. But anyway, I say try talking to him about it and if that doesn't work maybe you should just try to be friends. It's not fair to you to have to be put through all of this over and over again... I hope this helped. Let me know if you need anything else. You can leave me something on my column or my AIM name is darlin0103 or my yahoo is darlin_0103 I hope everything works out for you.
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Ok i got a new dvd palyer and a gift card for a mvoie site.
Will oyu guys give me some ideas of osme movies i sohuld buy
i liek all kinds
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--What About Bob-- is the best movie ever...
Primal Fear
A Few Good Men
Phantom of the Opera
Finding Neverland
Big Fish
Edward Scissorhands
Cellular
Outbreak
Tommy Boy
Dumb and Dumber
Catch Me if You Can
Trail and Error
Out Cold
Enough
Secret Window
Ocean's Eleven
Ocean's Twelve
Blue Collar Comedy Tour
Now and Then
Just Married
Corky Ramano
The Pest
The Patriot
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I would like to buy a Chi Straightener, where can I find one and how much could I expect to pay for it?
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They are usually around $150... But I got mine at Sally's for $40... If you know anyone (that you're pretty good friends with) that is a hair dresser or works at any kinda of beauty salon they probably have a Sally's card. You can ask them to let you borrow their card then you can go to Sally's (If you have one) and get the straightner for $40... If you don't have the card you going to end up paying more that twice that... I hope this helps.
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Can someone please give me an intellegent answer to y people cut? It makes no sense to me. The only conclusion i have come to is mental/emotional weakness. (link)
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For some who are depressed cutting is a away to make themselves feel better. They feel like they can't control things in their life but they can control cutting and they like that they can control it, so they start but then they become addicted to it. There are many different reason people cut, and I honestly can't tell you every real reason because I've never felt that way and I've never cut before so it's hard to explain why people do things they do if you haven't experienced it yourself. One of my friends actually used to cut and I once read a book called "Cut" and that's what I've gathered to be the main reason... But nowadays it seems some people do it because it's "cool" ... lol
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I didn't say I agreed with the people that cut because it's "cool" I was just saying that for some people their only reason is they think it's cool... For some reason depression and all the effects have become a fad to some people the same as bisexuality has become cool.
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how do i get back at my ex-boyfriend (link)
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The best revenge is a life lived well.
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In all honesty, you're petty and you need to grow up. :-)
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OK, I was on vacation for the last 4 days and I went swimming each of them. This pool had way too much chlorine in it. Anyway, I've been washing my hair as best as possible, but it still feels sticky and strange. What can I do? (link)
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After I go swimming I use Redken sun shape shampoo. This shampoo removes the chlorine and salt from your hair. It works REALLY well. You can buy it at pretty much anyone beauty shop and it's about $6... If your hair is blonde or has highlights in it, this shampoo also keeps the blonde from getting green from the chlorine.
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im sick of this
i want it all to end
take the gun to my head
what do you know im not dead
i wonder if someone will miss me
i wonder if someone will cry
but hey they will probably smile caz im now out of their lives
i dont know why im like this
i dont know why i said what i said
maybe its caz im crazy
thats what they said
these times are suppose to be the best in my life
im suppose to be happy thats what everyones said
happy yah thats right
why am i so sad and so empty inside
maybe i need someone to help me
but why would anyone want to help this girl get by? (link)
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Writing poems is a good way to help deal with emotions... But if you ever need to talk you can e-mail on my hotmail account or on here...
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I would like to find out about thyroid disorders and the medications that are taken and in what doses. (link)
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http://www.endocrinologist.com/thyroid.htm
That site may help you...
If not, just go to www.google.com and search for thyroid disorders...
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do girls like it when guys write poetry for them? cuz i wanted to do something different this time and iono if she will liek it, i really try, but its really cheesy. =/ (link)
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Poems are good! :-) But really it depends on the girl... If she likes poetry, she'll probably love it... And chances are she'll probably love it anyway just for you doing it for her! How's the poem go? :-)
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hi,
my mom is horrible to me. she doesnt beat me or anything, but i think she is emotionally and verbally abusive to me. she yells at me for just answering a simple yes or no question, calls me a slut and tells me i cant do anything with myself and my life. i have a great boyfriend, the bestest friends i could ever ask for, im healthy, fairly attractive, and smart for my age. the only thing missing is my mom...she's hostile, unpredictable, and difficult to talk to... its gotten to the point where im scared to talk to her because im afraid of getting yelled at and torn up inside again... any tips with helping me reach out to her?? and also, do you know any true signs of verbal and emotional abuse?? thanks in advance.. (link)
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I am so sorry about your mother, this is one of the hardest things for a child to go through… Are your mother and father still together? How does your father treat you? If your mother and father get along, maybe you could try talking to him about how you’re feeling. Maybe he could try talking to her at first so you wouldn’t have to be yelled at for it. Has your mother always been like this? Some day, you should try to catch her when she is in a good mood, ask her if she has time to talk to you because you have some things you want to talk to her about. First, ask her why she calls you a slut and all the other horrible things she says. I really think trying to talk to your mother or father about it could help you… Here are some of the signs of abusive behavior in general, but these are mainly associated with verbal/emotion abuse…
-degrading remarks,
- running down any accomplishments,
-Often the abuser will tell you that you are 'stupid', could not manage without him/her.
-He/she may keep you up all night to 'sort this out once and for all' or even wake you at, night to continue to verbally abuse you.,
-Unrealistic Expectations,
-Blameing you for their unhappiness,
-ignoring,
-withdrawal of attention, or rejection lack of physical affection such as hugs lack of praise, positive reinforcement, or saying "I love you"
-yelling or screaming threatening or frightening negative comparisons to others belittling;
-telling the child he or she is "no good," "worthless," "bad," or "a mistake"
-using derogatory terms to describe the child, name-calling shaming or humiliating
- habitual scapegoating or blaming using extreme or bizarre forms of punishment, such as confinement to a closet or dark room, tying to a chair for long periods of time, or terrorizing a child parental child abduction
Emotion abuse IS a serious problem and should be taken care of. If it gets any worse or turns into physical abuse I recommend talking to someone such as a school counselor or school officer immediately…
Write me back if you’d like. I’d be happy to talk to you anytime. Best of luck, and I hope this answered your question… Please let me know if there’s more you’d like to know.
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I told my mom I wanted to go on a diet and she thought it was a good idea to see a nutritionist. So before we could do that she had to make me an appoitment with my doctor. Im really scared because I dont know if she is going to measure my weight. I hate that and that is like my fear! Will she just talk to me about my eating or will she see how much I weight? Please answer! And what will the nutritionist tell me? Thanks so much. ♥ (link)
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Yes, she'll weigh you. But don't worry about it! That's her job! She won't judge you. She's there to help you get healthy and lose weight. She'll ask you about your eating habits now and probably ask you how often you exercise. She'll tell you the kind of foods you should be eating and what portions you should be eating. She may even give you some recipes or meal ideas. Don't worry about her weighing you, she sees it everyday and soon you'll be eating better, getting healthier, and losing weight! Then you'll be proud for her to weigh you :-P Best of luck! Let me know if you need anything!
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I'm going to summer school so i have to pack my lunches once again. They don't sell any lunches, unfortunately because i would sometimes buy my lunch so i didn't really face this problem.
?- are there any good substitues to the boring sandwich that i can easily prepare for sack lunches?
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I usually take a bowl of cut up fruit (like apples, watermelon, blueberries, grapes...) and low fat yogurt to dip the fruit in or any small vegetables (like baby carrots, broccoli, cut up pieces of green/red peppers...) and Italian or ranch dressing to dip them in. Then usually I take a bottle of propel water. (flavored water) ... I don't know if this is what you meant or not, but it's a simple lunch and you can mix it up more than just a plain sandwich. You could try taking different fruits and maybe some different flavored yogurts.
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is headaches a sign 4 pregnancy??? and wut r other signs? (link)
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Headache are caused by many different things. The first and most obvious sign of pregnancy would be missed period... If you're worried about it, you could try one of those home pregnancy tests.
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i dont no why but i feel so depressed/sad.its probably the fact that my school has teams and i just moved this year to this new town and they have teams for grades. 9th grade-aqua,silver,yellow teams.i am afraid im going to be separated from my friends,and be left out! Since i only no the people from one team,i'll have to start all over. I feel sad and i have been praying for at least a month for me to get on at least one of my good friend's teams. how can i make myself not sad or at least less sad..theres only 9 1/2 days left of school and they send a letter of what team you are on on the week befor we start. I think my ultimate thing that i dont want to happen is have this girl on the team all my friends are on,and become there good friends..while im left behind..i also fear that i'll have to be on this girls team that i dont want to be on. I dont no why im so depressed about this. What should i do ? Im so lost (link)
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Hey. I'm not really sure what the team thing is about, but it sounds like a good opportunity to start talking to some new people and make some new friends. I understand you feeling worried about it, sometimes it's not easy starting over new with a bunch of people you barely know. But you should just try being yourself and be open to making new friends. I think you’d feel better about it if you went into it thinking about all the new friends you can make. And who knows? Maybe the friends you already have will be on the same team! I'm glad to see you're religious. God won't give you anything you can't handle. I hope you get on a team with your friends, and remember think positive and try to make some new friends on your team! Feel free to write me if you need to talk. Good luck!
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Is seltzer a good substitute for soda. I'm trying not to drink soda, would seltzer { cranberry seltzer} be a good drink to drink if i want "fizzy" but without drinking soda? I hope that made sense lol. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Carbonated water is a good replacement for soda. It’s not usually as fizzy but, yeah, it’ll work.
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does anyone know where i can buy the seasons of smallville on DVD that's not ridiculously expensive? (link)
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www.columbiahouse.com ... But only if you're someone who buys a lot of DVDs. Columbia House is a CD/DVD club and you can order a buncha DVDs and/or CDs for a much lower price.
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IM STARTING HIGH SCHOOLL!!!
What are osem ways to get really popular?!?! (link)
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Join clubs or play sports and just be nice to people... Not everyone is going to like you and as a general rule people don't like people that try to kiss ass to make people like them... It's pretty see-through. So I say just be yourself and if you become popular, great, and if not... Fuck them. :-)
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i wanna dye my har ether red or brown. i dont know which one to do. i dont like bieng blonde bcuz its not that punk and.. people make fun of me saying im a dumb blonde.which color do you recomend???? (link)
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Punk... lol... Anyway.. Last September I had my hair dyed black with red streaks, dying it dark brown with red or aburn streaks would probably look good... It really kinda depends on your skin tone to how it will lok.... But if you're punk you won't care about that will you! lol... Damn, I'm easily amused by these kiddos.
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I wouldn't know because I have never gotten bored enough to sit around and think of a label for myself nor has any of my peers... But do feel free to define a punk for me if you'd like, I think I'd enjoy reading that. lol. Hope your hair turns out good.
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AHH ..Im sick =/ because i get dehydrated and water isnt working!! What do i do?! i have my period so i cant take a bath right now and im home alone and thrwoing up..im afraid if i pass out no one wil know and no one is available to help me..what do i do?! I dont have Air conditioning. (link)
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Well, water WILL help... Just drink more of it. And why can't you take a bath? You don't go a week without taking a bath do you...? Do you have a fan? Turn the fan on and have it blowing on you, drink water, and get a damp wash rag and put it on your forehead or the back of ur neck and lay down and watch TV or something...
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Being on your period shouldn't stop you from taking a bath. In fact, many girls take baths instead of showers when they're on their period because it's better for cramps... You shouldn't ge a smartass when people are triyng to help you. :-) Hope you feel better soon.
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i have serius issues on depression. i mean everyday for the past month ive been down. please dont make fun of me. i cant help it. i just lost a gr8 friend/boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and i havent been happy or the same since then. i dont want to take freakin pills cause it makes me feel unhuman. it lowers my self esteem. i havent had any self esteem in over a month. everybody told me to move on and find someone else to go out with but its not that simple to move on after a heartbreak. i have changed so much in the past month. Please help me. what the heck should i do? ill do anything if it works. ill rate high and ill write super great about you if you just help me. thanks and please hurry! (link)
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Hey. I know what you're going through is really hard on you and you're probably confused about what you're feeling if you've never felt like this before. Everyone express themselves in different ways and it takes different people different amount of times to get over a heartbreak. Even if people are telling you that you should find someone else and move on, if you're not ready to move on then you DO NOT have to act like you are. If you try to act happy to make other people happy and leave your emotions bottled up inside you. it will only make tings worse. Try talking to someone you trust about how you feel. Or if you don't feel like talking to anyone about how you feel, you could try keeping a journal. Talking about how you feel or writing about it in a journal can make you feel a lot better. Of course it won't all happen right away, but as long as you're expressing yourself rather than keeping your emotions bottled up things will gradually start to seem better. If this doesn't help, you should consider talking to a psychologist. You might feel odd talking to someone you don't know about your problems but you have to understand psychologist spend years studying the mind and human behavior and it's their job to listen and try to help you the best that they can. The good thing about psychologists are they have years of experience so they know what they're talking abut and it's completely private. No one has to know about you talking to a psychologist unless you choose to tell them. You could try talking to a school counselor or have your parents take you to a psychologist outside the school. I hope you feel better soon. If you ever need anything you can E-mail me at luckierainbowstars@hotmail.com -- put the subject as "Advice" so I make sure to get back to you asap. I hope this helps. Good luck. Kristin
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No problem. Feel free to talk to me anytime. I'm not one much right now because final exams are coming up, but E-mail me and I'll get back to you as soon as I can or after this week you can ever try to catch me on AIM... My SN is darlin0103 :-)
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