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my mom ruins my life
hi,
my mom is horrible to me. she doesnt beat me or anything, but i think she is emotionally and verbally abusive to me. she yells at me for just answering a simple yes or no question, calls me a slut and tells me i cant do anything with myself and my life. i have a great boyfriend, the bestest friends i could ever ask for, im healthy, fairly attractive, and smart for my age. the only thing missing is my mom...she's hostile, unpredictable, and difficult to talk to... its gotten to the point where im scared to talk to her because im afraid of getting yelled at and torn up inside again... any tips with helping me reach out to her?? and also, do you know any true signs of verbal and emotional abuse?? thanks in advance..<3
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I am so sorry about your mother, this is one of the hardest things for a child to go through… Are your mother and father still together? How does your father treat you? If your mother and father get along, maybe you could try talking to him about how you’re feeling. Maybe he could try talking to her at first so you wouldn’t have to be yelled at for it. Has your mother always been like this? Some day, you should try to catch her when she is in a good mood, ask her if she has time to talk to you because you have some things you want to talk to her about. First, ask her why she calls you a slut and all the other horrible things she says. I really think trying to talk to your mother or father about it could help you… Here are some of the signs of abusive behavior in general, but these are mainly associated with verbal/emotion abuse…
-degrading remarks,
- running down any accomplishments,
-Often the abuser will tell you that you are 'stupid', could not manage without him/her.
-He/she may keep you up all night to 'sort this out once and for all' or even wake you at, night to continue to verbally abuse you.,
-Unrealistic Expectations,
-Blameing you for their unhappiness,
-ignoring,
-withdrawal of attention, or rejection lack of physical affection such as hugs lack of praise, positive reinforcement, or saying "I love you"
-yelling or screaming threatening or frightening negative comparisons to others belittling;
-telling the child he or she is "no good," "worthless," "bad," or "a mistake"
-using derogatory terms to describe the child, name-calling shaming or humiliating
- habitual scapegoating or blaming using extreme or bizarre forms of punishment, such as confinement to a closet or dark room, tying to a chair for long periods of time, or terrorizing a child parental child abduction
Emotion abuse IS a serious problem and should be taken care of. If it gets any worse or turns into physical abuse I recommend talking to someone such as a school counselor or school officer immediately…
Write me back if you’d like. I’d be happy to talk to you anytime. Best of luck, and I hope this answered your question… Please let me know if there’s more you’d like to know.
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