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hey i'm courtney! :)i'm nineteen and i live in ohio. i am currently not going to college, and just working fulltime.. i'm single and not really looking but,i love to go tanning, shopping, and seeing friends. i am very social, and love to listen to problems and help the best way i know how. i am a very happy person, and willing to be there for people who need me most, and i care for most in life. that's a bit about me heh.
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i've always had this really bad habit of thriving over the past. and i've been going through a really long period of depression. sometimes i'd get happy, but only for a few hours at a time. then i'd rememeber something and go back to being upset. i've started several other bad habits to get stress out of my way: drinking, smoking, cutting, etc. im not saying i wanna quit any of these new habits, but i wanna learn to get over the past. i wanna move on. because im tearing up my relationship with my boyfriend, M.
see, before we started going out, back when he and i just liked eachother, we were really close friends. id go over to his house, like, once a week or something and he, my friend, B, and his other friend, A, would all watch a movie or two. i was the only girl in this, so keep that in mind. anyways, well M had been trying to ask me out for a while. and i'd always say no because i didnt wanna mess up our friendship. then as soon as i was about to go out with him, B said that he did something really bad. and he wouldnt tell me what it was because he promised M he wouldnt. but i still wanted to know! so i kept pushing him and pushing him and finally he told me. but he made me swear not to tell M.
at first i thought he was lying because B and i used to go out then he dumped me. and then he started liking me again. so for a while there i was torn between he and M. and he also said he wouldnt like it if me and M went out.
but then about a week after that i told M that i needed to ask him if it really happened, and at first he made it sound like B had lied. but then he told me it really DID happen, i just wasnt supposed to know. course that made me feel like shit. but i got really depressed after that...and i still am. and this happened about 3 or 4 months ago!
can someone give me some advice on how to get over this? whenever i go to M's house, everything over there reminds me of the past and then i get a mixture of mad and sad and it wont go away! he keeps asking me if im ok and i keep having to lie because i dont wanna sound like im obsessed about this, but i am. how do i just get over it and move on?????? *sorry this is so long...but it was a long story. and advice is appreciated.*
maybe you need to take some time away from 'm's house and be alone. i know you said you don't want to stop drinking, smoking, and cutting, but it doesn't take the pain away. it just makes you feel in control. well you can be in control by doing healthier things. like running. it really clears your head, and gives you time to reflect. also, you aren't going to forget the past until you are truly ready to. subconciously it seems like you aren't, or your brain would let you.
Hi, Im really sorry this is sort of a little kind of long.. but i really need advice...
So , we will name this guy , who I like Bob..
and my best friends name is Jen.
We are all currently in 8th grade.
Okay, so in 5th grade, when i entered junior high, I didn't know Bob, but he was in my homeroom. Through out 5th grade, and 6th grade, we wern't close , but we were friends, didn't hang out though.. Okay, in 7th grade, me and Bob didn't have homeroom together, but we had language arts.. In almost the middle of the year.. we became closer, we talked, and messaged and commented eachother on myspace constantly.. and we talked on the phone sometimes. We talked about everything.. Anyways , one night, me and jen and 2 other friends of mine, one jens sister, had a sleep over.. when I was checking my myspace, I had a message from him, Jens sister replied to it saying "call us" and something.. so he did. They were all talking about how I liked him , then he talked to Jen. Jen and him didn't talk.. but she knew I liked him. Well, then in a class that isn't required, like an elective (your choice class) I was in , Bob was in.. So I told Jen to join, not thinking that they would like eachother. So lets get to the point , they started likeing eachother, I let her go out with him , cuz im a nice friend.. even though I liked him . After they broke up , they remained good friends. I was also still somewhat close to him.. When summer came around, he went out with my friend lets say Carol, but I didn't really like him then.. Soo I didn't mind to much. They broke up about 2 months later.. Jen and him were pretty close during the summer. So now we are in 8th grade.. They talked all through september ..In the middle of october, Jen got a boyfriend.. Bob stopped talking to her, and me and him started getting close again, since him and her new boyfriend were friends, and me and her are friends, you know it worked. So me and him, from the middle of october till last week in may, talked every single night, and after school, before his basketball practice he would call me , then call me when he got home. In school, we were always together. People thought we looked so cute together, and some people even thought we were secretly going out..We couldn't go 5 hours without talking to eachother, or knowing where we were. We would text, call , hang out, IM, talk, everything. Well during those 8 months, I was really happy. He was nice to me , and we did alot for eachother. Him and Jen wern't close, they talked maybe like 3 times a month on the phone , and only for like 5 minutes.. Well anways..
So last week, he didn't call me one night.. and
we wern't as talkative in school, then I relized, he didn't call me after his practice.. and I was like okay.. maybe hes busy, but it kept happening. I asked whats wrong , but he said nothing, I thought he hated me , so I asked, he said nothing, But he was talking to Jen on the phone. I was like okay, so I started getting a little agravated.. and he is not being mean , but like sarcasticly being mean now. I dont know, and for the last week, I have been quiete, and kind of upset. Some people noticed and asked.. Well anyways.. Im really confused. My friend Jen says she doesn't like him. But also in february.. they hung out once, and they made out. But she said sorry, and wasn't thinking, and then a few weeks later, she admitted to likeing him, but didn't want to tell me till she was sure she didn't. Well anyways, Im really confused about everything.. Im really sorry this is really long, but I need advice, and I dont want to hold off till he does hate me. Thank you.
Also , if this helps , when I talked to him, I was jelous when he talked to other girls, and he would relize that and usally stop. I was somewhat a little controlling..
I dont know
Please help Thank you so much
xoxo Jessica (14,F)
it seems like you two were a couple, without the label saying so. and it also seems like he was perfectly fine with it, as were you. clearly he was just as happy as you were when you two talked, or it wouldn't of went on for so long you know? and you had tabs on him before jen did. she should not of went after him, i'm sure she realized you had a thing for him. she just didn't care. and now, i think he did like you and jen both, and just didn't know how to choose. but you said him and jen made-out. have you two even done anything resembling a relationship besides talk constantly? maybe he wanted to make a move and wasn't sure about how you felt. or maybe he was tired of waiting for you to make one. you really need to talk to him and ask him what was going on? because you thought you guys were hitting it off, and if he stops talking to you over jen in a blink of an eye something is up. also, tel jen how you feel. don't let her walk on you like a welcome mat. you deserve to be happy too.
Im turning 19 this year, december 12th, and it falls on a FRIDAY. what should i do. Its cold out, so I can't go camping or nothing but I want to do something fun and small. Any ideas?
maybe go to an ice skating rinc. it sounds lame maybe, but i'm turning 20 this october. and i would still do it. it would be fun, and something you and your friends could enjoy. or, you could just go out to dinner with a small group of friends.
ok well im only like 13 and i weigh alot or at least i think. im about 5'2 and i weigh around 145. you can sometimes see where my fat is its mainly in my thighs and stomach. i need ideas on how to lose weight. i play soccer and thats helped a little b ut not to a big level. any ideas?
try eating healthier, and maybe start doing crunches and also soccer is a very affective workout.
my computer is like bigger then normal. like the icons are bigger then wat they should be.
like look...
http://i25.tinypic.com/2ywg8wg.jpg
idk if you can tell, but everything is like over larged. and like this happened a week or so ago, and then it went normal again, and about a half hour ago it went back to big.
the first time it went huge, it took monthes to jus like re appear normal again, and i even deleted like 2 or 3 thousand pictures i had, and even limwire with 1000+ songs, and its still fucked.
what do i do to make this PERMANITLY NORMAL.
there might be like a series settings. ask you parents to set it at normal, large or medium.
monday night= Kay, so i did a flip on the trampoline and my brother screemed mid-flip and it caught me off guard so i panicked and did something with my feet so when i landed it i landed on my right foot all weird. so i couldn't walk so i went inside and stayed off it till my mom came home...i was balling...it hurt SO bad. so anyway, my mom toke me to the Emergency room and i got it ex-rayed and they said its just a REALLY bad sprain. well i got crutches and used them for tuesday at school. for wendsday my foot felt better so i walked on it it hurt so bad i think i made my foot worse so i used my crutches on thursday. Today i didn't and my foot feels fine. like nothing hurts like it hurts everynow and then but my doctor says i still need to wear this support thingey. but i don't need it...my foot feels fine she said i needed to keep this thing on for weeks so i'm out of gym for the rest of the school year. but my class is going on a field trip to a pool next friday. so should i just take it off before i get in and then put it back on for the ride home? also, can i take this thing off or should i keep it on? my doctor also told me to do these exersises like soak my foot as long as i could stand it in ice cold water then in hott and do that times back and forth...back and forth. then i'm supposed to hold my leg up and move JUST MY ANCLE and spell out the ABC's all in CAPS =] lol so yeah i think that i should do these exercises cuz even though i'm not a doctor..she knows best so should i just follow her instructions? I don't have a problem with it. so i don't mind if you say that. But my real question is can i still go on my clasts trip? Like, i really want to go because i'm in 8th grade and i really want to go because this trip is like our "class" trip where the WHOLE grade goes. ITs gonna be SOOOOO much fun so i don't want to miss it. also, if i do go i don't wanna just go to just sit on a bench thats not what i want to do so please help me because i already turned in my permission slip and i need to know if i have to ask for it back because i can't go.
thanks in advance
and SORRY this thing was so long...and thanks for the people who actually took the time to read this wholeee thing =]
thanks agian =]
wear the support thing and go, but if you want to swim or whatever then take it off, unless it can get wet. just be extra careful, and keep in mind that you do have a risk of making the injury worse.
im not sure if it is above the influence or not. but does anyone know the lyrics to the rap in one of those commercials where its guys sitting on porch steps and a girl is saying a rap
i know it goes something like there he is sitting there smoke dat weed.
and like, what he say, what he do
i don't know but i've tried googleing it and i cant find it! helppp
go to .. www.youtube.com
and search for it, the lyrics will be there.
ok the thing is im very hurt and confused cause mii very best friend, lets call her C, is sayin sumthin dat i think is wrong but i dont understand what she means. if you can figure it out please tell me. "i dont want to share mii friendsz,there like ma identity, and i want to keep ma identity covered." and she said that because i knew 3 of her friends that was her elementary school friendsz that i wanna get to noe or are already really good friendsz with and shes saying that i noe too many of her friendsz. i think thats kinda wrong. do any of you know what shes saying, you noe why she dont want me to know "too many of her friends" which by the way is only about 3. i would really greatly appreciate any advice.
i think she is just being overly protective, and maybe jealous. also, she might have told her three friends things that she didn't want you to know.
what is a yeast infection??
it's when you have an infection in your vagina. when your discharge is a runny yellowish color. it's nothing to worry about, but you do need to see a doctor, and get meds for it. if this gets avoided though it could turn into other diseases that make you sick, and won't be easy to get rid of.
Okay maybe I just need to vent right now or whatever but I need help. So my bestfriend whom I tel basically everything to, and when I say everything I mean everything. Thats just the way our friendship works, we tell each other everything. That is until lately. She's been acting different. Ever since she met this guy who she likes that lives next door to her. I have to admit I am a little jealous. Only because she always gets the guys, but she just uses them and takes them for granted and fights with them constantly more then most people do. It's always her starting these fights, that might I add are about the most rediculous things. I dont like saying it but some people would consider my friend a "skank". Now today it just set me off I dont know why. Basically i texted her saying I cant go to this talent show thing tomorrow with her. Normally she'll say "aawww what you cant go? Why? You have to go. We need to hangout." stuff like that. This time she texted back "Bummer, i'm with Steven ( her next door neighbor that she likes) i'll call you later. I dont know that just really made me mad. Not to mention well she spends like every weekend at my house, cause she likes to. But I really needed someone to talk to this weekend cause everything seems to be going wrong but no she's too busy with Steven. I dont know. Am i wrong to be mad at her? Am i overreacting? Any advice?
you are just feeling the shaft a bit. and have a right to be. she has a new crush, and once she balances out time with him and you things will be okay. but you might want to start setting yourself up for the idea that she might become closer with this guy. handling a boyfriend and a single best friend can get complicated.
is weed actually bad for you? if you only do it occasionaly, like every other weekend or something.
it does cause damage to brain cells. i don't do it, and never will. and never tried. but, my brother does do it like once a week i know. he is smart, and is still fine. it's just a nasty habit. i wouldn't recommend it. and if it's only out of boredom there are other things you could do with your time.
I will have been with my boyfriend for 3 years come early July. I love him a lot and he claims to feel the same. Things in his life have been pretty rough lately, so sometimes he's depressed.
I have begun to notice that the only time he is happy, smiling, or laughing is when he is with his friends. I can't even remember the last time he was happy to be just with me. This really concerns me, as I feel it's kinda important to make him happy since I'm his girlfriend.
I'm always wondering if he would just be happy with someone else and if I should move on. I don't want to lose him, but I love him enough to let him go if I can't make him happy like he needs to be.
I know that I need to talk to him and I'm the only one that can fix this, but I need help on what to say. I need help understanding why he does the things he does. A guy's perspective would be really helpful right now.
These are just some of the strange things he's been doing lately:
-Earlier this week we went out with a big group of friends. He ignored me the entire time. He didn't hold my hand, put his arm around me, or even speak to me. He didn't even offer to pay for me (which is unusual for him). He was occupied with his friend and this girl the whole time. I confronted him about it and he said he just didn't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. (So apparently he doesn't care if I'm uncomfortable?)
-He turned 21 in January, but he never drinks. Never. But today his friend asked him to go to the bar with him, so he broke plans with me to go hang out with his friend. He had a good reason to go spend time with his friend (he's moving out of state), but he didn't invite me to hang out afterward. Not to mention the fact that he never goes to bars (his friend likes bars, but they have never gone together). Why would he want to hang out there all of a sudden?
-If he ever comes over to spend the night with me after an evening of hanging out, he just wants to go right to bed. But if I give the slightest hint that I want to have sex, all of a sudden he's awake. This makes me feel like the only quality time he wants to spend with me alone is if we're having sex. I'm thinking about stopping the sex altogether until things get better.
I'm just at a loss of how to fix this. Normally, if these things happened individually, I wouldn't give this stuff a second thought. But since it's all happen within a few days of each other, it's really starting to get to me. Suggestions?
he is treating you like crap right now i will say first of all. secondly, you need to decide what you want before you talk to him. whether you wasted three years or not. this is something to be upset about, he is going thru a rough time yes, but do you want to be there for him or not? and thirdly, if this is all going on you shouldn't be having sex, it isn't fair to you dear at all. so talk to him first let him know how you've been feeling.
Girls, how do you properly shave your vagina?
... awkward question, but i need to know :D haa.
lather yourself with soap/bodywash/ or conditioner.
then you use a new blade and shave like it's your legs or under your arms. lightly, no need to rush. but make sure it's a new blade. dull blades are highly more likely to cut you. and shaving wise, is your preference. you can decide how much hair you want left. some girls leave a little. some leave none.
I love to dance. I have only been dancing for two years, and next year want to really start improving and everything. My dance studio is half an hour away from my house, and my parents have agreed with me that they will drive out twice a week. Well lucky me, everything I want to do ( which is 6 dance classes ) are all on two days and they are one after another with no breaks. But one day a week, everything I want to take 3 classes, which is 3 hours striaght, and I know my mom won't wait for me to dance for 3 hours. I am taking two of them most likely but I really want to take the third dance class. I want to ask my dad if he will pick me up after my dance class, but he already has a long drive to work there and back everyday. What should I do?
not to sound rude, but you should be thankful that your parents are being this supportive and driving you to the other two classes. try asking your mom and dad first about the third class, then if they say no,then deal with it. you already have two classes anyhow.
Hello I work in a pub in the uk and i was wondering if i can get fired for not handing in cash tips to employers. also i was wondering how long they can withold tips and whether they can take money from tips to pay for mistakes that happened in the restaurant.
thankyou for you time xx
if you are told to turn in the tips then yes you could get fired unless they say you're allowed to keep them. and the manager can do anything with the tips that is beneficial to the store.
back in janurary i cheated on my boyfriend after i told him i found out that on new years that he jumped out of a window and got a concussion and almost died. i ended up dumping the person i cheated with and went back with my original does that make me a player? i feel so horrible about it everytime i think about it i feel like a monster who doesnt deserve to live how do i deal with this
no. you made a mistake. and players don't feel guilty over what they have done. you do. you are a good person who made a bad decision. and you know now that you won't do it again, don't blame yourself.
i like that my eye color is blue, but usually its more of a dark blue/gray and i was wondering if there is any way (besides contacts, because i don't wear them) to get my eyes to look a lighter blue? or even any make-up i could wear? (i usually wear black eyelinear and black/brown mascara) thankss!
almay makeups like eyeshadows are specified for peoples different eye colors, and you can wear it, and it will make your eyes pop, and really show. other than that, and contacts, there isn't a way to change your eye color.
does anyone know this girls myspace url?
or facebook?
or atleast her name?
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http://img213.imageshack.us/my.php?image=l0f41723ba1e17780d41178eo6.jpg
please & thank you
there isn't a way of figuring that out. sorry.
15/f
me and my bf have been going out for 7 months and we are in love. for some reason i cannot get over the fact that he has gotten a bj before, one time [i think] from one girl. by the way i have never given a bj or aything before. idk what my problem is. we haven't done much sexually (were taking it slow pretty slow :] ) but i don't think i would be able to progress sexually with him until i am over this stupid issue. but like the whole thing kills me inside. he says he kinda feels the same way that ive gotten fingered before but besides him i've only gotten fingered once or twice by one other guy, and my bf has fingered numerous other girls before so its definetly not the same. idk does anyone understand how i feel or any advice of what i can do to get over this? by the way saying something like oh its in the past now and theres nothing you can do about it does not help :/
give you mind something to think about besides that. instead of focusing on what you hate that he has done, think of what you two have and how no one will ever take that away from you. also, if you tried a bj and liked it, you wouldn't be thinking of how the other girl did it to him. instead you'd be thinking of yourself.
so this is really embarrassing and disgusting but like.. i work at a daycare center and i read online that little kids are the biggest carrier of this and im pretty sure thats where i got it from.. pin worms... yeah its gross but its way to gross and embarrassing to tell my parents.. and i read it isn't harmful to your body at all.. is there any home remedies that can get rid of these or over the counter medicine? to me its really gross because im like a health freak and im like paranoid about it what can i do besides go see a doctor?
trying to et rid of it isn't a good idea to do at home. you need to see a physician really to be honest.