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I dont know what to do!
Hi, Im really sorry this is sort of a little kind of long.. but i really need advice...
So , we will name this guy , who I like Bob..
and my best friends name is Jen.
We are all currently in 8th grade.
Okay, so in 5th grade, when i entered junior high, I didn't know Bob, but he was in my homeroom. Through out 5th grade, and 6th grade, we wern't close , but we were friends, didn't hang out though.. Okay, in 7th grade, me and Bob didn't have homeroom together, but we had language arts.. In almost the middle of the year.. we became closer, we talked, and messaged and commented eachother on myspace constantly.. and we talked on the phone sometimes. We talked about everything.. Anyways , one night, me and jen and 2 other friends of mine, one jens sister, had a sleep over.. when I was checking my myspace, I had a message from him, Jens sister replied to it saying "call us" and something.. so he did. They were all talking about how I liked him , then he talked to Jen. Jen and him didn't talk.. but she knew I liked him. Well, then in a class that isn't required, like an elective (your choice class) I was in , Bob was in.. So I told Jen to join, not thinking that they would like eachother. So lets get to the point , they started likeing eachother, I let her go out with him , cuz im a nice friend.. even though I liked him . After they broke up , they remained good friends. I was also still somewhat close to him.. When summer came around, he went out with my friend lets say Carol, but I didn't really like him then.. Soo I didn't mind to much. They broke up about 2 months later.. Jen and him were pretty close during the summer. So now we are in 8th grade.. They talked all through september ..In the middle of october, Jen got a boyfriend.. Bob stopped talking to her, and me and him started getting close again, since him and her new boyfriend were friends, and me and her are friends, you know it worked. So me and him, from the middle of october till last week in may, talked every single night, and after school, before his basketball practice he would call me , then call me when he got home. In school, we were always together. People thought we looked so cute together, and some people even thought we were secretly going out..We couldn't go 5 hours without talking to eachother, or knowing where we were. We would text, call , hang out, IM, talk, everything. Well during those 8 months, I was really happy. He was nice to me , and we did alot for eachother. Him and Jen wern't close, they talked maybe like 3 times a month on the phone , and only for like 5 minutes.. Well anways..
So last week, he didn't call me one night.. and
we wern't as talkative in school, then I relized, he didn't call me after his practice.. and I was like okay.. maybe hes busy, but it kept happening. I asked whats wrong , but he said nothing, I thought he hated me , so I asked, he said nothing, But he was talking to Jen on the phone. I was like okay, so I started getting a little agravated.. and he is not being mean , but like sarcasticly being mean now. I dont know, and for the last week, I have been quiete, and kind of upset. Some people noticed and asked.. Well anyways.. Im really confused. My friend Jen says she doesn't like him. But also in february.. they hung out once, and they made out. But she said sorry, and wasn't thinking, and then a few weeks later, she admitted to likeing him, but didn't want to tell me till she was sure she didn't. Well anyways, Im really confused about everything.. Im really sorry this is really long, but I need advice, and I dont want to hold off till he does hate me. Thank you.
Also , if this helps , when I talked to him, I was jelous when he talked to other girls, and he would relize that and usally stop. I was somewhat a little controlling..
I dont know
Please help Thank you so much
xoxo Jessica (14,F)
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it seems like you two were a couple, without the label saying so. and it also seems like he was perfectly fine with it, as were you. clearly he was just as happy as you were when you two talked, or it wouldn't of went on for so long you know? and you had tabs on him before jen did. she should not of went after him, i'm sure she realized you had a thing for him. she just didn't care. and now, i think he did like you and jen both, and just didn't know how to choose. but you said him and jen made-out. have you two even done anything resembling a relationship besides talk constantly? maybe he wanted to make a move and wasn't sure about how you felt. or maybe he was tired of waiting for you to make one. you really need to talk to him and ask him what was going on? because you thought you guys were hitting it off, and if he stops talking to you over jen in a blink of an eye something is up. also, tel jen how you feel. don't let her walk on you like a welcome mat. you deserve to be happy too.
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