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i really like this guy and i think he could be the one:) i know thats crazy to say cuz im in 8th grade but seriously i love him were really great friends but i want it to be more how do i ask him out so that it wont be akward if he rejects me?pleasee helpp!!! (link)
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It is not strange at all that you are in eighth grade and think he is the one. Maybe he could be, you will have to find out. The best way to see if your guy friend likes you is to first ask him too a formal friends outing. Like a concert or a party. Ask him to go with you and say it is because you don't want to go alone. If he agrees, and after he says he had a great time, or "we should do this again." you should try asking him out. The reason why I am telling you to do this is because if he says this, it means that he enjoys being around you and that he might be into you. Also, if you ask him out and he says no, it will sound less awkward. When you ask him out you should be careful not to say it's a date until you asked him and he said yes. If you ask him if he wants to go to the movies with you, and he says yes, after say, it's a date. It might not sound like its a date at first but them after he will be more confident to ask you out and he will probably know you like him then. If he likes you back, he will ask you out.
If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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where can 13 year olds get jobs
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It is hard to get a job at the age of 13. You could easily get a job if your parents or friends parents own a store. I think that you could get a weekend job at a local library, but your birthday needs to be before a particular month. At school you cool also get a lunch time job in the library, but obviously not paid. What type of job are you looking for. Please email me. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
Advice of the week: Yesterday was the past, Tomorrow is the future, today is a gift, that's why it's called the present!
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im 20/f and i've never been on a date, not even one. however there's this friend who i would like to go on a date with. we're not that close but he's really friendly when we see each other. I don't wanna go on a date because i like him. i just wanna go on a real date for once. is it okay for a girl to ask for a date, or should i just be implying it? and how should i do that? im also reaaaaaaallly reaaaaaaally bad at flirting! plz help! (link)
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I think that it depends on what type of guy your friend is. If he is shy, he would love a girl asking him out, he might be hoping for you to ask him out. If he is not that shy, I think that he would have asked you out by now.
I think great ways to be flirty are there top 10:
10) Twirl with your hair when you talk to him.
9) If he looks at you, don't look away, like most girls tend to do, look back at him and smile cutely.
8) If he talks to you, always look like you are interested.
7) IMPORTANT!!! If he says something like what animal he has, show that you are really interested and act all happy about it.
6) Find something that you both have in common, it is easy to start a relationship if you have some thing that you can talk about all the time.
5) Be confident with every thing you do, guys love confident girls.
4) Compliment on what he is wearing on what he is doing.
3) Always wear some kind of jewelry or other prop, like a bracelet, when you don;t have any thing to do, you can play with it.
3) Always face him when talking to him.
2) Make him feel important, he will notice that you like him if you ignore other people to make him feel like you care about him more.
1) MOST IMPORTANT!!! Don't change yourself too much. Guys should like you for who you are. Have fun and if you are too concentrated on flirting with him, you will over flirt (makes you look weird) or you will flirt so much that he doesn't like you any more!
If you want him to go out with you, you should first ask him to go to a concert, or a party together, just as friends. If he says that he had fun and that you should do it again, you should ask him out. If he had fun it means that he wants to spend more time with you.
If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
Advice of the week: Yesterday was the past, Tomorrow is the future, today is a gift, that's why it's called the present!
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i have a boyfriend and we love eachother very much but i never told my parents and only some of my friends i trust know and if we even get to kiss we have to sneak.
i really need some help because i don't want to hurt the people i love. and i want to know if its worth all that trouble (link)
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I think that you should tell every one. It is not a proper relationship if it is hidden. I think that you should follow your heart, listen to it. Is it telling you to dump him? Or is it telling you to tell every one? Or is it telling it to keep it secret? I had one girl once who send me an email. She said that she kept a relationship a secret for one whole year. She told me that she feels sad because she can't tell anyone about it at the risk of finding out. After one year and two months, her boyfriend dumped her because he didn't like the secrecy. But the worse is, that he send an email to her email that her parent see, so when her mom read it she got mad for not telling them. Now, her family doesn't trust her, and her friends. She lost all of that just to one boy. In my opinion a relationship is a relation ship that does not have to be kept secret from anyone. Otherwise, what is the point. I know it is hard to tell your parents, but if you need any advice on how to tell your parents, email me. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. If you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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Im 13 and all of my friends have boyfriends, EXCEPT ME. Some guys come up to me and they say "i like you" and i dont know what to say. Then weeks go by and i dont hear from them again.
I think im pretty but not like the populars pretty. So is something wrong with me? why cant i get a boyfriend? (link)
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You seem like you don't really know how to handle your self around guys. You should practice answering things that boys say to you in the mirror. If boys say to you " I like you" you should say "Really? Thanks" In a flirty way, this should attract guys. You should practice this in the mirror because if you don't you might do something you think is flirty and pretty, but it makes you look weird. That might make guys not want to go out with you. I don't think there is any thing wrong with you, if you know how to handle your self around guys, you should be able to get a boyfriend soon. If you want a list of ways to handle and talk around guys please email me and I can send it to you. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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im 15yr old girl and the guy is 19
we started going out and everything went well but when we were dating for 3 months my parents made us brake up...(legal stuff) so we broke up but we still have feelings for eachother and we still talk the way we used to except we dont say we are a couplee so what does that make us? He is not my boyfriend and i am not his girlfriend but we still talk like we are. We dont have sex or anything like that but when we get to see eacohter we cuddle and stuff sometimes do stuff but nothing more to it. When a new guy asks me if im single i dont know what to say because i AM single but in a way im taken and same goes to the guy i like. We are not confused of what we feel but we are comfused of the title we have. What kind of relationship is it that we keep? (link)
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I think you should talk to him about this. It is very hard to give you an answer if I don't know what he thinks. I think that you two are acting like people that are going out, so you must talk to him and tell him that you feel like nothing has changed, ask him where you stand. PLease email me if you know any more If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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I'm fifteen. In a hurry to leave to the bus stop, I usually make breakfast quick and eat it standing up by the counter. My mom always complains about it, and once she told me that it's not good for my health to eat while standing. Lately I've been wondering if that's true, or she's just telling me that so I will eat slower.
I feel dumb, but does eating while standing really affect your health?
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Yes, it is quite true. THere are two reasons why:
1) If you eat while standing up, you tend to rush, it has scientificly been proven that when you eat fast, you gain more calories than when you eat slower. So eating in a hurry makes you gain more weight.
2) If you stand up eating, it will change the way you digest your food. Usually people that stand up eating choke on their food more easily. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Here recently, a couple days before our 4 year which was like a week ago I went on to my boyfriends Facebook, just to randomly check up on him. I go through his messages and come across a conversation that my boyfriend started up. It goes along the lines of " Hey so I just wanted to let you know I had the biggest crush on you back in BCIS class and I thought you were cute" she said aww why didnt you tell me? i feel the same kind of thing. and he mentioned he STILL thinks shes cute and that the vodka helps. Gave his number to her and the next morning puts "even sober I meant all that" After that, I was BEYOND pissed and confronted him about it. He claimed he got drunk with a couple friends and left his Facebook up and his friend talked to a couple people. Obviously I don't believe him and his friend called me up and wanted to make sure he told me he's the one who talked to her and sorry for getting him in trouble and that he thought it was funny at the time. Also, I went ahead and messaged that girl, and of course she didn't respond like I thought. Which makes it seem more supicious. With all that said, I am not sure how to approach this issue. I often bring up I am still upset with him and he continues to deny it all. I feel as though it is never-ending. I don't know if I should either brush it off or end it between us because I don't think I could trust him after seeing that.
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Could you please email me and tell me if he has done things like this before (get drunk and send strange girls messages). If he has done this before, I think he and his friend could be telling the truth. IF he doesn't do this often, he is probably lying to you, and he made his friend lie to you too. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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info:I'm 17 years old, a senior and go to an all boys high school and the girl I like is a Junior at the all girls school (our schools are practically right next to each other and there are co-ed classes) but I don't have any classes with her, I only see her at creative writing club (CCC for short) (we meet once maybe 2 times a month she enjoyed some of my stories)
Situation: There is this girl that I like and I think I've seen 2 signs that she may like me but before I try to make any move I want to be at least 80% sure that she actually likes me back
1st sign: On my second CCC meeting she kept slowly changing seats around the room until she asked the club mod if she could switch seats with him he said sure then she rolled the seat until she was right in front of me she said "I heard that you gave jenny(fake name for privacy) a really sweet valentines day gift So do you like her? I hesitated for a second (because the only reason I gave jenny the gift was so that I could have an easier time asking her out to the prom I don't think i really liked her)but I didn't look her in the eyes and said yea then she rolled back to the front of the room and acted like nothing happened
2nd sign: I asked her out to the prom and she agreed to go despite falsely thinking that I liked jenny
So does she like me or am I over thinking it?
BTW I realized I liked her the second I said I liked Jenny (I can't stop kicking myself for that) (link)
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I think that she may like you. The fact that she asked you if you liked Jenny was probably just for gossip, but if she agreed to go to the prom with you, that could mean she is into you. You see, this is how it works, if you tell a girl that you love someone else and she still says yes, even though she thinks you like Jenny, means that she loves you. She probably said yes because she did not want to say "NO, who do you think you are, I thought you liked Jenny." because she would miss out on the chance to get you to like her. I would say go for it. But if I where you, I would probably wait for another sign, to be sure she loves you, then ask her out. Please email me if you have another sign. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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My girlfriend and I have just had some major issues and we've both come to the conclusion that this is best solved by just starting over 100%. We both agree on the idea, but neither of us really know how to do it...any ideas? (link)
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If you want to restart a relation ship with your girlfriend you should put your problems aside. This is hard to do since every time you may get in a conflict, she or you might remind she or him of what happened. My advice is that you should talk about your problems and solve them first before restarting your relationship. If you have done that, then just imagine what it was like the first day you met her, remember how you talked to her, how you acted, and try to re create that. That should help you to start over. Good luck!!! If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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I'm a student and there is this girl in my school, I'm kind of like her (I don't know if it's love or not). I'm always jealous of people around her. But she seems to evade these days. Please give me some advices.
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I think you are in love with her. ONe of the main signs of love is when you get jealous of people being around her. THis means that you would rater be with her than those people spending time with her. Just be careful not to show too much jealousy because girls don't seem to like guys that get jealous. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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i lost my viginity at 13, and since then i havent been able to stop, im now 15 and have sucked over 50 differnt boys, and i have had sex with over 30 differnt guys, i also done anal with 10 differnt guys. i really cant stop even though i feel so ashamed its like a thing that im so used to it feels very normal , im only 15 and all the guys have been 16 -35 years old... iv done threesums and all sorts, am i addicted or just a dirty slut?
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I think that you are just simply addicted. You should try to stop doing it with every single guy you meet. What I suggest is to find a steady boyfriend and to only do it with him. I think that you should also go to a doctor, because you might need to get your hormones tested. I had a writer write to me once, about a similar problem, and she got her hormones tested and it turned out that the doctor gave her some pills to take and she stopped wanting to have sex all the time. You should go to the doctor if you keep on behaving like this. Also, I think you should only do it with guys your age than 35 year olds. I understand how ashamed you feel, but it really is hard to stop. It is like a magnet and it is attracting you, wanting more. Be sure that guys can't pressure you into sex, if they can't you are defiantly not a slut. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. If you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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15/f
We were in class one day and he had made some kind of reference/motion to alcohol that I didn't get so I was like, "HUH?"
He was like, "PARTY."
"And?"
"DRINKING!" He said.
Then it hit me and I of course went, "OHHHH!!"
He said, "God, you're so retarded. You're so childish. I swear, I just want to yell at you sometimes! You're so frustrating."
And then he looks at me and starts laughing. I pound my head against my desk in frustration and he just laughs harder and says I'm "so funny", like he says all the time.
...I know I overthink things a lot, but is my friend bipolar or something? We're not close at all, just acquaintances more or less, so should I ignore him? After all, I'm not exactly childish, I'm just slow on the uptake on the darker things in life.. Why is that so annoying to him? Something like this seems to happen every time I don't get his jokes, but today he really kinda blew up.. (link)
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You are anything but childish. HE is the one that is childish. I think that your friend just simply likes to joke around. I used to have a friend like that, he just joked around and sometimes he would say rude things to me, but I knew that he was just joking. I think that if he only said "God, you're so retarded. You're so childish. I swear, I just want to yell at you sometimes! You're so frustrating" then I would have said he has some serious problems. But you said that he laughed when you pound your head against the table. This means that he just said it to see you do something funny. It was probably because the lesson was so boring. I think this friend of yours is quite the funny type of person. But if he is mean to you like that allot more, you should tell him to stop, if it is hurting your feelings. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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So this new girl came to our school, and
and she has kinda know become friends
with my girls. So it's now the four of them
and not me. I feel left out, and unwanted.
She can be nice to me sometimes, but I
don't like her, I wish she would go back
to where she came from! I just want it
to be us again. Not her!!! (link)
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I think that you are going through a stage of jealousy. You are jealous that this new girl stole away your old friends and now you are not part of them any more. I think that this new girl just needed a few new friends since she did not know any one at the school. I think the best way to gain back your friends is to befriend the new girl. I am telling you this because if you just ignore the new girl and only hang with your friends, your friends will think you are selfish and you will get in a fight with them. You should talk to the new girl and let her become one of your friends too. But you should remember to open your heart and let new people in all the time. You should really become her friend, not just pretend, because a true person can see the truth behind why you are being friendly to them. Once you are friends with the new girl, your friends will let you hang out with them more and you will be back to normal, just with a new friend. If this is not the answer you where looking for please email me and I can give you another one. If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
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Okay, so My mom is thinking of moving to northdakota which Days away from where i live...And i am MADLY in love with my best guy friend which he lives across the street and we use to date like back in february then i broke up with him cause my mom doesnt like him ...and so he comes play around our porch in my mom is at work or something.. we hang out alot and my mom doesnt even know that i have been inside his house three times..(but me and him didnt do anything innappropiate, we just played video games and stuff) anyways, she is thinking about moving this summer and we only lived here for about a years and a couple of months...and my best guy friend already was sad cause his best guy friend moved.. and so i am like his only best friend that is still in his neighborhood..and i know that i will never find a guy like him ..like literally i had moved from 8 states and not once have i met a guy like him..is there any way i can convince my mom to stay here..and they really need to be good reasons..? please help me! i am female age: 13
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It seems to me like you have fallen in love. He is definitely a good reason to stay where you are. To be honest I think you should tell your mom that you love him. You should tell her how much you want to stay there because you need him and he needs you. This is probably a big step for you since you mom doesn't know about the time you have been spending together, and she might think you are making this up just to be able to stay there. If you are not brave enough to tell her that you love him, you should tell her that you have moved so much and you finally found a reliable friend and someone you care about allot (don't mention you love him). PLease email me to tell me what kind of person your mom is, so I can give you a clear persuasive answer. Also tell me if the move is certain or if it is just something your mom is thinking of doing. If she is thinking of doing this, please tell me why. I can help you out allot here. And I have been in a similar situation once so I feel like I really need to help you the best I can. For any more advice please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com, if you want to know more about me please go to my temporary website www.AskAliceMadisson.webstarts.com. I give professional advice
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im in highschool 17/f and i need help with concentrating on my schoolwork. im so easily distracted!!!! does anyone know i can concentrate better so i dont fail??? thank you:) (link)
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I noticed how most people said that you should study alone for a while. I think the opposite. What helped me when I was in high school all the way through college was that I found an intelligent friend who would sit me down for half an hour and we would study together. As un-logic as this might sound, it really does help. You do need to make sure you have a friend that is fun to be around and that is good at school work. They could help you do your homework or pass tests. People tend to learn more when they are surrounded with friends. Make sure your friend is not someone that easily distracts you. If this teqnique did not help, please email me to ask for another one, I have plenty. For any more advice please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com, if you want to know more about me please go to my temporary website www.AskAliceMadisson.webstarts.com. I give professional advice
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i need a nickname for my new boyfriend (a cool one though) (link)
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Please email me his name and what his favorite things are, then I can get your boyfriend a relevant nick name, that he will like you calling him. For any more advice please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com, if you want to know more about me please go to my temporary website www.AskAliceMadisson.webstarts.com. I give professional advice
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this guy at skool it the ultimate guy for me.
hes nice, sweet, really caring for me, and we get on... were practically best friends.
(only downer is im not physically attracted to him)
we have dated.
and because i felt like i was leading him on, i kept dumping him.
i do like him, dont get me wrong, but i think i prefer just talking to someone.
i dont have alot of friends, thats y i think i like him so much.
i know hes going to ask me out this coming Wednesday.. and i dont know what i going to say to him!!!! (link)
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If your heart is telling you he is just not the guy, that is what your answer is. You know him better than I do, so you should know weather he is shy or not. Please email me as soon as posible telling me what he is like and how he feels about you. I will give you some sensible things that you can say to him, and that will not hurt his feelings too much. For any more advice please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com, if you want to know more about me please go to my temporary website www.AskAliceMadisson.webstarts.com. I give professional advice
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In been with my boyfriend for about 3yrs, we went to the same school but he leave 1yrs now n I'm still going, I'm 18 and he's 19. I don't think he love me because of the way he treat me most of the time, and he can't be trust he have lots of girls so I heard n when I ask him he always say no I'm the only girl he's very lie I notice. He's up set for the smallest things I do are say, one day I when to his house, and while I'm there his girl came over and when he heard her voice he locked me into the room and get rid of her, when I first heard about that girl he told me she was his ex and when I ask him about it he told me to leave him alone and to call back her his phone. I love him so very much and don't want to loose him and even tho he always do things to me I always be the one to make it up to him, and also him me once, I need help its hard for me to leave him, what can I do? To help myself and him? (link)
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I think that he might be cheating on you since you don't go to the same school as him any more. If you are one of those shy people (no offense) you should confront him with it. He will be suprized that you ask him, he should tell you the truth. I think that if you find some evidence that he is cheating on you, you should break up with him. It is better to end it now than later, your heart will be broken more then. I hope it works out. If you want a proper advice for this problem, email me his character and the things he did before you started going out. Also tell me if you have had sex with him yet if you don't mind. For any more advice please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com, if you want to know more about me please go to my temporary website www.AskAliceMadisson.webstarts.com. I give professional advice
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Hi, i jusst wanted to know if me and my 2 week old boyfriend should break up? This all started today when i sat on his knee (its ok im 16) and he said that i farted..... and i didnt!!! The second thing is thaat he touched my friends boob. The third thing is that when i was going up the stairs at school he said that i should get my "big butt" out of his face!! i was like WTF! shut the hell up! and when we were going to leave, he just said bye. not love you. just bye. we usually say i love you before we leave to go home. but he didnt today. He is always embarrising me infrount of my friends and im not liking it :( he is a sweet guy though and very romantic. but is this just a bump in the road in our relationship or should i make it a standstill thing?? so do you think i should dump him or not?? (sorry this is soo long i just had to get all the details so that i can get a honest answer) so thanx :D
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I think that you should give it a few more days. If he continues to act like this, especially not saying ''I love you" you should break up with him. I think that in the beginning he was in love with you, but then he met your friends and now he might be trying to impress one of them. I do not mean to upset you, but it is better to not let your heart get broken by him later than sooner. I would like to know how he acts in three days, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. I give professional advice. If you don't trust me please go to my temporary website www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com.
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