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i have always been the girl to get her period REALLY heavy, like changing a super tampon every 2 hours and ive always been on schedual to the day! but this time i was 2 WEEKS late AND i cant even fill the littlest tampon. is this normal? please dont reply by saying its disgusting b/c i really need help! i rate good advice!
Just be thankful you got your period and you are not pregnant.
I can only tell you what my gf's over the years have told me but that is that sometimes their bodies do weird things. No explanation, no reason, they just do. Relax.
Okay my little sister asbolutely refuses to go to school she wants to drop out thing is shes not 16 is there anyway she can drop out before shes 16? My parents and I have tryed everything even bribing her to go to school and it doesnt work. So is there anyway she can drop out before shes 16? If so please explain in details. Im really worried for my sister and its hurting my parents bad because they dont want to get in trouble. Thanks!
You might want to look into home school packages or whether there is a correspondence school (this was the term from the country I grew up in - not sure if it applies where you are - basically a school where you do your work by mail/email/etc designed mainly for kids on farms well away from any established school) she can attend.
You best course of action it seems to me is to stop trying to force her to go but instead spend twice as much effort trying to find out why she is so set on not going. Whats going on there? What kind of rpoblems is she having there?
ok, i am in love with a beautiful girl. but i love her for her personality and the way she asks and shes just perfect! i would like do anything she asked and would take a shot for her. but then comes the problem. i moved to africa about 6 weeks ago. i wake up at like 3 am every morning to talk to her but this move is still breakin my heart. i never actually go the chance to ask her out be for i moved cause i new it would make it all more painful for her. so my questions are, what should i do about this move because i'm goin to give her up and second, i wanna ask her how she feels about me but i dont wanna ask cause idk how she'ld react. i'll rate if u show me you gave this sum thought...
So how would she react? You say you know but it may help us give you advice if you clued us in as well.
OK, I'm not trying to be dismissive or anything but at 14, you shouldn't even be thinking about changing your plans or the country you live in because of this girl. You are in love and it seems like this is the one great love of your life. Trust me, it almost certainly isn't. Everyone feels like that about people they fall for when they are 14. But how many couples do you know that are in their 30's that started out when they were 14? Most people would expect to have a few significant relationships in their lives. So don't go turning your life upside down over the first one at 14. Just relax.
Besides, if things are really meant to be, you will bump into her somewhere 5 years from now and it will all work out. More likely you wont and both of you will have great lives with other people. Cest la vie.
What do you guys think of a 18-year-old(f) dating a 24-year-old(m). And don't give any of that "age doesn't matter crap" bcasue it does. What do yall think of the maturity levels?
The biggest problem I see... The 18-year-old is still a freshman in college and the 24-year-old graduated 2 years ago.
I'm just about old enough to be my gf's father so perhaps I'm biased.
Personally I think it is about right. Work experience does help people mature faster, but if I think about myself when I was in my early 20's, I needed it! Guys often retain a rather juvenile attitude to most things while at school and college. It takes them a couple of years just to start to take things seriously. Girls tend to be more responsible at a younger age.
ok well im 15 and in 9 grade and theres this boy that i like but i dont really know him. Well ever since the beginning of the year i always caught him staring at me and smiling but never anything else, then we gradually started talking but only in class (we have one class together)well this semester i sit right next to him in class and we talk all the time but only in class. if we see each other in the hall we never say anything. yesterday our class was in the computer lab & we were only allowed to sit by 1 person at a table. well i got up for a minute to go look at another computer that no one was at or by and he came over and sat right next to me and we just sat there talking and then he put his hand on my leg. then the teacher looked at us an he got up and went to sit next to this girl i hate but hes friends with her. so what the heck?! im so confused so if u could just tell me if hes hinting he likes me or if he just wants to confuse me? plz i rate high!!
Of course he likes you. Just relax and make it easy for him to try and get more comfortable talking to you. Good luck.
I got a big problem with college. I hate it every day I go drains years out of my spirit. I would rather be working and living it up on the weekends. Instead I find myself here. It's not that I am bad at college I am actually quite good. I've made the dean's list twice. My problem is I don't like it and it doesn't feel like its my thing. I am here to make my parents proud my mother had to drop out of college to have my brother and she never went back. I am like allowing her to live vicariously through me and it is killing my spirit. I would be the third person in my family on either side to graduate college but I am terribly unhappy even thought I know how much this will help my future. Any suggestions?
How much longer to go? Honestly, having started, I am a believer in finishing because no matter what you do later in life, the qualification will help you. But you do need to get your head around it. If you think serisouly about it and decide that you will finsih it, commit to it on the basis that you have decided you will finish for the sake of having the qualification and for the sake of sheer personal development. As long as you feel like you are doing it for your mum, it will be tough. That doesn't mean you have to stop doing it, you just have to stop perceiving it that way.
There again, if it is making you so unhappy that you do not think you could pull yourself through the rest of the course, then there is little point staying. Just take your time before you make such a decision.
Okay I am 21/f and I have this friend who used to be so funny. He would have me rolling all the time. So lately he is so not as funny as he used to be but he tries so hard to make me laugh that is actually quite pathetic. And I have been faking the laughs. He can't tell the differemce! He loves it when I am happy. How do I let him know that I love the laughs of the past but he needs to stop trying so hard without hurting his feelings.
Signed
Feeling like a bad person :-(
Yikes........how awkward.
If it is really bugging you, and I suspect it is, then you do need to be honest with him. Just try not to be too honest. Have you taken the time to find out what is going on in his head lately? Maybe he isn't quite so funny at the moment because deep down, he isn't very happy. I think you care for your friend, so take the trouble to try and find out if there is something going on. Of course, the problem could be that he likes you more than just a friend and doesn't know how to go the next step with you. If thats the case, I doubt he will tell you whats going on. Moreover, it will probably get worse before it gets better. Watch for signs of that yourself. You should be older enough by now to have a fair idea whether that might be the problem.
So i get really sweaty under my arm pits and i noe its normal but its annoying to me. Ive tried so many deodorants does anyone recomend anything??
Deodorants work to cover any odour or smell that might be there. They don't work to reduce yoru sweating at all. Make sure you buy anti-perspirant/deodorants. They try and keep you drier as well as being a deodorant.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months, and lately I feel as if I'm losing him very slowly. Everyday he seems less and less interested in me. (Example) He gets off the phone more often without a reason, and isn't passionate when we kiss. I'm wondering if he's slipping through my grip, or is there a way for me to stop this...
14/f
Retro_romance
I don't want to make you sad, but yes, probably he is distancing himself. It may be the signs that this relationship is running out of steam. But please, do not see this as any reflection on you. Nor should you try to stop this. Relationships are a dynamic between two people. Too often if things cool off, one wonders what they have done wrong. Normally it would be absolutely nothing. The fact is that the relationship, the dynamic rubber band that bonds the two of you, may just break. It isn't the fault of either one, just the way things are sometimes. If this didn't happen, we would all end up happily ever after with our bf/gf from when we were 14. The fact is, almost nobody does. They try a relationship which works for a while and then it doesn't any longer. Then it is time for another. Hopefully before too long you find one that works forever for you. But the worst thing you can do is try and hang onto something once it is gone. See how things go and if it gets worse, talk to him honestly about it and ask him how he feels. If you get the answer I suspect, then just move on with no regrets, no guilt and no blame for either of you. Good luck.
18f
situation: my best guy friend has invited me up to his farm to go horseriding... i will have to sleep over there.
Problem: last time i went to his place we got totally blind and ended up making out. he got my top off before i came to my senses and stopped.(it went no further) i told him that i thought it was wrong and i didn't want to ruin our friendship. he said that it was okay and we worked through it and saved our friendship. i know he still likes me - he told me so - but i dont like him. i told him that i would only go if he behaves himself. he said "i wont do anything, dont worry." but i'm not sure.
question: do you think he is being honest? he has tried to kiss me since 'the incident' but i backed off and he apologized. i said i'd go... should i try back out? or just go to his place?
Go.
Be your own guardian. Remind him gently without preaching that you don't want anything to happen and I think he will respect that. Remember, he has never gone beyond what you have let him do. The moment you have asked him to stop or back off, he has done so. So all up, I think he is a guy you can trust. Maybe not trust to not make a move if he gets a bit drunk, but at least to respect you when you say no. If you get drunk as well and say yes, well that is your own issue.
hey im 16/f and i have been firends with this guy for like a year and half now and i have liked other guys but something just keeps pointing back to my friend. and we aare together all the time and do stuff as a couple...howcan i tell if he has the same feelings wihtout asking him or saying somthign becaus he is like awsomly shy!
please help!
Not really. You can get an idea of how he feels by how accomodating or accepting he is of doing things you might want to do even if he isn't into it or by how much he is willing to put himself out to make sure you are happy. But all of that can just be the traits of a good friend too. The only way to get into his true feelings and his heart is to ask him. Talk to him. He might be very shy, but I think if you have been friends for so long, you should have built up enough trust between you to talk to him. If he is really shy, then be careful about how and where you bring up the subject. It should be between the two of you, not while anyone else is around. Try and build his trust first. Tell him you want to talk to him but make sure he undertsands that anything you both say is to remain between the two of you so he doesn't feel ike it will become a topic of general gossip. The last stpe, and most important perhaps, is be honest about your own feelings first. If he is shy and scared to go out on a limb, then the easiest way for him to do so is if he has seen you walk out there first. Let him know you like him but want to know how he feels and tell him you will not be crushed if he says he doesn't feel the same, that you just want to know before you irsk getting to the point where you could both get hurt.
well i like this guy people think hes a geek but i don't know why. well he is really smart like he loves to read and stuff hes not popular but i am and people have found out that i like him and there laughing at me. i really like him and i could really care less what people think but i just don't want to loose my friend over something like this( that is if we start to go out) i am 13 years old an i'm a girl. please tell me if i should go out with him or just try to forget about him and keep my reputation. thanks a lot!
Go out with the guy and if necessary lose the friends. To be honest, if your friends don't want to hang out with you because of your choice of bf, then they are not friends worth holding onto. A true friend would accept anyone that makes you happy.
The other day down there hurt really bad..and when i wnt to the bathroom there was like a lump..kinda like a pimple lookin thing..on my clitourous..or however u spell it (clit for short) and it was bigger then normally..i was really worried so i touched the lump really litely and this white stuff came out and it was bleeding a lil bit..im really scared..does ne one know wut this could be? ty i RATE HIGH
I don't want to scare you but I really suggest you see a doctor. It may be nothing, but on the assumption you are sexually active, any lump like that, especially if it ruptures, could be a herpes sore as well. I don't know how old you are but if you are old enough to be having sex, then you are old enough to be burdened with some of the responsibilites. One fo these is to go get yourself checked out if anything like that appears not only so that you can get treatment for yourself but also for the sake of any furture bf or partner you might have.
OK, if you are sexually active and you read this, you are probably now freaking out. Please don't. As I said, it is only a possibility so don't worry so much until you know. Either way it doesn't have to impact so much on your life.
What does a yeast infection look like. Is it a rash? Or a discharge. What does the rash look like if so??? Oh, 13/f
It can look like a rash and can be accompanied by a whitish yellow discharge. Usually it would also be very itchy.
Regardless, you should go see a doctor. I can appreciate that this might be a little uncomfortable for you to do but questions like this are very hard to give serious advice on over the internet.
Don't take a risk with your health by guessing. Be brave and good luck.
I am a nineteen year old female living in Southern California. Years ago, when I was barely in elementary school, I was physically and sexually abused.
Though I believe I've moved past those issues, I notice that try as I might, I can't have an orgasm. I want to know how I would move beyond this problem and continue with my daily life.
Cheers.
Sexual abuse at a young age can often come back to haunt you. Moving on is never quite as easy as we would like. Regardless, unless it is in the back of your mind when you are having sex now, I doubt that it is the cause of a failure to orgasm. As one of the other answer stated, some women have considerable difficulty until they are in their twenties or even never. It does not entirely stop you having a thoroughly enjoyable sex life and does nto need to hinder your relationships. Just relax and be open with your partners and let everything happen naturally. Maybe it will and maybe it wont, but either way do not let this issue dictate how you lead your life.
i think my best friend is either bulemic or anorexic. she weighs about 119 pounds, wears a size 0 jeans and she constantly goes on about how shes fat. SHE IS NOT AT ALL. she graphs her weight on a chart (i saw it) and it's REALLY starting to scare me. what should i do? talk to somebody about it, talk to her...? please help!!
119lbs? She isn't that skinny! Stop worrying about it. Most of the women I go out with are 100lbs or less and they aren't bulemic or anorexic.
My mom broke up with my dad 9 years ago, and has been living with my stepdad since. I was on her computer, and found that she has been flirting with a guy from Texas (thousands of miles away), and they are planning on meeting in Seattle this weekend.
She hasn't told anyone about it, like me, my stepdad, ect. She said she was going to Seattle for a "craft get-together".
Should I be really upset, storm out, and demand to live with my dad? Or be happy for her that she is happy...and having an affair. I guess I'm still in shock.
I'm a 16 year old girl, and I'm not sure how to react. It was probably wrong to look on her computer, but I just had a hunch.
If you want your mum to spend the next 20 years commenting on your relationships, go right ahead and get involved in hers.
Or just stay out of it as frinkly, this is between her and your stepdad and me.....I mean the guy in Texas.......not me.....no certainly not me....aww crap.
i have picked at my down there and i got a cut and when i pee, it hurts! is that usual? i know its not a bladder infection
thanks
Picking what? Mushrooms?
It all started when I met Jeremy, Louis, Paul, & Simon. Paul & Simon are brothers, and all four of the guys are all friends. My best friend, Ewelina, knows the four guys. I met these guys about two weeks ago, I mean, I knew them before but until then we never really talked. Some background information: Paul & Jeremy are best friends. Paul liked Ewelina for about 5 years, I mean, that guy is like so obsessed with her. Jeremy, liked Ewelina. And vice-versa, but they never got together because of Paul. They both say they don't have feelings/like each other so... So yeah... now Jeremy was talking to Ewelina and he said he liked me alot. Jeremy, he's like perfect, well to me, anyway. He sings, plays guitar, doesn't smoke, but he drinks. Thats the bad part ... =(. He says drinking makes things better for him, makes things more fun and lets him open up. He's also very sensitive & emotional, =]. Ok last week, we were all by Ewelina's and they all came by and we just all sat around. Then they went to drink up at some party. Later on Jeremy calls Ewelina, and I picked up the phone. I asked who it was, and he said "your boyfriend". I was like, oh the one who ignored me today?, he explained to me that he's shy around girls he likes and that he's very nervous. I was soo happy! =] Then after I left, Jeremy stopped by Ewelina's after the party, and they were being very annoying to her. Acting like such asses... so Ewelina was like, watch what I tell Angie (me), she won't give you a chance. He got all pissed at her, and then came by my house. I was in the shower, so I didn't talk to him of course. Then him & Ewelina talked later on that night, for over an hour, and she said they talked all about me. That he liked me a lot and all, and stuff like that. Oh man, was I happy ... Then we hung out a few times after that and he told Ewelina and Paul, he was begining to lose interest in me and that I was boring. Meanwhile, Paul & I have been talking a lot. I was trying to help him out with Ewelina, but Ewelina doesn't want to go out with him, so that was hard. Finally, Ewelina told Paul how she felt, that she hated him and everything. So things became rocky. We didn't hang out anymore, till last week, Ewelina and I talked, and she decided she'd give Paul a chance, hoping that maybe that would make it better for me, meaning maybe Jeremy & I would maybe hook-up, ya know? Well Ok so Ewelina is going out with Paul so that me and Jeremy could maybe hook-up, nobody knows that. And Paul is sooooo frikkin happy that they're together, FINALLY, so it sucks that he doesn't know the truth. Ok so they come by on Friday, nothing! Nothing happened, we barely talked. Jeremy wanted to go drink so he was pissed cause no one cold get the drinks for them. Then on Saturday, I wasn't home and they came by like 3 times, and they told my sister someone was gonna ask me out. Oh boy, was I happy =] Then we all went to the park, and talk. It was Louis, Simon, Jeremy, and Paul. Ewelina had band practice at her house.
Yeah so anyway, we all just hung around and talked. They drink some earlier that day, around 1 so yeah... Jeremy was all over me, and flirting, =]. Then Louis and Paul left and so me and jeremey and simon all went to my backyard and just talked. They wouldn't leave me alone about the whole Ewelina and Paul situation, they were onto it. They were very suspisious. So then I was sitting inbetween them on the swing and I just broke out. I like started crying, and I told them the truth. THE WHOLE FREAKING TRUTH. I felt so stupid, I mean telling Jeremy that I like him, and the only reason Ewelina is going out with Paul is so that I could go out with him. So I told him how I felt, and him and simon started whispering something. All I heard was simon saying YOU NEED TO TELL HER and the jeremy was like, look, i know you like me. i know, and i like you too, but not that way. he doesn't see us togther, and he's like explaining how he's neer been in a serious relationship, so its hard for him. But he says we can do stuff, i'm like save it. I got s pissed, and oh my GOD i felt horrible about the whole paul and ewelina situation, and they're like dont be so hard on yourself, its not your fault, and stuff. I felt horrible, and then I told them the rest of the story about how ewelina is going out with this other guy, too and they were like skank and stuff and now they hate her. they wanted to do something where i walk on her and jeremy, jeremy would make a move on her, and i would walk in on it. it was supposed to show me what kind of a friend she is. i personally seriously dont think she would have done it, but jeremy and simon were like yeah she would and stuff. then they left around 10. Our plan was to not saying anything at all. Ok then on sunday, they came by, all of them except Louis, they brought another friend along, some Andy guy, and oh my, he was hitting on me. he was wasted/stoned and saying the stupidest stuff, lol, it was crazy! they came by because jeremy wanted 10 bucks cause some guy ripped them off, jeremy gave the guy 20 bucks and the guy was supposed to go to dominick's and get them some liquor. he left and never came back, lol so jeremy wanted 10 bucks, i only had 3. then they left, and nothing really happened. then today [monday] simon calls me at 9 in the morning, i was like what the hell ... he wanted me to come by and drink with them, it was simon, paul, and that andy guy. i got there like 4 hours after they called me, i had stuff to do. they were all ready wasted and paul was starting shit with simon, it was horrible... they almost fought. yikes ... then that andy guy was hitting on me, he was soo drunk, i was laughing my ass off. it was hilarious! then simon became kind sober? i guess? lol and we talked about what to do about THE TRUTH, lol. He said to keep it between the three of us {jeremy, me, simon} and not to tell ewelina and paul. so yeah then we talked about random stuff. then i went to my grandparents, they left to poland today. =( Yeah, then Jeremy, Louis, and Simon all come by and we talk. They said I have to tell Ewelina and Paul the truth. I was like what?!?!?!?!?!?!
They wanted to do it with me, so I was like fuck it and I went home. Then I called Ewelina over and we talked, I told her everything, she was kinda pissed and she called Paul and told him the whole story, I couldn't do it. I felt horrible cause they guys were telling me how he would go kill himself or something, then he wanted to talk to me. He was like, I trusted you, you were the person I actually thought I could trust, why did ou do this to me? Oh my GOD, it was horrible. Then Ewelina told me about how like last week jeremy asked her to make-ouy with him and stuff. Then later on Jeremy & Simon come by, and they're bitching at me cause Ewelina was pissed at them and acting like a bitch. They're like you told her, right? I was like yeah =/ ... They said they were just kidding about before, that they wouldn't have told paul or ewelina, and i shouldn't have. That they were just kidding and yeah. I was like oh well... then jeremy told me how the other day, the day after ewelina and paul started going out, she was like to jeremy: but we could still make-out and jeremy was like: what about paul? and she supposedly said who cares... now i wasn't supposed to say anything, but i can't keep my mouth shut and i asked jeremy about what she said, about making-out and he said that never happened, and i asked her about what he said and she didn't admit to it. so yeah... then jeremy and simon were saying how i'm the only nice girl they know who's not a bitch or a slut/skank/whore. i felt so special, =] hehehe. so yeah but now, i don't know what to do. jeremy was saying how he's gonna stop drinking, [yeah for like the 6th time] and i think maybe he's doing it for me, just maybe? ahh i don't know what to do anymore ... he's such a player. and i don't WANT to like him, after everything but I can't help it, ohh man what do i do? when we first met, he was like in love with me, like seriously he'd call up ewelina and talk to her about me for about an hour, now he doesn't like me anymore, but why??? =( they said i gotta be more fun, but how???
Hell....what should you do.
Step 1. Get rid of your friends as they all like playing games instead of being real.
Step 2. Try getting a life. What does it matter what these people think or do? Start worrying about your own actions and not those of everyone else.
Step 3. Find a guy that likes you even when he is sober
Step 4. Come back and get more advice when you have done steps 1-3.
Seriously, I would have dropped that lot as friends a long time ago. What a complete waste of space. Feel free to pass on a message from me that they are consuming valuable resources on a planet that does not want or need them.
All you girls out there...
I am kind of shy, but am trying to be more outgoing, which I am finding easier and easier. Usually when I like a guy, they have no clue, but I would like to change that. What are the best ways to flirt? If you could tell me some of your favorite flirting moves I would appreciate it. Any little flirty gesture or something that always works for you?
And for you guys out there, what kind of things do you love when a girl does? What is the best ways for a girl to flirt in you opinion? How do you like a girl letting you know she is interested in you?
Please keep in mind that I am kind of reserved, so please don't tell me to go up and grab his butt or something, thats not really my style. Thank you so much in advance for your advice!
Flirting is an attitude and the easiest way to convey your thoughts is through the eyes. Remember the basics of non-verbal communication. If you meet him, perhaps as part of a group, look at him when he speaks and hold the gaze if he looks at you. Turn your body towards him. If sitting next to him, cross your legs towards him, not away. But most of all, make and hold eye contact when you can.