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Don't want to hurt his feelings
Okay I am 21/f and I have this friend who used to be so funny. He would have me rolling all the time. So lately he is so not as funny as he used to be but he tries so hard to make me laugh that is actually quite pathetic. And I have been faking the laughs. He can't tell the differemce! He loves it when I am happy. How do I let him know that I love the laughs of the past but he needs to stop trying so hard without hurting his feelings.
Signed
Feeling like a bad person :-(
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Who has changed him or you? Maybe you just don't see things the same as you used to.Unless something has happened to drastically change him I don't understand why his humor would have changed.Don't feel bad about it, change is USUALLY good! If you don't find something funny then say so.Don't pretend.Just tell him you don't find that kind of thing funny anymore if he expects a laugh where you don't feel like laughing.Don't fake laughs.There are other was of expressing happiness.
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Just tell him the truth and maybe try to make him laugh so he feels better. Maybe he's just down. So talk to him about it.
hope everything goes great!
simone*
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Yikes........how awkward.
If it is really bugging you, and I suspect it is, then you do need to be honest with him. Just try not to be too honest. Have you taken the time to find out what is going on in his head lately? Maybe he isn't quite so funny at the moment because deep down, he isn't very happy. I think you care for your friend, so take the trouble to try and find out if there is something going on. Of course, the problem could be that he likes you more than just a friend and doesn't know how to go the next step with you. If thats the case, I doubt he will tell you whats going on. Moreover, it will probably get worse before it gets better. Watch for signs of that yourself. You should be older enough by now to have a fair idea whether that might be the problem.
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