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falling in love
hey im 16/f and i have been firends with this guy for like a year and half now and i have liked other guys but something just keeps pointing back to my friend. and we aare together all the time and do stuff as a couple...howcan i tell if he has the same feelings wihtout asking him or saying somthign becaus he is like awsomly shy!
please help!
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Just keep doing stuff together and see what might happen.If a dance or something comes up ask him to be your date.The more time spent together the more he will loose his shyness with you.You won't find out how he feels unless you ask.The thing is you don't want to scare him off either.I'd give it some more time and just wait it out.
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Not really. You can get an idea of how he feels by how accomodating or accepting he is of doing things you might want to do even if he isn't into it or by how much he is willing to put himself out to make sure you are happy. But all of that can just be the traits of a good friend too. The only way to get into his true feelings and his heart is to ask him. Talk to him. He might be very shy, but I think if you have been friends for so long, you should have built up enough trust between you to talk to him. If he is really shy, then be careful about how and where you bring up the subject. It should be between the two of you, not while anyone else is around. Try and build his trust first. Tell him you want to talk to him but make sure he undertsands that anything you both say is to remain between the two of you so he doesn't feel ike it will become a topic of general gossip. The last stpe, and most important perhaps, is be honest about your own feelings first. If he is shy and scared to go out on a limb, then the easiest way for him to do so is if he has seen you walk out there first. Let him know you like him but want to know how he feels and tell him you will not be crushed if he says he doesn't feel the same, that you just want to know before you irsk getting to the point where you could both get hurt.
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