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Im 16 a girl i love porn :/ n i love to masturbate is it bad a girl my age to masturbate (link)
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It isn't 'bad' for a girl of 16 to watch porn and to masturbate while watching it. It is designed & produced to be arousing. I should say that by this age most guys and girls have seen pornographic images/video, some (especiallly girls) it doesn't do anything for at all, they don't find it arousing. Some find they enjoy it. There's nothing much more to be read into it than that in the vast majority of cases. True, it is legally age-restricted and we would expect responsible societies to have such rules. But it must surely be the the most broken one on earth...it was more difficult perhaps for a minor to obtain pornographic images in pre-internet days. When they existed only on paper, or video-cassete, DVD etc. Don't worry at all about it, but don't get too addicted either...keep plenty of other interests on the go. Not because it's porn, but because getting really hooked on ANY one thing isn't a great idea, especially in your teens. Can set a pattern for addictive behaviour. Personally, I do think that young males watching a lot of porn can give them the idea that women are merely 'sex objects' rather than people. But once they start relationships with actual girls they usually get a more balanced view, quite quickly!! And find that the on-screen scenario isn't quite how the real world works. Relax, and don't get hung-up about it.
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I sucked my bf'z dick nd he waz sperming in my mouth so can I get pregnant I swallowed half of dem (link)
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No. Oral sex (where your boyfriend 'sperms in your mouth') is 100% incapable of making the female pregnant. Whether you swallow some, or none or all of it makes no difference. I gurantee it.
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I have a talc powder which has its use before date written as 08/13 (MM/YY). Should I use it up before 1/08/13 or before 31/08/13 ? (link)
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Long shelf-life stuff with a month/year marking may be kept on the shelf until the last day of the month stated, after which it must be removed. So you could still buy an 08/13 product for the next 30 days perfectly legally and use it safely. I can't think why aging would adversely affect talc anyway...suppose it might sort of 'settle' and clump together a bit, or if it's scented it might lose it's scent rather. I don't think you need to worry about using the talc, or worry if you're still using it a bit after the 31st. Foods are a different matter...especially fresh-chilled stuff. OK?
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You attract what you are, not what you want. (link)
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Really one of those generalisations, akin to 'you get back what you give' etc. Clearly we do not always get back what we give, and we can play a perfect game and still lose. But we kind of want these platitudes to be true, don't we? I assume it was used to suggest that you tend to attract to yourself the sort of friends, acquaintances and admirers who share your values, principles, outlook on life, social standing, looks etc...any or all of the above! May be a criticism, or compliment depending on context. If you are a bright, confident sort, with exacting personal standards & ambition it might be complimentary, ie. you will draw similar friends and male admirers/partners to yourself because they feel an affinity towards you. Obviously, if you are clearly NOT that sort it could be a put-down, ie 'How do you expect to attract this sort of person when your character/appearance/background is so different?' We could argue 'opposites attract', or we could insist that at the most fundamental level 'like attracts like'. I'd take it as a bit of homespun philosophy, not an undeniable fact by any means. The dynamics of human relationships are far too complex to sum up and dismiss with a catchphrase. Of course we need common ground and shared ideals with our friends/partners, but the precise nature of the attraction and/or connection has no simple explanation. Any help?
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my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months, he just turned 18 and I'm almost 16. before we had sex we went through all the smaller steps, which was good, and we've had sex a few times now. I'm not on birth control and I've tried to go on it for other reasons but my mom and doctor didn't think it was necessary unless I was sexually active which at the time I wasn't but now I am. we use a condom every time, I wouldn't do it any other way and neither would he. should I be taking a form of the morning after pill or something? I just don't want anything to happen. please any advice helps, thank you! (link)
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In pratical terms, rather than ethical or moral then providing you use a condom and use them correctly and responsibly it's about the most reliable way to avoid unwanted pregnancy going. Glad to hear you both are agreed on the importance of the matter. They are not an additional protection, millions use them as a completely 'stand-alone' contraceptive method. After-sex pills would be an ideal fallback if or when a condom failed (meaning ripped, damaged or came off) at a bad moment. Or if you ended up having sex in a heated moment and hadn't got a condom. It does happen! Perhaps fear of pregnancy is making you a bit over-cautious and nervous? Condoms are extremely effective when used correctly. OK?
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what do you do when the guy you like is a total dick? (link)
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Be a lot more careful and discriminating about who you like!!
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Guys, what are some things that you really like when a girl does? Like, cute little things you notice about girls that makes them more attractive to you? And what are some gifts that you like to receive from your girlfriends or just things you like getting in general? Thanks! (link)
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Definitely agree, lovely perfume but don't overdo the amount. Always looking nice, and if you're going out in public especially so. You might not like make-up, but if you do, do it. Smiles, eye-contact all the time you're talking. DO NOT play with a mobile phone and text etc other people when you're talking to him. Look rather proud of him when you're out, especially if he takes care over his dress & appearance. Compliment him on his appearance (nice suit, like your aftershave etc). If you're walking in public and he takes your hand, hold it back. Same for arm-in-arm. I find a bright smile and ready laugh attractive, but a lower, controlled voice is cute and sexy when appropriate. I hate being shrieked at...but that's more about me possibly. Look interested, even if you're not that interested in a particular topic of conversation that comes up. You'll get plenty of chances to steer chat and entertainment round to your favourites in turn...so give and take. Listen to what he compliments you on. If you wear a lovely pair of shoes and he mentions them, you'll know that beat-up gym shoes aren't the thing to wear when you're out, or even when you're in and want to look especially nice. Watch the body language. Tightly folded arms when you're talking show boredom and/or that you're set against a situation. Angle your body towards him when you sit together, never away. Likewise, if you cross your legs...towards him, not away from him. Presents are difficult...the golden rule is to look for something you know HE likes, not something YOU like or something you think he's 'supposed to' like. His ( or rather your!!) favourite aftershave can't be a a bad choice. I love rather disgracefully expensive wristwatches, but I've never had one bought for me, or would expect to have by a girlfriend. Value isn't in it. If it's from you...and he loves you...he'll love the gift beyond price. I know that sounds a bit sickly and romantic/sentimental...but trust me...it's true. And my 'in general' is that a guy wants to look at his girlfriend and be very proud to 'show her off' a bit, but I'm NOT saying girlfriends are 'trophies' by any means. And we like our girlfriends to look the same way at us. As though you feel you've done just about as well as you can in him, and maybe even a tiny bit better! I mean, how do YOU feel accompanied by a guy that you think friends are looking at and thinking 'Is that the best she could do??'. Hope I've helped. Might depend on your age...younger ladies seem to take a sort of delight in having a rather rough-looking, inarticulate, difficult and rebellious boyfriend these days...it's the 'bad boy who only I understand' thing. In which case, my comments might only be helpful much later in life. Good luck.
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I just created a youtube account and I wanted to add a profile picture. I wanted to upload a picture that I found via google image as my profile picture. But apparently youtube have this sort of rule when it comes to uploading a profile picture: "Choose a JPG, non-animated GIF, BMP or PNG file. Non-square images will be cropped. For best results upload an 800px by 800px image. Do not upload pictures containing celebrities, nudity, artwork or copyrighted images. Maximum file size is 1MB." I'm a little confused by this rule since I especially seen several users get away with pictures of celebrities, characters, artworks, or other copyrighted images on their accounts before (Some would actually try to impersonated said image...). If the picture that I wanted to upload turned out to be, say, an elephant or a bowl of fruit from a random "non-commercialized" website, could I still getaway with uploading that pict. on my account? (link)
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Royalty-free images can I believe be used as and when required with no possibility of infringing copyright. The 800x800/1meg limit is generally what prevents the copyright holder from pursuing those who post images they shouldn't. This is seriously low-resolution and nobody downloading the images would be able to sell them to commercial print houses or sell them online. They will not fill a screen with a quality image and printed commercially would come out the size of a postage stamp. So few lensmen or studios worry too much about loss of revenue. They take selling high res originals a lot more seriously. Celebs may demand that their pics are removed if they feel the shot is not appropriate or in keeping with the image they wish to portray. Or is defamatory in any way. In general, posting a pic of (obviously!) Beyonce and claiming you shot it yourself, or that it's your girlfriend isn't likely to worry her, or her publicity machine much!
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um recently the animated films that have been recently released in the theater are only computer generated none of them are hand drawn allthough when they were released in the theater in the 30s 40s 50s 60s 70s 80s 90s and early 2000s they are hand drawn and computer generated so why did hand drawn stop being made (link)
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Only high-art type animations are hand-drawn now. Teams of huge numbers of skilled artists would draw the great (early) Disney animations. The costs would be astronomical now. In fact, if you look at the last drawn Disney animations the standard of artwork is way below the 30's to 50's stuff. Look at the changing facial expressions, moving shadows etc on the early stuff. It's amazing. Check the later stuff...crude by comparison. Often just two characters move at a time. CGI scenes are easy and quick by comparison. A character is modelled once, assigned to a moving 'armature' (like a skeleton, all jointed) and various advanced 'dynamics' are applied to the armature...it moves! The first CGI stuff was incredibly expensive. Few people had the software skills, there was still a lot of manual input, and those who could do it commanded a huge fee. But now plenty can do it, and it's far cheaper. Personally I think it's a shame that hand animation is a lost art. Still, look at great cinema, shot on film. Nobody knew quite what they were getting at the time, you couldn't 'live view' like digital media or videotape. They were done with technique and feel. All looks a bit 'shot from the hip' and disposable now by comparison. On the other hand, Eisenstein couldn't have made a movie like 'Avatar'!! And there are some abysmal movies shot on film. There's always room for the best. Any help? I shoot pics (stills) and there was a sort of buzz you got using film...you couldn't review the results at the time like a DSLR does. Technique was king. 36 shots on a roll. Now I (like most!) fire off hundreds a session, 8 frames per second bursts...and sort the good ones out later. Sometimes feel like a chimp could do it these days! Must be getting nostalgic....?
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I used to only sing but now I'm starting to write songs, too.
And I'm wondering, how similar can a lyric be without getting in trouble/sued or criticized?
Like if my song included "never mind I'll find someone like you" but otherwise was completely different to the Adele song - different music... would that be enough to get in trouble?
Surely artists can't own independent phrases right? Just the song as a whole?
How much similarity in lyrics is too much? Sometimes I like one tiny sentence of a song and it inspires me.
Help! Thank you.
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Lyrics & music are what's called 'intellectual property' and are protected by copyright. Stealing a 'substantial amount' of them would be considered an act called 'plagiarism' and you could be prosecuted. Like a photographer passing off somebody elses work as his/her own. There are grey areas. Nobody could copyright 'love' as a subject for a song, obviously. Nicking a phrase or a few words from a favourite song would be difficult to prosecute over. But using well-known phrases from well-known hits isn't likely to do your artistic credibility and integrity much good! People will hear them and think 'Oh...corny...she nicked that from Adele!' And so on. See what I mean? I think this example, even with different music is not lawsuit-provoking but too close to avoid criticism. You'd probably be better using words and music for inspiration, and finding your own twist. What's Adele saying here?She's accepted that her perfect guy won't be hers, right? Would you be accepting...or would you fight it a bit more? Good luck with the songwriting.
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Hello,
I do not have sex all the time, however I did last Sunday. Everytime I have sex I get super paranoid. Best thing you'd say is not have sex, but face it we all do it and it's natural. I had sex this past Sunday, and he wore a condom. He mentioned it was tight and I thought omg.. Anyways condom didn't break. I'm still super paranoid!! Could I be pregnant? I took a test and I know it's too early but I'm very anxious. The thing I keep telling myself is not to worry you aren't and quit having sex. Any advice as to not get so anxious about this? Besides possibly be on the pill.. I hope I'm not preg.
Please help. (link)
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Reading between the lines a bit, the problem does seem to be one of paranoia. You seem to have such a deep fear of pregnancy that a perfectly safe sounding encounter, in which his condom did not slip off or tear/split has got you worrying if you're pregnant. And apparently does every time you have sex? Condoms can feel a bit tight. Some types/brands more than others. But a tight condom doesn't mean you're pregnant. Of course, for a woman becoming pregnant might be a wonderful thing, or might be a disaster. I assume you're in the 'disaster' camp at present? Condoms are just about the most effective form of contraception around, as long as they stay on, intact from first penetration until after he's fully withdrawn from you afterwards. Millions use them daily. Indeed the 'quit having sex' thing you mentioned is about the only MORE certain way to avoid pregnancy, but as you say...we all do, it's natural and very pleasurable too. You need I think to be realistic...sex does not equal pregnancy. Are you OK with the biological facts? Pregnancy of course can only result if he ejaculates (cums, spurts, 'does it' whatever you like to call it) inside you. With a condom on his semen (which contains live sperm which impregnate a woman) cannot of course go inside you at all. The condom is a barrier, providing it hasn't slipped off or torn. Any help? It's a very reliable method of birth control, for occasional or very regular sex. So try and relax. Do you find that recently you're tending to see the worst outcome in everything? To see threats everywhere? Not just the sex/pregnancy one? Might just be a phase where you're tending a bit towards seeing the negative in everything. They usually pass.
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My sister and her boyfriend got in a car accident back in November, he had a bunch of broken bones so they prescribed him perkaset (don't know how it's spelt) I believe he complained about how they weren't strong enough and called them "perk 5's" and a few times he had "perk 10s" instead of just taking the pill he crushed them and smoked them in aluminum foil I believe (the kind you use in the kitchen to cover food) he said it made them stronger or something idk. Anyways, to the point it has obviously been a long time since the wreck and he is still continuing to smoke whatever it is that he's smoking, and he's gotten my sister involved also. I'm not sure if they're smokin the same stuff or different, but I know it smells bad and still involves foil. Not that I can get much info about this with the lack of knowledge that I'm providing, but I'd like to get an idea of what this stuff is doing to them. About how much it's costing and etc. I'm assuming this is why she's always "broke" and his friend mentioned that he's had friends die because of it, and that he's told them they're addicted and need to stop and they both deny it.
Pretty much any info will help, just know this is for my personal curiosity, I can't help them or force them to stop what they're doing. Thank you for your time. (link)
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Just for your info then...painkillers don't work on the bit that hurts, they suppress the pain in the brain. The chemical has to be in the blood to reach the brain. If you swallow painkilling tablets they breakdown in the stomach and the active ingredient gets into the blood stream relatively slowly. Smoking gets the ingredient into the bloodstream much quicker so they will act more quickly and more strongly. The only thing quicker is to intravenously inject the ingredient suspended in fluid. But honestly mate, if they're tablets you're meant to swallow the things. Not smoke them or shoot them up! Hope you'll use this info the way I intend. What they're saying is likely to be true, they will act quicker and stronger. But they're taking a risk with their bodies big time, so don't you go thinking it's a good idea. And denying you are addicted is a pretty certain sign that you are addicted, by the way.
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I'm 15 and live with my mom and recently we moved into a nice house with a nice back garden and we wanted to get some. hickens and was just wondering if anyone had some good advice on how to care for them and the basic needs of chickens and what you need in order to keep them (link)
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Popular thing at the moment. You need a hen-house to keep them secure overnight from predators and bad weather. And you'll need a 'run' that's got to be wired-off because they peck at and eat ANYTHING, so they'll destroy your small garden flowers, although they haven't got the ability to destroy larger shrubs/trees etc. If yoy've got a dog make sure it can't get into the run or the house. A nice, well-behaved pet can totally freak at the presence of chickens in the garden...and it'll basically want to kill them. Not great! Also some pretty garden flowers are strongly toxic (foxgloves for instance, full of digitalis). They'll probably eat these too, again...not what you want. Better quality feed you give them the nicer the eggs tend to taste. Plenty of grit in the run to peck at too. They adore those mealworm things people buy to feed birds, but that's maybe spoiling them a bit, and a bit pricey too. You do need to thoroughly clean a henhouse regularly, as you don't want pests and parasites or diseases. And they get jolly smelly amazingly quickly too if you don't. You'll have droppings to dispose of and they too are a pretty smelly when fresh. All that corn and a cosy house will tend to attract rats, so keep your eye out for signs of them and sort it out quick, before you get loads piling in for a free dinner. They need water as well but that's easily solved. If you haven't heard anything to put you off, go for it. It's a nice way of getting beautiful fresh eggs and really puts you in touch with nature and life. It's very unlikely to be a cost-saving exercise unless you have loads of birds and you've got a market for the eggs. But it's an admirable thing to do, so why not have a go and see how you get on??
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So I have never smoked cigs before, my friend had an ecig and one day i was playing with it and enjoyed it. I use to smoke weed so smoking was nothing new, I have not used weed in a year and a half though. Please do not tell me using an ecig is unhealthy I already know this.
3 weeks ago I bought my own and used it and felt fine and stuff. Then 2 weeks ago I started to wake up before my alarm went off and felt my stomach to bubble and not feel good. Later in the morning about an hour later I would have diarrhea.
I had this for about a week. At this time I was on antibiotics so I figured the mixture of those and nicotine was making me feel that way. Then I quit using my ecig to see what happened. I still was having upset stomachs but eventually it went away so I started to use it again since I finished my antibiotics and the first 2 days nothing happened.
1 week ago the stomach aches kind of came back. I would wake up and feel bad but nothing ever happened. Then yesterday I used it alot and now this morning I woke up with a bad stomach ache but nothing happened, probably cause i took pepto bismol then went back to bed.
Is it my ecig that is causing this? It is only 16mg of nicotine in the juice in my tank. I was thinking of getting a lower dosage of mg of it but I am not 18 so i would have to ask my friend as i'm 17 but I hate asking him. Could it be what I am eating ? The time I do it before i go to bed? Sometimes i don't use it for 3 hours then go to bed then other nights i use it 30 minutes before I sleep. I'm just wondering what it could be. If it truly is the ecig i'll probably get rid of since it makes me feel this way.
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These things are maybe a bit new on the market to have enough info to say yes or no for sure. It might be a rare reaction to something in them, and simply not enough people have been polled yet to make it a 'known side effect'. The old nicotine patches have a few side-effect warnings, they're much more a 'known' product. Not sure how 16mg can be called 'only'. I smoke 10mg cigarettes (dreadful habit, I know) and quite often if I give somebody one they remark how strong they are and they make their head spin a bit! I'd definitely try something lower if they're rated the same as regular smokes. Maybe a web search might find a forum or two where fellow users swap their experiences. I've personally known people who say they are are a great way to cut down the regular cigs or quit altogether, and I believe they're less hazardous in other ways (except nicotine kicking your heart rate up) but never tried myself. No willpower mate! Some antibiotics can cause nausea, and will have a list of known side-effects in detail so if you've still got the box or leaflet check that too.
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Hello, so I am just curious if anyone has found any strategies that work a little better when trying to break up with someone.
I have tried for a year and a half to make my current relationship work mostly because I am too nice and partially because my boyfriend has serious issues with depression and I wanted to help him. But he hasnt been able to get better in fact only worse so it is not time to end it.
Except I'm a chicken. We are both 21 so young and I personally have only broken up with one other person in my whole life. As far as I know I am the first relationship hes had. We dated for two and half years. We have amazing history like the best time of my life with him. So it makes it harder, sad and the worst part is I don't want to hurt him.
So I'm wondering what I can do to soften the blow, we are on a break right now because I told him I need time to think and he is going crazy. Texting me every day, telling me things will be different, begging me not to break up with him, that I am the only person for him, that I am the person he wishes he was and knows he can be again (because we were so similar when we met, but he completely changed when he went into depression). I tell him were just too different to be together and he shouldn't be with anyone right now. But he is telling me all these things that I know he feels and I don't want to hurt him so badly and ruin his opinion of women. Hes begging me right now not to leave him so does anyone have any tips on what to say when I do break up with him to make it less painful? Anything youd like to hear that would make a breakup better?
I know it will hurt regardless, but any tips? (link)
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What if I said to you that women have an evolutionary character trait that leans towards putting the needs of others slightly before their own? That women are the natural 'carers'? That women tend towards compassionate responses more often than males? It's a behavioural pattern, but of course a young woman of 21 cannot stay with a partner based on sympathy, and a desire not to hurt him. It's not enough. An equally strong bit of genetic coding is telling you that your man should be a figure of mutual respect, supportive to you, there for YOUR needs in equal measure. There's no easy way of telling anybody something they don't want to hear. Whether you're tough, sympathetic, apologetic...whatever line you take it won't make him feel any better. But I think we both know you have to do it. Only thing I could say is show complete single-mindedness and on no account let him feel it's a wake-up call, or a bluff to get him to change. You can't leave him in the vain hope of a reconcilliation, since he will cling to this like a drowning man will clutch at any straw. And that really isn't fair on him. Best wishes....ultimately it will be proven the right choice. If you were both 41, with children maybe, and things broke down the same way, it might be different. There might be too much to walk away from with a clear conscience. At 21 it will only lead to resentment and misery for you. Be quick, clean and totally upfront. I've read your thoughts and comments but I doubt telling him in the manner you've told us will be welcomed by him. So when he asks that horrible 'Why?' I should simply tell him you see no future you want for yourself coming of this relationship. Rather than giving him a list of specific reasons. Hope I don't sound too callous? I feel for you, honestly...and your partner. All the best.X
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If you smoke weed does it feel like you've done something but minuites later you can't remember whether you did it or not? And is it normal on weed to laugh at things that are simply not there? (link)
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Yes, it affects short term memory. Yes, people tend to laugh a lot on it. They are rarely aggressive in the way alcohol can make people. And talk a lot, often complete nonsense, frequently repeating themselves. As it starts to wears off a feeling of paranoia, like you're being watched by someone (or even some THING...like streetlights or phone booths!!) is also not unusual. It seems to noticeably relax muscles too, so rather than getting 'hyped up' physically and mentally it will tend to slow you down. Whether frequent and heavy use does any longer term neural (brain cell & link) damage I don't think anyone really knows for sure. It hasn't been around and in common use for long enough, and getting honest useage data is difficult as it's not technically legal in most countries. There's some evidence that long-term memory might be compromised during periods of heavy use, ie much later the whole period seems indistinct and a bit hazy. Mind you, age does that too in my experience...so it might be hard to prove for certain. Respiratory-wise it's unlikely to do you any more harm than cigarettes, but of course you don't 'lose it' on cigs so it's hard to see it being legalised in the same way. Basically, I don't mind if my dentist has a fag before ding a root canal, but I'd be a pretty nervous if he'd just smoked a spliff. Sure most would feel the same...stoned mechanic servicing your car brakes...not a good idea!
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I'm 15 and just got recently into masturbating.. I'm a female. What are any ways to arouse myself more? I would love to be able to orgasm but I don't know how to make myself orgasm, help?! (link)
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Hi there. You seem to be getting some mixed & varied messages from your replies I think? Firstly, important studies & exams are always going to coincide with the time a girls's feeling 'Hey...I've got some properly womanly needs going on here...how do I handle it?' There's no reason at all why you can't be a good student AND enjoy yourself of course. It's not a case of masturbating making you fail exams, don't worry about that. Secondly, watching video clips and reading tips may help, but only up to a point. Women quite often talk about 'reaching' rather than 'having' an orgasm. You might not think changing one word makes much difference? But what it means is that, no you're not likely to find one magic move that makes you climax. And it also means that every time you feel horny and masturbate, you COULD reach it. Really it's about letting the pleasure build up and up, giving you a mental feeling that you're expecting something great to happen, and building up a more physical, muscular tension from your waist down. It's the release of this tension (enjoyable, not stressy tension) which is your orgasm. You need to identify which areas give you the most phsical pleasure when they're stimulated and all you need are your fingers. What does this 'discovering yourself' stuff actually mean? It's about finding out what works for YOU. How long? Touch lightly, or press a bit more firmly? What sort of 'speed' (it's not unusual to feel the urge to get a quicker and a bit more intense as you feel something coming). Learning about your responses, and the pattern they follow. When things start to hot up it's essential that you really 'let go' and just go with the feeling. Meaning you'll need to know you aren't going to be disturbed suddenly or unexpectedly just at your crucial moment, so choose a good time. It is a 'moment' at the end, the peak your set out to reach. I doubt there's any woman who doesn't enjoy it, and I'm sure you can't wait for yours, eh? But remember a lot of the pleasure does come from the path to reaching it, you can enjoy a pleasurable and satisfying session masturbating WITHOUT reaching orgasm, and definitely without reaching it every time. Using your imagination/fantasy is a key area too, rather than just concentrating on technique. Let your thoughts run as free as you like while your enjoying yourself. When everything starts working together you should find you start enjoying those orgasms you're looking forward to. Also, the fact that you haven't quite managed to 'finish off' to your satisfaction at 15 isn't unusual or anything to get stressed about. It takes a little time and practice for a girl. Friends might be mistaking little 'peaks' of pleasure for full-on orgasms, and tell you they 'have them all the time when they masturbate' while you're expecting something more? And us blokes, well we climax every time we masturbate. It's just the way we're built? What I'm trying to say is that you can't get that 'WOW' feeling of release unless you work-up the tension first. If you see what I mean. Hope you've got something out of our little chat. Have fun!
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Hi everyone I can't orgasm. I cant make myself orgasm and neither can my boyfriend. My dr says I may not be comfortable with him but I am! We have been together over a year... Does anyone have key tips and pointers? Does the clitorus really have to be touched? Any suggested positions? Anything please! Thank you (link)
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Hi. From the point of view of the 'mechanics' of the thing as you might say, stimulating the clitoris is probably THE most likely way to reach orgasm. But of course, just going straight for it won't put you in the mood for sex, and won't help you reach that point where you really feel comfortable about 'letting go' in front of him and enjoying an orgasm. That's the most common 'brake' and probably why your doc mentioned it, physival reasons are much, much rarer. Penetration alone isn't the most likely way either. As for positions, well one where your partner can easily 'reach you' and stimulate you using his fingertips at the right moments can be a real help. Possibly not the place for a full discussion of such things, but the much-mentioned and ever popular doggy-style means he can easily reach round as it were, and the less directand close-up 'eye-to-eye' contact might make you feel a bit more inclined to really let yourself go? I have personally known women who believe they must look a bit funny/stupid/weird etc when they reach orgasm. Whereas us guys think entirely the opposite, and find it an extremely pleasant and enjoyable sight when our girlfriends display such intense pleasure. Any help?
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i don't know what to do im 15 and desperate for sex does that make me a slut? what should i do to have sex? (link)
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Hi. I can appreciate you've got some properly womanly needs and urges going on at 15. Be odd if you hadn't. But really, having sex just for the sake of having sex isn't at all likely to be a great experience for you. You might think...well guys have sex just because they want it...even if they don't have any really close connection with the girl? And you wouldn't really have to 'do' much at all to attract a willing chap. But it will be much nicer, especially 'first time' if it's with a guy you trust, a good bit of mutual respect there and a solid attraction to HIM, not just a desire to have sex in itself. Fair comment?
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we masturbate together and hes horny again in a few min,.... is that normal? what do we do? should i help him every time? is it healthy? (link)
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I'm assuming too that you're a young couple. and he's obviously very keen on you! Well, of course it's extremely pleasurable for us guys to get a handjob and ejaculate with our girlfriends. When younger there's often a 'how many times?' issue..once is great, so loads of times must be extra great! Likewise I assume you're 'helping him' right up to completion, ie. he ejaculates. So on to 'healthy'. A guy can't ejaculate too many times and harm himself in any way. As long as he gets and keeps an erection it'll keep on coming. Are you a normal, nice girl for doing it? As long as you're enjoying the experience and like making hime come, yes. I know you younger girls seem a bit stuck on this 'slutty' idea, that you might look a bit 'easy' if you enjoy sexual behaviour too much. All nonsense of course, if you're both enjoying yourselves, slutty just isn't in it. I'm sure he gets a big buzz showing you how much he's into you in a very obvious way. Worth keeping in mind that the sort of race to a 'finish' is a bit more of a bloke thing than a girl thing. You maybe enjoy him pleasuring you less frequently, but going on longer? Again, perfectly usual opinion. I suppose you might try a little 'see how long you can go without coming' game if you both like the idea? You pleasuring him in ways a bit less direct and less likely to make him 'go off' quickly? Add a bit of variety? But really, as you are there's nothing unhealthy going on here...as long as you're enjoying it too.
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