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I have tried for my permit like 2 or more times. Don't laugh because it is heart breaking. I studied but I just need some help. What are some helpful tips to make me remember more?

while taking the test, envision yourself on the road..and if its multiplee choice, plug each choice in and really think about if its logical or not. go online and take practice tests..i dont know what state you live in.,.but for example if you live in NY go to ask.com and type in "practice permit test for NY"

think about the questions on the tests you have taken and the ones on the practice test, chances are, on the next one questions will look similar..they basically ask the same things but word it differently.
:) good luck

-melisssa

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a couple months ago i had tendonitis in my wrist. i stopped playing tennis for about two weeks and it seemed to heal. but when i sometimes hit the ball really hard it hurts like it did. not all the time though. i think right now it's because of my holding my racket too hard.. but it could be tendonitis. do you think it came back? yesterday we played another school and i played doubles and a really long tiebreaker singles and won.. and it hurt a little during singles. i dont think i'm just over hitting because i can play for hours. what do you think?

i think its because you had an injury and you kept playing with it. im a tennis player also and i hurt my gfoot 2 months agp..the other day i was playing a hard match and now it hurts again so its probably just that your overusing the wrist. ice it, rest it, and take it easy for a bit is my advice..

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okay so i have this friend, and weve been friends forever since 3rd grade and now were 14 & last year he cameover to just hang out and stuff and we ended up alone making out on my couch and i gave him a hand job then we were at our friends house and i was spending the night and so was he and he fingered me is this slutty cause i dont even really like him like that

well its not like you do this type of thing all the time right? i think its a little slutty to mess around with someone you dont like, but your not a slut or anything.

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The guy I like found out that I liked him but he doesnt like me back...in fact, he didnt even know my name until my friend told him! I'm in a couple classes with him so what should I do when im around him? Its so awkward because we don't talk and he looks at me like I'm so weird!

rejection stinks doesnt it..well..you cant help it that he doesnt like you back...move on to a new crush and just be yourself around him. he looks at you like your weird? its kind of hard to talk to or become friends with someone who looks at you like your weird..so you know what? his loss..dont be his friend if he is going to be invalid like that

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My dad's mom is on the verge of dying. I really never met my grandma so I can't really feel sad about it. Today my dad got really mad and blew up at my sister and said "My mom is F*ckin dying! You hear me? She's gunna die!!!! I don't need any grief from you!!!" What should I do to make him feel better?

your dad is going through a tough time..i know its going to be hard..but if i were in your situation i would give your dad space, offer a shoulder to cry on, and if he blows up like that i would let it go (i know it doesnt seem righ that hes taking his anger and sadness oout on you) but time will go by and he will be ok again..,its going to be rocky for him though for a bit...

-melissa

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I am a freshmen male in high school. No one really liked me at my former middle school. Now since I have made new friends in hi school I have figured out that girls really like me. I really don't want all this attention. I feel really overwelhmed by how many girls that like me. I am not even sure if I really like any of them but, there are a few that I might consider dating. How do I narrow the list down, do I even narrow it down, what do I tell the ones that I don't ask out, how do I know I really like someone? I am so confused, please help me.

well think about what girl your attracted to..which of their personalities you like more,..which would make a good girlfriend. is she trustworthy? does she give you space? do you like being around her? these are all questions to ask yourself. the ones you dont ask out..dont tell them anything unless they confront you about being more than friends..simply tell the truth, that you want to stay friends. the-truth-always-works
i hope i helped a little~!
-melissa-

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There is this girl and i like her but i dont know if i really like her-she likes me i think. i dont know what to do.

Also...
the other day the same girl came over and wanted me to finger herr--but i wasnt sure exactly what to do--what do i do? and would anyone know--like will any liquids like if it was a guyhis...semem--but is it like that with a girl? will she stain teh couch?

15 male---thanks--ill rate high for answers that are to the point with no bullshit

my advicenator name is johnqued007---thnks

ok..well the best thing to do is to hold off on the girl until you get your feelings straight. If you decide you do like her, then go for it..if not..then keep it as friends..

to finger a girl...you should kiss her first..get her going a little..dont just stick your finger in there...and kiss her all over...then after a little bit you finger her by using a finger..or 2..or whatever she wants..you could start off with 1 and see how she likes it..move on to 2..whatever you and her want..

to get her stimulated rub her chest..do all sorts of thhings..talk dirty to her..gently finger her..play with the clitoris..and go where its comfortable for her..it will be hard for you to know if your hurting her or pleasuring her so occasionally ask her how it feels for her...no it wont drip or stain the couch lol

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My friend wants to know my penis size, should i tell her?

lol...ok only if your comfortable. is she a good friend? if your comfortable and you dont think she will laugh or do anything invalid like that, then sure..but if you truly dont feel comfortable, then dont worry because im sure your friend wouldnt want to make you feel uncomfortable

much luv,
meliss

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should you still have sex with your ex??...if you have feelings for him still but arent sure if he has them for you

this is just me..but no i wouldnt ..because things get complicated ...you might like him and he might not have thsoe same feelings..then you feel used and stuff. also, i would want sex to be with someone special who is crazy about me and who im crazy about.

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ok so ive had sex quit a few times and with different people but ive never orgasmed!! ive been with my boyfriend a few months now and hes getting really upset that he cant make me orgasm! i dont know what to do. i would fake it but we promised each other we'd always be honast about everything and he can tell when im lying! so is there any way i can help myself to orgasm? is there anything i can do??
please help!!
any advice is wanted!!
i'll rate high!!

ok im a virgin and all buti can tell you this :
your not abnormal..its nothing like that at all. i watch talksexwithsue..(sex expert) and she says its very normal for females not to orgasm during sex. if you would like an orgasm and if he really wants to give you one, have him perform oral sex on you..or have him fnger you.

www.talksexwithsue.com


i hope i helped
-meliss (the educated virgin) haha

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why is it bad for guys to drink mountain dew?

they say it lowers sperm count..thats what they say though..



the following is a clip from an article which pretty much insists its a crazy myth:

"This is an urban myth," avows Jonathon Harris, a public affairs manager for the company. He Variants include the belief that Mountain Dew causes young males' testicles to shrink...

likens it to tales of people encountering Elvis in a convenience store — i.e., not merely false, but "absurd, unfounded and ridiculous."


to read more go to http://urbanlegends.about.com/library/weekly/aa102799.htm


-melissa-

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What age is normal for girls to start masturbating or wanting to or getting horny?

well its hard to speak for all the girls...but i would say between the ages of 12-15 is a fair range. yes it varies...and yes its different for some girls so dont think your abnormal if your younger and getting these feelings..or if your a little older and you still dont have them

i hope this helped
-melissa

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everytime i get a bf i tend to push him away like after a day or two i dont like him anymore
then when i lose him i want him back
why do i always do this why does this always happen

thats a very good question..


it could be you just like the chase..and once you have the guy, you get bored . i mean maybe for now the single life is for you..not to worry, your still young and its ok if your not into long term relationships..or any relationships at all

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I have this friend...like a BFF friend....hes really nice but i only like him as a friend....i keep having dreams that him and i are like real close like married like and it kinda scares me....(scare as in freaky) do i love him without knowing it or what? can anyone explain this? thanx
13\f

it could just be a dream..if you have no feelings for him, i dont see how you can love him..a lot of times in a close friendship...you could start to like the guy..but the dream could just be a dream because i have had some weird dreams before that meant nothing really.

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okay...theres this guy hu is in my school.... i have known him since like 2nd grade!! we are really good friends but ii like him a lot!! i am scared to tell him what i think of him because i dont want things to be weird around us. i talk to him on the phone a lot... and he told me the other day that my other friend likes him and hes thinking about asking her out!! ii keep on wondering if things would be different if ii just told him.... but ii just cant!! i am so much taller than him and ii guess u could say bigger than him too. ii mean im not fat but i am bigger than a lot of the boys..... this is why im so scared to tell him.. ii dont think he'll feel the same way!
PLEASE HELP I NEED MAJOR ADVICE!!

yeah the feeling of keeping it inside you like that is not good..i mean i hate it,you just want to get it out right? so i would do this before he asks out your friend..who knows maybe once he knows how you feel, he will tell you he likes you back.,,you just dont know! i would tell him how you feel...you guys are good friends so it shouldnt get in the way if he tells you he doesnt feel the same way....i think you should tell him..just my opinions

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hey...my mom is older than some moms and im only 13 aand im scared that something bad is going to happen to her while im still young.

the best advice i have for you ..is that you have to life day by day. I mean you cant live life worrying about things like that. I know how your feeling because my dad is a heavy smoker and sometimes i think about what would happen if he had a heart attack, or got lung cancer..but i came to realize that you have to enjoy life..live life day by day..and you cant live it worrying about what could happen a week,month, or year from now. i hope that made you feel better..because life can bring unexpected things..just concentrate on the present..and dont focus all your attention on the future.

-meliss

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If your spouse passes away, when is it appropriate to take off the wedding ring? I realize that this is dependant on the specific individual, so if I may rephrase this:

How do you know when it's TIME to take off the wedding ring.. if there IS a such a "time"?

when you meet a new guy who interests you, and you feel like your ready to begin dating again...i think that is the appropriate time and that is when you will know when your ready..when your ready to move on to a new guy, then you will probably feel readdy to take your wedding ring off.

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Last night my boyfriend fingered me. I really uncomfortable with it at first, but I just thought what the heck and was okay with it. At first he only did one finger, then he tried two. When it was only one finger it was alright, pleasurable in some ways, but when he got two fingers in it becaome quite uncomfortable. It hurt a whole lot. I started wincing and became all tense. I think that he got the wrong impression and though I was liking it, but I wasn't it hurt terribly. I don't know what to do because I know he'll try two fingers again next time. It's not supposed to be comfortable like that, is it? Why was it go painful?

no, its not supposed to be uncomfortable..its supposed to feel verry good. im sure your bf wouldnt keep going if he knew you were uncomfortable. the important thing to keep in mind is that guys dont have vaginas (lol) so sometimes you have to communicate with them what hurts and whaT feels good..THEN he will know how to please you and it will feel good! so next time your getting intimate and he goes to finger you..tell him to stick to one finger. communication is very important..once he knows what you like..he will please you..i mean thats what he wants to do..so let him know how ! :)

-meliss

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Hey.
I just moved & I found a great group to sit with at lunch, then I met a kid that doesn't like hanging out in a group, just with another person. So, today I decided I'd sit by him because I feel bad that he sits by himself. I asked the girls if it'd be okay that I sat by him, and they said, "yeah sure don't worry about it, it's completely fine!" So, I did. I went over & started talking asking him about how his day went & he told me he had to go study for a test in the library, and I just offered to help him study & he could just study at the seats where we were sitting. He said "No I'd rather sit in the library" So I was like there for 4 minutes, and he said he had to go. Which really pissed me off. I had to go back over to the group and say "Oh. *** left!" I felt so retarded!

Well, my question is: Should I ever talk to this kid again? Or sit by him? The only time I see him is lunch, and it makes me so mad that I take the time out of hanging out with friends that I made, and sitting by him when he doesn't even care if I'm there or not.

Thanks so much!

what you did was very nice..some kids just arent as social as others..and this guy seems like one of those peopple who arent as social as everyone else. dont take it personally..but also dont break your back trying to talk to this kid..you tried and he wasnt very nice..so just forget talking to him again.

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my two best friends go out, and we have been having problems because first my guy friend (Kyle) well i liked him but then it ended up not working out between us. well my best friend (katrina) said she liked him and went after him and now they're going out. there has been so much drama between usd on top of that they ditched me today and lately she has been constantly lying to me. i've already tried talking to them. i don't know what else to do other than drop both friends. any suggestions??

ok..you make a valid attempt to get across to both kyle and katrina that
-you want the friendship to be restored
-you dont want drama or fighting
-you dont want lies or them ditching you

being ditched and lied to definately is not cool..maybe like hang out with them less for awhile an concentrate on other friends..when they are ready to be valid again, and maybe apologize, then maybe things can go back to normal

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