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Fingering
Last night my boyfriend fingered me. I really uncomfortable with it at first, but I just thought what the heck and was okay with it. At first he only did one finger, then he tried two. When it was only one finger it was alright, pleasurable in some ways, but when he got two fingers in it becaome quite uncomfortable. It hurt a whole lot. I started wincing and became all tense. I think that he got the wrong impression and though I was liking it, but I wasn't it hurt terribly. I don't know what to do because I know he'll try two fingers again next time. It's not supposed to be comfortable like that, is it? Why was it go painful?
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If its painful just tell him next time he trys it. he should understand and only use 1. as for why its painful..i'm not really sure but just let him know its hurting with 2.
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You were probably too tight and not ready for two fingers. He needs to know about this, so tell him to keep using one finger for a longer time than he did before. If he adds another finger and it still hurts say "That hurts." It's your body, you shouldn't let him do anything to you that you don't like.
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well if your still a virgin thats hows its suppose to feel because your cherry is not yet popped...but if your not a virgin then your just not use to it maybe next time he treis 2 fingers if it still hurts then tell him that for some reason its hurting
he should understand and if he cares about u he'll go back to one finger
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just tell him it hurts. most likely he won't want to hurt you, just pleasure you so be honest. it depends on how big your body is. if you're a small person it's going to hurt but if your not it normally doesn't hope i helped.
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The answers below are good ones. They leave out a critical part though that neither he nor you thought of. Just ramming one's fingers up there and expecting for pleaure is not going to happen. Trying just to put two fingers in a vagina that is not lubricated and wet is asking for pain. How else are they supposed to slip in comfortably and feel comfortable let alone pleasueable? Think about it and no wonder ouch would be a word of choice let alone the F sharp note.
Most females not all prefer clitorial stimulation then this as no pain is involved in that. Tell him how much certain things hurt or he will have no idea at all and keep doing them. He's not a woman or a girl so you better teach him about your body and what hurts fast or he will keep probing around and wonder why you are wincing and not enjoying yourself.
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talk to your friend about it and tell him you dont like it.just talk to him,he will listen
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Whenever its painful just go out and tell him say "stop..that hurts" guys understand that especially with virgins. Same thing has happend with me, my bf at the time had thought that i was wincing cause i liked it and he went further, so i had to grab his hand and move it away, thats when he asked "whats wrong" and i told him not to put that many in because it hurt, you have to let them know how far the limits are or else it wont be pleasureable and he wont have very much confidence after
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no, its not supposed to be uncomfortable..its supposed to feel verry good. im sure your bf wouldnt keep going if he knew you were uncomfortable. the important thing to keep in mind is that guys dont have vaginas (lol) so sometimes you have to communicate with them what hurts and whaT feels good..THEN he will know how to please you and it will feel good! so next time your getting intimate and he goes to finger you..tell him to stick to one finger. communication is very important..once he knows what you like..he will please you..i mean thats what he wants to do..so let him know how ! :)
-meliss
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It could of been painful cause it was your first time. Could of been painful cause he started gettin to rough. Next time he does it, tell him to start of with one again to get you going and enjoying it, then tell him when he does two fingers, to not go as fast or as rough and to slow it down a bit until you get comfortable with it and work his way gradually. It will be more appealing to you if he tries to work you gradually. Once you do it a few times, you'll start to loosen up a bit and it wont be as uncomfortable. But just tell him what you want and how to please you.
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