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I've realised I have depression and I desperatley need to talk to someone.
I know who i can trust (its a teacher) and I'm so scared because Im not an open person, I cant talk about my feelings easily.
I've tried to go to the counsellor at college but I cant walk into the room.
Anyway, how can i talk to the teacher?
What do i say to begin the conversation?
Just tell your teacher,
"Can I talk to you about something? , its really important.. " and then go on from there.
You do whatever you can to get help!
I'm proud of you!
I have these two friends and they both lie at times. To me at times...and well one day they were asking weight. And I said I'm 160 and she said 120. now she's pretty fat and she can't in no way be 120. I was really stunned at her effort to lie. I don't want to confront her but she makes me feel like i can't trust her again.
What do I do? help me please cause it relly hurts me she lied.
You know what she probably just lied because she is selfconsious, and I would just get over it.
Everyone lies, and I'm sure you have too.
Lying does hurt, but its something personal to her, and even if she did lie, she has to live with it, not you.
Just let the situation go though, dont make a big deal out of something thats not really.
take care;
So basically heres the deal
I went out with this guy..and I fell in love with him and everything is perfect for us i get along with his mom his dad his sisters his brothers and same to me...but he dumped me the other day i saw him and i still like him...anyone know how to tell him?
I would honestly just try moving on, becuase if he dumped you that obviously means he doesnt love you, and have the same returning feelings for you. And telling him how you still feel, isnt going to change anything.
So I woudlnt suggest even talking to him right now, he probably wants space away from you.
I realize that might hurt to hear, but you wouldnt want to be with a guy who didnt feel the same way to you? You know?
I can usually keep my cool but get shy hence my name but like i've kissed girls but i've never made out liek french kiss. How do you actually french kiss do you just put you tongue in the other persons mouth? On dates what topics do people usually talk about? and when you call a girl and talk for hours what do you talk about there also like ive talked for a long time but it was random stuff not anything like a topic...
Well you sound a little young to be doing this, look it up on google, its that easy. If your on a date with someone, talk about hobbies and interests, there isnt someething specific people talk about, it depends on the relationship, and how much already you know about that person.
Okay, your being sterotypical, not EVERYGUY calls a girl and talks for hours. If they are in a relationship, they probably call each other, and they have things to talk about, because they know each other.
You dont need it to be on a topic to talk to someone, its something you just know when you talk to people.
In the movies do you talk fake a yawn and put your hand over the girl's shoulder hold her hand? Kiss her? i dont no what to do or when to do it..
It depends on your relationship with the girl.
Dont fake yawn, because thats incredibly tacky, if your going to put your arm around her, just do it. If your comfortable with your girlfriend, then kiss her, but dont just jump on her. If you want to hold her hand hold her hand.
It all depends on how well you know each other, and what you are comfortable with.
im almost 16. ITS LONG BUT PLEASE READ IT I NEED HELP! alrighty well me and this girl had NEVER really liked each other. but then this year we became BEST FRIENDS. well she did some really slutty things and talked behind my back and was just very dramatic and i hate drama. so right now shes like trying to appologize to me and stuff. the only thing is i dont want her as a friend AND I LIKE HER EX BOYFRIEND. which she says shes still madly "in love" with. but shes going to a different school next year. and i want to be able to date whoever i want. and she told him he "CANT" talk to her friends anymore. shes like crazy. so is this guys off limits? cause im not firends with her and i want a new start and i feel like this relationship would be good 4 me....sry this was so long.
Okay, well then tell her you dont want to be friends with her, the only way someone will know things, is if you bluntly tell them. The truth hurts. You can date whoever you like, just make sure you arent dating that guy just to piss your ex friend off.
im so bored this summer!im nearly 16 but my mom like never drives me anywhere...what can i do??????
Well when you were 15 you could have taken drivers ed so that when your 16 (right now) you can get your license to drive yourself around..
But you can go hang out with friends, and have them drive you somewhere with them.
I was talking to one of my friends (a guy) and we were talking and he told me he likes me. I liked him to but he had a girlfriend. the next day on messenger, he told me that he just told me he liked me because he was being nice. About two days later i left for a trip but he emailed me to tell me that he just broke up with his girlfriend. I got the email and talked to some of my friends and they all said that he told them that he likes me a lot and is going to ask me out. He didn't say anything about it for about a week, then i just emailed him and asked him if it was true (we are good friends anyway). he won't reply to my emails if they have anything to do with it, and anytime we talk it is just as friends. Should i ask him out? What should i do if he won't talk to me about it?
Dont ask him out, the fact that he told you he liked you just to be nice. He sounds very confused, and relationships dont usually work that well with your friends all involved and knowing things before you do about it. You know?
I suggest that you two just stay friends, but thats my opinion.
ok so there is this really really nice guy who goes to my church he is a good friend and stuff and i kind of like a little is that a bad thing or if i tell him do you think our relationship will change i am not sure!
Well I dont think its a bad thing.
And Yes I think if you tell him your relationship will change. Because its shining a new light on your friendship.
It could be a good or bad change.
The only way you'll know is to try it.
Hallo!
O.K. so here's the deal. My brother takes me to school each morning in his car. Usually we would just leave at the last second, and get there in time. Now, we're leaving 30 minutes earlier to pick up his friend. I was o.k. with it, but now they're starting to smoke in the car and I get to school with my clothes smelling like smoke. Normally, I would just ask him to stop, but during last summer him and his ex-girlfriend had a baby when he was sixteen, and now I just feel bad for him a lot and I would feel guilty for asking him, because it's probably his way of dealing with the baby (Not that it's the right way.) What should I do?
P.S. not only do I need advice, I give advice,too. So if you need me..uh then yeah :) PL
Well if his car already smells like smoke,
then even if they smoke a day or not, you'll stil smell like it.
So I suggest finding another way to school? Or asking your brother to stop, dont feel bad, beacuse it was still his choice to have sex at that age. He took his own risk.
13/f
I have really large breasts, and unlike most girls, I hate it. Is there anything I can do that can make them appear smaller? Without buying anything, that is.
Well your 13, I think you will grow into them.
But if they are like HUGE as to the point of giving you back pains, maybe talk to your mom, so you can talk to a doctor.
But your still young, you're growing. :)
so last night i got really drunk and cheated on my bf and i cant even remember what the guy looked like (i hope he wasnt ugly lol) but the problem is i dont feel guilty about it at all and i know thats not normal..so does this mean i should mabey reconsider the relationship i have right now with my boyrfriend?
Yeah I think so. I would probably dumb your current boyfriend, tell him what happened, and that you dont feel bad, like you should.
So you dont think its fair to him that you did that.
how do i make new freinds over the summer?
PLEASE
i rate 5s
if you just try
even if you dont know
i need new freinds bad
my freinds talk shit and nvm
just PLEASE
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Oh go to a summer camp,
you meet TONS of new people there!
Go to concerts, get involved in a club over the summer, get a job! haha, (you meet a lot of people that way too, and money!)
many years ago my parents had this "bathroom autograph book" that you leave in the bathroom and whoever happens to stop by for a while in there can sign it and leave a little message. like "i love your bathtub...and i rememberd to wash my hands, love john doe". its really old now and i was wondering if anyone knew where i could get one, websites would be great. i know this is a really weird question,
Oh, I'm pretty sure you could buy one at a craft store, like a guest book for weddings and such!
But yeah try crafts stores, fris, jo anns, or something :)
Were can i read manga online? such as fruits basket?thanks!
http://www.tokyopop.com/mangaonline/
http://annex.s-manga.net/manga-online/
http://readmanga.com/
hope i helped
Has anyone ever won a trip with "Coastal Vacation.com? I was just wondering if it was a scam or lagit.
No I havent, but usually things like that are scams. With hidden fees, of course, or other strings attached, be careful. :)
Alright well since last week i've been kinda "out of it" bacuse my cousin killed himslef on June 3rd and I just feel like "out of it". Like I feel like i ahve so much goin on inside my head and i cant concentrate well.... and of course now its finals and regents time in my school! I feel tired all teh time too, but thats becasue i havent gotten much sleep since then.....
i dont know if its beacuse of what happend to my cousin but its so weird, ive never been like this before....
Well I would feel out of it too, if something that horrible happened.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Its something thats really hard to deal with, your mind is probably running on empty because you are trying to sort the reasons and problems out in your head, but theres no answers to them, your mind is restless. Try talking to close friends or family, and getting things out, you need rest, since it sounds like you are physically and emotionally tired and worn out.
I dont think you havd A.D.D but its probably because well hello! You've lost someone important to you! I wouldnt be able to concentrate either, let the teachers know what happened, and how its hard for you to study, so maybe they can arranage something? Like have your exams a little later, or easier, or something that could help.
I am so sorry for you loss. :(
Take care.
Ok there's a guy I like and it's summer already meaning schools out. We both go to the same school.
So we both like each other. There's one problem: When he's online and his best friend jamie(a girl) is on, he doesn't IM me or anything.
Then when she isn't on, he IM's me as SOON as I get online.
Why do you think he doesnt IM me when his best friend is on?
Thanks.
Aww, well you could just be looking too hard, you know? If Jamie is is best friend, I bet he likes talking to her too, but he doesnt realize how you're seeing this.
The only reason I can think of why he doesnt IM you when his best friend is on, is because.. well there are numerous reasons, but he probably isnt even talking to Jamie, maybe its quincidental you know?
:)
Okay, so I have the boyfriend, he's not the best. & I want to break up with him. Another reason why it because it's almost summer, I want to be free for summer, and maybe date some other people.
The only problem is, HOW? I mean, I'm not the type that does it herself, right in front of everyone in the hallway. But I also don't want to be the one that has to ask her friend to tell him for me. I don't think I can do it in 3 days before school ends, So it's going to have to be over the phone.
I just do want to break him down emotionally. I want to let him down easy, but either way he might be in tears. I don't want to make him sad, but I know that I have to break up with him. It's going to be so awkward. Please help.
Thanks in advance.
Well you have to do it yourself, if you have anyone else do it, thats just cruel.
Dont email him it, dont call him on the phone, or IM him. Do it face to face, and tell him why.
Tell him what you wrote up there, about wanting to be single for the summer, to meet new people.
okay though listen, he's going to be upset either way, so just do it and get it over with before you lead him on.
Theres no way to not hurt his feelings, so its best if you break up with him, he'll get over you. I mean who knows? Maybe he wants to be single for the summer too?
You never know!
ok here is the thing.. me i'm 15/f he is 17/m me && him use to be really close but then when he got in with the "cool" kids it all changed.. he started doing all of these drugs... and we barely ever talk anymore.. if we do its fightin && yelling no just talkin.. he is drinking, smoking, doing weed, meth && sooo much more... && i dont even know the half of it.. but still it kills me just watching him do that to himself.. and i try to tell him that it hurts me probably more than it hurts him.. he just keeps doing them.. he practically tries a new drug every weekend at parties with his friends.. && it hurts so bad hearing about it.. && i dont even hear it from him i hear it from his friends...
but anyone knwo where im coming from? or what should i do? im soo confused... i know its not my life but still i care for him WAY to much =[
You should get him help if he wont get it himself, because so much stuff could happen to him if you dont do anything.
"there are two types of bad people in the world, people who are doing bad things, and people who see the bad thing being done and dont do anything."
YOu need to tell someone,
an adult, that can get him help.
seriously, hope things get better.