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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

Okay so i have been talking to this guy, and he is always really nice and we've become really good friends. So a month or two after we've been talking, he tells me he likes me and that he wants to go out on a date sometime. So we have been talking every day since, and we haven't gotten the chance to hang out. But he still continued to talk to me in school and text me and whatever, and we're always flirting.
So today he told me to go online because he had a question that was important. So i go and he tells me this girl was being really flirty last night, and i noticed he didnt text me last night. So he told me that this girl wanted to hang out with him tomorrow, and she mentioned something about hooking up.
He says he doesn't really like her, he just wants to hook up with her. (He claims he's 'only human')
But then he goes on and tells me that i'm always the girl he's dreamed of having and that he thinks im amazing and he likes me alot. He said that he wont go if it makes me feel mad or uncomfortable.
I mean, ofcoarse i don't want him to go, i get jelous when he talks to other girls. But if he really liked me, he wouldnt go.
And i dont want to tell him what to do because i dont want him to think im a control freak.
What do i do if he goes?
What do i do if he doesnt go?
Help?

ok, obviously, he's trying to make you jealous and he's trying to get you to tell him not to go, so he knows that YOU don't want him to, and so he knows how you feel. you should tell him not to go, because you want him for yourself, haha ;]
-if he goes, text him alot, or call him, and tell him that you miss him and that you dont like how your feeling with him with that girl right now.
-if he doesn't go, hang out with him by yourself. just you and him. he'd love that.
hope i helped ! take charge girl ! :] good luck xxo

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the last two really good books i read were
Forever by Judy Blume
The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky

I'm looking for anything similar/same theme or anything!
thank you (:

here are some ... :]

-Brave New Girl: Louisa Luna
-Speak: Laurie Halse Anderson
-Hard Love: Ellen Wittlinger
-Sloppy firsts: A novel, by Megan McCafferty
-White Oleander: Janet Fitch
-Rats saw God: Rob Thomas
-48 shades of brown: Nick Earls
-Very far away from anywhere else: Ursula K. Le Guin

hope you like those ! xxo good luck

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Yeah 13/f here. I need some advice here. I really like this guy. I really have no idea if he likes me back, its really hard to tell since hes always fooling around with girls n guys. Some stuff about him: Hes a class clown and he:
- Sometimes looks at me
- Teases me
- Steals my stuff
Although, he could just be glancing at someone else, and he could just be teasing me because well... boys are boys right? and he steals other ppls stuff too, other girls mainly, so ... any help? I just need maybe some tips to find out if he does or if YOU think he does/doesn't, or maybe to get him to ask me (I am seriously too shy to ask him T.T) to the dance???
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THANKS FOR YOUR HELP =)
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Aww cute :] It seems like he is trying to get your attention by doing the things he does, but is unsure because of your response and your shyness. If you tried to become more comfortable with him, and playfully tease him back, making a clear attempt to kid around with him too, you'd both be more at ease with eachother and eventually, one of you would ask the other one to the dance. It would be cute if you asked him, because then he'd know you are intrested, but get a tad bit more "chill" or at ease with him, and then everything will fall into place. :]
hope I helped ! good luck with everything ! xxo.

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i love selena's stye in her move another cinderella story. when i search for her outfits, theres usually only like 2 of the same outfit that come up. can anyone help me find pictures of her clothes and look a likes of them from the movie? thanks!

http://dresslikeselena.net/style/televisionmovies/23.php
-you'll like thiss.

http://dresslikeselena.net/style/televisionmovies/22.php
-her dress :]

http://dresslikeselena.net/style/televisionmovies/22.php
-just click on the pictures

http://dresslikeselena.net/
-click ont he tabs that say .. style, makeup, hair ... etc, and then scroll down and click on the pictures to get exact and look-a-like clothes or other stuff.

hope I helped ! good luck !xxo

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okay so my girlfriend is pregnant and she dont get her period does that mean the baby is like drinking the blood?

hahaa, I have to laugh at Matt's answer ... very witty.
but no, you do not have a vampire baby growing inside of your girlfriend, she isn't getting her period because most women don't have their period when pregnant. Maybe you should go to google and seek out some information on this type of thing, it'll help you to know in the long run.

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what are some good rock bands such as

jack's mannequin

or matt nathanson

or the killers?

i love their music and i want to start listening to a band that not a lot of people listen to, but i want them to be good.
just anyone good i guess.
thanks.

-sherwood
-the starting line
-acceptance
-all time low
-3 days grace
-static lullaby
-cute is what we aim for
-angles and airwaves
-armor for sleep
-yellowcard
-switchfoot
-mayday parade
-the sophomore attempt
-this providence
-muse
-panic at the disco
-the cure
-the academy is ...

hope I helped ! good luckk, xxo

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does anyone know the name of the song that jamie foxx played on MTV and it was like on top of credits for a show.. only i can't remember what show i was watching.
he was playing a piano and thats all i rly remember
it was a slow-ish song.

"The Streets Is Talking: News & Notes From The Underground
One of the more popular songs off T.I.'s The Leak CD is "Live in the Sky," on which he sings the hook "Life's ups and downs, they come and go." Well, on his album King, Tip will feature a reworking of the piano-driven song with Jamie Foxx singing the hook and playing the keys.
Securing Foxx on piano wasn't too tough of a task, according to Tip. "I sent the word I wanted him to get on it and he got on it the next day," he explained. "I was thinking about everybody who could play the piano as well as sing, and Jamie was at the top of my list."
http://www.mtv.com/bands/m/mixtape_monday/022106/

I hope this helped ! xxo good luck :], sorry if that did absolutley nothing to help you but the song isn't "known" yet, they are jut re-working it.

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so i used to be obsessed with this one movie when i was younger, i think i was around 8 or 9. but i cant remember the name of it!

i remember it was some kid (teenager) who goes to the beach and finds a mermaid there and she helps him find treasure .. but the whole thing is back in time in like the 14 or 1500s because he finds pirates too and they help him find treasure too and then at the end the cave thing with the treasure almost closes but they all get out in time even tho the mermaid's tail almost gets stuck. then he goes back to present day..

does this ring a bell for anyone? PLEASE HELPP =)!

I'm pretty positive that the movie you're looking for is called ...
Treasure Island
hope I helped ! good luck ! xxo

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im having my room re-done in purple.
so if you know of any purple room accessories such as a comforter, curtains, wall decor, stickers, bathroom stuff, etc, etc
please give me some links, i appreciate your help.
i dont have much luck googling for stuff like this.
i like anything sparkly, shiney, metallic, or royalish.

thanks :D

here are some cool stuff i found, just some purple ideas :]

http://www.thediningroomspace.com/alphaville-design-gino-bar-stool-metallic-purple.html
-purple stool

http://www.target.com/Metal-Desk-Lamp-Metallic-Purple/dp/B000CBVNW6
-purple desk lamp

-this next link is an entire purple shop !
http://www.thepurpleshop.com/

-some purple comforters ...
http://www.nextag.com/purple-comforters/search-html
-my favorite is the zebra one. so cool :]

http://www.thepurplestore.com/cgi-bin/product_detail.cgi?pstore_id=9680&product_line=Bedroom&page=1&column=1&row=3
-this is pretty cool

good luck, hope i helped ! xxo and have funn

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Hey!:) I need songs about a misunderstood girl for our school project: a music video. We're gonna be basing it on Shakespeare's Much Ado About Nothing Act 4 wherein Hero is being accused of things she didn't even do. Any songs that could relate to that situation will do. THANKS & ILY!

Good Charlotte: the anthem
No doubt: I'm just a girl
simple plan: welcome to my life
simple plan: perfect
Dream theatre: misunderstood

hope i helped ! xxo ! good luckk and if you need any more, just ask :]
p.s. i don't know any music video ideas because I also haven't read that shakespeare book and the link didn't work, but I'm sure yours will come out great !

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Ok it seemed like you might be good to answer this an all. I'm 14 and since December I have been going out with this guy. He goes to my church so I saw him like twice a week. He goes the private school there and now he left and his parents didn't like it there or whatever so now I only see him once a week. Its been really confusing because I still get nervous around him and now I don't get to see him alot. His parents are really strict and they don't know about me. So we don't really get to talk on the phone. Now I don't know what to do. I like him alot. Like seriously, alot. I mean it was so great earlier and all because he would be all cute and stuff now we don't get to see each other as often. I don't really know if I should keep going out with him since I don't know if its really worth it? I have these doubts and stuff about everything. So yeah I really like him and I don't know if everything would work here. I know I'm only 14 and all but I was hoping I could get some help. Thanks and sorry it was long.

It wasn't long :] i think i can help you out heree. okay, it doesn't matter that your just 14, although, you'll probably have many other boyfriends besides this one. However, if you are having doubts and the relationship isn't making you as happy as it once did, then you should let him go and just stay friends. From what you've told me,I have a feeling that you don't want to be with him because it's not working out right now because you see him only one day, when you used to see him more and you two are becoming more distant. My advice would be to go on a break and stay friends, to see how that goes, and there are plenty of other boys out there, you should keep your eyes open :] or another option would be to try your hardest to see him more often, or even BETTER, talk to him about this. tell him that it's hard for you to be in a relationship with him when you only see hime for a day. Get on that topic and see what he has to say. and if you don't think he's worth it and all of this trouble, then just be friends, you could always get back together in the future :]
hope i helped ! tell me how it goes with an inboxx :] and you can always ask me anything else. xxo good luck !!

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I would really appreciate anyone's input on some cute ideas of valentine's gifts I could send my boyfriend. He lives a few hours from me, so the time we spend together is limited, but I want to do something special for him on Valentines day, I just need some help getting the ball rolling. He's in a band, he's really into music, and he loves to play guitar. if that helps with ideas.

If he's really into music, make him a mixed tape with songs he likes, songs you think he'd like, and songs that describe the way you feel about him :] you could also do something cute/funny and get him customized boxers that say "belongs to [your name here]" on the butt or maybe, "happy valentines day" on it. or you could imprint it on a shirt, there's lots of places you can get things cutomized. you could also get him a bunch of new guitar picks that are pretty cool. or you could get a masculine looking silver chain and put a guitar pic on it with both of your names on it [on the back] and then he can have that. You could also buy him some CD's or one of those huge hershey chocolate bars, and im talking about the HUGE ones hahaa, alot of guys get those as gifts and apparently, they love it. Get creative, yuh know? Or you could buy a movie that he likes, give it to him, buy some popcorn and candy hearts and watch the movie together. it's a cute idea :] there's so many options out there, have fun with it. just remember... boys love food. and your guy loves music [my ex boyfriend sounds exactly like your guy] and I would have gotten him something like the things i listed above.
hope i helped ! good luck ! xxo :]

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I dumped my ex because of HIS mistake. his DUMB mistake. I see him everywhere and he always tries to get me back and compliment me blah blah, but I don't want him; he's weak.


I want to know a song that talks about a female singing about his guilt/regret for messing up. Do you know any?

thaaaaank you! =)

Avril Lavigne: He wasn't
Avril Lavigne: get over it
Avril Lavigne: everything back but you
Avril Lavigne: don't tell me
Avril Lavigne: I can do better
Avril Lavigne: I don't give a damn
Amy Winehouse: just friends

if you need any more, just inbox mee :]
good luck ! hope i helped ! xxo

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I'm crying pretty damn hard right now, i keep thinking about bush getting on that helicopter to texas. it's seriously so, so sad i can't stop crying

i didn't even know him or pay attention to the politics

but i love him
and i miss him :(

Well he was in office for a very long time, so it's okay for you to be sad, but look on the bright side, hes not gone ... he's just not in office anymore, and now obama is president which is going to be a drastic change, most likely for the good. You are probably just emotional because it happened so fast [the change from president to president] and you may be feeling some anxiety because now we have a new person running our country, we just have to hope for the best and think about the good things, and not get upset over the little things, yuh know? :] I hope you feel better soon ! xxo dont worry, it'll be fine :]

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so tuesday was my first day of this class. i sit in front of this really cute boy. i dont know his name sadly or anything. and im not the super sketchy stalker type.

but we spent our whole half an hour break in the cafeteria stealing glances at each other and making eye contact, you know the occasional smile. and it wasnt like he just happened to catch me looking at him. he was always looking first.

he just has these friendly eyes and a nice smile. its like he's teh kinda boy you wanna know just by the way his eyes express things to you. sappy i know, maybe even pathetic..

what i'm getting at is, is this common or am i completetly random. to feel connected or to want to know someone just by looking at each other. because he's been on my mind for like almost two days now. how do you go about pursuing someone like in this situation. do i talk to him, or would that be weird. what if im the only one who feels teh connection/wants to get to know you better vibe and he is totally like back off.

im a very shy person by nature. but i'd really like to know more about this boy. he intrigues me and hes attractive to me.

help
!

this is very common. If you can feel a connection just by staring into his eyes, I'm almost certain that he can feel it to. sometimes words can't express emotion lik your eyes or body language can. Obviously you can feel a spark and since you are shy by nature, but you feel that you want to reach out to him is a very good sign. not just any cute guy makes girls feel this way. talk to him. he'll like it. it's not like he'll tell you to back off or be standoffish, he might be a little curious or skeptical at first, keep that in mind. But that would just be the result of him not knowing you. yuh know? if you want to know more about him, gradually talk to him and build a friendship with him. who knows what will happen, rbut from your intense feelings, i can tell this could become a good outcome for you :] and as the quote goes ... "if you can't get him out of your mind, maybe he's supposted to be there."
hope i helped! good luck ! xxo :]

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if a sophomore girl dates a freshman guy, is that weird?

cause i like this freshman guy and hes 6 months younger than me

so blahh. help?

Thats totally fine. In my school, there are juniors going out with freshmen guys, so it's really common. as long as you have a connection with him, then go for it :] [6 months isn't that big of a difference, yuh know?]
hope i helped ! good luckk xxo

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what are good songs
meaningfull
ones that really make you feel the emotion the artist is conveying
im into like alternative stuff anywhere from like mayday parade, dashboard confessional, secondhand serenade, the maine, etc things like that if yah get my vibe. i also randomly like michelle branch and taylor swift. ok well yeah any songs you suggest ill appreciate

escape the fate: ashley
paramore: that's what you get
vanessa carlton: nolita fairytale
cute is what we aim for: newport living
cute is what we aim for: practice makes perfect
Relient K: Be my escape
cute is what we aim for: the fourth drink instinct
Yellowcard: only one
the white tie affair: if i fall
all time low: coffeshop soundtrack
anberlin: feel good drag
Metro station: kelsey
we the kings: secret valentine

if you want more, just ask :]
xxo hope i helpedd !

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so i adopted a dog maybe like a month ago? and
she came from a puppy mill, so she had like a liter or two of puppies. shes a bichon/poodle, shes about two years old and shes very sweeet and tiny.

since puppymills abuse puppys and treat them like crap, shes very scared of everything. she found trust in my mom before everyone else so she follows her EVERYWHERE. and every little noise she hears she starts barking and growling. my dad got soo mad yesterday cause he cant take it anymore that he seriously started screaming. i thought it wad just one of those fases he goes through when he gets mad, but i guess not becuase i woke up this morning and my mom told me she is waiting for the lady who runs the adopting thing to call her back. which obviously means were giving her back. and ive been crying my eyes out because of it.

is there any way we can get her to stop barking. i know some people spray there puppies when there bad, but its hard to do things to her becuase she gets scared so easily. i neeed help ! i want to keep her and im afraid i wont get to :[

When we got my dog, he CONSTANTLY barked after he got comfortable with us, yuh know? so my vet suggested we invest in a muzzle. they are really cheap, come in all sizes, and are sold at pet shops...like Pet Co. and such. it's a soft material that you clip around the dogs snoot [big enough for them to breathe out of] and it just shuts their mouth so they can't bark. Whenever my dog used to bark alot, we put it on him, said, "no barking" and then we kept doing this, until we would only take the muzzle out [not putting it on him] and he wouldn't bark. and finally we didn't have to take it out anymore, we just said,"no barking." and he is usually quiet unless something isn't right. so tell your mom to get one of those. it'll be worth it.
hope i helped ! xxo good luck !

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So I moved to this school in my senior year of high school.

At the beginning, I didn't have a single friend and didn't make an effort at all. I was trying to improve my grades, so I was instead really focused on that because I had to make up for how poorly I did the previous year. So, I worked really hard and got all A's. I still don't have a single friend at the school, and it's mid-year. So, because grades improved and I got my counselor to write a 'glowing' recommendation for the colleges I'm applying to about my turn-around in grades and everything. She sent them, then today...she called my 1st period teacher to call me out of class so I could pick them up to overnight the letters.

Lately, my attendance has gotten worse. I was late today, so when my counselor called my 1st period teacher to ask if she could send me down, my 1st period teacher blasted her about how I'm never in her class, and I'm always late yadda yaddda. Then when I arrived late, my teacher told me my counselor wanted to see me.

When I went down and talked to my counselor after she sent for me, I got the letters & I was about to leave and she's like, "What's up with your attendance" and I'm like, "This quarter its been pretty bad"...and she's like, "It's HORRIBLE!" And I'm like, 'Yeah, I know...". I put the letters down and tell her how I'm usually late first period and stuff like that, but that I'd try to fix my attendance and make it better...so she's like, "*in sweet tone* Yes, you fix it! I wrote these lovely letters for you for your college applications - don't make me look stupid" And I'm like, "No, definitely not, I'll make an improvement..." "*in sweet tone* Yes, you do that! For the next quarter, fix your attendance. I'll be checking! And remember don't make me look stupid! Byeee!!"

Okay, so, what is wrong with me exactly? I'm so depressed, but I haven't really allowed myself to admit it until recently. Like, I literally have no friends. I know it's more so my own fault for not trying but I put so much pressure on myself to improve my grades at the beginning of the year. It's not so easy to make friends senior year, and especially when your grades matter so much. It was my last shot to get into a somewhat good college. I've given up trying on the friends thing. Make friends for what? There are only 3 months left. I'm not going to prom, and I'm even (sadly) fearing my own graduation (who am I going to hang with?).

My sister goes to Princeton, so my parents have expected sooo much for me, but I'm never as good/smart as her. She is GORGEOUS and PERFECT. It is so annoying. I am the ugly duckling, I have so much acne that never goes away and I feel like I can never face anyone because of it. I feel really, just... not pretty. And it doesn't help that she is so damn competitive with me and superficial. "Doesn't this totally accentuate my bone structure". GAH. And I feed her ego every.single.time. "Yeah, it does".

So not going to class/staying at home sort of gives me this high that I didn't expect. I tell my parents that I need an extra day to study for a test, and they're like, "Okay, fine..". I've always been the goody-two shoes, always second best to my sister, but whose only job has been to come home and receive straight A's.

My parents never ask me why I never go out with anyone or have a social life. My parents also don't have any social life as well, and they are workaholics so I feel like some of that has rubbed off on me. As long as I'm getting good grades, it's all okay, and the fact that they don't care hurts me even more. And even those are slipping now (from A's to B's and C's) because of my attendance, lack of focus, and depression I'm pretty sure. I just don't feel happy at all, and everyday I find myself randomly crying.

It sounds stupid, but skipping really does give me a high...it makes me feel a little free, as if I don't have to be so perfect all the time for my parents and everyone else. I can be a little 'rebellious' and 'bad'.

And I wish I could get myself out of my rut. I feel like absolute crap in every way possible. I'm ashamed of myself. Worst of all, while my sister is at Princeton, I'll be stuck at the local state university. Yeah, nothing wrong with that, but my sister thinks she 'has beat me'.

I totally understand where you're coming from, and I know you must feel horrible. My sister is pretty, she has perfect skin also, while i have some acne that just never seems to go away [ugh hate itt] and she has a boyfriend, i don't. I also feel like I won't have anyone to go with to prom, so I'm scared that I won't go :[ but also, I can relate to how you are scared of who you will hang out with when graduation comes around, but lemme tell you something. Freshman year of highschool i had no friends, basically. none. [had to start all over because the people i knew changed sooo much, although moving is most definetly worse, i know] and i was in the same place as you [except not a senior] i felt worthless and like, what's the use if I don't have friends, only a few months and it'll be summer where i can just chill with a book and relax. yuh know? so a few months passed and i felt so lonely, and ultimatley, depressed. and trust me hun, acne? not that big of a deal, if you look around, EVERYONE has it, they just use ounces of cover-up, so don't be afraid to show your face, :] people don't care as much as you think they do, trust me.
2nd of all, it's NEVER too late to make friends. never. even when you are a senior. I know you're thinking, oh yeah, what does she know? only 3 months nobodys gonna want to include me in their friendships. but that is sooo not true. If you just get out there and start talking to people or a person you might like to hang out with, you'll meet all of their friends and create bonds. this can happen in a very short period of time or a longer one, it depends on how you go about it. this stuff isn't just going to happen on its own. you have to go out there and MAKE it happen. you haveta get out fo your comfort zone and just do it. It's not easy moving to a new school, especially senior year of high school, but that doesn't mean you have to be the "outcast" yuh know?
It's good that you admitted you are depressed, because you're not hiding it from yourself. It's not good to pretend that you feel fine when you don't. and obviously, comparing yourself to your sister is not helping your depression. you are NOT your sister, you are your own person, and if shes some sort of amazing scholar and you feel as though shes the prodigy child, then what can you do? you are you, and always will be and that is GREAT. sure, you can strive to be as good in school as she was but don't change to suit her and your parents. you need to suit you. and since you are dspressed, i think you should seek help from a therapist or counselor at school that can help you with that, because you will feel much better afterwards.
I also think that the reason you get such a high from rebelling against your parents and the school and everyone is because you are trying o be too perfect and losing yourself in the process. You want to let go, but you can't because you fear your parents will be very dissapointed in you. But look at it this way, don't you feel dissapointed in yourself right now? I mean, you aren't being true to what you want. Don't say things you don't mean. if you don't want to compliment your sister, don't. you're only demeaning yourself and making you feel worse. why dont you just make yourslef feel BETTER. and do something that you want to do. screw everybody else, do what you want. just don't wreck your attendance to spite your parents, because in the end, you are only spiteing yourself. and you don't have to be perfect all the time. Just make sure you have good grades but don't obsess over it, you're just going to drive yourself insane.
and you have NOTHING to be ashamed of. don't lessen your morals and yourself. you CAN get yourself out of this rut. talk to a counselor or talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. maybe write them a letter and do the same with your sister. jusr write down everything you feel. tell them that you are depressed, and if you want to get "un-depressed" go to a therapist. depression can effect you for the rest fo your life, and youre a smart girl, i think you know what you need to do :] and local state university? not bad. Princeton? not bad. it's just a fancy name for fancy ivy league school. don't let your sister get to you, you deserve better and you will get into a school you want. don't let anyone ruin it for you. I feel as though your sister is making you crazy, but you need to tell her how you feel, sit her down, and just tell her. you're not like her, you're a better person. i know you are. you will make friends, but you have to want to make friends. you can do this, i know you can.
good luck and hope i helped ! xxo tell me how it goes !! :]

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a couple of months and it is our second time going out now i love him and he loves me but we fight everyday and it happens a lot that he says or i say idk if we should go out anymore because we fight everyday but we always end up going out and when we are together we have a great time and i dont want to break up with him but we got into a fight yesterday and i said some things i didnt mean but he said he will never forget what i said because it hurt him so much and now i do not know what to do because he said that he doesnt know if we should go out and that he will tell me tomorrow what he thinks and that he is leaning towards still going out but that what i said really hurt him but i still really wanna go out with him what do i do to save our relationship!?!?!

thanks in advance!!
-maeve =]

Tell him that you understand why he'll never forget what you said to him, and that you know he's hurt, but that you didn't mean anything you said and that you love him and don't want to lose him over a few meanigless words you said out of anger. You should also tell him and make sure that it doesn't happen again, so he knows that you mean it. maybe you should make him a mix cd of his fave songs and songs that explain how you feel, and give it to him. that would be a cute thing to do to show you care :] that's sure to make him believe you and save yur relationship.
hope i helped ! xxo good luck

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