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my skin is REALLY oily.. i wash it morning and night with cetaphil but i always feel like i have to wash my face in the middle of the day cuz my skin gets sooo oily but then im afraid if i wash it too much itll dry it out. anybody know any good products to control oil?

second, im not sure if its cus of my oily skin but i get a lot of breakouts. and ive tried so many products but none of them seem to get rid of them. any ideas?

THX!! (link)
DO NOT WASH YOUR FACE MORE THAN TWICE A DAY WHEN ITS OILY!!! when you do that you skin thinks that your face is drying out so it produces more oil.

Use a product for oily skin by nuetrogena, i love nuetrogena. It's the best! and to help cut down on the oil at night try to use 'clear pore oil controlling astringent' by neutrogena. It works very well!

http://www.neutrogena.com/ProductsDetails.asp?ID=69

^theres some info about it.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


This kind of goes into a couple different categories..
anyway, a girl I know from gradeschool is having a party for her sweet 16 tonight, 8/10. I haven't seen her in a while since we're going into 10th grade. We were never really close but she's not popular so I thought why not go and just make the most of it. well, a lot of things have changed since gradeschool. I was kinda known as the "bad" girl because I went to a catholic school & I'm not extremely religious/studious/family oriented as my group of friends, but that was before. Since then I've drank/smoked/etc & some of the people going there know about it or just think I'm a plain old druggie, which I am not. I'm still a good person! My question is, what can I do/dress like/talk about with them so they still think I'm a good person?? It's not that I can't be myself, I just have to clean up my act a bit. These people are VERY judgemental & chatty. I'm using this party as a chance to redeem myself. They don't really like talking about boys (they consider grinding an inappropriate act, along with kissing). We're gonna be riding go carts & then sleeping over so I really need some help!

*What can I do/dress like/talk about?

thank you sooo much if you can help me!! I know it's tricky and really long so I really appreciate any help! 15/female.

[ps, I don't need a lecture about the things I do/have done. It's not that I don't want to take responsibility, it's that I don't want everyone in my business.] (link)
Just talk about what they talk about and try to catch onto their stuff for the night. You don't have to totally change just for them. Wear something decent, not like short skirt and tight top. Just dress kind of nice, like jean shorts and a cute T-shirt.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


Alrite i have a hole in my molar and its pretty big. I know i need to go to a dentist. But i havent been in a year because its diffucult to get my parents to make an appointment and Keep to it.

I really need a filling in this tooth but i can't bring my self to the dentist. Is there anything i can buy from walmart or Cvs that will work for the mean time till i can fight my parents to bring me to one?

Thank you :) (link)
Dentemp filling material sounds like what you need, you could get it at walgreens and CVS. And its only about $5

http://www.cvs.com/CVSApp/cvs/gateway/detail?prodid=107583&previousURI=/CVSApp/cvs/gateway/search?ActiveCat=499^Query=Dentemp

hope i helped =]
Jess


Hello. I'm very nervous. Okay well me and my boyfriend have sex now. I'm 14 and he's 16, and he popped my cherry. We usually have sex, alot. We sometimes don't do it with protection. He pulls it out though. I'm just extremly worried. My period always changes though. It rotates, like some months I get it at the beginning of the month, and some twords the very end. Last month I got it at the beginning so I figured I would this month, I haven't. I'm scared, but I don't know what to do. I've been getting cramps, like you do from the period. Uhh, do you think I could be pregnant? What should I do!!!! Thankss. (= (link)
You could just have an irregular period. Lots of girls do. Don't worry. Use protection, you don't want to get an STD or get pregnant, especially at 14. So if you guys are going to have sex, don't unless you guys have a condom.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


This might be aweird question but what does it mean when someone is emo? (link)
EMOtional

heres a funny video on it. its kinda insulting them but it will give you a general idea about it.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=moC-TXQJXTY


hope i helped =]
Jess


http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=86103477&imageID=1023292461&MyToken=bef0a354-3129-46e8-a8da-a90a4fae9539 I want my picture to have the same lighting effects like that like its dark in some parts and light in others. How do you do that? If you can do it on Paint what are the steps to doing it? (link)
You can't do that on paint. You have to do it in a photoshop like adobe with a filter. You could probably send the picture you want to that girl and maybe she could do it for you or tell you how.

hope i helped =]
Jess


Does Seroquel show up in urine tests? I need to know quick please! (link)
They won't be testing for antipsychotics in a urine test. So you'll be fine.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


ok well i am dying my hair a lighter color with one of those boxes you use at home. but i want to have like lowlights of my natural color. so does anyone have an idea on what i could do? (link)
You could go to a salon and get lowlights after you dye your hair. i strongly do NOT recomend box highlights, i'v had bad experiences and sometimes it can dry out your hair. If you mess up it costs more at a salon to get it fixed than it does just to get highlights or lowlights. Usually 'Fantastic Sams' has good deals on highlights and low lights. you can find one near you here-

http://www.fantasticsams.com/

i hope i helped =]
Jess


Ok so when I dont blow dry or straighten my hair.
[let it air dry]
It dries sorta wavy,
but is there anything I can spray on it
or something to make the waves more defined, or even curls?
and shiny, so it doesnt loook all dull?

thanks.
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'John Frieda Curl Around' styling shampoo and conditioner. It also gets rid of friz.

John Frieda has a good reputation.

http://www.johnfrieda.com/products/products.asp?pid=86§ion=products&subSection=frizzEase&lineID=4

theres the website for it.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


Me and my boyfriend got in a huge fight over nothing last night. We got eachother so pissed off we decided to break up. I miss him so much. I want him to know that I'm sorry for what I did. The problem is, I don't know what to say to him!! Also, he blocked me on aim, he won't answer my calls, and he won't answer me on myspace. How can I talk to him? We really loved eachother. He already has another girl friend, but I know he's just trying to make me jealous with her. What do I do?? (link)
Send him a message on myspace telling him how you feel. And get your friends to talk to him about it too. If he hears it enough he will realize that you guys love eachother.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


My friend and i have been friends for 2 years and her parents dont let me hang out with her cuz i went out with a blck guy and they talk behind my back and call me a slutt cuz she tells me and they dont like my mom either and thats messt and racest and i need help so.. my ? is wat do i do were awesome friends and we can only hang out at skool!!!

thank i rate and give feedback
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you should talk to your parents about it and tell your friends parents how you feel about them treating you this way, even if you have to write it in a note.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


F/UK
I've seen a lot of questions about emo's on this site, but what exactly is this? I don't think it's an expression we use in the UK. Thanks. (link)
http://youtube.com/watch?v=moC-TXQJXTY

that video explains emos kinda but it kinda makes fun of them. 'EMO'tional.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


15/f
Ok, so i liked a guy same old story. blah. well i wrote him a letter because he was leaving the next day and i couldn't say it in person. well he wrote me back. Here's the letter

my name here,

Thanks for the letter. It takes guys to come out and say something like you said. have you ever read Proverbs 27:5? "Open rebuke is better than secret love." I guess that it is best to just come out with stuff like that. To be honest, when I was a freshman, I had a crush on ___ who was a senior. So I've been in the same boat. I do like the fact that you are different from most girls. You have a good testimony. Don't blow it, build on it..... (some stuff about hanging around with some people)

Well, "Have a good summer" (making fun of something i said in my letter) and enjoy your THREE more years of school.

(his name here) SO is it a good rejection letter, and open ended letter, or what? He's home now and im nervous about talking to him. (link)
I'd say its a nice rejection letter.

Just be yourself around him. Don't let the things he said get to you. Theyr are always other guys out there so keep your eyes open. Just try not to bring the letter up around him and act normal.

hope i helped =]
Jess


In April of this year, me & my boyfriend of almost 11 months, broke up. That's not my worry. The thing is, now he does things he would've never done before. He gets high, A LOT & he shoplifts. I want him to stop because I don't want him to end up like his dad, and because I'm concerned about his well being. I talked to him about it, but he said not to worry about him. But I do. He told me "If I start looking like Michael Jackson from sniffing Cocaine, then say something, but until then, just don't worry!" But I am gonna worry because I still care about him a lot, and I don't want him to ruin himself, even though he is everytime he gets high. I was thinking about calling & telling his mom while he was at summer school, but then he'd know it was me, and he'd hate me, and I definitely don't want that. So what do I do?! (link)
You'd be doing him a favor if you told his mom, would you rather him hate you for like a month then him realize you did him a favor or him screwed up and in jail for the rest of his life? I know its hard to talk to him and convince him to stop, i'v tried that with my dad and him smoking. So i think you should tell his mom and leave it to her and recomend a drug rehab.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


my sister is 2 grades ahead of me and almost 3 inches taller, and we weigh the same. should i be losing weight? every inch in your height is supposed to be 5 pounds, so that means i should lose 15 pounds to be a healthy weight, right? i'm so confused. help would be much appreciated, thanks. (link)
http://www.pmcguam.com/tests/bmi.htm

there is a BMI calculater just enter in your weight and height. It will tell you if you are alright. And you shouldn't compare yourself to others. Everybody has a differnt body type and since she is older you guys have different needs, you will probably slim out in two years and be similar to her.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


16/f Well i am getting my hair cut tommorow. It is current a couple if inches past my shoulder


I need pictures of what i want.. I want to keep it basically at the lenght it is at but add alot more shorter layers and like the "emo" sort of bangs. Could anyone find me a picture of what i want? I tried like yahoo and google but i couldnt find anything and i was guess my best bet is to find pictures of real teens on here and on sites like myspace to find pics but i can't do it alone! anyone know of any pictures or places i could get good pictures?



all links appriciated (link)
Alot easier thing to do is go to your local drug store or food store and go in the magazine sections. you can usually find a magazine with just hairstyles and cuts. They probably will have what you are looking for in a magazine.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


Okay well i have AIM triton, and when im IMing someone, the box that im typing in is gray...and i dont know how to make it white...like its supposed to be. Also when the little box pops up in the corner to tell me when someone "went away" or something its also gray where it should be white. Does anyone know how to change it so its white and not gray? thanks. (link)
AIM triton is suposed to be gray and you can't change the skin or format. And to change the gray background on your IM box there is an A with a blue background on the little tool bar between your text and the convo. click it and then click the little white box. That should make the background white.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


suddenly my spacebar isn't working. i cant do caps and my shift key wont do anything. is there anything i can do?

i tried doing the stickykeys option nothing's wrong.

i'm copying a space.


don't.tell.me.to.take.my.spacebar.out.again.because.i.had.to.get.a.new.keyboard.after.that...

my.computer.was.making.weird.noises.like.the.stickykeys.one.and.kept.going.on.stand.by.

so.i.shut.my.computer.down.because.it.would.always.log.me.out.when.i.logged.in.

it.would.be.the.windowsxp-blue.logging.in.screen-
that.said.."stand by"
then.my.desktop.
overandover.

i'm.doing.a.scan.

but.is.there.something.else.i.can.do?


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i recomend getting a new keyboard. And if you dont feel like spending the money get a used one. You could usually find one at your/your moms or dads work. Thats what i do when a mouse or keyboard is screwed up. I would give you a keyboard if i knew where you lived near me and i knew you b/c i have an extra one....just make sure the keys are over the little button on the keyboard like when you press down on them.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


Alright, so you know how there are things you spray in your hair before you straighten it to protect it from the heat? Like, the products that come in spray bottles (VO5 miracle mist, tresemme heat tamer, etc.) Well, the directions say that you should spray it in your hair before you straighten it; but my question is, should I let the spray dry? Because the directions say nothing about letting product dry and then straightening it, but when I don't let it dry and I straighten my hair, it makes a sizzling sound and it gets all smoky and stuff and I've heard before that you're not supposed to straighten your hair while it's wet or it will get fried. So yeah, is straightening my hair while the product is in okay, or should I just let it dry? Thanks. (link)
I have a wet2styles straightener and i can straighten my hair while its wet. When i first started using it on my wet hair it steamed and sizzled but i read in the manual and it said that it is normal. But since yours isnt made for wet hair i would wait for it to dry a little bit more. I use 'textureline. hot style ironing creme' It doesnt make your hair wet or anything when you put it on so the iron wont sizzle or steam. It works great.

i hope i helped =]
Jess


my friend whos a guy called his girlfriend a prude..
what does a prude mean? (link)
I am pretty sure it means you are uptight.

hope i helped =]
Jess




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