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party tonight..
This kind of goes into a couple different categories..
anyway, a girl I know from gradeschool is having a party for her sweet 16 tonight, 8/10. I haven't seen her in a while since we're going into 10th grade. We were never really close but she's not popular so I thought why not go and just make the most of it. well, a lot of things have changed since gradeschool. I was kinda known as the "bad" girl because I went to a catholic school & I'm not extremely religious/studious/family oriented as my group of friends, but that was before. Since then I've drank/smoked/etc & some of the people going there know about it or just think I'm a plain old druggie, which I am not. I'm still a good person! My question is, what can I do/dress like/talk about with them so they still think I'm a good person?? It's not that I can't be myself, I just have to clean up my act a bit. These people are VERY judgemental & chatty. I'm using this party as a chance to redeem myself. They don't really like talking about boys (they consider grinding an inappropriate act, along with kissing). We're gonna be riding go carts & then sleeping over so I really need some help!
*What can I do/dress like/talk about?
thank you sooo much if you can help me!! I know it's tricky and really long so I really appreciate any help! 15/female.
[ps, I don't need a lecture about the things I do/have done. It's not that I don't want to take responsibility, it's that I don't want everyone in my business.]
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Just talk about what they talk about and try to catch onto their stuff for the night. You don't have to totally change just for them. Wear something decent, not like short skirt and tight top. Just dress kind of nice, like jean shorts and a cute T-shirt.
i hope i helped =]
Jess
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I'm not gona say anything about being yourself etc etc because I'm sure you have your reasons for wanting to fit in with these people so here goes:
To begin with conformity is the key. Dress how they dress more or less. I'd say unfitted jeans and an unrevealing T-shirt are probably par for the course amongst the kind of people you describe but you know basically what they wear- go for something similar if you can. (Jeans or trousers are probably the most practical if you're gokarting anyway)
As for conversation, you have a starting point right there- talk about the activity whilst you pick up the general topics of their conversation you can join in with. It doesn't matter if you're a bit quiet to begin with- just act interested in what other people have to say and ask them questions about the things they're talking about (I'm talking the occasional request for elaboration or explanation on whatever they're talking about here though, not machinegun fire about every detail of their lives since the day they were born)- there's nothing people like more than to be made to feel they're interesting (this is especially true of excruciatingly boring people).
At the end of the day if you're observant, generally unoffensive and interested in the people you're with (or pretend to be) there really shouldn't be a problem unless they've formed a solid and unreasonable prejudice against you in which case, their loss.
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