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is it bad to ask a guy out i mean does it hurt there self of steam?
thx candi

i dont think so..guys like it when girls take charge sometimes..plus i think its an old fashioned standard where the guy always has to ask the girl out..its not like that anymore. so go for it :)

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A lot of my friends are very religious, and thus have many different beliefs (religiously, politically, and otherwise) than I do. Lets just say I cried on November 3rd last year (the day after), and they pretty much jumped for joy. Sometimes when I make a comment about issues that are happening in the world they look at me oddly, like I'm a complete idiot or something. They enjoy listening to Ashlee Simpson and the like while I listen to classic rock from the 60's and 70's. In the past this hasn't bothered me much, but lately its been nagging at me a lot. Don't get me wrong. I love my friends to bits, they're the nicest people and so fun to be around, but is it possible to love them as people and completely disregard how different their mentality is from you? Do your beliefs and interests dictate who you are as a person?

(Sorry if this question doesn't make much sense.)

yes! diversity in a group makes it that much stronger ( my opinion) My best friends have different religous views as well as different views on political issues. if everyone in the group thought alike and beleived alike, things would be boring! i even have a friend who is a good friend..but the friend makes stuppid choices such as smoking, drinking, etc etc home problems..etc. ..but the person is still a true friend..

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I have been going out with a guy i've liked forever as of yesterday. He is already saying I love you and I said it back. Are we both just saying it or what?

yeah..it sounds like your just saying it...i mean after one day ? i can understand if your saying this to each other after a monthh or something..but one day seems too soon.

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ok the other day i was a t home (i live with my freind and her fiance temporarily) and we werw all at home when a friend of her fiance's came over. and later that night he tried to kiss me when we were alone (my freind had went upstairs to get soem cards and her fiance went to the bathroom) and he tried to kiss me. now mind you i have a boyfreind alreay, and what the guy did made me really uncomfortable. now mind you he didnt ACTUALLY kiss me, but he tried. i was able to "get away" if you will before he atually kissed me. but my question is, should i tell my boyfriend and if so how? i mean i know he is gonna wanna kill the guy for laying his hands on me, adn then he is gonna be upset b/c he wasnt there to protect me. how should i handle this i dont know what to do. i mean i dont want to tell him b/c i dont want to get him upset. and i dont want to not tell him, becuase omissions are betrayals. help me please!!!

i actually think you should tell her friend..i mean they are engaged! she should know about his behavior..

if you tell your friend it might get around to your bf, and if you dont tell him things could snowball..

i do agree with the others about him not knowing wont hurt him. what COULD hurt him is if you tell your friend (i think you should)..and then it gets around to him.

so you have to decide.

i would tell my friend..because this guy isnt being true to his fiance..if my fiance was trying to sneak a kiss in to someone else...i would most definately want to know about it so i dont make a big mistake and marry the guy

-melissa-

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Okay so the other night me and my boyfriend snuck out to meet at the park. We had sex but my quetsion is can I get pregnant from this... The first time we did it we used a condom and he came. Then the second time he came again in a new condom. The Thrid time he didnt come but he didnt use a condom. Is there enough sperm cells on his penis left from when he came in the other condoms enough to get me pregnant?? Im not sure.

Please be honest and I dont care tell me how stupid I am too for askin this.
Bye

wow first off, in the park? hot stuff..definate props on that

anyway, to your question. keep in mind condems arent 100% affective and precum may get you pregnent. its not a good method to use for protection. do i think your safe? yes. but theres always that chance..and it does happen. go to planned parenthood and get the emergency contraception pill..or just wait..dont stress over this..and if you take a test and it comes up positive, you have options such as abortion. next time be sure to always use a condem. unprotected sex is always chancing it.

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WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO MESS AROUND WITH A GIRL? i mean the best/quickest/easiest way, just kiss her? i just kiss her, and if she wants me, she'll move it along, right?

yeah..go with the flow..kiss her and stuff..but she might be expecting you to "move it along.." so..kiss he r and kiss her neck..see how she reacts to that...then go for her chest..touch that..

it really depends on how far you want to go..but that sounds like a good start. you can tell her "im all yours..show me what you want to do"

lol

-melisa-

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How do you prevent a question you answered from showing on your advice column?

go back to the question..press the answer question button just as if you were answering it for the first time...then edit the answer. delete the whole thing..submit it..and there you go.

:)

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lately i've be really sad because i feel like i'm not pretty and the boy i've liked for so long likes my friend and he hugs her and everything and i feel like no one likes me and i know i won't get a date to homecoming



i need some advice

signed depressed

sweety dont get so down..so0o many people are in the same boat as you. you gota keep your head up and stay positive. its all you can do ! i mean..you cant MAKE someone like you..keep your head high..socialize..be friendly..and you will find a guy. my friends and i usually dont have dates..we jjust go and have fun..so live it up!

-melissa-

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I'm about to ask out a boy that i like...how do i do it!? ahh!!!

you just say you can flat out ask "will you go out with me" or you can take a different approach..you can ask questions like..."do you see us as being anything more than just friends?"...or "what are you doing this saturday? wanna catch a movie with me?" these are lines that will let him know that you like him..its different ways of seeing his reaction ..this way your not shot down on the spot. you can ask to hang out with him..ask him on a date kind of thing..or you can straight out ask him out.

-melissa-

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ok so there is this guy name, well lets say billybob. well he has a girlfriend name rebecca. My best friend is ashlee. We all have 3th block together. Well billybob and rebecca NEVER talk or anything. and in class everyday, me and billybob flirt all the time. he always finds ways to touch me, then i will hold his hand so he cant do it again, then when i let go, he starts tickling me all over again. Well friday after the bell rang, ashlee stood back and waited for billybob and was like "you and candace flirt too much, yall need to go out" and he was like "yea i know, we do!" then after school she went to him again and was like "you should break up with rebecca and go out with candace" and he said ok. i dont know if he was saying that because he knew she was gonna come adn tell me and he didnt want to hurt my feelings, or if he really likes me. i like him alot! i dont know what to do. any advice?!

these are really good signs..from what you tell me the flirting is real..and he seems to like you. i think he meant what he said. so give it a couple days..and get your friend to talk to him more ...its lookin good though...i think things are going to work out

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how.. (13/f)
1) do you get yourself to masterbate and what happens?

2)does a guy do oral on a girl? and what happens?

3) does a girl do a bj on herself? and what happens?

just a few curios questions.

i understand your curiousity. you have some things mixed up but i would love to help

1) you get yourself to masterbate by feeling horny..curious..wanting to do it. what happpens is the girl fingers herself (her vagina) She experiments to see what she likes and stuff..and if she keeps going and does whats turning her on, she will have an orgasm. you will know an orgasm when you have it..you will feel your vagina contracting and whatnot ..it will feel pleasurable
A guy will jerk off. meaning, he will take his hand(s) and slide it up and down the penis until he orgasms (ejaculates)

2) oral sex is something that can be done on both a guy and a girl. A guy can give a girl oral sex (more commonly known as eating her out) He uses his tongue to pleasure the girls vagina..until she orgasms.
the girl can give a guy oral sex (or give him head) by sucking on his penis

3) a girl can not give herself a blow job. a blow job is what a guy gets ...its oral sex on a guy. neither a guy or girl can give themself oral sex.

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ok well a guy is switching schools on friday so i wrote him a letter about how i feel but i signed it as anonymous. it tells exactly how i feel about him. shouldi leave it how it is or put my actual name on it plaese help. i rate high

put your name on it -- i mean what good is the letter if he doesnt know who its from? signing your name is the icing on the cake. dont leave it as anonymous...because he will never know who it really was. go for it! :)

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Ok so there is this girl on my bus named jessica. And were arent friends or anything. And she told the kid across from me that her stepfather beats her. So me and the other kid decided that we would tell the guideance counseler about it. Well the other kid goes to Vo-tech during the day so he wanted me to tell the office. So I did. Well somehow Jessica found out that I was the one who told and now shes mad at me. She is being really nasty to me what should i do? I mean I was only trying to help

you did the right thing. she might be mad now..but it will run its course..she will get help with the counselor and hopefully they will take care of the situation..and she will end up thanking you. even if she doesnt..who cares..you didd the right thing and im proud of you.
-melissa-

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I'm a 13-year-old girl and I always want to have sex...I just get this feeling a lot "down there" and it feels really good. I think about it a lot. I know that 13 is WAY too young to be having sex and I would never ever do it until I'm married, but I feel really guilty for getting like this. Am I way too young to be feeling like this? Am I way too young to even be thinking about this? Is there anything I can do about it without intercouse?

no way..its perfectly natural to be curious..and by the way im proud of you for wanting to wait..good choice. thinking about it is fine..i thought about it when i was your age..and im 16 and yeap..still thinking about it ..haha.

theres lots you can do without intercourse:
-masterbating (safest way to pleasure yourself..no worries of STDS or anything)
- WHEN YOU GET A SERIOUS GUY...pleasure by fingering, oral sex, etc..but keep in mind..you should use precautions to prevent stds and wait until you really like the guy and your ready..might not be until your 19 ..who knows

but yeah its perfectly fine to wonder about it..think about it..fantasize..etc.

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Ok. So i am 16 and a girl, and for some strange reason, i havent been able to get in the mood latly. My boy is great and all and trys hard but i cant see to turn on. y is this? and is there anything i can do? thanks.

maybe you two just have to change it up a little. like try something new such as role playing?
he can dress up as something that would turn you on like ..i dont know a sexy vampire..or you could dress up as the classical slutty nurse haha.

..maybe go online and look up some kissing games..games that makes things fun and enjoyable.

maybe a change of setting will turn you on..like under the stars, by a waterfall, in a car, elevator? haha

have him do something crazy like masterbate in front of you, or you do it in front of him..

get one of those handcuffs and have fun with that ;)

whipped cream = lots of fun lol

try those, write back if you still need help

-melissa-

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what does ejaculate mean? sorry i dont know how to spell it

ejaculate (aka cum,jizz,load, lol many other nicknames) is the white stuff that comes out of the penis after sex, masturbation, oral sex. its ejaculation...the stuff that contains sperm.
any more questions? i will be more than happy to help.

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Ok, there is this guy that i really like....hes my ex, but now my friend. Hes really cute. And we tell eachother everything. He told me, that if someone asks him if they like someone, he will blush if he does. Well my bff sits behind him in social studies and asked him if he still had a thing for me, he said just as friends then turned around and blushed! I was sooo excited to see this....but heres the thing. He told Ali that if he was single than he would ask me out in a heart beat. Well hes not single. And his girlfriend is really sweet and hes really happy! I don't wanna break them up, but i would do anything to get my baby back. What should i do.

Just Friends

well..you definately shouldnt try and break them up. lots of drama will come if you do that...just have your friend to let him know you like him..and from there its in his hands if he wants to break up with his girl or stay with her. they will break up in a matter of time..and when they do, i bet you and him will get together. for now, you just gota ride it out ...still talk to him and all that good stuff..but dont be all hugging up on him and stuff. your time will come..the timing is just bad right now.

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okay.. so me and my boyfriend went out for almost 3 years.. we broke up on september 23rd.. and like ive been upset ever since then.. like i just wanted to take a break .. and he got all mad.. and we broke up..., and he had 2 GIRLFRIENDS since then.. and we broke up on a friday and he went out with one girl the next.. i was so upset.. like maybe he didnt love me.. seems like it right? well he was my everything.. and i cant get him off my mind.. he was so sweet but now hes a total jerk.. i mean he use to cry over me how cute is that.. can you please give me some advice i need some real bad.. i know i didnt exactly have a question but can you tell me how i should take care of this and stop being so upset..!! THANKS SO MUCH!!!

those 2 girls were rebound girls. they meant nothing to him. he just wanted someone to get his mind off of you. communication is the answer. make a suprise visit to his house with his fav food or somethin..and have a talk with him. thats the answer. get everythhing out..and hopefully once things are clear you will kiss n makeup

if its meant to be , you two will end up back together.

-melissa-

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me and my bf just kissed yesterday..he did it so unexpected i got shocked..and im a little werided out cause i dont think i kissed right and he kissed weird...i love him so much nd it doesnt matter to me..but it just seems weird...i dont know what to do...and me and him want to kiss more

yep, the more you do it the better you will get..so kiss kiss and kiss some more! hhaah...its ok! both of you are new at this..and you both will get better as you go on.

happy kissing :)

-melissa-

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alright well im having surgery on monday of next week (the 11th)and i was supposed to get my period last thursday. but i havent yet. and its a surgery where ill be in the hospital for 2 weeks and stuff and i dont want to be on my period during the surgery cuz its like a 7 hour surgery and stuff so what should i do? thanks

well you cant help your period. the nurses and doctors deal with this all the time...so it will be routine for them if you have your period. they will suppply you wiith stuff and take care of you. i know its not the answer you want to hear, because nobody wants to be in the hospitol during their period, but it happens

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