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When you go and get your senior pictures professionally taken, they say they can take out blemishes and retouch the picture. But what if I had a small mole on my face that I wanted them to edit and take that off? Is that possible? (link)
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Yes.
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Well me(32) and my boyfriend(34) have been together for a little over a year and the last I'd say... 2 not quite 3 months he hasn't been as "in to me" like he was. Ok, this is the situation. We lived almost 100 miles apart, he lives in austin, I live in San Antonio, Tx. Well, I would go to austin every weekend and sometimes stay until tuesday and we wouldn't be able to keep out hands off each other. Well here recently I moved to Austin pretty much with him. He's got alot going on that I know are important to him and he's got to get done. What I dont understand is nothing has changed except my moving here. so why is he not showing me the same attention? How do I get his attention back just a little bit? Should I move back to S.A and give him his space back? (link)
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You've heard the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder"? While being apart was difficult, it also kept a bit of "spark", because every time you were together it was like new. Now that you live in the same place you are probably moving into the next stage of your relationship - the comfortable stage. The urgency is gone for now. That's not a bad thing, it can actually be a better thing, because it allows you to really get to know each other in a different kind of way. The thing I would be concerned about is why it seems to be you making all the sacrifices. You went to visit HIM every weekend, you moved to HIS town. I'm wondering if you're doing too much of the work in this relationship. That right there is a signal to me that he might not be as "into you" as you are into him, even before you moved. Think it over, see what your instincts tell you. I think women ignore their instincts too much. They're usually right the first time.
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Hey so this is the same girl who has a crush on the boy in my art appreciation class. Well he gave me his business card, and after class i took the stairs & i was texting my dad. Well he came down and saw me and i think he gave me a weird look cause he might've thought i was waiting him, but i wasn't. And then later on i kinda did something really stupid i called from a blocked 3 times. im really embarrassed, but then i next day i called him , and he didn't answer, and yesterday he saw me and gave me a weird look again, so i didn't sit with him. He walked in and saw i was sitting somewhere else, and when he sat down he looked at me a few times, but i looked away. Then later that night, i called him, but he didn't answer. So i texted him and he asked me who i was & i told him, and he was like oh i didn't expect anyone to text me this late. And i said oh i hope you don't mind. And he was like actually i do because my girlfriend would chew me up and cause he uses that number for business purposes since he's the manager of this gym. And i was like ohh, and i was sad. So yeah i don't know what to do now cause it's going to be awkward. But i mean he it's funny cause he would smile at me whenever he saw me outside of class, and really made it seem like he liked me, but he was really shy, so i don't know. I thought he migh've been lying about having a girl, so i would stop talking to him. So yeah im really upset, what should i do? please help!! (link)
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Nothing you can do. Trust me hon, we've all been there. All of us have done totally embarrassing things in the name of love. You're no different. I wish I could say something to make it go away, but the only thing I can tell you is to forgive yourself. You're not stupid, you're just human. What will be make you stupid is if you don't learn something from this experience. Relax, chalk it up to a life experience and just try to move on. If he ever says anything else to you about it just apologize and tell him you're embarrassed about it and you just want to put it behind you. Don't worry. You aren't the first girl to make a fool of herself for a guy, you won't be the last. Welcome to life!
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A few years ago I got married to my darling husband. He's really a wonderful man but I wasn't ready for a baby then. Two of my best friends have BOTH just become pregnant and it makes me realize that I'd like to be pregnant now as well. I am ready to have my first baby but I don't know how to tell my husband now. When we got married he really wanted to have a baby right away and I told him how I didn't want that to happen so he was very disappointed. (link)
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When you go to bed tonight, give him a kiss goodnight, then tell "Oh, By the way, I'm ready for a baby!" He'll be happy, I'm sure.
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I have what is akin to a high school crush on this guy. I hadn't seen him in about 4 months, but ran into him the other day at college. We talked and all like old times for an hour. Now the weird thing is, the way I know him is he is a friend of my ex.
My ex and I broke up 4 months ago and it was a nasty breakup. We were together for 3 months. When I ran into this guy the other day, he didn't really talk much about my ex except to say he was a real asshole for what he did to me and he barely sees him anymore.
When I was with my ex, this guy was always way nicer to me and would compliment me and pay attention to me. He would always say weird things like how I was better than his ex gf (who I never met) and how cool I was. I never would've done anything before but now that we're both single, I feel I've got my chance.
However, I'm not sure how he feels about me. So my questions are:
1) Do you think he would be totally opposed to going out with me because he met me through my ex? I know they aren't really friends anymore but some people might feel weird.
2) I'm not very good at making a move and like I said the other day was the first time I've seen this guy in months. If I see him again, what should I do?
Please help.. I'm going crazy.. can't stop thinking about him!
Thanks. (link)
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I have the feeling you won't need to make any moves. It sounds like maybe this guy is into you, and you don't want to seem desperate. Forget about the ex, its his loss and you don't owe him anything. The next time you see this guy just be friendly, smile a lot, just enjoy having a conversation with him. If you're headed somewhere just ask if he'd like to walk with you, to your next class or whatever. But leave the ball in his court. It sounds old fashion, but every guy likes the chase. If you don't believe me, how many "easy" girls do you know that are in healthy, happy relationships? Take it easy, don't geek out! And enjoy this new crush!
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Okay so I know this is going to sound like an odd relationship, but my bf and i dont keep secrets from eachother. At all. Well at least thats how he wanted it to be. He told me he never minds if i look at his phone, or if i ask him anything he will always tell me, and he wants me to do the same...and i have been doing that, i always let him look at my texts or sometimes he will on his own nd i dont mind.
Now, last Saturday we got into a fight, and on Sunday we were together becuz we went to lunch with his family. He was texting his friend, and I asked him what about? and he didnt answer so I looked at his phone but he had deleted the convo. So I asked him, hey soo what did you talk about and he said some bs answer that was random.
Later that evening, him, me and his friend and friends brother were all hanging out and my bf and his friends brother went to see his new apartment, while me and his friend stayed back to watch this show we both love. Now during this time, his friend says to me "heyy so how come you said that yesterday?" (referring to the fight i had with my bf) and I was like "What? He told you that?" and he says "Yeah look" and he shows me the whole convo he had deleted off his phone. My instincts were right, my bf had lied to me, because the text was saying all this stuff about me, not really bad stuff, but still it wasnt nice either. He was telling his friend how I was "bitching" and I "ruined his night" etc. If i had seen that earlier on his phone I wouldnt have gotten mad because its just how he feels about our fight and he was telling his friend, its fine. But what made me mad was that he LIED to me about it, something that hes always had this thing with honesty saying how oh, if you ever take your confidence away from me its going to be over because I never once gave you a reason to doubt me blah blah, and truth is he only did once, until now. (i found out about that too) so honestly i felt kinda like well you've lied twice already so i feel kinda betrayed u know?
So even tho i promised his friend i wouldnt say he showed me, I did bring it up to him. I said that why is it that you deleted the text today? What didnt you want me to see? and he says why are you so paranoid it wasnt even about u? thats when i got mad i was like hey i have reason to ask ok I saw the conversation. And i pretty much caught him in a lie, but in order to save his friend since i promised i said that he had shown me something on his phone and I accidentally saw the conversation. Now my bf has been "out of it" as he puts it, this whole week because he says he feels weird about sunday, like he cant believe i did that and looked thru his friends phone, etc etc and hes trying to make me feel guilty. Am I wrong here? And what can I say to him to make him realize hes the one that messed up without giving away the fact that his friend showed me their conversation?
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Well, you've learned a very valuable lesson - there is no such thing as TOTAL honesty in a relationship, any relationship. I'm afraid you are wrong in this case. However, you both are a little to blame for giving each other the false idea that you should and would be honest about everything. Here's what happened, you and bf had a fight. He was pissed. He needed someone to talk to - guy talk - he texted his friend with the same guy complaints that every guy has about his girlfriend. He didn't want you to see because a) he knew you'd be mad about him talking to someone about his problems and b) it was guy talk. Listen, guys need other guys to talk to and bitch to sometimes. Its not fair to expect him to never bring his relationship problems to another friend when he needs to talk. Its not fair to expect the same thing of you either. And it doesn't even sound like he said anything that bad, he was just letting off steam. Yes he lied to you, but that was because he knew you'd get crazy about it (and it looks like he was right). But he didn't cheat on you or beat you up or do anything horrible. He was getting some things off his chest to a friend. Its not healthy to know EVERYTHING about what your significant other says and does when you're not around. Some things are best kept to yourself. For instance, your best friend is wearing a hideous dress, but she truly loves it and feels great in it, and when she asks if you like it you say yes to spare her feelings. Is that a lie? Technically, but it wasn't necessary for her to know what you were really thinking in that case. it would have hurt her, and for what good?
Its time for you and your boyfriend to be a little more realistic about what total honesty means. Honesty is directly related to trust, and checking each others messages and phones and emails is not a very trusting action, even if you say its ok. I've been married for 11 years. I have NEVER checked my husband's phone. Why? Because there's no need to. We totally trust each other, and sometimes reading someone else's private messages and emails can be like reading someone's diary - you're likely to see something that was never meant for your eyes. Someone can bitch about you and still love you completely. We all get on each other's nerves sometimes. That's normal and natural. Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him you were hurt that he lied to you. And, I hate to say it, but you owe him an apology. Then maybe you two can have an open and (truly) honest conversation about trust and privacy and boundaries.
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I am a 50 year old woman. Great job, great boyfriend, great life.For the first time in years a great life.
My boyfriend has an ex wife that I really don´t have to deal with and yet I can't stop thinking about her.
She recently remarried and I know a few facts from some social networking sites. His work keeps him away from her.
So I created a new email address today and sent her an email asking her a question to put doubts in her head.
This came right on the tail of having spent a wonderful get away weekend with my boyfriend who I have been with for 4 years and does everything in his power to show his love for me.
Why?
Serious anwers please (link)
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You sound like you have extremely deep issues of insecurity. Your actions are not the actions of a rational person. And they are not prompted by the people around you, they are coming from a deeply disturbed and irrational place. You need to seek help before you ruin what you describe as a great relationship. Therapy can be great because you can "talk out" a lot of the feelings you would normally keep buried or hidden. Don't wait. Do it now. You describe your life as great, but how great can it be if you are allowing this strange obsession to sabotage those around you? And if it really is great it won't be for long. Can you imagine what your boyfriend will say when he finds out? Seek help for this problem. You may be truly amazed what you'll uncover about yourself, and how much better you will feel.
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My uncle is really sick and his kidneys are failing him. He's had this kidney trouble for years now and he's been in and out of the hospital. He has not found a donor yet and has been waiting on the list for quite some time. I just found out that I'm a match for him. My mom doesn't want me to donate my kidney though because she says I'm way too young to be doing things like that and that I might end up regretting it later. I'm not sure what to do though. I don't want him to die because he's always been good to me. What should I do? What are the REAL pros & cons of doing this? Help? (link)
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Do some research about donating a kidney before you make a choice. Your desire to help your Uncle is a noble one. But be aware that living with one kidney can create all sorts of health problems and limitations in the future. So do your research and then weigh your decision very carefully. Decide if you can live with the possible consequences. If you decide against it, don't feel guilty. You are kind to even consider it, but its not your responsibility. If you finish your research and you need more clarification, discuss it with your uncle, see what he thinks. Good Luck to you.
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I love my boyfriend. He's been my best friend for as long as I can remember. The only reason why I'm contemplating breaking up with him is because I don't find myself sexually attracted to him.
I'm a very sexual person, and it's important to me... But am I being shallow? (link)
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It sounds like your boyfriend is more like a friend to you, and that's why you love him. Yes, attraction is important, and don't think you are shallow just because you feel that way. Its very natural and its how our bodies search for a good mate. It doesn't make you a "sexual person" just because you want to be sexually attracted to your mate, it just makes you normal. I can see that the real problem here is that you don't want to hurt your bf because he is such a good friend, but sometimes you can't avoid hurting the ones you love. You are not content in this relationship as it is. It may be time to move on from this, as hard as it will be. It will definitely be difficult, but in the long run you will know you did the right thing. There's no need to settle, and you may even be cheating him out of the chance to find someone who is just right for him, and who wants him in all the ways a gf should want a bf. Good luck. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
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okay so this guy from my work is driving me insane i know that he really likes me.. and i have a boyfriend ive told his countless times i am NOT interested and yet he comes up trying to hug me and almost trying to kiss me at times i am constantly puching him away and he wont leave me alone. then he took my phone and started texting my boyfriend pretending to be me... and made me sound like a huggeee bitch. my boyfriend is sick to death of him and would love to beat him up but i dont want to start a huge conflict between my coworkers and me so i told my boyfriend i would take care of it... What Do I Do!!???? (link)
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Tell your manager. He is crossing the line doing this stuff at work. He may need a person in authority to lay down the law for him. Do it as soon as possible.
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well i've been talking to this guy for 3 months now, and we have sex all the time , our parents know each other... i like him ALOT, and i feel like he likes me too. BUT he has a problem making commitment to me . i know he's being loyal to me, but he just doesnt want to be my boyfriend, and everytime i come up on that issue, he says " whats the rush " i get annoyed alot because i like things when their set in stone. he also doesnt talk to me at school, and when we're around certain people he barely pays attention to me . he says that its not me , that thats' just the way he is , and he's shy. i reallllly need him to step it up because i'm getting tired of waiting around but i dont want to lose him either. what can i tell him or show him, so that he'll decide to finally ask me out ? (link)
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Well, why would he be your boyfriend? He gets all the benefits of having a girlfriend without ever having to deal with any of the other stuff, like commitment. Ever heard the saying, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?"I have news for you, and this is a lesson you should learn early because it will apply to EVERY relationship with a man you have in the future - if you want him to make a commitment to you, STOP sleeping with him. He doesn't talk to you or pay attention to you around other people because he doesn't RESPECT you. He will never respect you if you don't respect yourself. But you are willing to sleep with a guy who is not your boyfriend and who has told you right out that he DOESN'T want to be your boyfriend, what does that say about you? What is he supposed to think about you? Stop wasting your time, muster up some self respect and walk away from this guy. I bet you any money he'll pay alot more attention to you once he can't have you. And if he doesn't then you can be sure he was only ever interested in you for sex. You need to find someone to talk to about why you think so little of yourself that you let yourself be used so easily. You sound sweet. I hope you'll be able to feel better about who you are and find a guy who is really into you and who will be totally excited to be called your boyfriend. Just remember - you don't get a boyfriend by sleeping with a guy first and then hoping he'll want to love you.
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So there's this guy that i've had a crush on for forever. He moved and I got a boyfriend (together 9 months) and i forgot about him. But he moved back and my feelings for him returned too, but i also love my boyfriend. The other guy likes me too so he asked me to hang out with him. I wasn't going to because i didn't want to hurt my bf, but i decided i would just to see if i felt anything. So we were hanging out and i let him put his arm around me, he tried to kiss me but i didn't let him. We didn't do anything else. It turns out im not as crazy about him as i thought. Anyways, would this be considered cheating? Should i tell my boyfriend about it? Am i a bad person for doing this?
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Well, it wasn't the best idea you've ever had, I'm sure, but I wouldn't say it makes you a bad person. You just made a poor choice, that's all. Don't tell your boyfriend. What would it solve? You realized you don't like this guy like you thought you did, so nothing more is going to happen. Telling your boyfriend would only make him more insecure, and maybe even jealous. If you did tell him it would be to ease your own feelings of guilt, and that's a little selfish. If you truly love your bf and you're not going to be with this other guy again, let it go. Chalk it up to a bad decision, forgive yourself, and be grateful for the relationship you and your bf have. Some things should just be kept to ourselves. I'm married and even I think that.
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Let's say you have sex 4 days before you're supposed to get your period and you get pregnant (hey, it's possible). Would the period you're supposed to get in 4 days be affected at all or would it only affect your next coming period a cycle later? (link)
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Most likely no. You would still get a regular period as much as two months from conception.
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I had this friend a few years ago and we were really, really close. Things were going fine and dandy and then she started doing these weird things. She started dating a guy that was totally using her (but I really don't know for what exactly). He got her into smoking weed a lot and taking prescription pain pills when he came over to her house on the weekends. He was constantly lying to her about she even found scratch marks on his back from a person. He finally stopped coming over to her house and talking to her and she went crazy, stalked him for awhile, and then moved on to make him jealous. She even thought about becoming a lesbian!
So, she found a guy (from MySpace) that knew the first guy and she started talking with him even though he had a girlfriend. They got together, drank a lot, and had sex in the woods one night. From there on out she stopped talking to ME!
Well, she met my boyfriend and it became a real mess. He doesn't like cigarette smoke and so he asked her, very politely, to please not smoke while he was in the room. She seemed OK with it and before we left that evening I pulled her aside and asked if she thought he was a good guy and she gave me the thumbs up. Then, she stopped answering my calls and started spreading LIES about me (like that I smoke)! I don't know why! She didn't tell ME anything!
Time passed and I heard she was going to marry the guy she met on MySpace. I tried to contact her again about it because we were best friends so that maybe I could see her at the wedding. She freaked out and lied about it, blocked me on myspace and on the phone, and forgot about me. She married that guy the next week.
Personally, I think she dropped me out of her life because I knew all of her dirty secrets. I know so much about the girl I could literally crush her relationship in the blink of an eye. I wouldn't do that though. I'm not that kind of person...but maybe she was afraid she'd make me mad and I would tell it all or something?
Now she sends me a message and wants to be friends. She didn't say anything about being "sorry" or how things went down. What do I do? Should I forgive her insane actions, forget about the drama, and be friends again? (link)
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I have been in this exact same situation... you could have been writing about me! I think your instincts about this one are right. Sometimes when people go completely off the rails they don't want to be around people who have it together and who remind them of all the ways they are messing up. You didn't do anything, but just being who you are was enough to make your friend feel guilty. So in order to feel less guilty she just dropped you. Now she wants to be friends again...the same thing that happened in my situation. Listen, you can forgive her, and you SHOULD forgive her. Unforgiveness is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies. But you'll never forget. And you shouldn't forget. You may forgive her, but you still have to protect your heart. Feel free to communicate politely with her. You were friends once, after all. But leave it at that. Don't expect to go back to old times and don't expect an apology. You have to be willing to forgive her even if she never apologizes to you ever. But you know that she is not a true and loyal friend, so don't let yourself be sucked back into that dysfunctional relationship. As I said, be friendly, email her back, wish her well, be polite, but don't share you life with her. It will only lead to more heartache and you deserve better. You are going to come across people like this from time to time in you life, but as you learn from your experiences, you won't have to get hurt each time. Good Luck.
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Hi,
I'm a 23 year old female and I met my (then) best friend in college a few years back. Right off the bat, we became super close friends. We hung out all the time, talked on the phone almost every night, and not to mention saw each other in class almost everyday. After a few months, we started becoming flirty with each other -- staring, tickling, hugging, jokes, etc. I tried not to do it so much because I knew he had a girlfriend but I still couldn't help feeling the way I did. About 6 months into our friendship, he confessed that he liked me and wanted to date me. I resisted at first because I knew he was in a relationship but he insisted that it was over and he wanted to start over with me. I ended up confessing too and agreed to go out with him. We decided to hang out at his place a few nights later and I ended up drinking too much. The next thing I know, we're making out like mad but didn't have sex. The next day, he calls me and tells me that he's back with his girlfriend and that I didn't do anything wrong, but wouldn't explain why he got back with her so quickly after being with me the previous night. I became angry and embarrassed and felt completely heartbroken. After that, our friendship completely changed. He still called me, but I ignored his calls and made excuses not to hang out with him anymore. I became mean with him and tried to pretend like he didn't exist, to try and push him away, even though we still saw each other almost everyday. As time went by, he started ignoring me too and all communication ceased. But a few months ago, we started talking again and little by little, our friendship seemed to come back to life somewhat. We don't call each other often anymore, but we do talk alot more at school and whenever we see each other around town. While this makes me happy (I have missed his friendship horribly), the confusion is returning because he has become flirty again and makes suggestions about us hooking up. He is still with his girlfriend and living with her. She knows nothing about this. I believe that I am in love with him, and I believe that he still likes me, but I do not want to be used or destroy a relationship. I actually like his girlfriend, but my feelings for him are always tempting me. I have never felt this way before and I am tired of it, because it is nothing but a struggle for me. Should I get him out of my life completely? Or just ignore his flirting and try to continue to be friends like before? Being around him makes me happy, but the constant sadness is making me miserable. Please help me.
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This is sad. I think this guy is playing games with you. I think he's the type that likes having a stable relationship but also feels safe with options on the side, just in case his relationship doesn't work out. Just step back and really think about this... if he cared for you the way you care for him, would he be with someone else? Would you? I think you've already answered this for yourself. You know this isn't healthy. As much as it will hurt you, the right thing for all involved, especially you, is to back off. You an still remain friendly in class and when you see him around, but don't bother calling or texting this guy, or hanging out. He's trouble. He may make you feel happy for a few minutes, but then you're miserable for days. That's not the sign of a good relationship. Back off of this one. You're wasting your time. Your feelings won't go away right away, but if you stay strong they will eventually disappear, and then maybe you can be open to finding a guy who truly cares for you and you only and wants nothing more than to see you happy. Good Luck!
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i'm trying to go on a diet but i get so hungry all the time that i can't stop eating. even when i'm not hungry i just want to eat because i like food so much.
are there any easy home exercises i can do to lose a lot of weight really quickly?
also, i want to go on a diet but its almost impossible because im addicted to food. what should i do to stop wanting to eat/thinking about food all the time? and what kind of diet should i go on? thanks!!! (link)
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This is exactly why diets don't work - because you're always depriving yourself of something. When you deprive yourself of something it just makes you want to eat it more. The first syllable in diet is DIE. Nuff said! Instead of trying to cut out certain things, you should concentrate on your portion sizes. One program that I highly recommend for this is Weight Watchers. Its cheap ($10/wk), its effective, and it teaches you how to eat in the REAL world. There's not going to be carrots and apples wherever you go. WW teaches you how to enjoy the food you have around you while controlling how much of it you eat. I lost 75lbs. in one year on WW. Not special food, not diet tips, I didn't even exercise (honestly, never). I just learned that I can eat whatever I want, I just can't eat as MUCH of it as I want. Go to their website to learn more. You'll be surprised about what you find out about yourself and how you view food. Good Luck.
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I just met my biological dad and his son who is my brother i spent a week with them over spring break and we all grew close, now that im back at home (which is 9 hours away from them) i miss them so much i text my biological dad and brother daily telling them i miss them and yes, love them. Now my mom checks my text messages and i guess it hurts her to see that i indeed love them. she gets mad cuz i want to go back home where my bro and bio dad are mainly because my bro has cancer and is going through chemo and i want to be there for him. how do i handle both parents? i hate making my mom feel like shes losing me but shes not, and i am NOT going to stop talking to my bio dad and brother, i just want to know how i can deal with them, my mom is always getting mad now cuz im not happy here, but i never have been happy here since we moved here. all i want is to go back to my homeland. how do i love both parents without making the other feel left out or feeling like im being lost to the other parent? am i wrong for loving my biological dad and brother so much? (link)
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This is a tough one. Its important you know that you haven't done anything wrong. You don't say if you were adopted or your mother had a relationship with your bio-Dad. If you were adopted I'm sure there is some insecurity in you mother that you will "like your other family better". If she once had a relationship with him, she may still be carrying a lot of hurt and bad feelings. I had the same problem when I was a kid. I met my Dad after 10 years. He turned out to be not the greatest guy, but he was ok, and I loved him anyway, even if some of the things he said and did were hurtful sometimes. My Mom used to yell at me and say I should just forget about him, that he was a loser, but she didn't understand that it didn't matter to me what happened between them. And your mother needs to understand the same thing. You're going to have to sit down with her, in a time of peace, not when you're fighting. Sit down and tell her it hurts you that she can't share in the happiness of this new time in your life. Let her know just what you said here, that she is NOT losing you, and no matter what happened in the past, your bio-Dad is your FATHER and nothing else. He may have been a jerk to her in the past, but it is not your job to hold him responsible for all any of that. Let her know you plan to continue to keep in contact with him and you enjoy getting to know him and your brother, but also be sure to tell her you love her too. You may think your texts are just nice and warm things to say to the knew people that you love, but she may read them as slurs against her, she may feel that her home isn't good enough for you and you want to leave her. You need to have an honest conversation with her. There is nothing wrong with this new relationship you have discovered, however, be careful not to romanticize it. Your father and brother are only human as well, and they may disappoint you at some point. Being so far apart from them it can be easy to start imagining life with them as so much better than what you have, but keep in mind that you just met them, and you are all just getting to know each other, so don't be in such a rush to leave your mother. However, do continue to keep in close contact with them and visit often. After you've talked with your Mom, try not to let her anger affect you. Whatever her issues are, they belong to her, not you. Good luck. This sounds like an amazing new chapter in your life and you are blessed to have the opportunity to expand your family. Enjoy!
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Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He is 18/m, and i am 17/f. He recently went on vacation with his friends, and when he came back he had made a lot of friends on the resort. One of the friends name is Bridget. Now, let me say something. I know for a FACT that my boyfriend would NEVER physically cheat on me, due to past experiences. Its just, he talks to bridget, a lot. A longgg wall to wall, always texting her, he calls her at night sometimes (and yes, i did snoop one night when he was in the shower, btw we dont live together, i just am always at his house). I feel like he's emotionally cheating on me, and has strong feelings for her.
Another thing...she is the complete oposite of me. i have brown hair, brown eyes. I am 5'4", i am a runner and a swimmer and naturally pale. She is blond hair, blue eyes, close to 5'10" ( my bf is 6') and she is a volleyball player and insanely tan...all the time. From what ive heard, she doesnt want kids, and hates pets. I want to be a mother and i love animals and work in training animals. She is really into scary movies and gore, while i cant bare to even see them without throwing up, and he loves scary movies. She lives 5 hours away from us, but...im scared. Shes going to take the train here in april to hang out with all of the people she met and with her firends. I really dont want her to. My boyfriend wants me to meet her, but im not sure i want to. Do you think he has feelings for her? how should i deal with her coming to visit? Thank you all (link)
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This doesn't sound totally right to me. You can't stop her coming, so I would suggest laying low and just observing. Be kind and welcoming and do your best to welcome her and hang out with her and your other friends as much as possible. While you're hanging out just observe how they interact. If your boyfriend expresses the wish to spend time alone with her, without you while she's visiting, then that's a red flag. So just keep your eyes open, but try not to get too crazy until you see for yourself how they are together.
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okayy I LOVE THE SHOW 16 & Pregnant! And I have always wondered how to give a new born baby a bath when you get to take it home... (link)
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You're actually not supposed to bathe a newborn for a few weeks. Cloth baths are the best way to clean the baby until they are a few weeks. Once the baby is a little older, moms will either use a baby tub or just the kitchen sink and just enough water to cover the baby about half-way, using a gentle baby soap. But even the soap is not necessary for a baby. Sometimes just water is better for their sensitive skin.
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what are five pieces of advice from The Outsiders?
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The Outsiders the book?movie?
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