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I enjoy trying to ruin my man's ex-wife's new life! Why?
I am a 50 year old woman. Great job, great boyfriend, great life.For the first time in years a great life.
My boyfriend has an ex wife that I really don´t have to deal with and yet I can't stop thinking about her.
She recently remarried and I know a few facts from some social networking sites. His work keeps him away from her.
So I created a new email address today and sent her an email asking her a question to put doubts in her head.
This came right on the tail of having spent a wonderful get away weekend with my boyfriend who I have been with for 4 years and does everything in his power to show his love for me.
Why?
Serious anwers please
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You sound like you have extremely deep issues of insecurity. Your actions are not the actions of a rational person. And they are not prompted by the people around you, they are coming from a deeply disturbed and irrational place. You need to seek help before you ruin what you describe as a great relationship. Therapy can be great because you can "talk out" a lot of the feelings you would normally keep buried or hidden. Don't wait. Do it now. You describe your life as great, but how great can it be if you are allowing this strange obsession to sabotage those around you? And if it really is great it won't be for long. Can you imagine what your boyfriend will say when he finds out? Seek help for this problem. You may be truly amazed what you'll uncover about yourself, and how much better you will feel.
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Honestly, if you need to delve into your deep-seeded insecurities and darkest motivations to figure out why, you need to go do that with a therapist. In the meantime, don't be a destructive meddling bitch. I’m sorry if you find that unkind, but you are adult women who reached out to attempt to sabotage a complete stranger’s relationship. That doesn’t warrant a kind response. That warrants a firm kick in the ass.
No one here can read your mind. We can throw out reasons like insecurity, boredom, drama-seeking, demonic possession, but they are just guesses. We have no further insight to your behavior then you do. Regardless of why you behaved this way, you need to get the behavior under control or it’s liable to seep into other aspects of your life.
If your behavior is something you need to understand in order to overcome, seek therapy to talk out how you are thinking about these situations that led you to this behavior.
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