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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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anyone know where i can find jeans with hearts on the pockets? i saw someone where them & i thought they were cute.
thanks
I dont know of any stores. just look around your stores or ask the employees. they would know.
if you cant find any, you could just go to a fabric store and buy a heart patch and then sew it onto the jeans.
so, i really really like this guy. and recently he hasn't been talking to me much, at alll.. i wanna get him to notice me. what are flirtation tricks and what should i say or do? and are there any particular ways to do makeup and hair that are attracting?
Make up and hair isn't all that important. just make it look cute, and not like you tried too hard. There's too many girls out there who apply wayyy too much make up on, just to impress people. hair- just do something cute. curl it, crimp it, straighten it. do half up half down. braids, french braids, side bangs. to be honest, most guys dont really care about that kind of stuff. i have a lot of guy friends and they all told me that they really dont care how your hair or make up looks... as long as you look hot.
just act as you would normally act. dont change yourself just to impress a guy. if you have to change yourself to do that, he's not worth it. just be yourself and he'll like you for who you are, not what you have become.
but if you REALLY want some ways to attract him, you could act cute and flirty. smile and laugh a lot. guys dont find depressed sad girls attractive. unless he's into a deep mysterious girl. if he is, then you can be a little mysterious like mention something big but dont say any more info about it. it will make him want to know more about you. be fun. guys don't find boring girls attractive. so if he asks you what you like to do for fun.. dont say watch tv or sleep. he'll get bored of you. say something like water parks, or bowling etc. whatever you like to do. its important you dont lie and make something up, just to impress him. it always ends in disasters when you do that.
talk to him as you would to a normal friend. be a little more touchy, like touch his arm or have your feet touch. stare into his eyes (not like STARE.. like creepy stare) but stare like that gazing stare that shows youre interested. umm... play hard to get. like look at him, but when he looks at you, look away for a second then look back. if he tries to talk to you, show interest.. then walk away. it makes him want more. ask him to hang out, then say you can't hang out for a few days. give him your number to talk.
just be yourself.
20/f. It me and my boyfriends 1 year anniversary coming up next week, he has recently moved away to another state but we still talk everyday blah blah.. you know the rest. Anyway I am flying to see him and we are staying at a nice hotel together and we are going to dinner etc. but i really want to buy him somthing nice for our anniversary, does anyone have any ideas on what i could buy him? (We are both 20.)
you could buy something like a picture frame or a scrap book and then put pictures in it of you 2. or you could buy him a necklace or ring.
this is my opinion though, its more special if its made. not bought. So you can make him something like take a jar and make 365 notes (like 365 days in 1 year) and on each note, write a memory of you 2. Or you could bake him a cake or brownies. you can make him a blanket or pillow. perhaps a quilt of some fabric that he likes? maybe even take pictures of you guys and somehow transfer them onto fabric and stitch them onto the blanket? You could make a collage of images, make a painting for him, buy a painting. maybe if he plays a sport, find an autograph of his sports idol. or have them sign something. you could buy him some concert tickets. You could make him a mix CD of your guys' favorite songs. You could be cheesy and buy him a teddy bear. you could be sexy and buy him something naughty. you could surprise him by taking him out dancing. or star gazing. or have a bonfire.
my point is, it doesnt have to be something you buy. it could be something made, or something you do.
just be creative and if you have an idea (but dont exactly know what to do) just go along with it. its like art. you can't plan what you're going to do. just start doing something and eventually it will look like a masterpiece.
good luck :)
I have this little spot on my face right next to my nose that gets super dry. It is almost like a little rash, or well i'm really not sure what it is. it hurts and it peels and its red...but i dont know what it is...any suggestions?
it's probably just irritated. don't rub it or scratch it. don't put any make up on it.
take some Aloe Vera Gel and put some on it. it's meant for irritation and it soothes it. (I normally use it for sunburn but it works for rashes too) let it dry. then put on a soothing cream. I use some vaseline and Aveeno lotion.
once it stops becoming red and hurts (basically when its normal skin but dry and flakey) then what you can do it exfoliate that skin patch so it gets rid of the dry skin. If you dont have an exfoliant, you can take some lotion and put it on the skin, then take a rough towel and softly scrub the dry flakey skin off. then re apply with lotion
so i have dated this guy for 2 years on and off. and in august we broke up and 2 weeks later he started dating this other girl.. my feelings for him never went away. i even tried dating other men and now its february and i miss him soo much that its getting to the point that it hurts and i can't focus in my studies.. and i have gotten signs from him that he misses me somewhat too, but he is crazy about his girlfriend.. i want to tel him how i feel, but i dont want his girlfriend finding out, considering were friends...i've been praying for a miracle and i want everything to just fall into place. his new girlfriend makes him so unhappy and he was a way happier person when i was with him.. how do i let him know how i feel? what should i do? its been 7 months of being patient and i can't take it anymore. i miss him so much it legitimately hurts. ):
spill everything out to him. just ask him one day "can we talk? not like for 10 minutes. longer than that. its serious" and then just tell him EVERYTHING that's on your mind. don't hold anything back. I hate when I talk with someone and then after they leave I think "i should have said this. or i should have said that". i hate when i do that. so just spill everything out.
then let him spill everything out ask him how he feels about this. then the rest is just fate. You guys just need to talk and sort it through. nobody on here, or nobody in the world, can tell you what to say or do. You gotta figure that out.
just let the chips fall into place and let it be fate. if you guys end up fighting and screaming, then it wasn't meant to be. but if you guys become friends again or even get back together, then it was mean't to be.
good luck :)
16/f
I think I might have a urinary tract infection. I checked the symptoms online, and they all match up. I'm going to tell my mom to take me to the doctor, but I'm worried he'll ask me questions about it in front of my mom and I don't want my mom to find out that I am sexually active, because I think that's what caused it :/ I don't have a car so I can't take myself to the doctor's,so she'll have to take me but I just don't want the doctor to ask me in front of my mom if i've had sex :/ please help, any advice will do thanks!
hon you have to tell your mom you had sex. I know its uncomfortable and you don't want to. But she's going to have to know. She NEEDS to know. because when you want birth control, she's going to have to be there to get it. also, don't you want to be able to tell your mom anything?? Like say you really need advice and need someone to talk to... and say its embarassing. well if you tell your mom about this, then any other problem wont' be as bad
take my advice because i would do ANYTHING to go back in time and change the relationship between me and my mother. I kept a lot of secrets from her and pretty soon, 1 secret led to another and eventually I hid my whole life from her. Its not that I wanted to hid it from her.. its just life. Its how life works. 1 lie leads to another and eventually it all become a mess. So now me and my mother don't really share much information and its tough for me because i've realized what i've done wrong. and whenever i want to go to her for advice, i can't. because she doesn't trust me anymore.
Its really easy to lose someone's trust. but really hard to gain it all back. My mom lost my trust because i've lied so much. but now i realized what i did wrong and i know that its wrong.
so do me a favor and tell your mom. I would give anything to be able to tell my mom the truth about things. be grateful you have a mother who listens to you and whom you can tell anything to.
good luck
im female and 18, there is this one guy at my job that i really like and my friend told him that i thought he was cute and he told her i am pretty, so the same day, valentines day, he saw me go to where my friend was and he brought me a flower, and it was so sweet how he gave it to me, which made me like him even more. so, my friend told me today that he wanted to ask me out yesterday, but he was too nervous. how could i make it so he won't be so nervous around me and i wont be so nervous around him, so we will start dating, he is the sweetest guy that i have ever met, so i just dont know what to do because i like him a lot...thanks!!
I know that whenever I'm nervous about anything, I just breathe and laugh and smile. Breathing deeply relaxes you. Laughing takes your mind off the stress. and smiling is just the extra that makes everything so much better.
If you see that he's nervous, just laugh and be like "hey lighten up" and then smile.
also, do what the other person said. Exchange numbers and talk a little more. Maybe ask him to hang out? Don't ask him on a date yet because that's moving too fast. just ask casually like- hey what are you doing tonight (or any night)? and be like- well i've got no plans but maybe we could chill out or something after work? maybe grab a bite to eat?
just relax and enjoy the ride :)
I have really oily skin and I need a product that won't completely dry out my skin and make my acne worse, do you have any suggestions of what I should buy?
I don't really know what acne product to recommend to you. There's so many out there. i use oxy spot treatment. But my skin is some days dry and flaky, and other days its oily.
you could go to www.skinid.com and you just choose your stress level, skin type, and then they recommend the best product for you.
you could go to your doctor/dermatologist to ask for help.
you could buy Zeno (its a little thing that heats up and you put it on a pimple and the hot heat destroys the bacteria in the pimple and vanishes it)
You could buy oil blotting sheet. I know clean and clear has them. you just wipe it all over your face and it absorbs the oil.
I have this group of friends at church that i've been friends with for like forever - i'm 18 now and I have just come back from school outside the country - i'm doing Varsity at home. I have this one friend he's reely cool but i've only recently gotten over our other friend (who was acting reely weird and aloof 4 the last 2 yrs and only now is himself kinda) and well i dont have a crush on him or anything and i have always been my usual, albeit toned down, self but now he's being reely weird and aloof - i dont know wether to ask him whats up or to just stop pushing myself to say hi and smalltalk - i reely liked the friendship and i dont think he's into me at all - if u want me to elaborate on anything so u get a rounder view jst say so
I think you should say Hi and small talk with him. There's no harm in being friendly. If he simply isn't interested, then it wasn't meant to be. Just move on to the next guy.
Good luck :)
Whats a good topic for a website?
I would like to make one but I want a topic that people would actually look at and/or look up.
Suggestions?!
you could make one for entertainment. Like if someone gets bored, they could go on your website and play a bunch of games, look at gossip, read jokes, look at pictures, videos, rate things like popular movies, music, etc.
or you could have a research website. like pick a topic and do research about it and write it all down. Like for example- why do some shampoos make hair voluminous, while others get rid of dandruff? what's different inside the shampoo?
or you can choose a major topic in the world, and write your opinion on it, and start a major discussion board or debate. Like Haiti for example. You can start a debate about why do some people in the world take action and do something to help? while others don't bother?
just browse other websites to get ideas, or look at the news, or magazines. etc.
I need some advice:
I'm a 19 year old female, and I am dating a 16 year old boy. He will be 17 in July, as I will be 20 in October. We have been dating a few months now. I don't know if we should be doing this. I've received mixed opinions from those around me. Some have said to continue dating him, as we have feelings for each other, and that age is just a number. Where as others have said they don't believe it's right, or moral.
He doesn't think like a 16 year old boy. He doesn't even live with his parents, or even family for that matter. He works, lives on his own with roommates. Has his own car. Everything.
If you need more details, let me know, but I think this should be enough for you to help me.
this is my opinon...
do what you want.
who really cares about what other people think? If you really love him and like him and want to spend time with him, then don't let other people's thoughts get in the way. Just because some people might not think its right, doesn't mean you need to listen to them and make them happy.
you need to do what you want. I know thats technically considered selfish.. but its only selfish if you are hurting other people in the way.
If you think its wrong, then dont do it. stay friends. but if you don't care about age, then be together.
how can i give my hair more volume on the top? i don't like those poof things i just want the top to have volume. any shampoos or something? thanks
Oh there's lots and lots of shampoos and conditioners made for volume. but i dont think they work that well. Have you tried mousse? just spray some mousse onto your hands and then flip your head upside down and apply mousse to the roots of your hair, and then blow dry your hair with your head upside down. You don't neccessairly need the mousse, because just by blow drying your hair with your head upside down, will give you lots of volume.
also if you have a straightener with curved edges, you could take some hair and then clip the straightener at the roots and then press and turn the straightener a little so that way, the curved edges give you that bump (aka volume) look.
spray hair with head upside down to keep the volume.
hey, my ex has this girlfriend and i wanna win him over!
how do attract him again and what should i do to
get him back? like are there any tricks or seduction techniques to do? lol this might sound weird but i head he has a foot fetish ! what should i do to attract him?
umm.. yeah... i don't think thats the right choice. Its the truth.
first of all, you do this... you're gonna regret it. His girlfriend is going to hate you and do everything possible to make sure that you don't have him, and all it's going to do is cause drama and stress.
second of all, how would you feel if some girl did the same to you?? Say you have an AMAZING boyfriend and you love him soo much, then comes along his ex and tries to steal him back from you. You wouldn't like it, now would you?? Nope, didnt think so. Do yourselves both a favor and just stay out of it.
it's THEIR relationship. so don't mess with it. Let them do whatever they want. Let them be together until they break up. Then.. when they do break up, only then, you are allowed to seduce him and have him.
Please listen to me. Don't be like the other sluts around the world, who hate the truth and don't listen to anyone and do whatever they want. If you do this, you're really selfish. Because you're not caring about how they feel, you just care about how you feel. You'd hurt him and her, just for your benefit?? Thats immature.
Be mature. Grow up. Let them be together until they can't stand each other anymore. Then you can make your move. until then, stay out of it.
how should i get noticed?
i just wrote a song and its reaaally good.
should i send it to a radio station?
idk where to go from here but i know that it will be a hit.
it's called "and then you came" its like a cute tay swift song mixed with kate voegle and then i wrote another one called your love makes me higher and it sounds like a justin beiber song!
what you could do is find someone with a really amazing voice, and record them singing it, then put it on youtube (make sure you put "lyrics by: ______" so that way you get recognized. Justin Bieber was found on youtube.
you can't really send it to a radio station just as lyrics. you need someone to sing it. its like sending a needle without any fabric to a dress maker. they need the needle AND fabric, to do their job. so in this case, they need the right lyrics AND the right singer, to put it on the radio.
try getting a band together and signing up for major events. like concerts. there's a lot of agents and producers that show up at concerts, so if you form a GOOD band, enter a contest, and stand out to the agents... you could possibly make it.
Let me just remind you of how hard it is to make it to the big time and how little make it. But if it's your dream, you gotta go after it :)
maybe even search on google or even your local city website for agents, concerts, producers, etc.
good luck!
PS: I want to give you my opinion on something. I'm honestly sick of hearing the same styles of songs.. T Swift, Kate Voelge, Justin Bieber... they all have the same style. retro-pop with some lovey dovey lyrics. I want some originality out there. I know its hard to come up with something different, but we need something else. something to spice things up. So I think you should come up with some lyrics that are different than all these hollywood stars come up with. One of my favorite songs is Stuck by Stacie Orrico. check that song out. Its not like anything I hear on the radio anymore. Its about being stuck on a person and loving them but hating them. Just listen to it and get an idea from it.
well,there is this guy who is a year older then me who keep checking me out and his locker is right across from mine, so he added me on facebook and now we have a poke war (which i started) so i inboxed him saying "you know ill win this pokewar" and he said "no i think you are mistaken i will not give up" etc.But know when he sees me in person he still stares but look super nervous and akward.So i was wondering if i should talk to him person for the first time and what should i say?
sure talk to him! you've got nothing to lose. you don't have to be super cute and act flirty and slutty.. but just try to be his friend. maybe when you see him, mention the pokewar. as a starter. just be like "you know i'm going to win this pokewar" and smile and laugh. then if you have a chance, just talk to him. be like "so what classes are you taking?" just find something you guys have in common, and then talk about it.
he's probably nervous to talk to you, so if you dont get the guts to do it... then how are you 2 ever going to be together???
good luck :)
PS: remember, courage is a turn on for a guy!
So that guy told me he liked me so here is the thing we have no problem texting we always have good convos and its hardly boring but im scared in person we wont talk cause his past girlfriend my best friend him and her never talked.?I also wanna go out with him what do i do?
wait... he went out with your best friend???
if he did.. don't go out with him. that's really rude and selfish. you're not thinking about your friends feelings. how do you think she would feel if you guys did go out? or better yet... how would YOU feel if she did the same thing to you.. went out with your ex? you wouldn't like it, would you?
if he didn't go out with her- just be yourself and talk about random stuff. keep talking no matter what and keep the conversations flowing.
if its awkward between you guys, try to fix it. if that doesn't work, talk to him about it. if that still doesnt work.. then maybe it wasn't meant to be.. i believe in fate :)
17/f I really liked this boy last year I thought he was really cute. So he graduated and I was really sad because I never got to talk to him. He was new to our school and didn't have any friends and people thought he was weird and socialably awkward. Anyway a week ago I took a risk and added him on myspace he accepted we talked a little he asked for my number we had a lot in common and then two days ago he asked me to hang out. But I couldn't because I had school the next day and it was late. But the thing is he asked for my number and texted me that day for a few hours and then next day nothing then the next day I texted him and it was great and he asked me to hang out so Yano I couldn't. Next day he didn't text me at all but my friend talked me into testing him and asking him to hang out and the conversation went like this I asked him he asked me where when time I told him and he said oh ok sounds good. I think I have to work but earlier. So what does this mean? Yes no? Am I being too persistent! I've never done this. So help is appreciated.
if he's taking the time to talk to you a few HOURS.. then he's totally into you. If you asked him to hang out and and he said yes, then that's another sign he might be into you. don't get ahead of yourself now. he might just like you as a friend. you still gotta test him. maybe flirt a little and see how he responds. My guess is that he likes you, but is shy to confront you about it.
just relax and let fate take its way :) oh and be yourself
so theres this boy in the year abouve me in school an i like him quite alot. at first it was just the usual crush but now as time has gona on i actually love him, but the thig is hes got a girlfriend and no matter how hard a try to forget about him i just cant. i cheeck his facebook 5-6 times a day and even if it just says he friends with someone new i have to look who it is, my friends say im obsessed with him and i al ways use to just tell them that they were wrong but there not i think i have some sort of obsession with him that just wont go away, ive tryed liking someone else but it dont work. what shall i do ?
umm yeahh that's a little bit too obsessive hahaha.
he's with another girl, hun. so do yourself a favor and just step out of this. If you get involved, it will cause drama.
I know its hard to forget about a guy, i've had to try to forget about a guy and i know its hard. I've been in a situation where i liked a guy so much, then one day.. he stopped talking to me. no reason or excuse. he just stopped talking to me. like i never existed. its been a month and a half since we last talked and seen each other and i still think about him every day. but you know what? you gotta live with it. that's life.. you're going to feel this way. maybe even more than once. learn how to deal with it now, that way in the future, it won't be as hard
try to take your focus off of him (i know its hard). take everything that reminds you of him, out of your life. Ask your friend to change your facebook password, that way you won't be tempted to check his profile page every day. i'm serious about this one. have someone change your password. If you have a song(s) that remind you of him, take them off your ipod. any pictures, delete them.
then go out and have fun. have a girls night out, go party, join a club or sport, go to concerts, take up yoga, make a movie, etc. just have fun!!!
live everyday as if it was your last. no regrets.
also- if he has a girlfriend and doesn't show interest in you... it probably wasn't meant to be. i believe in fate
good luck!
Kay. My boyfriend (whos now my ex) left to teach in another country last year and during that time i found him on a dating website and we broke up over aim. Just recently I've been talking to him and some of his friends are meeting him at the airport when he comes home and he asked me to go. I actually think that he wants to get back together with me (based on some things he said) and i would like to get back with him but i don't want to make it easy for him, you know?? Sooo should i go to the airport or would it be better if i didn't?? Its happening in like 2 days so any advice is appreciated!! =]
i would. because if you don't, it will send the wrong message. that you aren't interested. it's better to send a message that says "hey lets get back together" right away, than to think you're playing hard to get, but he thinks youre not interested. got it?
just show up at the airport with something thats a nice gesture. like a card, or coffee, or balloons. nothing too extreme. then just talk and be casual. don't bring up getting back together. if he brings it up, just say "i need more time to think". let him wait for a few days and make him chase you. drop a few hints like "i'm busy tomorrow but i'm not sure about the day after?" that will make him think about calling you. hence, chasing you. let him know where you'll be a few times and what times (not all the time) that way it will make him chase you a little. if he calls you the first time, ANSWER it. then after that, ignore his calls for a while, then call him back.
key here is- make him think about you.
then after a few days of playing hard to get, talk to him about getting back together. then fate takes it from there :)
if you guys dont' get back together, then it wasn't meant to be.
good luck!
I want to dye my hair a deep red, i want it to be dark, but still tell that there is a red tint to it. i like mohagany hair colors and burgundy, but i DONT want anything too plum or purpley or like orange redhead. I'm black and like Meagan Good's skin color. http://wastingcotime.files.wordpress.com/2007/06/meagan_good_1502.jpg
I'm looking for good reds that will look good with my skin color
my hair is a light brown/ dirty blonde and I dyed my hair the exact same color as you want and it looks really pretty :) Its a brown but when a light or sun hits your hair, you see the red tone and people have told me that its really pretty and unique. this is what i use- revlon medium rich brown. color number-47. also you could try- loreal dark mahogany brown.
i hope i helped!