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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
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Hey
so i got side bangs about a year ago. they were horrible and i ended up getting cowlicks because the little hairs wouldnt stay to one side. ive let them grow out but there are still these little hairs or wisps that drive me crazy and wont seem to grow out. im just really frustated and want to cut the little hairs from the root, but im scred they will grow back funny. any suggestions?

you haveta let your hair grow out, and in time it will, trust me. I know how yuh feel haha. But you can also..
-use hairspray to keep the hair down
-put some hair gel [a tiny bit] wherew the whisps are.
-use bobby pins or hair clips on the whisps.
Just don't cut them, because that will make it worse. Sucks, I know. but that's all you can do for now :]
hope I helped ! good luck, xxo.

when a guy tells me that he isnt glad he is diabetic because im so0 sweet hat does that mean.. does it mean he rlly likes me.. i mean i really think he likes me.. plz answer and i will rate U.. thanks

he most definetly likes you, and is being really flirtyyy.
seriously. this is like so obvious that he likes you haha. so cute :] awww.

good luckk, have funnn. xxo :]

I know this sounds silly, but I got my hair cut a little while ago and I hate it. It's too short. And I tried to fix my bangs and I hate it. It doesn't look bad, I just hate how it looks. I want to just pin my bangs back, but they are angled, so not all of them stay up, so I was wondering if anyone knew any sites that have hair styles ideas I could try? I don't want cuts, I just want styles like pinning parts of it up or special ponytails or something. Pictures would be nice, but aren't necessary.

Thank you (:

I have some ideas/pictures for you that might spark some imagination/inspiration :] ...

http://www.curly-hair-styles-magazine.com/images/jessica-simpson-short-hair-07.jpg
-you can make it curly like this and just sepearte your bangs, or pin them to the side with a bobby-pin or any type of clip

http://www.funkytrend.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/france-luxe-headband.jpg
-just use a headband to push it all back, and either let the back stay flat or poof it up a little with hair spray and/or gel.

http://hairstyletwist.com/blog/2007/12/16/ashlee-simpson-with-curly-bob/
-scroll down, and it explains it and shows the picture

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_KZhLglXNCxI/RX9Drh6XLzI/AAAAAAAAAGE/zqOGwtHWjJ4/s400/pigtails.jpg
-she put a clip in her hair and tied a very little ponytail in the back [its a wierd angle, but you can kinda see it.] it's very cuteee.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/141/349937071_2c1dd32255_m.jpg
ahahhaa. forget the color of this. but it clearly shows you the braid in the hair [best picture i could find, sorry] my friend has veryyy short hair, and does this., she also has angled. it looks really good.

hope this helped, if you need anything else, just ask me and i'll ask my friend how she does all of this :] haha. xxo. good luck and have funnnn.

Okay, so last friday my boyfriend and i were sitting in our friends van skipping resource and our dean pulls up. he noticed there was mucinex like everywhere so we had to go to the office and get searched and simple tests done to see if we were high. He was, and he had pills on him, so he got arrested and expelled for a year. I wasnt but i had a knife on me and i had to go to STOP which is like school at the detention center and my mom serched my room and found pipes for smoking marijuana, condoms and a bunch of other stuff. so im really groundedlike i cant shut my door cant go on walks i lost my privilage of smoking cigarettes, i dunno but me and my mom have been constantly fighting and ive noticed i like..pull my hair out. I dont even realize im doing it half the time. but my hair is noticable thinner now and i dont like it and i dont think its normal...what should i like do about it. Also, i bite my fingernails till they bleed, which is also not normal..

I have a feeling that you're doing this because...

1. you don't know what to do with yourself, so you do these things.
2. frustrated with the situation you are in [which i believe leads to you biting your nails to hte point where they bleed] and also angry with yourself and the situation at hand [which leads to you pulling out your hair]
3. you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself to take your mind off of the situation.
4. you, in your own way, are punishing yourslef for what you did.

what you need to do is get help. I agree with the person who answered this first. I think rehab would be best, and if you brought this up with your parents [about going to rehab or some kind of therapist] they would be proud of you for WANTING to change and admitting that you have a problem. in the end, once you get help, your life will be 20 times better. :]
hope I helped ! good luck ! xxo :]

okay ive been peeing really pale yellow pee. like so pale its almost completely clear. And it doesnt do it all the time, like it will do it then it wont for like the next few times i pee and then it will. Im not dehydrated. Is there something wrong with me? I really dont want to go to the doctors.

Don't worry, this is perfectly normal. it just means that you are hydrated fully ... if you want to read up on it, there are some good answers on this site ...
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080819093550AArM2mu
- you are perfectly normal, there is no need to visit the doctorrr :]
hope I helped ! good luckk, xxo :]

so the phrase "thats cool" is overrated.
so instead i now say "thats chill"
but now, a bunch of people in my school are saying it.

i need a new phrase!
like, "thats ________" (beast,bomb,etc.)

please and thank youuu.

you could say ...

"thats rad"
"thats sick"
"thats intense"
"thats wicked"
"thats sweet"
"thats hot" -- hahaha totally kidding for that one :]
"thats sketchy"
"thats sketch"

It really depends on the context you use it in, but those are the most original ones I could come up with :] hope I got you your new phrase :] or inspired one :] good luck ! xxo have fun

im going to prom this year and i have no idea how to wear my hair. i have long dark brown hair that comes past my shoulders. i usually wear it curly or sometimes straight. im kinda pale but not really. oh and im 5'2. idk if thats important but there you go. :] this is what my dress looks like.....http://www5.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?ItemID=157ccb9&ItemTyp=G&GrpTyp=PRD&ShowMenu=T&ShopBy=0&SearchString=prom+dresses&RefPage=SearchDepartment.aspx&s4PageSize=15&CmCatId=searchresults&Search1Prod=True&S4Filter=N%7c0%7cNtt%7cprom+dresses%7cNtk%7csearch_all%7cNao%7c15%7cNty%7c1%7csid%7c11F982C9EB70%7cNtx%7cmode%2bmatchallpartial%7cNtpr%7c1%7cNtpc%7c1.....thats the link. ha but im really opened to any ideas. many thanks.

I have some ideas for you, I hope it gives you some inspiration :] ...

http://www.imageandstylenews.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/05/prom-hairstyles-4.jpg
-very cute

http://www.phijhe.com/wp-content/hairstyle/2009/01/awesome-long-prom-hairstyles-4.jpg
-this would look really good

http://www.women-hairstyles.com/images/half-updo.jpg
-this would be a cute idea too :]

http://images.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/20070808/425.parker.olsen.080807.jpg
-look at the one of hayden panitere, [the first picture] i think that would be so cute and simple

http://www.prom-dresses.com/2002/images/hairstyles.jpg
-this one would be SO COOL but with a little less poof.

hope this helped and i made sure the styles matched your dress :] xxo ! good luck and have fun !

well there are triplets that are all my friends. they have two girls and a boy. i like one of the girls a little better and when i want to invite just one on a sleepover i feel like i have to invite the other one because they'll know about it. what do i do?

Well, considering that I'm a triplet, I have a brother and a sister, I know how to handle your situation :]
ok so, i know that's tough. because you don't want to hurt anyones feelings, but seriously, they aren't a package deal. Everyone thinks that just because you are a triplet, it's either all of us or none of us. and it's so not like that. But go ahead and just invite the girl you like better over, the other one will be a little confused and maybe a bit upset at first, but this will pass. you can just say that you wanted some alone time with her sister and then invite the other one [just you and her] somewhere another time, like the mall or somehting. So that she doesn't feel unwanted and feels like you want to get ot know her better too.
Or you could just invite them both over and try to get to like the other one as much as you like her sister :]
it's just some options, but hope I helped, because I can speak from experience, I've been through this :] it HAS happened to me. hope I helped :] xxo.

So i've been sporting the same hairstyle FOR EVER now. I need some new ideas. I have blonde hair with blue eyes. And I want to make my eyes POP.
I currently have side bangs (that are starting to grow out) with layers starting below my chin. I want something different
My face is really round, and I want something that flatters it. What should I get done?
Thank you :3

I have some ideas for you that I hope will spark some inspiration :] ...

http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/O/n/kclarkson.JPG
-SO CUTE!!

http://gimps.de/pictures/269-Hairstyles-for-Short-Hair
-I really like this [but the first link is still my favorite] :]

http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/u/h/Kellyclarkson.JPG
-really cute, similar to the first link, but shorter.

http://www.kaboodle.com/hi/img/2/0/0/5f/8/AAAAAirR4-QAAAAAAF-DMw.jpg
-would be really cute :]

http://i54.photobucket.com/albums/g106/DeSiChick2001/untitled9.jpg
- it would look so chiccc!

all of these will give the illusion that your face looks longer. but when you go to your hairstylist, ask her about it and she'll give you great ideas also. [and tips :)] good luckk and have funn ! xxo

15/f
every time i wake up in the morning my throat hurts and its really red and swollen, i dont know why. i really cant think of anything except that i used to make myself vomit but that was like only for a month and like 2 years ago so i really doubt thats it so if you have any ideas why i'd like to know

thanks

Check out this site, it's great, and my friend had the same problem [she had the acid reflux] but it's okay now, thanks to this information provided...
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/3092.html

hope I helped ! good luck, feel better :] xxo

i like this boy name JOE he soooo cute, funny, smart, but he already has a girl freind and i want to tell him how i feel but without making him feel weird.

well, i mean, if I were you, I would wait it out a little. put yourself in that girl's shoes, if a girl told your boyfriend that she really liked him, and he broke up with you, how would you feel? Like, it would suck. I mean, I like this guy right now, but he's in a relationship with another girl, and I'm waiting to tell him.
But if you don't want him to feel wierd, than just say it. get it out there in the open. Trust me, if you just say it and get straight to the point, it'll be so much easier than beating around the bush or giving him subtle hints. I mean, beating around the bush is going to mak ehim feel uncomfortable and awkward, but if you just say it and get it over with, who knows? maybe he'll break up with his girlfriend and pic you :] but you won't know until you try !
good luck, have funnn :] xxo and don't stress, just tell him and everything will be as non-wierd as possible :] just be calm and cool about it.

So I've got a crush on a girl who lives in a different town but I'm moving there soon. She likes me back, but about 50% chance we can get something to work.

The second girl I just met and we have very similar personalities. Chances of making something work with her are about 95% (but I'm moving soon :(.

I just can't decide who I like, and I end up thinking about both of them all the time now which makes me feel so confused. Should I try something with 95% girl and hurt my crush's feelings? What if my crush and I never work anything out between us, I'll regret not trying something with 95% girl for the rest of my life. Help!

I can't decide for you on who you should date, but I can help you make the right choice :] and i think the right choice for you would to be girl #2. You really like her, you already know that there is a 95% chance that you both can make it work, and girl #1 is a very risky bet. Just because you are moving doesn't mean it won't STILL work between you and girl #2. If you really like her, and you are both willing to make some sacrifices to be together, than you guys can manage long distance.
But whatever choice you make, someone is bound to get a little hurt. I mean, since they both like you, it's going to be hard to tell one of them that you like someone else, but they won't be upset for long. And it's really cool that you care about how these girls feel. Its very considerate and sensitive of you :] and seriously, you're just confused because you know that you can't have both of these girls, and that it's going to be hard, but I think you have it figured out. I think that you know that you want to be with girl #2, but the fact that you are moving soon is making you hesitate.
Look, everything is unpredictable, anything can happen, but I believe that your perfect match is girl #2. and if it doesn't work out, then okay, it's not the end of the world. you seem like such a nice guy and you'll make the right choice, I promise. Don't sweat it. :]
hope I helped ! good luck and don't worry ! :] xxo

hey guyz im 16/f ....and well theres this guy called jason and like we have been friends for a long time now and he has always 'liked me' in that kinda way =)..but we have always been just good friends...but now hes like 'i rly like you' and i rly duno how i feel about him =/ hes like the nicest guy ever and i kno he would not hurt me but its like i duno whether to date him b/c maybe hes just *too* nice for me and i dont wana hurt him so im like confused =/ i always get butterflies when im with him and like we flirt a lil but its just fun.....how do i kno if i like him like he likes me ???

Go for it ! I can tell you right now that you wouldn't get butterflies in your stomach around him unless you liked him the way he likes you. You won't hurt him or your friendship, but I know this is why you are hesitating on acting on your TRUE feelings for this guy. Just date him :] worst case scenario: you try it and just think that being friends is more your style.
but i HIGHLY doubt that will happen. I think you like him, and need to make him aware of this fact :]
good luck, have fun, and don't worry :] xxo everything will be fine. hope i helped !

Latley ive been getting weird peeing sensations. Like i feel like i really need to pee when i dont. its becoming more frequent and i hate the way it feels. Is this something i should go to the doctor for? i really dont know why this happens but my friend says it happens to her too. Please help anyone know what this might be? An infection maybe?

You most likely have a bladder infection, it could be called cystisis, nothing too serious. Go to your docotor and explain what's been happening just to make sure. But for now you have to..
1. drink ALOT of water,
2. get some cranberry juice, and drink that. It helps clean out your system and this will help stop the sensations.
3. go to your doctor if the sensation keeps occuring.

Hope I helped ! and don't worry, just see your doctor and it'll be alright. not life threatening. :] xxo good luckk.

I want to buy a new straighter I want it to be 25 and under, i just need help on which ones the best thank youu

Here are some I have used that work GREAT..

http://www.target.com/Conair-1-5-8-Ceramic-Straightener/dp/B0007ORBSS/qid=1234989223/ref=br_1_16/191-7281780-2716825?ie=UTF8&node=13828331&frombrowse=1&index=tgt-mf-mv&rank=price&rh=&page=1
-conair

http://www.target.com/Revlon-Straightener-Pink/dp/B001G90UMM/qid=1234989223/ref=br_1_13/191-7281780-2716825?ie=UTF8&node=13828331&frombrowse=1&index=tgt-mf-mv&rank=price&rh=&page=1
-revlon

http://www.target.com/Breast-Cancer-Awareness-1-Straightener/dp/B000U0IT3U/qid=1234989382/ref=br_1_9/191-7281780-2716825?ie=UTF8&node=13828331&frombrowse=1&pricerange=&index=tgt-mf-mv&field-browse=13828331&rank=price&rh=&page=1
-seems like it'd be horrible, but it works SO well.

hope I helped ! good luckk, xxo :]

Where can I get Graphic Tees similar to the ones delia*s have?

Here are a few...

-Alloy
-Forever 21
-PacSun
-Nordstrom
-wetseal
-fredflare
http://www.fredflare.com/customer/home_sunn.php?siteID=
-tilly's
-gojane
-mandee
-TJ Max
-American Apparel

Hope I helped ! good luckk, xxo :]

I'm the team captain for Relay for Life- Walk/Run to cure cancer. I need really good ideas for a team name! Or just some input on what you think of some of the names I already thought of.

We wanted something that has to do with Disney, but Hakuna Matata is already taken! Ugh! So pretty much only have "Mrs. Nesbit" as our only Disney idea for now. We need something clever! It can be from a Disney song, or a memorable quote/character!

Some other random ones we have are: "A Private Affair," and "Stand By Me."

Things to keep in mind: We're goofy, all in college, great friends, and it's a co-ed team.

Thanks in advance!!

I really like stand by me. Alot.
Some other ideas ...
-The Game plan
https://disneymovieclub.go.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/AcquisitionProductDetailView?langId=-1&storeId=10001&catalogId=10051&categoryId=10074&catentryId=2969&view=Bestsellers&viewAll=false

-The rescuers
https://disneymovieclub.go.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/AcquisitionProductDetailView?langId=-1&storeId=10001&catalogId=10051&categoryId=10074&catentryId=4009&view=Bestsellers&viewAll=false

-Underdog
https://disneymovieclub.go.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/AcquisitionProductDetailView?langId=-1&storeId=10001&catalogId=10051&categoryId=10074&catentryId=3755&view=Bestsellers&viewAll=false¤tPage=3

-New groove [without the emperor]
https://disneymovieclub.go.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/AcquisitionProductDetailView?langId=-1&storeId=10001&catalogId=10051&categoryId=10074&catentryId=3321&view=Bestsellers&viewAll=false¤tPage=3

Anything would be cool :] But I like stand by me the most. Hope I helped spark some inspiration ! xxo good luckk :]

A QUESTION EVERYONE CAN ANSWER!!

Im quite bored and was just thinking about playing my guitar again for another hour or so.
while playing i thought.. what makes a good song and what maks a bad song for other people besides myself...

so to put simply: Whats your most hated song ever and and whats your most loved song ever, if theres a reason to why you like or hate that particular one so much then i'd like to know :D thanks :D

Most Hated song...
Right said Fred: I'm too sexy.
That song is HORRIBLE. the lyrics are stupid. the guy is stupid for making up this cocky song. and he's not even singing, hes talking, to a beat of music. it's pathetic. In my opinion.

Most loved song...
Anberlin: Inevitable
That song has great lyrics and really sums up love. I love his voice and he has GREAT music. It's hard to just pick one of my most favorite songs, but this one tips the charts :]

my frend .. lets call her w and she liked this boy lets call him b .. so when w liked b, b liked her back and i was trying to set them up so i got b's # from my step brother because b is one of my step brothers bestfriends. but then w stopped liking b and b still liked her but now hes trying to get over her. i sorta liked b but didnt tell anybody or acted on it because i didnt know how w would react but them she said you should like him so i did and idk if it was the best think to do but i told him i liked him. after that he wasnt awkward or anything.. we flirted and every thing we said stuff like him being a bad boy and how i like the bad boys then hes like your fucking awesome and then i went to a movie with w and he was still texting her and so he admitted he still likes her and she asked about me but he said he didnt liek me.. so i texted him later and he said she doesnt like me so theres nothing to do about it so theres no point in liking her .. and we texted about other stuff the rest of the night and tthen today we were texting and he plays hockey so hees like "come to the arena one time" idk how to react do you think he might like me or what do you think is goingg on?

He is either ...
1. Using you to get to your friend [w]
2. Trying to make [w] jealous by hanging with you.
3. Trying to get over [w] by playing you.
4. Trying to get to know you to see if he likes you.
5. just making sure that he has someone who likes him, even though he doesn't like that someone.
It could be any of these, but honestly hun, I think he's playing you and using you. This is NOT right and NOT cool. He wants a good time, and that's about how far his feelings for you run. He was obviously hurt when [w] didn't date him, so he knew that YOU liked him, and is using this information to make himself feel better. And that is not, in any terms, fair to you or what you DESERVE. you can do soooo much better, and maybe you guys can just keep it at a friends level because right now, he needs to get his priorities staright and figure out what he really wants.
Hope I helped, and don't let him get you downn ;] good luck girl, if you need any other help, just inbox me :] ! xxo

K, soo I have like kind of olive skin and gray eyes. I want to redo my hair but I don't know what color to dye it (I konw the cut) I want to get kind of a punk skater look, if you catch my drift :) (and I've already tryed an unatural hair color[[pinkk]]and I deff did nott like it) haha. Thankss :D

I agree with iitsLoveActually, jet black would look GREAT. especially with your eye color and skin tone. My vote is for jet black with a really cool layered haircut. it'd look so punkk haha :]
have funn and good luckkk. :] xxo

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