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ok im in a lot of trouble...here it goes, me, one of my best friends staci and her cousin nick got drunk at a party at her house(were all 13 and this is our first time getting drunk)...her aunt let us drink...so me and nick had like 5,6 straight shots and staci only had like 2. so me and nick were smashed and staci was a lil drunk...we went on stacis trampoline and we finally fell and were just laying there...i dont know i was being weird and was saying shit like"i love you guys, your the best, im glad we did this together." and i looked over at nick and we started hooking up he had his hand on my ass and i didnt mind, i had my hands all over him(not on his dick or anything) and we were making out for a while, my other best friend jessica likes him alot. but i was so drunk to even remeber that. staci finally relized what was going on and pull us off of each other and we were like what are you doing stop..and then she started freaking out and was like i need to call jessica i need to call jessica..and nick was trying to talk to her and i was like nick i love you and he was like yea i love you to..and he looked over and gave me a lil kiss. well jessica came over to stacis house and put me to bed and i fell alseep

this is wat nick said to staci about wat happened
-he said i was ontop of him and he would of stopped but he couldnt(while we were hooking up he kept saying i love u to me and he could of said stop, so that was a lie)
-staic said someone was holding her hands down he said he wasnt(like i said my hands were all over him so his one hand that wasnt on my ass must of been holding her hands down)

so now staci and jessica hate me and they believe what nick says and he was lying and they wont believe me..i cant even look at them any more and i tried to tell them when you get drunk you dont really relize whats going on..and jessica said she asked her sister and her sister said that u do relize whats going on when your drunk im soo mad and upset at the same time..i dont know wat i can say to jessica and staci so they know im sorry and that i was drunk and it wasnt really my fault

dont listen to the ppl who tell you not to get drunk until 21..i mean if thats really a goal for you then hell ya go for it..but honestly your jussst beginning your teenage years..lots more drinking opportunities to come..im not saying go out and get smashed all the time..but i have a feeling every *once in awhile* you will have a few drinks. it happens
about this situation..there is nothing you can do except talk to everyone involved..talk to jessica..talk to the guy and have him tell the true story..give it time and hopefully things will work out. if i found out my good friend hooked up with this guy i like...i would probably be feeling kinda mad..but i would probably let it go after a few days ..you know after i came around and realize..so give it a couple days..wait it out..stick to your story..hopefully this will blow over

-meliss

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I am a gurl and 13...
OK well there is this guy that I really like but I dont know if he likes me. I dont know if i should tell him how I feel cause it could ruin our friendship. But then again I always have something of his (hoodie, chain, ect.) But I dont kno. A few of my friends say they "think" he likes me...what should I do?

ok ..eeither have your friends do an "investigation" and ask the guy or you go ahead and tell him you like him..see what he thinks abotu you two being more than friends. dont be afraid of friendships getting ruined..take chances..dont hold what your feeling inside because who will know the possibilities unless you try? they say the best couples are those who were friends before they started goin out.
if he doesnt feel the same..make every effort to keep things how they were before ..dont let it get weird. in fact, it might bring you two closer because it takes a lot to tell someone you like them..so it will be like you can talk to him about anything..know what i mean? so even if he doesnt like you..this could be a good thing..opening up to him. best of luck i hope it all works out!
-melissa-

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ok so heres the thing i just started dating this guy but he has done some bad things like he shopelifted once and he cheated on one of his old girl friends i really like him but i dont no y all my friends told me i shouldnt like him but my mom told me to do what i think is right but i really really like him and i dont think i should and it is just so confussing but he promised me he would never do that stuff agian i just dont no what i should do plz help
♥~*marykate*~♥

ok i think you should give him a chance..we all have our pasts..just because hes done some bad things in the past, it doesnt mean he shouldnt get a shot. ive done some bad things in the past but im an overall good person..so what im tryin to say is nobody is perfect..everyone has their pasts and stuff...and just because he cheated ..it doesnt mean he will do it again..and the same goes for shoplifting
just my opinion.
-meliss

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How do you know when the right time to make out with your boyfriend is?? How do you know if you're doing it right?

ah, the right time. such a question cant be answered with exact dates like..1 week after you go out. you have to wait until it feels right. when you guys are spending alone time with each other..wait until the right moment..like maybe hes tickling you..when he stops..just look him in the eye and go for it..for example. kissing comes natural..so unless you do something horribly wrong, like shove ur tongue down his throat or bite his lip..you will be fine. signs that he likes it is him pulling you closer, the kiss getting more intense, he might tell you "wow", or if he goes in for more kisses.
but really..dont worry! im sure he will luv it!
-melissa-

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I have a sore on my labia. My mom just asked me if I was sexually active, I said no. This is a lie, although I have never had sex, I have had oral sex and been fingered.. I'm so scared I might have an std. My mom is making me an appointment with the gyno. I'm scared to admit what I have done, they probably wouldn't let me see my boyfriend and I would be in so much trouble.

I'm so scared.. What should I do???

look..what you say to the gyno STAYS between you and the gyno. if you have an std you and the gyno will arrange it so treatment is private.
some things to think about

-do you have a person you trust who can take you back and forth to planned parenthood and/or the gyno?(a friend who drives perhaps..or an older cousin)
-i would definately be concerned about how treatment will be done if you have an std..(how to keep things private from your mom)so maybe call the gyno yourself and ask.

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i have a friend and they are supposedly a really good friend and i would think that they would never tell my secrets, however i found out yesterday, that wtvr i typed to this friend....she would just copy and paste it into someone else

what should i do????? this isnt the first time this happened and even though last time she denied it......im starting to think that this isnt a coincidence.


what should i do? and what should the person who is causeing these problems do?? hmm


i rate high for answers!

well, the person who is telling secrets might not be doing it to intentionally start things or to gossip..maybe the person she told was in a tight group of friends of yours and the person was just getting the other persons thoughts and stuff.
i definately see where your mad..but it sounds like the person who told you "oh so and so pasted me convos about this.." it sounds like thats trying to stir something up when really the whole thing could have been as harmless as your good friend trying to hook you up..and talking to your other good friend about it..cuz you know..tight friends..

if thats not the case..burn some bridges if you must..or arrange it where you spell things out
** say i dont want this leaving our conversation box**
because serious serious deep secrets and stuff shouldnt leave convo boxes.

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Things are getting super super stressful what with school and everything else. Its really taking its toll on me emotionally and even physically. Does anybody have any advice on what I can do to relax and calm down, and to help me not get as stressed as usual?

yeah..im one to talk..because i have to work on the same thing..but time management

any free time you have...like a study hall or time in class..use it to do your work/studying.

i dont really know about your situation..but if you come home straight from school...relax for half hour...take a bubble bath..watch tv..then tackle your work.

work for one hour. take a half hour break.
repeat that until you finish.

talk to your teachers..maybe they can give you work earlier so you have time to manage your work ahead of time.

go to the library to do work so you have quiet. i find that when im home alone with none of my little brothers around i get work done a lot faster

make it fun! form a study group with friends

tackle work little by little with a positive attitude

-meliss

ps i hope i helped

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I ♥ This Boy But He DOnt ME What Do i do?...I talked to him bout it but he DOSENT LISTEN!!!!!!!!!.......ofcourse...he talks to his x-girlfriend ever single day!

people all over the world are in the same boat as you. its good you tried to talk to him..and you told him how you feel..but you cant make him like you. you have to move on..i know it sux..ive been there, done that. dont worry...you will find a guy who really likes you someday..until then, try and stay positive

-melissa-

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hey everyone im 17 and im a gurl..me and my bf have been together for awhile now but he lives kinda far from me so we dont get to see eachother much either so how do i kno if he is being true to me? i mean we talk like alot on the phone everyday and i dont think he would cheaton me but i am jus wondering i mean it could be possible he is since he lives far away and maybe would do it and i wouldnt kno...but he loves me and i love him...i bet i am jus worrying over nuthing but i have alittle doubt in my mind that he would do it but jus alil doubt...he talks about past relationships sometimes & it bugs me i dunno i am worrying over nuthing right? i rate 5's since this is long

I think everything is just fine. He might be having little doubts of his as well..but it all comes down to trust. Put that little doubt aside and trust he is being true to you.
Talking about past relationships..thats not a bad thing. It shows he can open up to you about his past which is really good. It doesnt mean he wants to leave you for them or anything. No worries!

-melissa-

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hey everyone im a gurl and i was just wondering ummm... ok is it spose to hurt when you are getting fingered because it hurt but it felt good at the same time this is a really embarassing question but please help me if u can
~annonymous~

tell the guy to ease up a little and do it gentler...so its more pleasurable for you. then as you get more comfortable...you might be ok with him going a little faster.

please feel free to IM me on yourinvalid (my AIM sn) if you want to talk more in detail

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k well, every guy i go out with i really like him and what ever, well, i have this issue, ive gone out with most of them for at least a month, and every time they ask me to do something with them, or hang out, or come to their house, i always make up a lame freaking excuse, i hate it, the one guy im going out with right now, i like him so much, i seriously think im in love with him this is our second time going out, and he always askes me to go to his house, and i always make up an excuse, i guess im afraid of whats he gunnah think about me, because i mean, im not pretty. at least not to me. i mean i have random people come up to me and theyll be like awe your so gorgeous, i dont think i am, im really self concious because i have ache. like so freaking self concious about it. can anyone help me like.. figure out why im self concious, i mean i wannah figure out why i keep doing this, i wannah spend time with my boyfriend so bad, but i keep stopping myself.
=/ anyone thinks they can help me?

listen ...random people dont go up to ugly people and tell them they are gorgous. If you have random people telling you your pretty, then you musst be pretty.

and hey at least you can get b oyfriends! i have been single for way too long! these guys go out with you for a reason.they like you!

what you need to do is boost your self-esteem..think of positive things you have to offer..think about how you get these boyfriends while a lot of people out there (like me lol) have been single for a long time. i googled up some websites on improving self-esteem..if you would like some more websites go to google.com and search for "boosting self-esteem" or something along those lines.

http://www.more-selfesteem.com/

http://www.committment.com/eleven.html

i hope i helped you a little bit?

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hi. =( last year i got all A's [that was freshman year] but this year i have 2 Bs..i know i shouldnt freak out or anything but the Bs are slowly getting lower and lower and its because my teachers are so stupid! like in my lit class last week we had 2 tests on friday! and one of them 1/2 the class didnt know about! and THIS week we have 2 papers due and 2 tests! and in chemistry i have no idea what is going on and neither do my friends in that class, and my teacher is a really bad teacher. i dont know what to do, i dont have time to do anything but study! HELP!

hmm..maybe try forming a study group. Get one of the kids who knows whats going on and who has a good grasp on it..and then get a friend who is lost just like you..form a little group and maybe when he/she can explain it to you. i had some crappy teachers in my day..and all it took was a student to explain it to me and i understood it.
that is way too much..how you have 2 tests and stuff..i would go up to the teacher after class with a friend and explain to your teacher how he/she has been overdoing it

-meliss-

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Question for guys: If you were married to a woman that you could barely stand, was mean to you and had nothing in common with, why would you stay? Oh yeah, and you had no kids together. I'm asking because I know a guy in this situation, he admitted the relationship has been dead for two years and he still stays with her.

the only reason i could come up with is maybe he is afraid of being out on his own...alone with nobody to take care of him and support him.

-meliss

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I am trying to make some good friends this year,boys and girls, but when i am in a huge group of others i get nervouse. another thing is that I dont realy know what to talk about, especialy with girls.

hey..you have to keep in mind one thing :
everyone wants to fit in. when your in a large group..be yourself! aalwayss be yourself. dont hold back..dont act fake..be yourself! thats how you will make friends. if being in a huge group is too much for you..stick to small groups until you make enough friends where everyone in the group is already your friend. make sense?

talk about anything! let them start the convo..or talk about
-childhood memories
-memories in general..crazy times, etc.
-favorites...fav colors,foods,anything
-family
-school
-ideas on issues like abortion,war, anything and everything

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i just came back from Paris, France last year and people barely talked to me. I am nice etc. and i am just wondering why this is happening. this is my second year and the people at my school still look at me weirdly or when I slip, they (some people) laugh. And nowadays at my school there are a ton of little groups...I am so mad and emmbarresed sometimes but I act as if I don't care if someone laughs at me. But I do care. If I actually said something i'd probably be more unpopular for the rest of my school year. Also my friends are sometimes hard to deal with....just wondering....i need advice! What is going on?!

ok here is my advice..you cant worry about everyone else and how everyone else is acting..because while your worrying about that, everyone else will be doing their own thing. So do your own thing! Being popular isnt important..its more important to have caring friends. So be yourself! Do your best to socialize and be nice..and i bet you will make friends. Dont worry about what others will think - there will always be some people who just dont like you...dont dwell on that, focus on the people who care about you.

-melissa-

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How would you describe love in your own words? I just want to know ho other people think about love and how they feel towards it.

Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous; love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.

Love does not come to an end.

--I Corinthians 13: 4-8
Jerusalem Bible


honestly..that says it all right there.

when i see someone who claims to love someone, yet only wants them for themself when the other person doesnt feel the same..i dont see how they love that person. if the person who is in love with someone who doesnt love them back..they shouldnt feel anger or jealousy when the other person finds happiness.
true love is when all you want is for that person to be happy..even if its not with you..you just want them to be happy. you care so much for them..that you put them before you.


-melisssa-

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so i really like this guy and he says he likes me to but homecoming is coming up and i wanna ask him but he doesnt wanna really go with anyone what should i do i really wanna go with him??

theres nothing you can do if he doesnt want to go with anyone. go there and dance with him (and other guys) and just take things from there. he doesnt want you to gang up on him..he wants space probably..so give it to him. maybe you guys will end up hooking up..going on a date, etc in the future..but it looks like hes goin to homecoming solo. so go there and live up the single life!
(or get another date)
have tons of fun
-meliss

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Does anyone have any quotes about life or inspirational or optimism that they wouldn't mind giving? Thanks ahead of time!

"life may not be the party you were expecting..but at least dance to the music"

" Everything gone is never gone for it is the beginning for new things to begin."

" Silence is the tortured man's revenge with world. Have patience, even in rough times."


" If you set about doing something, put your heart into it and enjoy it. That way, regardless of the outcome, it will be a positive experience."

" What a game life is! You win, you lose, you smile, and you gain."

" Spread your wings and soar high and don't be afraid to fall, for falling is the new beginning."


i have a lot, if you would like more inbox me!
-melissa-

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I'm underweight, I want to be healthier and stuff. I need to gain weight. Can you help me?
I have 2 meals a day lunch and dinner (No time for breakfast.)

why dont you try doing some weights..going to the gym and using machines that will build up muscle. honestly..i think you should talk to your doctor about this on your next checkup..he will know the best and healthiest way for you to gain some weight

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My guy friend needs help. He was just on the phone with me ( cause he knows about my site and figured i could help ) and said that theres this girl that he really really likes, but this other girl that he dates ( not a relationship, just dates ) likes him, but he doesn't like her anymore. And he told me she cries to him sometimes on the phone and that she says she doesn't want to lose him and such and he doesn't want to be a jerk, but he doesn't know what to do, and I don't know how to answer. Please help.



Love,
Mel

tell him he doesnt have to be a jerk about it..but he should really let this girl hes dating go. tell him he cant be with somebody he doesnt like..its not fair to him or the girl..have him ecplain that to her. its not being a jerk....being a jerk would be like if he totally blew her off with no explanation, ignored her, etc. but just have him explain to this girl that feelings must be MUTUAL..he should go for the girl he likes

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