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i have this guy i really really like.
last time we got eachother presents he got me this amazing $125.00 neackless and i got him cologin and gum. i felt so stupid, i didnt want to give him his present, i hated myself, he still makes fun of me for giving him this present. so this year, i want to buy him a amazing gift. i want it to be around $50.00 because im not the wealthiest person.

please help me decide what to get him for christmas.

hes a 16 year old boy, dosent do sports, likes music, likes football (watching), wears "ghetto" clothing (baggy pants, big shirts), so please help me.

Why would he make fun of your gift? It came from your heart, so why would he be degrading it in the first place? That's what I call a jerk.

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I've been jumping from the tops of buildings
For the thrill of the fall ignoring sound advice
And any thought of consequence
My bones have shattered
My pride is shattered
And in the midst of this self inflicted pain
I can see my beautiful rescue

I'm falling more in love with every single word I withhold
I'm falling more in love with every single word you say
I'm falling head over heals for you

I've been dancing on the tops of buildings
At the top of my lungs I'm singing you a song
"Don't you leave me alone"
My bones were shattered
My pride lay shattered
Well I'll trample my pride
Until the whole world dance with me

I'm falling more in love with every single word I withhold
I'm falling more in love with every single word you say
I'm falling head over heals for you

Again well I'm crying out,
"wash my hands, these bloody hands, oh open my mouth and I'll sing"

I'm falling more in love with every single word I withhold
I'm falling more in love with every single word you say
I'm falling head over heals for you

I've been dancing on the tops of buildings,
With you.

next time, use google.

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hello i am a guy and i have dark blond/brownish hair and i was wondering if there is some kind of shampoo that will gradually make it blonder. I dont really care if it is girl shampoo--whatever works (:

You could try Pantene Blond Expressions. It's made especially for blondes who want to keep their blonde hair the way that it is, but you could use it to lighten your hair. That's really all that I can think of.

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i met this guy in italy, and i think im falling in love with him. im 13 now, and hes 17, and he said that he likes me and that he wants to have kids with me and wants to marry me and stay with me....but today, i got on the subject of us meeting...and he said that it was almost impossible....so....he loves me, but its " impossible for us to meet"???? i mean, what the hell?! is this just some kind of guy thing that i dont understand or what? because he says that it is impossible, and that it wouldnt be easy. i mean....how hard can it be? all one of us has to do is just buy a plane ticket, and fly over....i dont understand. i really love him alot. and he says he does with me too. but...maybe he dosent...because hes always talking about his ex girlfriend, but he says hes not in love with her...i mean, hes not constantly talking about her, but its like, ill send him a message, and it will sometimes take him a while to reply and then he will say " sorry, i was talking on the phone with my ex "....but now, im starting to think that its her problem that hes always talking to her cause shes still in love with him...but really....i dont even know what the hell im asking....i just need someone to help me. sorry this is long.

-shelby/13/f

Shelby, I don't want it to seem like I'm lecturing you, but messing with guys who are that much older than you, besides the fact that he lives in Italy, is highly unsafe. You have no idea of what this guy might have in store for you. Please, please, PLEASE do not convince him to fly over, or don't get a ticket to fly over to Italy yourself. You need to realize that it is way too early to be talking about having kids with him and marrying him, you are only THIRTEEN. Please be aware that your safety might be in danger if you try to pursue it; you might end up taking it too far.

Read this:
http://blog.mlive.com/saginawnews/2007/11/myspace_teen_on_dr_phil_show.html

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ok i have a digital camera, how do i upload the videos of that onto my mac? i have no problem uploading my pics, but how do i get it to upload my videos?

Connect your camera to your USB cord, and then to your Mac. Turn your camera on, but don't turn it to the photo setting, turn it to the video setting. iPhoto should come up and connect as it usually does, and the videos should upload to your computer as pictures do. From there, you can either export it back, or save it to your own personal desktop.

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im dating this guy whos two years younger than me. Is that bad? OPINIONS PLEASE

Absolutely not.

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My Boyfriend and I have been almost dating for a year and I wanted to do something special for him, but I can't think of anything. I looked up some things online but they're all for women, and it's not really helping much.

It can be a gift, or just a little surprise of some kind. I just want it to be thoughtful.

If you have any ideas i'd greatly appreciate it!!! :)

I think that something that would be great would be dinner. Obviously, make it yourself, learn how to cook a meal, or have your mom/older sister/friend's mom/aunt/whoever teach you how to make a dish. Provide dessert, make the general ambience of the room romantic, dim the lights, turn on music on low volume, tell him to dress up. You know where to go from there. I'm sure he'll enjoy it. Do it from the heart, and that's where he'll appreciate it the most. If you two were going out for a few months, I'd say go out to eat somewhere, but I think that this is the perfect opportunity to show him that you care. :] Good luck. Inbox me if you have any questions.

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what are some great songs to listen to about getting your heart broken and having to let go of someone .. thanks.

You Gotta Be - Des'ree
Takin' Back My Heart - Cher
I'm Gonna Be Alright - Jennifer Lopez
I Will Survive - Gloria Gaynor
Strong Enough - Cher
Can't Keep a Good Man Down ~ Alabama
Believe - Cher
Button off of My Shirt - Ronnie Milsap
On My Own - Whitney Houston
I'm a Survivor - Destiny's Child
Coming out of the Dark - Gloria Estefan
New Attitude - Patti LaBelle
It's Raining Men - The Weather Girls
Fighter - Christina Aguilera
The Voice Within - Christina Aguilera
Finally Made Me Happy - Macy Gray
Irreplaceable - Beyonce
I Hate Myself For Loving You - Joan Jett
Story of Us - My Last Mistake
The Long Goodbye - Brooks and Dunn
Picture [♥] - Sheryl Crow & Kid Rock
How Do I Live Without You - Leann Rhimes
Stay [♥] - Sugarland
Not A Day Goes By - Lonestar
What Hurts the Most - Rascal Flatts
Cold - Taylor Swift
Unbreak My Heart - Toni Braxton
Creep - TLC
Wait For You - Elliott Yamin
How Do I Breathe - Mario
No One - Alicia Keys
Good Morning Heartache - Jill Scott
Dreaming With a Broken Heart - John Meyer
Without You - Mariah Carey
Truth Is - Fantasia
Stolen - Dashboard Confessional
Hate That I Love You - Rihanna

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can you lose your virginity when a guy pops your cherry.
from fingering you.

It all depends on what your personal definition of losing your virginity is. Some people consider that losing your virginity would occur when they are fingered, some people say oral sex, others say contact with a vagina and penis is considered sex as well; it's all in a matter of opinions. I recently read an article in CosmoGirl! and there was a special section dedicated to what girls' opinions were when it came to talking about losing your virginity, both by religion and by personal matters. I can't find it, but here's is an article which is very similar.

http://www.teenwire.com/ask/2001/as-20011018p296.php

Hope I helped. :)

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ive been wanting to get my cartilage pierced but my parents are like omg thats so gay looking so they wont let me get it done by a professional. i was thinking about doing it myself ,but im not sure how to do it safely. my friend told me just to clean the needle and your ear with alchol and push it through the cartilege, then take it out and put the earing in, and clean it wiht alchol once or twice a day for like a month.
if there is anything else that i need to do please tell me cauz i dont want to messs this up!!

I HIGHLY recommend not doing it unless it's done by a trained professional. Chances are, since this is your first time, you will mess up. The cartilage is much more sensitive than your lobe, and it can get infected easily if you don't do it properly. Compromise with your parents, or just wait until you're a little bit older. Maybe offer to pay for half of it. But please, do not do it yourself.

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my friend has these feel comfortable shoes, but i dont know where she got them! there kind of like ugg slippers, you know the ones you can wear outside, except they have these strapes on both sides od the shoe, and their brown, real soft and fuzzy on the top, but it has a hard soal.
does anyone know where i can find these kind of shoes, and how much they cost?

There are many shoes that could match part of/all of this description. Look at the inside of your friend's shoe, or the bottom of it to get the brand name. That will narrow it down majorly.

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so on facebook superpoke someone "goosed" me. what does this mean?

Goose is when a person grabs your butt (jokingly, sexually, however they meant it).

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My sims 2 with the pets and open for business expanisiions... recently keeps crashing.
It was fine up until two days ago.

When it would be loading my family on it,
and a message would pop up that says:
"The application has crashed. The application will not terminate."
How do I fix this?!!

I tried cleaning out the chdks disk or whatever.. and stuff, but I dont even know.

Help please!

This happened with my Sims 2 game on the computer. I got the same message when I tried to start it up. It's either something with your hard drive not corresponding with the game, or just simply reinstalling the game. I tried reinstalling with my game, and my laptop's is being repaired as of now. Your game might also be to big of a size for your computer.

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what are some good songs to play at a runway fashion show

Mix techno, classic rock, upbeat rock, alternative, pop, rap, ect. Don't stick with one genre.

"The Stroke" - Billy Squier
"One More Time" - Daft Punk
"Stronger" - Kanye West ft. Daft Punk
"Dr. Feelgood" - Motley Crue
"Walking On Sunshine" - Katrina & The Waves/Aly & AJ/several others
"Goodnight" - Hot Hot Heat
"Bring 'Em Out" - T.I.
"Heaven" - DJ Sammy
"Do It Well" - Jennifer Lopez
"Hung Up" - Madonna
"Go Girl" - Pitbull
"Superstar" - Lupe Fiasco
"Take You There" - Sean Kingston
"Slow Motion" - Twista
"Gimme More" & "Gimme More (remix)" - Britney Spears/Britney Spears & T.I.
"Ain't No Other Man" - Christina Aguilera

There are way too many other songs to name, but you just have to pick and choose from ones that you can find.

1] Go to google and type in 'new songs'.
2] Go to google and type in 'fast upbeat songs'.
3] Go to answers.yahoo.com and search for 'workout songs', 'upbeat pop songs', 'upbeat songs', whatever you want, and I'm sure you'll find results.

There are so many ways to find new songs, or songs that are just upbeat, all you have to do is look.

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Want to ask a girl out, but what should we do?

Like what activity, e.g. movie.

For those who are really into answering questions like this, could you please tell me a reason for the activity, like why would i want to do that with her! Thanks so much!

Kronix

When you ask her out, do it casually, like you're talking to one of your friends. Do you have her number? If you don't, this is a good excuse to get it from her. I think that the movies is a great idea. However, I know that you like her and stuff, but I don't think that you should rush into things while out on your date. Take it slow, but still enjoy yourself. BE YOURSELF. That is the biggest thing. I know that it might not seem that big of a deal to you, but girls get easily turned off if you're trying to be someone that you're not. When you approach her (or call her) say something like this: "Hey [name], can I talk to you for a second?" and she'll say "sure". Pull her aside and just be like: "I was wondering if you wanted to hang out this weekend". Make it sound natural, not like you've been practicing. Don't be stiff, be laidback, but show her that you care. There's not much else to say, so it's up to you now..

Good luck! :)

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is it true if you pop your back you'll stop growing??

its a myth.

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About a month or so ago my boyfriend broke up with me. We were together for about 9-10 months. It was the most amazing relationship. We didnt fight. We got along perfectly and it really was true blue honest love. We were only 16 but it wasnt just typical high school stuff at all. I know its kinda hard to understand unless you've felt that feeling.
He said he couldnt be with me anymore cause he was going through alot right now in his life, which i knew he was. He said he didnt want to be a bad boyfriend to me cause i didnt deserve that at all.
The other day i decided to talk to him and clear things up cause we really havent talked everything through fully and i asked him what his feelings were about me and he said sometimes they're there and sometimes they're not. Then we talked alittle more and i said you should go out and see if you have feelings with other girls and he said that hes confused and that if he saw me with another guy it would hurt him so much and he would be upset and mad. Does this mean he still has alot of feelings for me and he's just confused cause hes going through something right now?
I'm really confused and really hurt cause he was the type of boy i can see myself with in the long run. even if we broke up in the end we would find eachother and he mentioned that to me already i just need another opinion cause i'm just so hurt and confused.

thanks so much im sorry its so long =\

its obvious that your boyfriend still loves you. if he didn't, he would say 'well, we're through' and leave you alone and not talk to you. your boyfriend probably IS going through some tough times in his life. give him some time to sort through his problems, ask him how he's doing, but don't be clingy. give him his space. i'm sure everything will work it, because it sounds like he still wants to be with you. :)

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how do you do a system restore?

start > all programs > accessories > system tools > system restore.

after you restore, do a disk defrag (also in the system tools folder). it helps clear up unneccesary space used and cleans your disk drives.

hope that helped.

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