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I'm not perfect. But the heartbeats add up. As well as the life challenges. And I'm only 25. So I'm here. To help those I can. Try and make a difference in someones life.to better somes life by being someone that's there when they have no one.
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My period has been somewhat irregular but lately I've been more on a normal schedule.
However I'm about three weeks late. I've been under a crazy amount of stress this last month though. My boyfriend and I haven't actually had sex, but we've definitely come really close to it and he's cum around me before. So I guess I'm just wondering if it's possible that I could get pregnant without having sex and if my period could be late because of the mass amount of stress. I'm hoping it's the second. (link)
Hey darlin, Because you are under a HUge amount of stress it could be the stress that is messing it up. But it might be a good idea to visit your doctor for a pregnancy test. Even though he did not cum inside of you,. Sperm can travel inside you. It is mostlikely just stress but i would get tested just to be 100% sure.

Hope this helps:)
^Jasmine*


Okay so I met this very cute and nice guy at my brothers wrestling ternement like three weeks ago (we knew eachother befor but really never hanged out) and we been hanging out when I see him,but now I can't see him nomore since my brothers wrestling is over. I honestly liked him when we started to hangout . Its been a long time since the last time I saw him. Now I can't get stop thinking about him, what do I do? (link)
Why not find a way to reach him or talk to him, Maybe Facebook or texting? If you two enjoyed hanging out,. you should try hanging out even though the wrestling is over.
Goodluck!:)

^Jasmine


are vaginas supposed to look wrinkly ? (link)
Haha,. Yup! That's perfectly normal my dear.


I was planning to go to NYC and shop around. However, there are so many stores in NYC and don't want to be wondering all over the place. Does anyone know a website where I can print out a map that has like the names of the stores and where they are. So as I'm walking I can refer to the map and see exactly where to go (what turn to take) and the store I want to go to? Thank you ahead of time, greatly appreciated! (link)
Try google maps for the stores you would like to go to.


what kind of jobs can i get at the age of 15-15 1/2? (link)
Most places have a minimum age limit they are required to hire at. Try volunteering or looking at odd jobs your neighbors might have such as mowing grass or painting a fence. try looking around town for anyone looking for help.

Hope this helps:)
^Jasmine!*




Question Posted Sunday April 3 2011, 8:37 pm

Ok.13/f
I have a bf and i loved him so much.I still love him but i dont know if he still likes me.
I get signs sometimes that he doesnt like me.

Most Times:
He always hold my hand.
Want to go out with me.
Wants to kiss mi.
Wants to share food with me.
Invites mi to come by his house with him and his parents.
Always watching me(Sometimes i might be on my black berry and he just stares at me and when I look up he looks away).

Sometimes:
He teases me (Like if i wear something he doesnt like ,Its ugly)
Talks about hot girls around me,BUT Only when his friends are there(i talk about hot guys BUT not like he does) i say a simple(I saw this cute guy today,BAM i done) (link)
It sounds as though he is head over heels in love with you. I Honestly wouldn't be worried about him not likeing you. Also him talking about hot girls infront of you well his friends are there,. Its totally a guy thing, it's what guys do. I wouldn't take much thought to it.

Hope this helps:)
^Jasmine!*


So I am 20 years old, and on my parents' health insurance. I went to get tested for STD's at my university's health center, as I am sexually active. How it works is the university sends you the bill, which you are supposed to make a copy of. One copy you send to the university with your payment, and the other you send to your insurance so they can reimburse you.

My problem is that before I always sent it to my mom, and she took care of everything for me. But my bill clearly states that I have gotten tested for HIV, Chlamydia, etc, etc. I don't want my mom seeing this. I discussed with her today how to pay bills with the insurance and stuff, and she told me I need a password in order to send the bill to insurance. She won't really give it to me because she is now extremely suspicious that something is going on. What do I do? For this bill I guess I can just pay it without insurance, its not too expensive, but what if something else like this happens again? I want my health stuff to be kept private from the rest of my family. Is there anything I can do?


Thank you (link)
Honestly,. You should just be honest with your mom. Explain that your an adult and your being safe by being tested. Your being a responsible adult. Explain that you would like the password so that you can continue to be the responsible adult that you are.

Hope this helps:)
^Jasmine!*


Okay , so i told you about kyle twice in asking you a couple of questions . So i've come to realize its never going to work , EVER ! im giving up on love , i feel like ' Fuck Love , Im Done Trying ' i don't know what i else i could do to get his attention anymore at all or just with any boy i don't know . . . its like if im not ugly than why won't anything good happen for me my personality is great so why !! i just quit on life i've been feeling that way for a while . . . and you guys are probably judging me not that i care with you perfect little lives . i Give UPP . please don't say talk go talk to a friend no will understand . (link)
hmmm If this guy that your trying so hard to get his attention,. Still hasn't noticed you. Well Sorry to say he is SOOO Not worth it. You deserve to be treated like a princess! Honestly don't try finding love,. but let it come to you. you will see that it will come knocking on your door when you least expect it,., so just try enjoying life and hang out with friends to get your mind off of the pain and frustrating.

Hope this helps:)
^Jasmine!*


I recently broke up with my first boyfriend, and I just had to because I felt we were growing apart, even though he had went on vacation. Now I'm really upset and have cried a little bit, and I think I miss him! He was really upset today, the first day after spring break and told me he wanted me back, even though our break up was 2 fridays ago. Although, a big part of me really wants him back, but then again, I dont know if I should just let go, considering the fact that we will be going to different schools next year, I am SO confused, please help me. (link)
Sometimes people need to take a break from eachother to become closer,. it sounds like you two really miss eachother. And that is really cute. You two should focus on the now. focus on being with the person you care so deeply about. Don't worry about the next year. That is so far away. Just be happy with the present time.

Hope this helps:)
^Jasmine!*


ok so i like this guy and we r friends and hang out with eachother alot.we talk on the phone alot to.one time we met up during class and we kissed.then 2 days later we did something after school in the cafeteria and we made out a few times afterwards.he says he wants to do it again, but i dont think he wants to kiss ME. i think he just wants to kiss somebody.ive told him but he says he WANTS to kiss me. wat should i say to him without telling him tht i like him as much as i do? (link)
If he wants to kiss you,. i think he likes you. It seems like you two are really close.. Question is. do you want to be with him in a more than just friends way,. as in dating..? If you like him, as much as you say you do, then you should tell him how you feel.

Hope this helps:)
^Jasmine!*


So I'm in college and a female. Occasionally I see this guy at parties or at the gym, and he's really really cute. Well my roommate and I were in foot locker and we run into him there because he apparently works there. We talk to him andi asked him if he went to our school cause I've seen him around and he says yeah then asks if we were going to the party tonight. Long story short we see him at the party but I chickened out from asking him to dance. He remembered us, but I find myself interested in him, any pointers in what I can do to get to know him without being a creeper? Thank you! (link)
A. Sorry previous advicer... IF i personally found out someone was stalking me from afar.. id be kinda creeped out.
I would just start conversations with him,. the more youu talk to him and get to know him the closer and better friendship you make.
maybe see if he would be interested in going for coffee sometime or something,. try to get his number,. that way you two can text talk and that way you have opened the door to hanging out.

Hope this helps! :)
-Jasmine*


15/f

There's a guy I know, he's a couple years younger than me. He kinda acted like he liked me in the past.

Anyway, he has a girl he seems to be really good friends with, and whenever the group we're in goes out to an event and that girl is there, she's all over them. He doesn't seem to mind, really, until she was holding his hand, fingers laced and all, and he let her go and moved away.

The whole night I was kinda alone and a few times he would sprint over and give me a high five or see how I was doing or hold up his hand for a high five but really we'd just touch hands and he kept it there a couple seconds.

He and I are just friends, but he hasn't done anything like that in ages. Was he just playing up our friendship to make that girl jealous, or am I too worried about being used?

All insights, even "You're stupid" are appreciated. :) (link)
Hmmm,. I don't think there is anything to thin hon,. some boys don't want to be overly attached to some one. So he probably enjoys the girls 'all over him' action but doesn't want to be smothered by it,. so lets go of her hand. as far as the high five thing,. he probably thought he didn't want you to be too lonely and what not so came to talk to you cuz your his friend.
I wouldn't see to much into this.

Hope this helps! :)
-Jasmine*


16/f

So I've liked this guy for the longest time. He's 2 years older than me though. We've been great friends for like 2 years.
I've like him for somewhat over a year. I like him when I was with another guy and he always helped me with my problems with him, I eventually broke it off because I clearly wasn't gonna get over him.
We told each other how we felt back in September and it was great.
We can't actually be together since he's two years older than me. I was always at his house since I'm best friends with his sister and close with their family, which is probably why I started liking him in the first place.

Ok, I'm done rambling on..
We talked every day and we were closer than just friends. We kissed once.
He went to college in Jan. and we got into a fight and didn't talk for 2 months since he said he needed time to grow up.
We've been talking alot this month and he apologized for everything.
It was all good but like he talks about wanting to mess around with me when he comes home.
I have the worst trouble trusting guys. I've known him for awhile and we're great friends and I like him alot. I was raped about 6 months ago by my ex so I don't know if my whole trusting has anything to do with that.
Anyway, I would do stuff with him, I told him not sex because I know I'm not ready for that and he gets it. It's just if we do mess around a little, I'm afraid he doesn't really like me and it's just gonna be about my body. It's not that I'm not ready for any of that with him, it's just, I want to know if he really does like me. He tells me he cares and he wouldn't use me, but of course it'd get annoying if I never believed him or trusted him right?
I don't expect him to like me and only me since he went to college because I know he's gonna have dates and stuff and I'm not limiting myself to him either. He's just the guy I've liked for the longest time.
So what should I do? I'm sorry this was long, I had to get it out.
If I talk to him about it again, he'll say the same things so I'm not sure what else to say.
It's mostly about me trusting him. What do you think? I'm probably overreacting.
Thanks so much (link)
First thing you should know. I've learnt that the phrase 'mess around' or 'we should have some fun' always leads to doing stuff but with no strings attached. Meaning a hook-up but with no real connection. Or as also known. Booty Call. He seems like an ok guy. but might have different intentions.

Trust is a hard thing to come by. It's not given but it is earned. It takes a long time for trust to be given out. It should not be given out in a matter of days. Because you have known this guy for years does not mean that you know this guy well enough to being an active booty call.

Like the other Advicer,. you should go with you guy feelings. Be aware of what your doing. You don't want to get yourself into any situation that could end badly.

Hope this helps! :)
-Jasmine*


im 18/f hes 19/m

okay so im falling for my best friend really really badly. I've liked him for a couple of months. But i get confused cause sometimes i think he really likes me to, then he'll say or do something that makes me think otherwise. Anyway, the other night after spending the day together, just he and i, we were talking on msn...We were talking like we normally were, laughing about funny things that happened when we were together and whatnot. Then he goes
"new formspring" (formspring is a question site me and him both go on. were you can anonymously ask people questions) and i thought he wanted me to see the answer to the new question he just answered. so anyways i told him ill go look at it now. and then he started FREAKING out. he's like "don't look! i'm deleting it right now!" etc etc. He really didnt want me to see it, but by the time he said so, id already read it. and this is what it said: (the question was: why are you just feeling okay?)

"fuck it. im goiing to spill my problems randomly. i dont share shit with anybody, but im half druink and im up for shit! ahhaha
...
so i have a prioblem.
i think i like sombody (i do, i just wanma make sure)
and i think i wanna get back in a relatiuonship. but at the same time i dont.
i need to be single and stuffs and do single things.
i like being indepoendant and only worrying about myself, but i miss having somebody to cuddle wiyth and stuff :c
butttttttt if i take too long, i think the girl im sorta keenish ion will find a guy amnd then ill be fucked :c
WHAT DO I DO"

after i told him i read it he was worried that he looked like an idiot, i tried to reassure him otherwise haha. i mean its pretty cute how scared he is of losing this 'mystery girl'....i just got the feeling that the way he was acting and everything..that it was about me... what do you think? (link)
Men don't like showing their personal side because some thing it may show a sign of weakness,. not very manly. This is a good hint that he doesn like you because he wanted to delete it before you saw it,. showing that he didn't want his mistery girl to know how he felt. maybe he is nervous about getting into anything to fast. i would just take your time with it and not pressure him into anything.

Hope this helps! :)
-Jasmine*


If a guy cares he would do anything right like when he used too but we never went out or stuff but didn't last long... Long story he asked me back and we started talking was shitty but then he just didnt talk to me text so I was like sad over it but than week later he texts me at 3 am asking wat am I doing ya probably a booty call but we live an hour apart I saw that text and I was pissed but kinda happy it got me crazy cuz I did not reply.. So I just assumed it was a drunk text. 12 days later he texts me what's up girl I got the chronic if ur interested, smiley face. He don't smoke but knows I like too and still I have not replied been few days. Yes its killing me and shit.
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Honestly, Yes The 3 am text does scream!! Boooty Call. He seems like a dipshit. (sorry about my words) You deserve someone that you can trust and count on. Not some one that treats you like dirt and only texts you when it's convenient for him. This guy seems like a total donkey's ass. There are plenty of guys out there. Plenty of fish in the sea. If you just give it time,. you will heal from likeing him. If he texts you again,. i wouldn't reply because that shows him that your not going to take his crap.

Hope this helps! :)
-Jasmine*


what to do for my boyfriend, its our anniversary and i go to school with him
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A. What is his likes?
B. How long have you been together
c. Ages?

I can edit my answer with helpful suggestions:)

Jasmine:)


Long story short we never dated its not like high school...but ya we stopped talking will he did, im the girl so i dont really like making the first text or call unless i want to and he ask. But He made me mad one day on the trying to make plans and it didnt work out so he didnt reply to my text so i was like we.e..yes i was hurt but the next weeknd he texts me at 3 am asking what am i doing we live an hour apart but i did not reply i wanted to so bad i miss him and i want him to want me and say hes sorry. Than like little bit over a week he texts me again saying i got the chronic if your intersted he dont smoke but he knows i want it.. but ya stil i have not replied.. i want to. I guess im getting the impression he just wants to be friends. But i just cant see why he dont call my house phone or cell to talk anymore like back than. few months ago. i was good to him. its been like nearly almost 2 months since i've seen his sexyness (link)
Maybe it's time to just take a break. He may need a wake up call to know that you won't be treated like anything less than a princess. And you won't accept anything less either. You deserve better than someone who does but doesn't care.
If you just give it some time,. time heals all.

Hope this helps
;Jasmine**


Hi im 19 year old female and when i exercise i get out of breath really easily. I also experiance a feeling like i am struggling to get air into my lungs. I have seen a doctor and they have diagnosed me with asthma but i dont think i have this. My boyfriend is asthmatic and his symptoms are different, for example he wheezes often and i have only ever wheezed a couple of times after running.
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Each Asthma patient is different. Each persons symptoms will be different. Just because your boyfriends symptoms are different than yours does not mean that you do not have Asthma,. if you were diagnosed with it,. then you probably do have it,. wiether the symptoms are different or not.


I am a 14 year old girl. This guy in my class has a girlfriend but I think he kinda likes me what do I do if I kinda like him back?? We don't talk to each other though. What do I do?! (link)
You may like him,. But you have to remember he is in a commited relationship. Put yourself in his gf's position. how would you feel if you found out your guys likes someone else?
And don't say you'd like them to be happy cuz you wouldn't. He is off the market so all you can do it be happy for him,. and be his friend. You don't want to be the Girl he Cheated with. Very bad.

Hope this helps*
*Jasmine^


Whenever i please myself or have sex, i feel when good parts and i say in my head "this feels amazing" but i can never moan or orgasm outloud for some reason? I know when i climax, but it never shows or comes out verbally. Why is that? HELP! (link)
Some people are quiet sex people than others,. That is not a bad thing. sometimes just scream. Just do it. It will come to you. sometimes the pleasure is over the top that it leaves you speechless.

Hope this helps*
*Jasmine^




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