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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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Hi,
I'm not very good at fashion. I love it and all but I never really dress fancy or anything. I really want to get better fashion tips, so I can dress and look better. I have an okay figure (not trying to sound stuck-up) and is 13 years old.
ANY ANSWER IS APPRECIATED!
THANKS! ♥
considering you're only 13... fashion shouldn't be that big of a deal. but theories prove that dressing up every so often can boost self esteem and make you feel good about yourself :)
fashion typically is based on climate.
if you live in a warm environment, try going for dresses, skirts, nice tshirts/blouses.
if you live in a moderate climate like 50-60 fahrenheit, try jeans and a cute tshirt with maybe a cardigan or light jacket over it.
if you live in a pretty cold place, try jeans and cute boots, with a nice long sweater (cashmere is amazing) or a cute outdoor jacket that is fashionable (like ones that come down to your knees are very fashionable) try hats, scarves, mittens :)
also, accessories are a MUST!!! accessories are the details that emphasize your style. try hoop earrings, anything that catches the eye, long necklaces, rings, belts, headbands, shoes. just dont over do it so it looks like too much is going on.
try patterns too like plaid or stripes or floral. it depends on what your style is.
as for hair, if you really want to stand out- you gotta take the time. it wont happen in 2 minutes.. try going curly, or wavy. do some french braids or regular braids. try doing half up half down. use some cute clips/hair pins. headbands are cute too. even messy buns on the top of your head are cute!
for more ideas look at magazines for your age style. look at pics and dont just flip through them... take the time to observe every little detail you can and learn. learn from actors in tv shows. learn from every day life. as you're walking in school, observe what other people are wearing and create your own looks from their looks. if you're in town, look at some other people (dont creep and stare..) and just take ideas. if you're really dedicated to fashion, i suggest carrying a notebook with you and every time you see something you like, jot it down. then at the end of the page- look at everything you wrote down and imagine a new look with those lists. try sketching it out (even if its a stick figure). color too! use colored pencils or even cut out some fabric samples if you want.
dont be afraid to experiment a little :)
Ok so my ex broke up with me about 3 months ago, it was a decision that I regrettably pushed onto him but he still did it. Straight away I realised it was a mistake n he said he thought he'd made a mistake too. Any way I tried getting back but he weren't having any of it so I just left him, n said I didn't wanna be friends. 3 months later n he still won't let go!!! He makes excuses to text me, pretends someone else has text me from his phone, last week told me he loves me, misses me, can't get over me. I asked him what he wants n he said he doesn't know. He's constantly saying he thinks its ridiculous that I won't stay in contact with him n he keeps saying 'you never know what will happen in the future. You could get a new bf and then get back with me' I'm tired of trying to work him out!! What does he want??
he misses you. OR... he misses having a girlfriend. you gotta be careful right now. if you miss him, you can go back to him but risk getting hurt again because he might dump you again for the same reason. if you're really tired of working the relationship out, you gotta talk to him and just say- listen, you need to move on. stop thinking about the past and think about your future.
i do agree with him when he says- you never know what will happen in the future. nobody is psychic so you can't predict that you guys will never get back together. but then again, you can control what happens between you 2.
my advice right now is for you to just focus on right now. dont think about the past but dont think about the future. just think about right now. this is the present time. tell him what you feel is the right thing to do. say it wont work out right now but the future is possible. you just need time to think about yourself and figure out what you want in life.
i wish you well!
16/f
I have this really good friend.She and I go way back and have understood each other always.But since last year she changed completely.She always talks,never shuts up for a minute.Also what annoys me-I am not mean here but truth is she isn't pretty at all,her body is ok but her face is really ugly and she goes on and on and on about how boys swoon over her and how where ever she goes someone asks her to be with them and that everyone looks at her.All I've seen is that boys look at her with sort of disgust or that they don't look at her at all.Again,I'm not immodest or full of myself but I'm much prettier than her,and she's had so many boyfriends while I haven't had one for ages.But that could be because I won't be with just anyone who asks me out like she does.Her appearance doesn't bother me,I love her for who she is,she is so good and honest and everything but when she starts talking and talking about what I just said it makes me go mad and smack her in the face just so she can shut up.She really doesn't know when to stop.And when some cute guy looks at me instead of her she says omg did you see how he just looked at me when it's clear he was looking at me.She lives in an illusion.I don't want to hurt her,but how do I tell her to get a grip and gt her own life,not try to live mine?
you have to talk to her. key word- talk. i cant tell you how many times ive tried talking to my friends but it always ends in fights. so when you talk to her, you have to be careful not to sound mean or bossy or offensive. just simply tell her whats bothering you. dont say any of that- i want to smack you so you can shut up- stuff. just say "hey i have a really bad migraine, can you not talk as much?" or something like- it really bothers me when you talk so much. again, try not to sound irritated. people have tendencies to have the "annoyed voice" when they try to tell someone whats bothering them. so just be calm and chillax. tell her its not personal, you just aren't in a good mood and don't feel like talking as much. she'll understand. you can tell her a white lie if that helps. say you had a stressful day and that you just need to relax and not talk.
as for the boy issue.. i know exactly where you're coming from. my best friend is like your friend. she isn't the prettiest and i think she knows that. she will do anything to flirt with a guy or get his number. what i do, is i just ignore it. yeah it can be annoying at times.. but you just gotta learn to deal with it. its not the end of the world. all she's doing is trying to build up her self confidence. after all... she is your friend. wouldn't you want her to be happy? if she's happy trying to get a guy, let her do what she wants. you can't control her actions. i tried this with another friend. she was BOY CRAZY. seriously. all she would do is brag about how many guys wanted to hang out with her. "i'm going to seans house tonight. i hung out with kyle last night. jake is sooo cute. omg austin texted me blah blah blah. i yelled at her for it because i was so annoyed and i told her that she needs to pick one guy and stick with him. after i told her that, she was really mean to me and our friendship ended. so learn from my mistake.. just deal with it. i mean, you can talk to her about it and say "please dont turn into a crazy slut who's obsessed with boys constantly" but dont expect her to not take it as an insult.
what i also think is that you 2 just need bonding time. without boys. have a huge sleepover and watch movies all night. bake a cake. listen to music and dance. have make overs. whatever. just have it be alone in between you 2 and just hang out. that way she wont be able to obsess about boys.
i hope i helped!
My best friend and I made a bet over football.. Whoever won, would get to throw pie and like cake batter and other messy things at the loser, and totally mess them up. The agreement was, the loser has to wear their best clothes, which we both picked out at the beginning. This sounded great.... Except I lost, lol. The dress I chose as my best is really gorgeous and elegant, and I have to wear that along with matching heels and accessories. Should I back out? I don't want to look like a wuss but I don't want my nice dress to be ruined.
a bet is a bet.. you should have looked at the consequences before you made the bet.
go through with it because if you dont, your friend wont really trust you with any other bets.
take the dress to the cleaners and have them fix it for you. its just a dress. i bet you could go to the store and find another dress 100 times better than that one.
have fun :)
I really want my high school to finally have a girls soccer team, cause I don't want to have to play with the guys. I just moved here last year from a school in NJ where girls soccer was huge. Here in Texas.. or at least in my school, people laugh at the idea of it. I don't understand. But anyways theres me and 3 other girls who already signed up for the team but there's no way that out of school just short of 500 people we can't form a girls team with less than 20 people!
1. How do I motivate girls to join girls soccer? Should I try posters, announcements, etc? What types of things would encourage them to join? I just love soccer and can't really explain why.... but what could appeal to others?
2. How do I convince the soccer coach to push for a girls team? cause they guy is old and seems to have given up on finding a girls coach. he says the coach needs to be already in the school district.. is this true??? why is he saying this? would it be a good idea to put some ads online for soccer coaches and put his email or maybe the school principal's email so they can contact them with their soccer credentials?
posters around the school is a great idea. try using social networks like facebook and start a group. in each of your classes ask the teacher if you can have 5 minutes to say something and then just talk about it and try to persuade the class into it.
also... people may not join because they don't have much info on it. in my school, rugby wasn't a popular sport but some guys started talking a lot about it and showed us what the sport was and then when people saw how much fun it could be, they decided to sign up for it and now its a big part of our school.
also try talking to your neighbors/teachers/parents/parents friends about if they know anyone who is skilled in soccer and is willing to be a coach. remind them of how much it will mean to the school.
also try to start a petition. have a huge list and have people sign it if they want to start a girls soccer team. show everybody how much fun it could be and how successful you could be.
i'm not sure if your school is athletically advanced (like if you have won state championships?) but if you havent, tell people that if you can start a girls soccer team.. you could be good enough to compete in huge games and win victories.
good luck :)
Im 17 and my ex boyfriend is 22 a couple of weeks ago i broke up with him and things got out of control and he ended up rapping me. Anyways i don't want to report it because i don't want to make a big fuss about it. Well i might be pregnant and eventhough i don't want to get an abortion i know im not going to have any help with the baby. I really don't want to give up the baby either.... What should i do
you really should report him... he is a bad guy for doing this to you and you should't just let him get away with this.. its like letting a guy get away with robbing a bank... he needs to be punished and even though it may not seem like a big deal to you, it really is a big deal.
what you do with the baby is your decision. but just keep in mind that it is a big responsibility and you're only 17. i'm 18 and it is going to be unbelievably hard to have a baby and at the same time finish school AND get back on track..
good luck.
hello , i live in a very small house and we are not comftabal with it, we want to move but we never get there. please help
one day if you're bored, go on a "mini road trip" just fill up a tank of gas and drive. dont look at a map. dont look for directions. just drive. thats what my mom and i would do. just drive and end up somewhere. drive into a neighborhood and just look for houses that are for sale.
or look in the newspaper, they have houses for sale on there. or go online and search for houses. or search online for good towns/cities to live in.
if you're really that desperate, you have to be committed to looking for a place. i asked my parents how they found our house and they said they were just looking around and right when they saw it they fell in love with it. you'll know when its right.
good luck!
so all my freinds like hip hop and rap but i think its kinda stupid.i like metal better.i also look like a headbanger too like i have a mowhawk,slipknot jacket, and the whole nine yards, but im kinda startin to like those other stupid songs but i dont want to.i couldnt imagine dancing n stuff to that kinda music and i feel weird when they play it but i really am starting to like it so please give me any advice possible.
dont base your friendships on music..
i have friends who like completely the opposite music i do. I have friends who like classical/orchestra music, i have other friends who like rap, i have other friends who like techno etc etc etc.
it just means that you have a unique group friends. and you know what? that's a good thing..
at my school, we have so many cliques. there's the popular group with basically listen to rap and hip hop only. then there's the band geeks who like weird music. my school is so cliquey its not even
you should be proud that you have friends who like different music. we need different in our society. dont be ashamed of the music you like. wear it like prada and be proud of who you are.
if you do like their music, then thats ok! there's no law that says you have to be against it. but there's no law that says you have to be in love with it. just like what you like and dont let other people influence your ideas.
also, dont let this whole music issue distract you from your true friends. if your friends like hip hop, dont push them away because of that. in other words, be friends with them for who they are. not for what kind of music they like.
ADDITIONAL INFO-
If you don't want to change styles... Then don't... Nobody is asking you to... I honestly really don't see your problem. It's not that big of a deal if your friends like a different kind of music. It's like not accepting a present because you don't like the wrapping paper..
How can I feel more motivated to do things like assignments at school? My grades arnt very good right now and its not helping that my mom is critisizing me for it
look at the glass as half full rather than half empty.
instead of thinking- well my grades suck, i suck, i'm stressed out, my mom is annoying blah blah blah.. think of it this way- i want to get good grades so i can prove my mom wrong, that i can show people that i DO work hard, and i CAN DO THIS. I want to be the best and I want to graduate high school knowing that i put effort into my work.
let me ask you this..
If you were to enter an art contest (pretend you're an average artist), and you either had the decision to 1- cheat and copy someone else's artwork or mimic it.. or 2- put effort into it and make it your own. and lets say you win first place in this contest.. wouldn't you rather win and know that you TRIED and that you feel good because YOU put the effort in it, rather than thinking- i won because i used someone else's ideas.
apply that question to school. do you really want to graduate high school thinking- i didnt try my best? or do you want to graduate high school thinking- i may not have gotten the best grades, but hell, at least i tried!.
just use that as motivation. motivate yourself by thinking- i want to succeed, i want to prove people wrong, i want to be a hard worker and earn credit for my own work rather than slacking off.
Here's a short story about me- I play volleyball and i have for about 10 years. when i was 16, i was on my Varsity team. I didnt get any playing time and i was so upset that i just didnt even try to get better. i'd ignore what my coach tried to teach me because i had the mindset that i was horrible and i would never get to play. but this year, i'm 18 and a senior. the beginning of the season i didnt get playing time. thats when i realized that i want to end my high school volleyball career knowing that i TRIED and put my heart and soul into it. so every day at practice i would try harder and harder. if i didnt succeed, id try even harder to get better. now i'm a starting player and we beat a really amazing team last week (last year we lost to them) and this year we won. I felt AMAZING because i knew that if i hadnt worked my ass off for this, i wouldnt have accomplished it.
hard work pays off :) i promise you that.
Our team would be really good is my team would actually listen to the coach and I. I'm both the captain and the girl with the most experience, yet none of them take my advice. In fact, most of them snub me, until I get stern. Then they listen....for the first or second time, then they go back to doing what they were doing to begin with. Anyone have any ideas on what I could do as captain/teammate that would get them to be better?
i'm on my school's volleyball team and something like this happened. we decided that this was going to be the year we would work our butts off and make it to the state tournament. so one week during practice, us seniors worked super hard, but the underclassmen just went through the motions and joked around. the captains took everyone in the locker room before practice one day and had a serious talk. they talked to us about how if we worked really hard and REALLY wanted it, we could be legends. our school volleyball team has only appeared in state tournament once. that was 6 years ago. we were really determined to make it happen this year. more than half the team were seniors and we talked to the underclassmen about how in a few years, it will be their turn and their team. they're going to want the same thing. it may not seem like it now, but in a few years they're going to understand that this is their only shot. after high school, there's no more chances. this is it.
that made the underclassmen realize how important it was to us seniors, and they committed their heart and soul to the team. everyone went in a circle and said "i'm on board" and that let everyone know that they would give 110% effort into making our dream come true.
so i think you just need to have a huge talk with them. dont get the coach involved. and dont do it during practice. choose a time and place outside of practice and make sure that they realize how important this is to you. maybe they dont listen because they dont understand how important and special it is to you. make them realize that this is your only chance at making your dream come true. let them know how amazing it will feel if they put all of their effort into cheerleading and succeed. I'm not a cheerleader so i dont really know if you guys have state tournaments or if you guys win medals or trophies or anything. but if you do, let them know that the best team will succeed and get glory.
Make sure they also know that if they aren't willing to commit themselves to the team, then they are welcome to leave. because this is YOUR team. you have to make them realize that if they aren't putting effort into it, then it is just a waste of time for them and they can join chess club.
good luck :)
I'm in high school and there's this guy who I've been thinking of seriously going out with and stuff, and he's only ever been incredibly nice and sweet to me. He's been a total gentleman and has treated me really well(: However, every person has told me he's a 'total manwhore' and that I shouldn't go out with him or anything. Now, I did mention this to him and he said that everyone says that because he's really friendly and has a lot of friends - which is true, and that doesn't bother me.
I just don't know if I should really go through with this because what if everyone else is right and he just totally plays me? But he's only ever been absolutely amazing with me, so I've never experienced anything else with him! Can I just have some advice on what you think? i just like to have other opinions. Thanks!
this kinda happened to me but it ended bad.. i used to like this guy and he was really nice but people told me that all he wanted was to get in my pants. so i basically played hard to get. he kept wanting my number but i kept stalling and didnt give it to him. he went nuts. he told me he's never had to work to get a girl before and that i was the first girl who made it difficult for him. he kept asking me on dates but i pretended to be busy that day and once in a while id go out but whenever he tried to make a move i would subtly deny him and laugh and smile (this lets him know that you are playing hard to get, not just completely denying him) he talked to my bff and told her that i was something special. he's never met a girl like me before and was intrigued by me. he was curious and interested.
then after there it just went downhill because i liked another guy so him and i dated and the other dude just felt bad and ended up dating another girl
but my point here is to play hard to get. make it a challenge for him. make him WORK for you. let him know its not easy (but dont make it too hard that he gives up). if he is truely interested, he will keep fighting for you. if he just wants action, he'll give up within a few days.
how do i get over my ex boyfriend? i dont want to date him again, but i always think about him. i am fifteen and a girl.
keep yourself busy. like REALLY busy. every minute of every day. that way you wont have the time to think about him and you'll be too focused on your life.
take after school activities, do more homework/study more, hang out with friends who you've lost in touch with, spend time with your family, make a band, make a movie, take yoga, start a new sport.
do anything to keep yourself busy.
Okay so my boyfriend has already mentioned to me that he was so excited to see my reaction to his christmas present and he's kind of a romantic type. I'm not all that romantic or anything and I have no idea what to get him. We haven't been together for too long so I don't see him all that much so I don't know him that well. And even if i did I still would have trouble. I'm really bad at getting people presents. I want to get him something cute, but kinda generic i guess... not in a lame way though. HELP?!?!
try going shopping at a mall one day and test his interests. for example, go to a video store and if he seems really excited to buy a movie, then that could be something you could get him. or go to a random store and make mental notes on what he says. for example- "oh this is so ugly" make a mental note that he doesnt like those things. if you notice him really interested in something, use that as a guide.
also, for previous gifts, i made guys handmade things. 1- its cheaper. 2- its more unique that way. 3- they'll remember it and you
try baking him a cake, make him a scarf, sing him a song or make a cd, sometimes its just small things that could make him happy. one time i told a guy that the present i wanted was to go sledding and then sip hot chocolate after by the fire place and watch a movie. yes i know its not really that special or unique, but it makes me happy. and that exactly what we did and i had a blast :)
try having a "him" day. where the whole day is just about him. he gets to pick what to do and you spend the whole day together just doing the things he wants.
another idea is making "coupons". i did this one too. make little coupons that say- good for one kiss. good for one massage. good for one homemade meal. and he can give you a coupon whenever in return of the thing on the coupon.
or do something silly.. like go to petsmart and buy him a pet goldfish and you guys could name it and take care of it together.
good luck!
I am a graduating high school student. During my elementary, I graduated as a valedictorian. that is why My parents are expecting me to do good in school and get good grades. Now, I got a grade of 77 in calculus and if they'll learn about it, they would surely be mad at me. I don't know what to do. I love my parents and I did my best but I'm not really good in math. I could not let them down... Please give me advice on what to do/say and perhaps some good study habits in Math because I think it might help.
i'm actually in calculus right now and i have a B in that class. (82%) and i come from a very large high school which is very successful in academics and athletics. So in my school, a C or even a B, is considered a bad grade compared to other schools. My entire freshman and sophomore year, i had a 3.8 GPA. this year it will go down because of my grade in calculus. I actually came home crying one day because i got a C on my test and my parents were upset but they understood it was a very advanced class and difficult. they told me to try my best and they would still be proud of me no matter what.
so try going up to your parents and telling them that you tried your best and they should be proud of you for working hard and trying to be the best.
if they still don't support you, try giving them a math problem and see if they can solve it. if they cant, say- "its not as easy as it looks" if they can- just give them a harder one until they get stumped. unless they are math geniuses, it shouldn't be too hard to prove your point.
I have this "friend". We are constantly having fights and this time was the last straw for me. The other times I just tried to forget the past, which kind of worked. But not anymore. I finally called it quits.
But I keep thinking about him. My heart says be friends but my head says don't be. I know he is a mean, competitve jerk but I keep thinking about him.
What do I do?!?!
i was recently in a situation like this.. my ex boyfriend complained a ton and it was really annoying for me. my head was telling me to break up with him because it got too much for me to handle. his expectations for me were set way too high and i couldn't be who he wanted me to be. but my heart was telling me that i might regret the decision. my other ex before him dumped me (we dated for a year) and i was devastated. he told me that it was the biggest mistake he's ever done because he was that in love with me. so partially i was scared to dump my recent ex because i didn't want to make the same mistake my other ex made.. dumping someone and then realizing that they were the one.. i ended up dumping him because i realized that even if we do fight a lot, i still wouldn't be happy. yes maybe i do love him, but i knew that if we kept fighting and disagreeing, my love for him would fade.
so really.. its what you think is best for YOURSELF. don't let anyone's opinions influence you. do what you think is best for yourself. do you think you can put up with his flaw? if they absolutely make you crazy.. then try taking a break with him and see how you feel after that.
good luck!
I stupidly told one of my "friends" who my other friend liked when I know I shouldn't have and he promised not to tell anyone. We have had a fight and he is threatning to tell her that I told him. I know it was a stupid mistake, but I can't take it back. I don't want her to find out or I might lose her as a friend. What do I do?!? Plus, I thought I could trust him. I feel as if, I can't trust anyone anymore. He was one of my good friends and now it seems like I can't even trust my friends.
if he is willing to spoil your friendship with her, all because you and him had a fight.. he wasn't a good friend to begin with. dont think its your fault because its not. people like him are very frustrating and confusing. its best to stay away from him/ people like him because in the end they will just end up hurting you. i've had to deal with people like him and its no fun.
as for your situation, i think you need to stop talking to him because the more you talk to him, the more likely you will get hurt and things will just get messy and complicated. simply stay away from him because he isnt going to help. for your other friend.. i think YOU need to be the one to tell her. not him. you need to come clean and tell her the truth. if you think your friendship between you and her will end because she finds out you told him, then what do you think will happen when she finds out that you were hiding it?? in other words, dont think about how she will react when she finds out you were hiding it... but how do you think she will react when you COME CLEAN about it?
honesty is the best policy. be brave and tell her the truth. yes, she probably will be mad.. but she will also trust you more because she will know that at least you told the truth and didnt hide it.
good luck!
i want to remove all pimples from my face.and also i want my face to shine in a healthy way
take a hot steamy shower. the steam will help clear up your pores. or go into a steam room. i know lifetime fitness has them. if you cant do either of those, take a towel and soak it under hot water and then lay it over your face for a few minutes until it isnt hot anymore. do that about 3-4 times a day. make sure you moisturize your skin because the hot heat will dry out your skin. then after you've moisturized put anitibiotic cream over the pimples so the anitbodies can work and kill the bacteria. if you dont have that, try using acne products. i use Oxy pimple spot cream. its white and comes in a small container. use that 2 times a day (using it more than that will cause your skin to dry out and flake a lot)
you should see progress within 4-7 days
so I'm in college and seems a lot of weight nowdays and I can't stop eating late at night and eating out a lot of junk food how can I fix this? its hard to avoid junk food and I don't exercise that much anymore but I walk 20 minutes to school everyday
there's a fact out there that says if you walk everywhere you go, you can burn so many calories and lose tons of weight. so if it's not too cold out, try getting some fresh air and walking places.
also if you have spare time, go to the gym and work out. try listening to vigorous music to help you get pumped up. try working out with friends to motivate you.
just like the other person said, its in the mind. life is all about how you process thoughts and think about things. if you think negatively, bad things will happen. if you're optimistic, good things will happen. so instead of thinking "ah crap i gained 20 pounds".. think "hey i'm going to try my hardest to get a better body and lose those 20 pounds and prove people wrong! I CAN DO THIS!"
you have to be committed. there's no half point. either you go all the way or you become a couch potato.
Ok so I have a boyfriend who i been dating for a month and is nice but my dad thinks hes sneaky and my dads pinion counts
then i have a guy frend that we have been hanging out all the tie and is amazing and my dad really likes him but what should i do i no he likes me and i no he is thinking of asking me out but should i stay with my guy or try something new
try making a pro/con list and seeing which one would make YOU the happiest in the long run.
yes other people's opinions do matter, but dont let them completely influence your decision. take them into consideration but dont do something just for your dads sake.
so i dated a guy for about 3-4 months in the beginning of the year. everything was good but i felt him as more like a good friend than a boyfriend, so i ended it- i told him this, which is the complete truth. at first he was fine with it and said it was mutual. so we were on good terms, we still talked and were good friends still. then over the summer we hungout and he just randomly kissed me. i was shocked but i kinda just went along with it to see what would happen (just a kiss nothing else). then after that night we started hanging out more and went back to like we were dating again (hooking up, sexual stuff, etc) only not official. i figured it was just a casual friends with benefits relationship and it wasn't going to hurt anyone since he said the breakup was mutual. then after like a month or 2 i told him that i couldn't do it anymore because it didn't feel right to me. he accepted it and we were just friends again. then after another month or 2 he out of the random got mad at me and told me i was a bitch and that i screwed him over (randomly). i don't even know what i did that was wrong and he wouldn't tell me. he told me to delete his number(i did). and he deleted me off facebook and everything. it really bothers me that i don't know what i did to him. can you figure out what he might be thinking of from what i said? and i deleted his number but i can get it back. should i text him? its been like a month since he flipped out on me. what should i do? i've tried to just ignore it but i feel like an awful person because i really didn't mean to screw him over and if it was that bad i want to make it up to him. thanks.
oh boy i know exactly where you're coming from... i used to know a guy like this. except he and i were friends w/ benefits and not dating. we were talking and randomly he yelled at me telling me i'm a horrible person and to never talk to him again.. i had no idea what i did wrong. i begged him to tell me what happened and why he all of a sudden thinks this.. he never gave me a reason.
my lesson learned from that experience is that you just have to let it go. let. it. go. he was a jerk to begin with and is still a jerk. i have learned that i was wasting my time with him because ever since we last talked, he's been a jerk to a lot of girls. i'm thankful now that he and i aren't speaking and it has made me strong in return. its made me realize that i shouldnt trust everyone i meet and that i have to be careful when selecting the right friends.
in your case, i'd just forget about him. if he really just got mad over this.. then chances are that he will probably react that way towards other issues/problems. you dont want to be with a guy who will act like that.
on the other hand, if you really feel like you must must must know what went wrong, you can send him a text. dont go overboard and sound obsessed. just simply say- hey i would like to have the chance to say i'm sorry about what happened between us. (saying sorry first can help, even if you dont mean it) and i would like to talk about what exactly happened.
if it was truly meant to be, then it will happen. everything happens for a reason