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Okay hi,
I`m a 16 yr old female..
Alright this has all been taken care of but i don`t know what to do bout somethings..
here i`ll start with what has happened.. I got raped three times by the same guy over the summer..Yes i`ve tooken care of him and he`s doin 21 yrs thank god plus he admitted to it..
But i`m havin diffculties with sleeping,Yea i thought that shit only happened in movies where you feel he`s by you and what not but No its happenin to me.. I talk to my boyfriend about it and he tries to talk to me at night as long as possible but that doesn`t change how i feel after i get off the phone with him.. This might sound stupid but the only time i sleep good is with my boyfriend on weekends its like i use him to put me to sleep i mean Yes i`ve tried sleeping pills,reading and i`ve counted sheep and everything else there is to count.. i don`t know what to do i`m so tired in school and my grades are goin down horribly.. i seen a doctor to talk to about it but i don`t think that helped.. i mean this guy already took my trust and everything else away.. i mean he don`t need my sleep too.. so if you can give me advice in anything or how to deal with it better ill rate high and give advice.. (link)
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Okay, I know you think this is bullcrap, but you probably still feel scared about him being around, subconciously, you know? It's normal for rape victims in real life situations.
I'm surprised that the sleeping pills don't work. Were they prescription pills? The reason you probably sleep better with your boyfriend is because you feel safe and protected.
I'm very sorry about what happened. No one deserves to be violated like that. I personally think that guy should never be let out to rape more women.
I wish you good luck!
!~*becca*~!
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Okay Does anyone know what I can use to wash my face in that will not make my face dry and will make it soft. I use Irish Spring soap it it like makes my face peel and makes it really dry it seems like it tightens my skin up or something. So does anyone know of anything like soap or face wash that want dry my skin out and make it feel soft?
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I use CVS brand face scrub, then a cleansing pad once or twice a day. Soap dries out your face, so that's not a good idea. If you want a moisturizer that won't make your face oily and won't cost a lot, then just get regular aloe.
!~*becca*~!
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Ok, so I'm pretty sure that I love my gf, and a friend told me she loved me. But I don't know if he was telling the truth. I want to bring it up but I don't know how I can tell if she does. If I say it and then she doesn't say it back, well I wouldn't know what to do, it would just be out there and then everything would be awkward. What
should I do? Do i just tell her or wait to see if she loves me, then tell her. Sorry I'm just confused.
Thanks, I'll rate high for good advice. (link)
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Tell her how you feel! If you feel you truly love her, then don't hold that in! Tell her! Take a chance!
Personally, I'm glad you don't do that "I love you" on the first week/month/whatever because that's totally lying. I'm glad someone has sense. It sounds like you two are in a real, mature relationship. That's great. Don't lose that.
!~*becca*~!
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To be honest A part of me doesnt want a boyfriend right now and another part does. Ive been going out with my bf for two years today.. I'm still young and my boyfriend is two years older. I dont realy know what to do or say right now but ive felt like crap today. Its hard to expalin..When he kisses, hugs me, or anything i dont feel butterflys or somthing special. But.. When this new kid that i just met yesterday (ive hung out with him all day the last two days) if i just think about him i get butterflys and i can feel my heart pounding...
Signed,
Confused
13/f
P.s The new kid is only a year older and is in my grade.. My bf is 15 1/2 and is in 9th.. (link)
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Nice topic choice lol.
You shouldn't just ditch your boyfriend just because the sparks aren't there anymore. It's natural, I guess, for the "butterflies" to go away, since you're so used to being with him. If you really want to go out with this new guy, then go for it. Just make sure that you're making the right decision before you ruin your current relationship. You could regret it for a LONG time. Good luck!!
!~*becca*~!
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I was wondering if anyone can help me make a plan of when to change "supplies" during my school schedule. I'm only in middle school, so no one uses purses yet. There's also this one girl who ALWAYS searches my pencil case to find gum and whatnot so I can't use my pencil case! I go to my locker before lunch time, and in past situations I have picked up a purse in which I put a pad in. But, I hate using purses because its SO obvious that when you carry a purse to the bathroom, you have your period!! I don't know any other ways! I don't want to buy anything at school because the dispncers have the worst brands. My tampon can not last ALL day and I'm a little scared to use jumbo because im sure they're hard to insert and other stuff. If anyone wants to contradict this idea please do so! I need some ideas! (link)
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I wouldn't use the jumbo kinds. They increase the risk of TSS and they can be uncomfortable to a virgin. There's nothing wrong with using a purse in middle school. I carried one last year (7th grade). They add to your outfit and maybe you'll end up starting a trend. It's not obvious that you have your period when you carry a purse, and usually when people have a purse, they bring it whereever they go, so it's not that noticable. Change it before you go to school, then at lunch. It shouldn't be embarrassing when you have your period. People don't really care when they know you're having your period. If you just want to use a pad, put it in your pocket (if it's not too thick, ya know?) Or you could always just keep it in your backpack (unless at your school you don't bring them whereever you go).
!~*becca*~!
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ok..im the person who was talking about my crush being abused. well he just made out with a girl who just made out with a guy YESTERDAY!!! she has a rep for the BIGGEST SLORE in our school. well me and my friend (one of the girls whos a mutual friend) was like "im not going to give him any sympothy now about his dad because thats SO stupid and its BULL!!!!" i was like "yea good point.. i wont either!!"
is that the right thing to do though? i still kind of like him..a little.. (link)
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Um, well first of all, it's not slutty to make out with people. I know people have different opinions, but that's mine. No offence, but I think the reason you think she's a whore is because you like the guy. Please don't get mad at me for stating my opinion! I really don't mean to offend you.
You shouldn't not give him sympathy about his dad just because he just hooked up with someone. That's riduculous. I'm going to look at this problem from your viewpoint and think it's slutty to hook up with people you're not going out with. Maybe the reason he's doing this is because he's upset (I really don't know what happened with his dad but I think I have a good idea). I know from experience the people do things they wouldn't normally do when they're upset.
!~*becca*~!
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first off: WILL RATE A 5 IF YOU HELP ME OUT! ok i had this dream...let me explain it...
there was this evil being (kinda like soemthign that came out of Charmed...lol) and it kept chasing me around and trying to kill me. but i guess it kinda had a human form. kinda like the guy who had knocked up pheobe. but he was trying to kill me. he would get ahold of me and then like drag me around and stuff, liek torturing me before he killed me. granted, i made alot of escape attempts, many failing fromthe start, many almost suceeding but not quite. then he had gotten me into his truck (dont ask) and was going to drive it off the cliff and dissapear before it hit bottom. He said he would let me live under one codnition. I provided him with an heir. at first i refused, but i guess the fact of knowign my life was on the line scared me so much i gave in. then i remember
thinking "i have to tell steve i can never see him again. for his safety" (see, i even think of you in my dreams!) then the guy, before taking offmy handcuffs, told me that he wanted a daughter b/c he already had a son. the next thing i remember i was outside and i had a son on my knee then somethign came jumping out at me and scared me shitless and i woke from it.
That was the dream. and my boyfreind got upset b.c i told him (online this afternoon...he is out of state on family business...his mom is sick) and he goes "so even in your dreams you would rather cheat on me than die. i would rather die personally. but its a dream and we cant always control our dreams" then he signed off! didnt say good bye or anything. is he mad at me? does my dream mean anything? I WILL RATE A 5 IF YOU HELP ME OUT! (link)
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Ha. Your boyfriend is being paranoid. Dreams can be really random (because basically it's just a bunch of randomly picked thoughts that you've had). Explain to him that you would NEVER cheat on him.
You can do things in dreams that you would NEVER even think of doing in real life, and you have absolutly no control of your dreams. Tell him this.
!~*becca*~!
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Right well we got a swimmin pool built in our school last month and when the girls are on their periods they aren't allowed to sit out but are forced to use tampons!!!!!! I haven't been on since it was built but oomg. I am so scared. I have never used a tampon and I'm never GONNA so don't suggest I do. Isn't it like illegal to force us to use tampons or somethin? My friend even got her rents in about it and they still made her use tampons!! What can I do on swimmin days that I am on? I'm not using a tampon but I'm not standin in the changing room arguing bout whether to use one or not with the PE teacher its embarassing!! (link)
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Okay, well, I AM going to suggest using a tampon. They're NOT scary, no matter how much you think they are. It doesn't hurt if you use a junior one. Every box of tampons has an instuction sheet. Use a small, hand-held mirror if you can't find the right hole. If you don't believe me about it not hurting, talk to your mom. If you use her tampons, it WILL hurt, so ask her to buy juniors or slim fits. Don't be stubborn about it (no offence, seriously! it's not really a big deal). If you need the instrustions, send a question to my inbox.
!~*becca*~!
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Alright i did stuff in the pasted with an ex boyfriend and i did stuff with a current boyfriend.. but see the problem is i bleed everytime what does that mean? is there something to do about it? Please Help Me!!! (link)
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What?! Ok if you're talking about sex then say "sex" not stuff! Lol it makes it more helpful. The reason you're bleeding is because your vagina isn't "big" enough yet. It isn't stretched out enough. In short, their penises were too big and it made little tears in the walls of the vagina. It's nothing to worry about really. Over time this won't happen anymore.
!~*becca*~!
ps. I you mean you did "stuff" with your ex before you were in the relationship with your current boyfriend. Not that it's any of my buisiness.
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ok i've had my period for bout 5-6 months. And if been at the end of the month but this time if hasn't happen i got it at the end of September but not at the end of October? Is this normal? What's wrong? (link)
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Nothing is wrong. That's perfectly normal.
!~*becca*~!
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well yeah so this stared like a really long time ago so yeah well i had 3 best friends, one since i was 5, one since i was 7, and one since i was 6.W were really close and would do everything togther.like i mean everything. we would walk home from school and have a sleep over every friday and i would always be over to there houses because i dont live on the same sreet as them. so anyway in the middle of the summer, 2 out of 3 of my friends slept over and soone friend already had her priod and so that night the other 1 did to.so anyway this one girl at school that we used to hate well she started being nice to us.and so we made plans with her to go to lunch and then a near by store. well it turned out one of my friends (the girl who just got her priod) couldent go so it was just me and my other friend. so the night of the sleep over we were planing on telling the girl we were going to lunch with and we were going say that they got there priods and brag about it. so at the place me and my friend were telling her that they got there priods. so after that, that girl starteed geting nicer and nicer to just one of us and so the new girl wanted to be in are group.(we well call her the new girl)(we well call the girl that the new girl is being nice to betty)(we well call the girl who was out to lunch with me pickel)(and we well call the girl who was on vaca tall)so anyway yeah so the new girl wanted to be in the group with us. but we (me, tall, and pickel).but betty did because new girl was being nice to her.so Betty was mad at us.about 3 weeks later we became friends with betty agin but we stell dident want her in the group. well thenBetty found out that me and pickel told new girl about her getting her priod. and betty forgot that she told us to brag to new girl about it. so now she was mad at me and pickel. well then she forgave pickel and was stell mad at me and i dont no y. so whatever about 3 weeks later it was her b day and she was being nice to me agin. then new girl got pickel to notg like me any more. to make a long store short none of my friends even talk to me any more and on halloween 10 min befor i was all ready and about to go to there house 4 trick or treating they told me that i wasent going trick or treading with them any more. theve made me cry so many times about this mass and im starting to get over them but its really hard because i've been friends with them for so long and i dont want to through that all away. please answer this ill always rat 5 so yeah and dont not read this just cuz its long!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP ME!!!! (link)
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Okay, I strongly recomend making your question a LOT less confusing by not using those made up names and using better grammar. It really helps in getting advice! I'm not trying to be mean at all. It's a serious suggestion. Make your question less confusing, and if you want, send it to me.
!~*becca*~!
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ok i have alot of guy friends,...but a little less girl ones,...anyway, i'm kind of violent...like if someone does something to me i'll beat the crap out of them and today i was with my guy friend's girlfriend((also my friend)) and he was like "YOU BETTER NOT BE MESSIN WITH MY GIRLFRIEND!" and i just gave him a strange look and then he goes "please dont hurt me" like he was a helpless dog,...how can i like not be so mean and violent? (link)
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Ok, this really works when you're angry. Take a deep breath.
Think before you act. Don't think violently. I used to be the same way when I was a lot younger (I tried to act like the "tough girl"). Just think about how people would react to you being violent.
This is a tought question to answer, so my advice is probably bad from your vantage point. Heh.
!~*becca*~!
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how do you insert a tampon? i've tried countless times, and i just cannot do it. is there anything i could use to get it up there like vaseline or something? thanks (link)
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NO! Do NOT use vasaline!! On every box of tampons there are instuctions. If you can't locate the right hole, use a small hand-held mirror. Relax!! If you're nervous, then you're gonna have a hard time.
!~*becca*~!
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Okay, I went out with this guy right, and we broke up and everything and then we went out again and then we broke up again but i still really like him and now he has a g/f and we used to talk all the time and now that he has a g/f we don't talk ne more and i really miss it and everything and i don't know what to do should i just forget about him and move on or should i try talking to him again?
HELP
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Try you best to move on. He has found another girl and if you don't really talk anymore, than what's the point? Find someone else.
!~*becca*~!
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this has two questions in it s0o0o it might be a lil long....so0o0o i have this boyfriend(2weeks) and i like him a lot but i dont know if he likes me. im in 9th grade and he is in 10th....but he doesnt talk to me all he does is kiss me and hold me ....no talk...just touch...s0o0o0o i dont know what to do ..do you think he is just going out with me for the ass or do you think he likes me?(question one)
ok here is the next question....i dated my ex boyfriend for 7 months and 5 days and i know he still like me and i still like him like kinda a lot(please no comments on the whoreishness of that PLEASE) and my boyfriend and him HATE eachother LIKE WOAH!!! but today in the computetr lab we were flirting like we ALWAYS do and we ended up holding hands and when we are on the phone we always say we love eachother and still flirt.....and he calls me his undercover lover...and he says im cheating on my boyfriend with him...s0o0o0o my question is what do i do....???? IM SO00O0O0O0O0O0O0 confuzzled!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i will rate fives for good answers NO SMART ASS ANSWERS
~confuzzled and torn~ (link)
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Well, the answer is kind of obvious. If you think your current boyfriend is going out with you "just for the ass", then ditch him. I mean, if you both like each other and your boyfriend is a dog, then go for your ex.
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Okay, as childish as this might sound, I needed to ask it anyways. I'm 15 female, and this other girl named; Rachael is 14. Rachael rides my bus & she was my first friend at school. I just recently moved here, she was/still is a loner too! After about a month she really started to annoy me, & I guess you could say I really don't like her AT ALL. But, she still follows me around, talks to me, etc. I'm not mean to her though - Seen as; I'm nothing like that. I'm seriously one of the nicest people alive. I really don't like to yell at people but if it becomes necessary, then I do. Today on the bus she took my purse because stupid me left it in the seat while I went back to my locker to get a book. When I got back she said, "I threw your purse out the window! Your love took the purse I don't have it!" Which really pissed me off. I asked her nicely for about 5 minutes, then I just lost it and totally flipped out, I really wanted my purse back & I knew she had it. She gave it back 10 mins after that and I ignored her the rest of the way home. When she asked if I was mad at her I said no, because I think it might seem childish if I were to say yes because she stole my purse & I defintiely didn't want to be the immature one in the situation. I was wondering, if I did right? Did it seem childish of me not to talk to her, or do you think that I did right? Thanks!!
Sorry this is so long, but I really needed to know. (link)
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Personally, I don't think it was very childish for you not to talk to her (or that's just because I'm childish maybe o_0). Talk to her and tell her that her behavior is bothering you. Be nice, or else she'll burst into tears and you'll be forced to comfort her (which sucks when you really don't feel bad for the person). It really sucks when you have to deal with people like that.
If you want to get rid of her completely, just try to avoid her a little bit at a time. She'll get the hint (unless she's really thick).
Hahaha sorry I've been so mean about it. I'm feeling kinda spiteful right now lol.
!~*becca*~!
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i have a school dance this friday i can either wear a mini skirt from abercrombie but when i dance it might fly up or a pair of faded ripped jeans from abercrombie also i either have a collared white shirt or a pink and white tank top that go together what should i wear? (link)
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DON'T wear the mini!! It will be annoying when you're trying to dance. I would pick the jeans and tank.
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there is this boy that i have liked for ever and he always tells me how he likes me too, as a friend. well he is preppy and im preppy but turning skater and im scared he wont notice me at all if i change. what should i do because i really want him and his attention? (link)
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Be yourself! If you want to be "skater" (I really hate labels, but whatever) then be "skater"! If he doesn't like you for who you are, then screw him!! It's a really hard lesson to learn. Good luck!
!~*Becca*~!
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hey, i'm a sophomore in high school and i attend an all girls school. I've been at this school since freshman year and it's a really great school. It's great academically and the activities are great, but their's one problem.. and that's the social aspect. I've been thinking about transferring because I really don't fit in at school at all. I am in honors classes and i take an AP class and i've been in class with basically the same girls and i don't fit in with them at all. They are so different from me and i've given them a chance and it doesn't work. I've talked to a lot of people that aren't in my classes that i'm in theatre with, but it isn't working for me. THeirs another school in my area thats a boy/girl school that i coudl transfer to. i don't know if maybe that would be a better option, i could start over and make new freinds .. i just don't know if its worth risking my good academic standings at my current school and the awesome extracurriculars. does anybody have any advice?? i seriously dont know what to do anymore i've been crying all week. it really sucks and it just wears on me not having any friends at school. please please please help... and let me know what you would do in my situations. thanks. any advice is appreciated-- all advice will be rated a 5. (link)
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Oooh, an all girls' school! I could never survive. Grades are very important, but a social life really helps your mental health. If you become depressed from having no friends, then it could affect your grades greatly. Try hard to meet people in your classes, and if you can't find anyone you're friendly with, then I do recomend transfering to a coed school. Public schools are really fun.
!~*Becca*~!
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What are some good country songs? (link)
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Well I like Deana Carter and Lonestar. Check them out. There are a lot of country songs. Look on the internet. Ask around.
!~*becca*~!
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