ok here we go i have a lot of problems myself which is why i like to help people because to me its easier to help them to help me. my friends always come to me when they need help and i try my best to give as much help as i can.i may b only 14 but alot of poeple say im wise beyond my years.>GOD NVR GIVES YOU SOMETHING YOU CANT HANDLE
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Well lately my armpits have been getting SO sweaty. It's pretty cold where I am an i don't know why they're like that? And if they stay like that I don't know what I'm gonna do wearing tee's in the summer. So I have a couple questions:
Does shaving your pits help them not sweat as much?
Is there any deoderant that works for it? (Only answer if you've TRIED it though)
Thanks so much! (link)
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i myself have sweat problems to. but shaving your armpits would make a great difference in swaeting as much . as far as deodrant maybe you need a stronger kind try a mens deodrant
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im kind of embaressed...but like, i masturbate and i think its gross and i know everyone says its not gross and its compltely natural and everyone does it and its not a big deal, but i cant help how i feel you know? but im trying to do it less like only once a week or something and (this sounds dumb) i told god that i would only once a week but it seems like i cant and i've done t like three times already and im worried im going to go to hell for lying to god...and i feel really stupid but i just wanted to ask someone... (link)
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your not going to hell. masturbationis totally natural , not everyone does it but you arent the only one either. i just wanted to tell you that even though you told god you wouldnt it really doesnt matter becuase if he was mad about 3 times its actually just like the i time a week .so dont worry youself
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Hey, Im not planning on doing this but im just wondering. What would make you loose more weight faster .. Only eating lets say a bag of chips and a drink for lunch .. then for dinner just toast .. by the way no breakfast .. or just eating regularly. So basically my question is will eating less cause you to gain more weight or stay the same. A friend of mine is going through this and I would like to know. (link)
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eating less will put you at a dangerous state you could kill yourself . she might lose more weight like to bones but what she might really wanna consider is her health you not eating a fir amount of food can damage your heath. if shes trying to lose weight go on a diet but not stop eating completly
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I just found out that I have to give a speech in front of my english class. I have a month before I have to deliver it, and wanted to get a head start. The objectives are to strive to speak without any notes; which is why I want to start early to practice.
I can basically pick any topic I want. The topic has to have a general and specific purpose, with a beginning, body, and conclusion to reinforce the purpose. Does anyone have any ideas for a topic that would really catch my classmates attention and ensure I get a good grade?
Id really appreciate it! (link)
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most speaches turn out better when their something in your life taht you ahve an everyday thing with you could write about the importantance of family,school, friends what ggod and bad about them, or a relationship taht really touched your hear that you want to share with other people
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My friend collects model horses (like the plastic ones, etc). I'm fine with it, but I'm just curious to know what people think about it. What are your opinions? (link)
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i think its really kool ideal and everybody needs a hobby and hers is collecting horses which is fine.
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Okay so I'm trying out for a singing group at our school called "Chamber Singers" If you dont know what that is its like a choir...but tryouts are next friday and i have no idea what song to sing...i want to do one that really showcases my voice...but i dont know the best way to go about figuring out which one does...Like I thought about recording on a karaoke machine but you know how bad the quality of that is...and then i figured i could ask my parents but i'm not sure they'll be completely honest...what do yall think? I really DONT want to make a fool of myself....singing is a HUGE dream of mine and I take it extremely seriously! Thanks so much in advance for anyone who helps...
and please dont mention that i could sing for you because
A) I dont have a mic
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B) You still sound back singing on a mic hooked up to the computer..so please dont mention that option...thanks! (link)
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theres know real way of telling you how to pick a song so you could either choice:make up your own song and sing it like you want, or choice B: find a couple songs you like to sing in the shower to. put your hands over your ears to block out all sound and see what to you you like best .i find this techiqne really works when trying to deal with pitches. !good luck!
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One of my friends and I have are having this argument. She insists on talking about my sexual orientation. It doesn't bother me that she talks about it, with myself or with others, but she insists on labeling me a 'bisexual'.
She says it's just a word everyone understands and I should accept it as a descriptor. I admit it's a pretty accurate description of me but I still don't like the label and I can't identify with all the bullshit and connotations attached to it. It wouldn't bother me so much if I was single, but because I'm with someone people seem to hear bisexual and think 'easy' or that I'm up for a threesome and such stupidity.
Is she right in using a word just cause it's easily understood by most people or can I put my foot down because I don't like it? (link)
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put you foot down. labels suck i know tell her u dont like labels ,your you not "bi".if she insits on still callin you this trying her something she doesnt like and ask her her how she feels .put her in your shoes in other terms.
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Iam 16 years old and I only wear a 36 A bra and my mom wears a triple D bra arn't I suppose to be bigger to? (link)
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everybody has their own pace in puberty your probaly just hitting it a little late its not unusual for girls to not start getting bigger boobs at 16,its actually quite common so dont worry.just relax and let puberty hit ya.
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ok! so i was goingout with this guy that i like LOVED and then he cheated on me and we broke up. He begged me to go back out with him and i said yes, i love him so much and he was being really sweet and stuff. its long distance and i love him but i want to get with other guys... what do i do?! (link)
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ask him if he wants to see other people say you want to keep your choices open
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i think i'm anorexic... i really don't know what to do but i love the way i feel when i don't eat! but i'm just so fat! i went from 87 to 100 in a couple months and now i never want to eat anything and even if i do i don't... i can stand the way i look and i wanna change. NOW. i think im' anorexic and i don't know what to do (link)
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first of all how old are you if you are 13 -14 you should weight close to 110 87 pounds is way to low . another thing is if you are under any stress tell someone usually thats what leads to anorexica.starving yourself is horrible you can do plenty of things to change your appearance you dont have to stop eating .you can wear make up find a new fashion even get your hair cut .the only thing starving yourself will do is show yourbones and make you look sickly and ugly. you are beautiful and eating makes you healthy.if you really feel fat try a diet but please dont starve yourself
i hope i helped you
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well im going out with this one girl and her best freind told me that she told her that she dont really like me shes just going out with me to have a boyfriend.She said she liked me before and they would be talking on the phone and she would say i love him soo much and the girl im going out with said ew!!! how can you go out with him and she said she said mean things about me...i dont know who to believe.....what should i do??? (link)
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i think your g/fs friend likes you alot i dont think you should dump your g/f i think you need to talk 2 your g/f but dont bring her friends name in it girls tend to believe their friends first so say something like i heard you know and ask her about if she seems like shes lying follow your gut
i hope i helped:/
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hey im 14/m and im stumped. i cant thing of sweet things to say to my gf i love her to death and she thinks im the sweetest thing in the world but i like went stupid and cant think of anything else and its really bugging me can someone tell me some things so say i really need it to help me get going again. ill really appreciate it thx everyone. (link)
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i have the perfect thing when you see her wherever u see her go right up to her tell her "i just wanted you to know that if i ever met any other girl they wouldnt come close to you;your like my angel not mention you look like one to and then give her that charming smile girls just seem to fall inlove with. you might wanna try gettin her a teddy bear or if you walk home together find a flower to give to her ,chics go wild for this stuff
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my bf and i have always got along and always had fun well today he told me he hated me and walked away nd i asked him if he was breaking up with me he said no B*tch i was uhh i am soo confused was he showing off for some reason and then i called him he was like hello whos this i was like your gf he was like oh and it was silent i was like well why are you being mean to me he hung up soo I IMED him and he blocks me but i got on my old name and the thing in his info still says my name and now it says Ill love you forever and always babe you mean the world erg im soo confused
sorry its long =[
ill rate 5's !!! =] (link)
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this might hurt but im be totally honest! i really think hes trying to dump you w/out dumping you. but ionno so lets not jump to conclusions waht i think you should do is confront him give him the benift of the doubt if he ignores u still well u can either dump him or b patient mayb hes going thru something really dramatic and jus needs a lil space .just tell if he needs anything your there for him and let him have so space
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he is always making me uspet even over little things. im really over sensitive so i just leave it alone.
today he told my firend he didnt like the "rules i was giving him and all i asked as these so called "rules" was he didnt smoke or drink and didnt ignore me when friends were over and he goes and tells my best friend he is mad at me cause i asked those "rules" so he lied and told me he was never mad and yells at her. so now she hates me and he is mad at me and im crying my eyese out. i dont know what to do. please help me im crying. :) thanks a lot. (link)
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heres my solution it may not be perfect for you but i think itll help. first of all shes your best friend so she probaly doesnt hate shes jus upset because mayb she feels you dont believe her or mayb he just embarresed her in front of ppl ( think about it if your friends b/f blew up in your face how would you feel) let her know u understand.and as for your b/f make a compromise about mayb the whole drinking thing like maybe sure you can drink (add in you rather him not but..)either hes gonna do it and he might feel like your trying to rule. if you think its a lasting relationship try to work it out but then again if he cant give up a bit of booze is he really worth it all??
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so i've been dating this guy and he really likes me. he talks about wanting a really serious relationship as in wanting it to result in something for the future. hes 18 so i can understand why but the problem is im 16. i was in a year relationship all of my freshmen year and i enjoyed this year by being single. i really like single as a matter of fact i prefer being single but i really like this guy. he really likes me too and i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to lose him. but i feel like im not as happy as i used to be cause i cant party as much as i used to i cant talk to all the guys i used to hang out with all the girls i used to or anything like that. i really dont want to waste two more high school years by being in a relationhip when i should be having fun. what do i do? should i break it off or give it time to see how things go? what would you do? (link)
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what would i do? well to me the answer is simple but maybe not for you i know.see your only 16 and you only live once wouldnt you rather livcing it learning from all the other b/fs you have instead of always being with one.another thing hes 18 hes ready to start his life but the question is are you ready to start your life with him are you ready to give up all the partying and the summer flings . i now you dont want to hurt nobody wants to hurt anyone but if your unhappy eventually he will be to so think about that.
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ok i just wanted to know... im 13/f and im flat and i dont have me period so i wanted to know when is the age you get boobs? i mean me sister had her period when she was 14 and my mom had it when she was 13.... im worried that i wont get boobs until i get my period.and if this is so how long does it take for boobs to grow in when you get your period? thanks !! i rate high.
ps-is there any way to speed up the boob growth? (link)
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well you may just be a late bloomer which is not bad. my best avice is to ask your sister how long it took her boobs to get big and ask your mom usually its heritarry so youll be right along the lines they were.as for your period your not missing out on anything it really suxs,but just because you get your period doesnt mean your boobs are gonna grow .personally my boobs started growing b4 i had aunt rose(my period) but no everybodies the same.
p.s. i really dont think they have anything to speed up the process.
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I'm a guy and just wondering - when I am being told of a situation or problem, and the person (usually my friend or girlfriend) does not ask for my advice, is it wrong if I do give my advice and thoughts on it? I find myself doing that too often, instead of just listening. Nobody has really said anything about it, but when I hear other people talk about it, I realize that about myself. So should I just try to listen and be there for them or is what I am doing ok? Thanks in advance, will rate. (link)
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k heres the problem when people tell you there problems they want you to listen ,sometimes they expect your opinion but sometimes they just want you there to agree with them.so really pay attentio to the person telling them your problem try to figure out do they want me to answer this or would they rather me just agree with. sometmes its ok to disagree if you feel strong enough about. but really mayb you should just listen.and if they ask you opinion give it simple as that
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Hey all. I was wondering if you guys thought I made a smart choice. Here it is: for freshman year, I am not continuing Spanish and going to Spanish 2 Honors, but instead I'm taking Italian 1 because I think it's different and a beutiful language. Please tell me if you think I made a smart choice. Thanks! (link)
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i think its a smart choice your experiencing other things and i think collages like a little disverty(spelling?) but (i know the big but) spanish is used a lot more commonly than Italian so for you its all a matter of choice to me Italian is really kool and different.
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ok well a couple weeks ago my best friend and i got into this huge fight .. she was mad at me for almost a week and i dont think she knows but i cried a lot and i am 100% sorry and would never do anything like that agen.
as far as i can tell things are back to normal now but how do i know for sure whether our friendship is really mended? i know it will take a while but how doi show her that she can trust me and i would never do anyhting like that again?
please help me ill rate 5s! (link)
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wow! well really what you have to do is you have to talk to her ask her how you can make her feel like your her trusted friend again. you may want to give her a little time so let her know that your in no hurry.
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i am 14 i really like this boy and i think he likes me too. Yet he has a girlfreind .i think he really likes me though we always make eye contacts and he treats me like a boy who really likes a gurl sometimes i wonder that maybe he went out with the gurl so he can get rid of all the gurls who are all up on him and save the best for last. But i see him but he never answers my emails i'm to nervouse to call him . Now his brother also seems like he likes me as well . What do you think what can i do. (link)
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I know this is a big deal ive been through it myself and the best way i handled it was just by talking to him getting to know him. if he finds he really likes you he'll dump his girlfriend. but you never know you might just find you dont like him .so be careful.all i can say is flirt like crazy and hope that wins him in the end,he has to make his own decision.
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