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WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
so i've been dating this guy and he really likes me. he talks about wanting a really serious relationship as in wanting it to result in something for the future. hes 18 so i can understand why but the problem is im 16. i was in a year relationship all of my freshmen year and i enjoyed this year by being single. i really like single as a matter of fact i prefer being single but i really like this guy. he really likes me too and i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to lose him. but i feel like im not as happy as i used to be cause i cant party as much as i used to i cant talk to all the guys i used to hang out with all the girls i used to or anything like that. i really dont want to waste two more high school years by being in a relationhip when i should be having fun. what do i do? should i break it off or give it time to see how things go? what would you do?
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what would i do? well to me the answer is simple but maybe not for you i know.see your only 16 and you only live once wouldnt you rather livcing it learning from all the other b/fs you have instead of always being with one.another thing hes 18 hes ready to start his life but the question is are you ready to start your life with him are you ready to give up all the partying and the summer flings . i now you dont want to hurt nobody wants to hurt anyone but if your unhappy eventually he will be to so think about that.
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Relationships are supposed to be fun and when you're with the right guy, at the right time, they are. But judging from what you're saying, this clearly isn't the case. Ignoring what he might feel about all this for a moment, it boils down to two options.
1)Dump him and be single again
2)Stay with him but continue to wonder what you're missing.
By everything you have said so far, if I were you, I would probably choose the second option. If you're feeling unhappy, the relationship clearly isn't working for you. You're still young and while I understand this guy has feelings for you, if you're not ready for that commitment yet, there's no point wasting his or your time, acting like there is a future for you both.
Your best bet is to break it off now - gently - by explaining to him that he's a really great guy and in a few years perhaps it would have been perfect but you're just not ready to commit to anyone right now. I know you're concerned that you will hurt his feelings but it's the kindest thing to both of you.
Just make sure that when you're living it up at the parties for the following few weeks, you remember to keep a sensitive eye out for him, so it doesn't look like you're too happy or any chances of reviving a friendship will be gone for good!
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It's thoughtful of you to think about his feelings like you are, and shows maturity on your part. However, you need to explore those feelings your having. You need to allow yourself the fun teen years without feeling you have to answer to a guy. If he is the one down the road, eventually you are going to feel that you didn't get to be your own person during this time of your life and may even grow to regret him for it.
I would tell him how you feel, You obviously like this guy so tell him. But, also tell him you need to take it slow and enjoy the freedom to be yourself before you can commit to one person on a long term basis.
Good luck and love.
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I would try to talk to him about those things like hanging around with other guys and so on. He shoud understand youre just 16 and you need to live your life and not just be with him. If he really likes you he should understand that youre not ready for something serious. Im just trying to say you shoul talk to him about it all.
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it seems like you just dont want to commit to a guy. and if thats how you feel dont mess with his head. thats wrong. if you dont want a relationship what does it matter if you lose him? my advice is to make up your mind. whats more important to you him or partying? and if you honestly think he is a waste of your time... why are you even asking this? it seems like you already made up your mind. do what your heart leads you to. that is crappy advice "follow your heart" but it seems like your following your head. your makeing this desition to much about what you think. do you love him? honest to God love him? if you do... why lose that to party? and if you dont. hey have some fun. hope i helped.
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just think, could you see yourself with this guy in the next.. year? or can you see yourself having fun like you want to be doing?
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