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Hey everybody! My name is Ann, and I think I give pretty good advice. I am nineteen, my favorite color is orange, I love pasta, am the oldest child out of five, am Catholic, and am a music education major with flute as my principle. Feel free to ask me anything, and I'll do my best!

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well its weird im 12 and my gf is 14 and she asks if i want to have sex wut should i say

Personally, I think that if your twelve you are way to young to have sex. Your girlfriend is too. I would just tell her "NO." If she really likes you, it shouldn't be a problem.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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I am 42,male, my brother is 50 married with one son.
My brother recently(9 months ago) won £4.5 million UK pounds on the lottery. My Question is this, he sent me a copy of him receiving the cheque and that is it, I considered us to be pretty close prior to his win, but all i feel now is bitterness, not jealousy, which i can imagine people would say i am. just bitter, i always said and still maintain that i would help my family out if such a windfall should fall on me, am i wrong to feel this emotion or should i be angry, I am really struggling with this so constructive answers would, i hope help me to come to terms with this,

I can understand where that emotion is coming from enitirely. It's hard when you get the short end of the stick. And, as I am definetly not the lucky one, I can relate big time. I think though that you should try your best to be happy for your brother. It is hard, but everyone gets that moment once. He got lucky. You will too someday, maybe not in the same sense, but just think about it. You know that there have been times when you got better then your brother, and there still will be. WOuld you like it if you brother thought of you as you do of him now.

Lots of Luck, (literally)
Ann

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I have a friend that I've known since like 3rd grade. I'm a sophomore now and lately she's been driving me crazzy. She's my bestfriend and I don't have another bestfriend, i have other friends but I dunno she's always been my bestfriend. So, yeah.. she's been reallly annoying me. Suggestions?

That's pretty much natural. I understand what that is like. You two are starting to run out of excitement and you are noticing more and more of her faults because you have hung out with her for so long. Don't worry though. It seems that you will be annoyed for ever, but that is not the case. My best advice is to try to brodden you topics of conversation. Talk about the serious stuff that you don't share with anyone, and things should get better. Once you know REAL stuff about eachother.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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Hey, it's ~*Annie*~ here. I have a question today. I need a haircut, and does anyone know what the best haircut for me is? I have an oval head, and my picture is in my advice column (username is ~*Annie*~). Thanks so much!

Hi! Nice to meeet a fellow "Ann." Well, I looked at your picture, and I think it would look nice if you got it just a little bit shorter and had the hair you see in front cut at an agle going out. I hope you know what I am talking about. And if all else fails, ask the beautician, they always have good ideas.

Lots of Luck,
Ann
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i like this guy but idont know if he likes me?
But he flirts with me alot including othere girls
what should i do?

Well, since there is not a lot to go on here, I think the best way would be to ask him, but since noboday ever really wants to do that....flirt back (if YOU like him). See what kind of responce you get. That should help clear things up.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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Okay, at homecoming i hung out with this one guy. we both had lots of fun but it was the first time i had ever talked to him. Well, yesterday me and my friend were walking down the hall and she looked into this one class and said, "hey look its the guy you danced with!" he looked out and saw me...i was sooooo embarassed. well, I really wanna talk to him but he probably thinks i'm a little kid now b/c of my friend :o( guys if you can answer this that would be awesome!
he's also a year older than me and he hasn't tried talking to me yet, but it's not like i ever see him during the day. Do i have a chance at all?

I think that you surely have a chance, and you should take advantage of it before you lose your chance. Find him after school or something and be like, "Sorry about my friend the other day. She's a little out there." Then, start up conversation. Let HIM know that you are still interested in him because that may be exactly what he is waiting for.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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My friend's dad smokes. She is afraid he will die! She says that he has been coughing really bad latly. She says he is trying to stop smoking, but not really suceeding. She says that he is the one who brings all the money to the family, and shes just very afraid. She is afraid he will die from cancer or something. So basically, i need some advice in helping her through these hard times, and maybe if theres a good way to help her dad smoking. Thank you!

I think you shuold try your best to be the best friend you can be. Try hard to keep her calm, make her smile lots and lots, and let her know how much you care. My advise for your friend. If her dad is tyring, then she should encourage him and thank him for trying as much as she can. If her dad knew how worried she is about him, then he will be more motivated to quit.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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Hey girl,

You just answered a question how you said that you drank alot of water and you saw improvment in your weight? Well sorry about all the questions but how much weight did you loose? Did you do anything else like exercise or diet? Has the weight stayed off? Sorry about the questions it's just that I wanna loose weight and I have always battled with weight issues. And I am willing to try anything. So I was wondering if you could tell me what you did cause it sounds like you have gone through this. I have alot of gorgeous friends and I feel left out at times and I just want to look in the mirror and like what I see and be confident again. At school I seem pretty confident and I have alot of friends but I just wish that I could loose maybe 10-15 pounds and I hope before Christmas or is that an unhealty goal? Please answer me. I will rate high!
btw.....I am 13 years old. Thanks again*

Ok, first of all. You should know that I am not a very comitted person to that sort of thing. I did not (sadly enough) stick to the water diet. But, I can tell you that it does work. You see, I took health last year, and my health teacher lost many many pounds doing that. Of course, he if physically fit (you know excersises and all). But I know that as long as you eat right and do drink a lot of water, over time it will work. I do still recomend that you do excersise a bit, and live right. FOr more info, try:

-http://mentock.home.mindspring.com/waterdiet.htm
-http://www.outyourbackdoor.com/OYB9/outdoor/outdoorwater.html
-http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=1353

Lots of luck,
Ann

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alright...there are 4 guys you need to know about in this story: Nathan, TJ, Michael, and David.

1.Nathan is my boyfriend of about 2 months. i liked him for almost a year before we started going out.

2.TJ is one of my best friends. I love him so much, and he really likes me (that way). He left our school on thursday though. Now he's homeschooled. i cried for 2 days. (he's coming back next semester, i just found out!!)

3.Michael is a friend that i liked, and he used to like me. Now he has a girlfriend, but we've both said that if we both have problems with our relationships, we'd probably go out.

4.David is also one of my best friends. He also likes me, and we're always hugging. so many people think we go out and it's annoying.

ok...now here's the thing: i might like the last 3. i don't know what to do...i've been thinking about breaking up with nathan, but i might change my mind after i do! I can't really go out with TJ, even though i think i really want to...because i'm friends with his ex (they went out for 6 months), and she still likes him, knows he likes me, and hates it. I can't go out with David, because my best (girl) friend really likes him. And michael's taken...for now.

so now that i have thoroughly confused you, take a moment to make some sense of all this, and then tell me what you think!

please! i'm so confused!

I think that I would definatly have to say that you need to make up your mind. I know its not easy when they all seem so great, but make a list of pros and cons if you have to. Also, I am a fan of the "If its Not Broke, Don't Fix it Policy." If you still like Nathan then you should stick with him and see where that takes you.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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hi.my names jaylene and i my parents recently just got divoreced and ever since that ive been getting into drugs and cutting myself and my parents(mom mostly) abuse me and call me stuff like a whore all the time. my brother hurts me and does the same as my parents. everyone i no thinks im so happy and i just want to let it all out and tell all of them that im not! and i want to get out of my life and start a new one but thats not goin to happen...theres one good part i love my boyfriend weve been goiing out for 6 months and hes the only one that keeps me going everyday or else who knows whered id be but yeah i dont no wut to do about drugs and abuse and my parents so please HELP me!!! ps i love shawn!!

Well, first of all you should NOT be doing drugs. That is really really bad, and you will end up learning that the hard way if you don't quit now. As for your mom, no one deserves that. You may need to tell someone seriously. Yes, it may be really tough, but you can't handle that sort of thing on your own. Our school has a safe school help line, or you could talk to a trusted teacher or guidence counceler. I wish you lots of luck, Ann

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Hey, i'm a 15 year old girl turning 16 n a few months. I'v never had confidence in myself and to be conpletely honest i kinda hate myself. I think im fat and ugly and i try to lose weight but nothings good enough.I'v never had a boyfriend in my life let alone had a guy tell me im pretty. My friends are pretty and they always have guys asking them out but i juss feel stupid hangin with them sometimes, like i dont belong. For the past few years i have resorted to cuttig myself. I'v only done it 3 times but i dont wanna go to counscling or anything cuz my parents and every1 will think im crazy i dunno what to do can you help me?

Ok, your 15 everyone thinks that stuff about themselves. And, I know what I am talking about because I also am fifteen. Just don't cut yourself. That is definetly not a good idea, but what is, is finding what youi like about yourself. Just think for a moment about all your talents. And don't you dare say you don't have any because we all do. Then, try to remember that your friends are your friends and they won't care at all about how you look. However, if you are that upset with your appearence, you could do things the harder way with diet and excersise. I hope that you can reallize that you really are a good person, and become more self confident.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

P.S.
Don't worry I have never had a boyfriend either.

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Well, theres this guy that i used to like and i still kinda like him. hes awesome and sweet and hot and stuff and me and my friend shannon decided to go to teh movies and i invited him to go with us and he went with us and he started liking her and now they are kinda "talking" and it makes me very sad bc idk what to do. i dotn want to tell him or her that it makes me sad bc he thinks i dont like him anymore and shannon says that she wont do anything with him unless i say its ok but still i dotn like it and me and him were talking about it today online about how i didnt like him anymore and there was no point for me to bc he didnt like me and then all of a sudden he started talking about shannon adn how theyre hanging out on friday and stuff .. and it makes me sad. what do i do?

I would suggest a big box of chocolate. Either that, or you have to do the hard thing and tell him the truth. But, maybe you should be happy for your friend. I think it all depends on how important these three things are to you. I hope you can make a decision that will make you happy.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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ok i have a problem..wel its not really a problem but i wanna lose about 10 pounds but i dont now how to?

Well, I am sure you are fully aware that diet and excersise is the way to do it. But, some of us are not the greatest with that. If your like me, then there is another way. Try drinking a lot of water everyday. I mean a lot. Yes, you will have to pee more than usaul, but it will wash out unnessasary stuff quikly. The pounds may not decrease instantly, but if you stick with it, you will see results.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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I'm 15, female, and I've been BEST friends with about 11 people for a long time now. Last year we were together all through our first year of high school...and now there are so many things splitting us up. First...one of my guy friends, "M", has liked my best friend for two years now...aparently he didn't know that last year she was crazy for him...and now i was the one who told him she was...which makes him mad at everyone and jealous of my best friend because he thinks the reason she smokes pot and drinks is because of who she's dating and the older kids she hung out with over the summer. Another friend of mine has liked "M" for two years now and he's known it but doesn't like her. I kinda got her to like another guy who liked her back, and they were so cool for each other...but now she told him she didn't like him and didn't want to go out with him, and she told him in a way that really hurt bc she's never done anything like that b4...now their both miserable and the reason she said she didn't like him was because she liked "M" still even though she thought she was over him and didn't like him. Now she's crazy for M, M is crazy for my best friend, my best friend is dating an older guy who has no problem with her smoking and drinking, and I'm caught in the middle of all this! And now, my other friends think they can tell my best friend to stop smoking and drinking or not be a part of their lives...they are going to make this so miserable for them...my best friend is too proud to admit she was wrong and stop doing shit she shouldnt...I'm sorry this was so long, but I need to know if there is anything I can do to help them work this out or help them in any way, because what I've tried b4 isnt working at the moment...plz help me

I know what its like to be splitting with your friends. Me and my group were totally cool last year, and now it seems like we lose another every week. My best advise; let the one friend know how bad smoking and stuff can be for her. Show her that you care enough to help her stop, and everyone makes mistakes. It really is not a good idea for your friends to say something like "quit or we won't be friends anymore," and I think you realize that. Tell them that it will most likely only make her angrier, and things could get much worse if she is not hanging out with her smoke-free friends anymore. After all, who knows who she could hang out with. As for the others. Drama sucks, and it sounds like this "M" guy is sturring it up. Try to find a way for those not dating him to just not think about it. Give them the "There's plenty of Fish in the Sea" speach (corny but affective) and quickly draw there attention to the other great bods wondering the halls of that school of yours.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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im a 14f and ok there is this guy that i met over the summer, he was friends with my guy friends and i met him and i thought he was cute, i dont go for guys because of looks, i go by personalit, and lets say his name is joe.. well joe tells people he thinks im hot and then we talk a little bit and flirt and then like 2 days later my friend Marie calls me and is like hey joe wanted to know if he can call u ... and she mentioned he might ask me out, but i wasnt sure if i was ready to go out with him and i was like ill talk to him tomorrow at the park because everyone hangs out at the park so i decided yeah ill answer him tomorrow. the thing is that he only was gonna stay for like a month so pretty soon he'll be leaving so yeah next day he totally ignores me at the park and later on this girl Jessica is having a party which i didnt get invited to and i hear that everyone gets drunk and jessica gives joe a blow job ... then i talk to joe and hes like idk we were drunk and stuff and then me and him were back on the track until then another girl pops up and he ditches me again, then he tells all his friends, which are my friends too that he was talkin to me on the phone and he said how we were gonna hook up and he makes a bunch of bs up too them, so yeah then he leaves back to Michigan (where he is from) without even saying anything. i talk to some of my guy friends about him and they tell me how much of a player he is and stuff how he brags he likes to be a pimp and all this bullshit but yeah then i talk to him over the internet a lot and hes like so sweet and tells me all these nice things how he misses me and wishes we would of hooked up and how he shouldnt of been with jessica and stuff and he tells me hes gonna be coming in a month but he doesnt come and then next time im online he is like im coming in 10 days so then i get REALLLLY happy but he ends up not coming and now my friend was talking to one of her friends Mark, and finds out that MARk & joe are cousins. and mark is like i heard u hooked up wit my cousin, he says that to my cousin, and shes like ur cousin? hes like yeah joe, he told me u and some other girl and him went partying a lot ... and she finds out more stuff that he is going to come and visit soon and now i dont know what to do.. i've fallin for him and i dont wanna hear forget about him, i need actual advice, i mean i think about him 24/7 and its just getting me mad ... what do i do? thanks a lot! sorry that its long!

Sorry this may not be the answer you wanted to hear, but it sounds like this "Joe" guy is definetly not a keeper. You don't deserve to have to worry about the crap your boyfriend does. In fact, no girl does. I am sure that there is a much better guy out there for you, and I hope you realize this and get past him. I know that you can find someone better.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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Im a really big guy. Im 7 feet tall, im 450lbs. My questions is, why is it that girls just want to be friends with me. They dont want to think about anything more than a friendship. I thought girls didnt care as much for looks as guys. Big guys need loving too.

Of course! Almost everyone need to know that someone likes them. I think it all depends on how old you are. If you are in high school then it wouldn't surprise me because most girls in high school are shallow like that. And, if that is the case, don't worry about it too much. I am a small girl, but I have never had a serious relationship. If you are older, I wouldn't worry about it then either. I believe that there is something or someone out there for all of us. Don't worry, you'll find yours eventually.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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Well see my friend, knows my brothers girlfriends brother and lives by him and all. He's trying to hook us up, but then theirs a dance so he asked if i was going, since i am he told the other kid (brothers girlfriends brother) and he mite go. Since my friend is going (he's a boy, same name as brothers girlfriends brother)I want to go to but is to shy. Only because my parents say im too young to date or think about boys. Im in 7th grade, but he's in a grade younger. Thing that sucks is im shy of boys because of what parents said, They wont let me do anything, go to fair without an adult (did it anyways, went with other friend (girl) and her cousins, n her mom dropped them off. Should I take the risk to not be shy and go to the dance and stuff and like keep it from my parents. OR not do anything be shy to all the boys, not being able to do anything and suffer. And yes i will suffer.


thx to wwhover responds

So, your shelterd. Well, you can try talking to your parents about the dance. Explain that it is one night supervised and that your are mature enough to have a good time with a boy. I just don't think it would be a good idea to try to keep it a secret from them. I know what its like to be shy, but I think that we all will have to face that eventually. I do hope that it goes well for you, and I have faith that you will have a pretty good time.

Lots of luck,
Ann

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okay well today in sports studyhall i was sittin down next to this kid lets call him *CHRIS* well CHRIS and I were talkin n then he was lookin at my cellphone n i have verizon so u can change wut u want it to say n mine use to say lets call me *ASHLEY* and so it use to say ASHLEY loves you and then CHRIS changed it to say ASHLEY IS HOTT and i was lke um k then i had to go get someone from a teachers room and then i came bak n CHRIS goes i put my number in ur phone book i was like umm ok..but the problem is i dont like him and hes been going out w. a friend of mine and she happens to be on my soccer team too and they have been goin out for like a year..so my question is y wud he do that?

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I think he may just be flirting. No, he shouldn't be if he has a girlfriend, but he's a guy what do you expect? :) If I were you I would try to nicely make it clear to him that you do not like him.

Luck,
Ann

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i love my boyfriend so much and he says he loves me but we barly talk maybe its because we live far apart i dont know. what should i do?

All I can say is make sure you make the effort to talk to him. If you have, then just tell him you wish you would talk more. If you guys really love each other, then I am sure you two will work something out.

Lots of Luck,
Ann

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Homecomings coming up which means the dance, the pep rally, and the bon fire. One of the best weeks of school. And its great cause I actually have someone to go with to the dance. :) I need a dress though still. So my question is, what can I do during homecoming to make the best of it? And whats a good kind of dress to wear? Or even just say if your goin this year to urs or a past experience. I want this homecoming to be really memorable, especially cause of the guy Im with now. :)

Don't end the dance by leaving. Go out to dinner with your date and friends and it will be like ten-thousand times more fun. I was for me. As, for the dress...find out if it is formal or semi. If formal, get a to-the-floor dress. If semi, get a nice dress, but not to the floor.

Enjoy yourself,
Ann

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