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My Friends Aren't As Close
I'm 15, female, and I've been BEST friends with about 11 people for a long time now. Last year we were together all through our first year of high school...and now there are so many things splitting us up. First...one of my guy friends, "M", has liked my best friend for two years now...aparently he didn't know that last year she was crazy for him...and now i was the one who told him she was...which makes him mad at everyone and jealous of my best friend because he thinks the reason she smokes pot and drinks is because of who she's dating and the older kids she hung out with over the summer. Another friend of mine has liked "M" for two years now and he's known it but doesn't like her. I kinda got her to like another guy who liked her back, and they were so cool for each other...but now she told him she didn't like him and didn't want to go out with him, and she told him in a way that really hurt bc she's never done anything like that b4...now their both miserable and the reason she said she didn't like him was because she liked "M" still even though she thought she was over him and didn't like him. Now she's crazy for M, M is crazy for my best friend, my best friend is dating an older guy who has no problem with her smoking and drinking, and I'm caught in the middle of all this! And now, my other friends think they can tell my best friend to stop smoking and drinking or not be a part of their lives...they are going to make this so miserable for them...my best friend is too proud to admit she was wrong and stop doing shit she shouldnt...I'm sorry this was so long, but I need to know if there is anything I can do to help them work this out or help them in any way, because what I've tried b4 isnt working at the moment...plz help me
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ok first of all..you have got to stop the matchmaker stuff. Or even telling anyone about who likes who. You are the one who is going to get dumped on.
Nope nothing...i mean..if we could stop people from doing really dumb things..world would be a lot better place.
On the upside you have a great career as a therapist!
so sit bakc..let your friends make their own mistakes.
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sweetie, it's for the best that they encourage her to quit her destructive habits. maybe she wasn't responding to slow nudges in the right direction and all she really needed was a kick in the rear. let the drama aspect work itself out, it usually does.
i wish you the best of luck... take a breather once in a while chica, let me know how it all goes
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I know what its like to be splitting with your friends. Me and my group were totally cool last year, and now it seems like we lose another every week. My best advise; let the one friend know how bad smoking and stuff can be for her. Show her that you care enough to help her stop, and everyone makes mistakes. It really is not a good idea for your friends to say something like "quit or we won't be friends anymore," and I think you realize that. Tell them that it will most likely only make her angrier, and things could get much worse if she is not hanging out with her smoke-free friends anymore. After all, who knows who she could hang out with. As for the others. Drama sucks, and it sounds like this "M" guy is sturring it up. Try to find a way for those not dating him to just not think about it. Give them the "There's plenty of Fish in the Sea" speach (corny but affective) and quickly draw there attention to the other great bods wondering the halls of that school of yours.
Lots of Luck,
Ann
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I think you should stay out of it. Before, you got yourself into everything and look what happened. Let your friends deal with it on their own and support them and give them advice when they need it.
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