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I'm that person that everyone calls or e-mails when they need advice. It doesn't matter the subject, they contact me. I don't give you the answer you want to hear and most of my advice is not your mother's advice, if you want your mom's advice--Go ask your mom or mother figure. If you ask a question you will always get an honest answer--note: I did not say the answer you want-- I said an honest answer. If you ask me something I have to research to answer, I will research it and provide you with the source if you ask.

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Sixteen/Female.
I need help writing an about me for myspace.
Not a lame one or anything.
So if youre pretty good at writing,
and you have some neat simple lines,
let me know,
And I'll tell you some stuff about me,
and you can help me out :]
Oh. and nothing girly.
Im kinda laidback and normal.

Send me the facts about you and I will try to come up with something that you'll like. My daughter has me write all of hers for her and some of her friends too. You should also check out Tagged.com

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16/female
me and my boyfriend we have been going out for a week.and i feel really didfferent about him. like good different.well thing thts bugging me is sometimes he mentions ex girlfriends ,not personally. but like he says i just dont want things to happen becuz with my lasst gf blah blah. and i know he likes me he tells me all hte time he misses me and the im amazing. and he doesnt tlk to his exes. what to do.

Get over it. You will deal with exes for the rest of your life and how happy you are with someone may very well depend on how well you deal with their exes. As long as he isn't comparing you to them or throwing them in your face it's not necessarily a bad thing. I know that my husband will always be afraid of me cheating even though the knows I don't and won't because he caught his ex wife cheating three times. People get into relationships with baggage and you have to deal with that. Perhaps you have something you don't like to do/talk about/think about because of something an ex did to you. Be glad you have him and he thinks you are amazing-- obviously his last gf didn't fall into the amazing category or he would still be with her.

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okay so let me give you some background info i am a girl and i lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 4 months ago and as usaual it was painful. It actually hurt the first 2 times. Then the third time it was idk. It didnt feel good it just didnt hurt. Everytime i have sex now im on my 7th time it feels like i have to pee and i tried peeing before sex but it still feels like i have to pee. My boyfriend always asks me if it feels good. i mean I moan in stuff but only because its sex and its more so the mood and the atmosphere that turns me on but it just dont feel good. but it doesnt hurt. please help

Sounds as if you aren't really ready to be having sex or at least not with this person. Also, some women feel like the are going to pee when they are getting ready to orgasm. Some women also need stimulation other than him going in and out to enjoy sex. HOWEVER, sex is closely linked to emotion for most people and depending on how you really feel about this boy will have a lot to do with how aroused you get and how much you enjoy it. FYI-- the boy should be making sure you enjoy it and not just be after his own "release" and if he isn't then he's not the right one to be having sex with. There is no magic anything you can try to "make it feel good" you have to learn what feels good to you and what turns you on. Some people spend years trying to figure out what it is that really gets them going--others figure it out rather quickly. Make sure he is using a condom and don't fall for the "it doesn't feel the same" routine. If he cares for you he will wrap it.

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how many calories does 1 jumping jack burn?
and are they good when it comes to exercise?

It depends on your weight. Check out this site, it tells you how many calories you burn with all different kinds of activities based on your weight and how long you do the activity.

http://www.fatburn.com/free_tool_activity_burn.asp

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does this make sense

"he desires ease"

can someone desire ease?

if not what word can take the place of "ease"

liek he desires easyness

He desires a life of leisure
He desires a life of ease
—Synonyms 1. repose, contentment, effortlessness. Ease, comfort refer to a sense of relaxation or of well-being. Ease implies a relaxed condition with an absence of effort or pressure: a life of ease. Comfort suggests a sense of well-being, along with ease, which produces a quiet happiness and contentment: comfort in one's old age. 2. tranquillity, serenity, calmness, peace. 5. naturalness, informality. 6. comfort, relieve, disburden; tranquilize, soothe. 7. alleviate, assuage, allay, abate, reduce.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/ease

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i dated this guy for three years on and off
i recently started talking to him after a long while of not talking
i meet up with him at the movies and we messed around there and after wards at his house me knowing he had a girlfriend
now he stopped calling me and dosent reply to my messages on myspace
i did make the mistake of sending him three messages telling him to call me cause i miss him and he replied that he didnt have a phone
so i let it go but then my lil sis visted his profile and read his comments and one of the comments was a message from some girl saying \"well call me in 20 min cause im in the shower\"

i have gained weight like 10 pounds since he last scene me before we went to the movies and i did give it up to him easily when we were out
i dont know if he thinks im a slut or something now but i dont know what to do please help me
i really love him we were together for a long time and i miss talking to him cause there is not other guy like him and
help what should i doooo with him
should i just stop messaging him on myspace and just wait till he calls me
but then i dont want him to think he can have me whenever he wants and i dont want to tell him anything cause he will just laugh at me

Stop calling and sending texts. Guys have a tendency to wonder if they can still get in a girl's panties after they have broken up, sadly you proved to him he could still get in yours. You know he had a girlfriend and messed around with him anyway-- how would you feel if someone you were dating had done that to you? It's time to move on. Stop worrying about him-- this guy cheated on his girlfriend with his ex-girlfriend--that's sleazy. You have given it up to him so yes, he probably marked you down in the "who I can call when I feel like it" column and went on to the next girl. You probably come across as desperate and that is unattractive and unappealing. Be the bigger person and walk away. Move on. Next time you see him act as if you don't and keep going and for God's sake if he wants to hook up--- DON'T.

High school loves are seldom Mr or Mrs Forever. The people who stay together from early teens on are the exceptions not the rule.

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I got sunburnt yesterday, its fairly pink and I want to know whats the quickest way of getting rid of the pink colour because Ive got a photoshoot tomorrow for my birthday.
Cheers in advance

Noxzema. It takes the sting and the redness away. Take a bath in baking soda. Depending on how deeply you are burned you may be pink for the photo shoot.

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Hey guys. I'll be turning 16 on the 29th and I was planning on having a party with about 17 or 18 people, both boys and girls (5 guys, 12 girls or something like that). I don't live in a neighborhood, my house is pretty secluded, and I don't have a pool. So I was wondering if anyone had some good ideas as to what we could do. We can always watch a movie, but I feel like that might be too boring to do the entire time. Thanks to any suggestions!

Think themes that you like. A few ideas we have done are;
*hawaiian luau
*70's dress
*super heroes-- where everyone dresses as their favorite super hero
*rappers-where everyone dresses as rapper--this one was a lot of fun because a lot of the guys dressed as Flava Flav and the clocks were funny
*halloween in June-- you can even do a haunted house with covered boxes they can stick their hands in like eyeballs that are really peeled grapes, etc
*theme from a favorite TV show or movie- when my daughter turned 15 she wanted Cars. everyone showed up dressed as a character from the movie
You could rope off an area around the house and play hide and seek in the dark. A lot more fun than it sounds but you rope the area off so that no one gets too far away from the area you are playing in
Buy a couple of board games like Battle of the Sexes, Monopoly, Taboo or one of the Scene It games. Have small, inexpensive gag gifts for the winners

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I gave a moon and star necklace to my best friend for her b-day and the chain broke. but she bought a knew chain with a love pendant the font is old english. the love pendent is on the same necklace chain with the moon star pendent. she showed it to me today and she said that the font looks like my tattoo (gemini) on the pendant. it sounds silly of me but does that mean anything? i like her but i know she doesnt like me in that way but i am just curious.

My guess is that she figures since you gave her the one and the other reminded her of you-- she wears them together because they both have you in common. I don't think it means anything significant other than you are her bestfriend. If you are in doubt ask her if there is a special meaning behind her wearing them together. But if you don't really, really want to know the answer don't ask her because you may not like the answer you get.

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*make-up*
well everyday i do the same thing-mascara and eye shadow.sometimes i may add eyeliner but only after school.i hate having the same look!!!nxt year im gonna be an 8th grader but im gonna be going to a high school for math.i want something new for next year does anyone have any ideas on what i should do or use and price isnt really a prolem.
*hair*
ok its similar to the make-up.i got it cut like two weeks ago.i cant seem to style it like the lady so or well at all.so everyday i straighten or well kill it lol.i would wear it up but its too short and sometimes when i go out i do that puff thing with the bangs but im tired of the same look can anyone help me and give me tips on what to do.
thanks to everyone!

Go to a make up counter at one of the stores like JC Penney or Dillard's or even a make up store like Merle Norman. they can help you work out looks that you can change from day to day. They can help you pick colors and things that are approperiate for your skin tone and age.

On your hair I would just play with it. Even if it's short you can put clips in it that are jewelled or cute. Go back to the salon and ask her how she did your hair so you can recreate it.

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so i have to write an essay on "of mice and men" and answer the question what is a hero.

i need so much help with it. can anyone assist me?

NOT do it for me!!! just i have a few questions pleasE!!

give me your screen name or something so i can contact u

You can contact me through the e-mail address on my page.

Heros are different for everyone. To me a hero is someone who does the right thing even if it hurts them to do so.

You have to figure out what a hero is to you before you will do this assignment any good. have you actually read the book?

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Basically, I was stabbed in the back by an ex-girlfriend long after we broke up and stayed friends. And I'm tired of being slanderized for no reason when I go out of my way to avoid her every day of my life.

So, how can I get back at her in a way that's legal, and not going to cause true harm (like pain or death)?

I know I want revenge, but I want it with honor.

The best revenge in living well. It's cliche but it's truth. My ex cheated on me with an internet chick. I left. I am now married to his bestfriend. We didn't get together until well after my ex and I separated and everyone knew it. My ex and his ex tried to say we had an affair before any of the separations which wasn't true. As hard as it was we were the bigger people and walked away.

4 years later we have 3 children, a home, good cars and a decent bank account that allows my husband to stay home and homeschool our children. His ex is living with her boyfriend who beats on her and is strung out on drugs. My ex married his internet girl who was 12 years younger than him, they live in a 2 bedroom low income apartment, drive a rattletrap and fight daily. She has gained 75 lbs since they got together. He is miserable.

Karma evens things out. Hold your head high and keep going.

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ok i have two questions. i think i might have taking a hallucinagen while i was like a week pregnant (i could have gotten pregnant a week later) but if i was pregnant would it mess up the baby even though it was one time and it was like a week after i got pregnant? second question.. my nipples have been getting bigger and i know thats part of pregnancy but how long after getting pregnant does that usually happen? that would help me figure out how long i have been pregnant. i know i sound like an idiot but your help would be appreciated

The only idiotic question is the one not asked so don't worry that you sound like an idiot.

Nipple color does change as part of pregnancy and it depends on the person as to when it starts. I didn't notice it with any of mine until around 12 weeks but my sister noticed at 6 weeks. It has a lot to do with your body and how it will respond to the pregnancy. They will also get darker usually.

As for the halluginagen, I can't tell you how it will affect your child. With my first we didn't know I was pregnant and I was very ill for about 6 weeks. They gave me a lot of drugs they wouldn't give someone they knew was pregnant and my daughter was born healthy. It's normally long term exposure that hurts the most. That's not to say it couldn't have caused damage. You need to see a doctor and tell them what you took and when. They can calculate your due date and your approximate conception date. You didn't say how old you are but if you haven't told your parents you should still go to planned parenthood and get an exam-- they are free. You need prenatal vitamins as well.

Feel free to contact me if you have other questions or just need to talk about the situation.

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Well , exactly a week ago my boyfriend of a year and 3 months broke up with me. My heart was literally broken, he acted like he didnt even care. Well we know [ maybe] down the road we could be together again but we just was not happy with the [ relationship ] , the argueing and everything that was going on was to stressful [ so he says ]. Well its been hard for me because i see he's been hanging w/ girls alot and doing his thing. But i feel bad if i do anythng ya know. My question is , should i just not care sense its the summer time & just have fun w. everyone. And just flirt and havve a goodtime ? I just dont wanna like make out w/ people and then me and my boyfriend get backtogether and him have not done anything . I dont want him to do anything ''/ but i know he probley will. idk i have so many emotions in me . Can anyone help with that& tell me how to get through this b/c they say each day gets easier but it doesnt =(

You didn't list your age and that would change my detailed advice but I'm going to tell you the same thing I told my daughter when she and her first love broke up after almost 2 years--- MOVE ON. It's hard but it will get better.

If he told you he wasn't happy in the relationship and you were fighting a lot them my thought is that he wanted out for his own reasons. It may have been he felt tied down and too young for a relationship that serious or he wanted to date other people.

Few people meet the person they will spend the rest of their life with in middle or high school. Those that do are the exceptions rather than the rule. You're young and growing and changing almost daily (emotionally more than physically) and you are not the same person you were a year ago and you will not be the same person in a year. Sometimes when you fall in love and change the person you love doesn't change and the relationship can't grow if you don't grow together.

Enjoy the summer, stop worrying about what might happen in a few months and have fun. Don't make out with a lot of different people as it's just not safe for your health or reputation but have fun, flirt and enjoy being young and carefree. Children, marriage, careers, bills and those type of responsibilites come along soon enough. You are an adult far longer than you are a child/teenager so enjoy it while you can. Worry about Mr. Right Now and stop looking for Mr. Right.

Think of this: he may decide he wants you back and you might have moved on then he will feel like a jerk.

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ok i really hope someone can help me find out which movie this is, it starts off with a white girl and a brownish hispanic i think guy have im sex. they are late for a game the guy plays basketball and the girl is a cheerleader. i remember the guy missing a shot on purpose so they can lose the game and he gets payed, his room mate a black guy tries to shoot him but the main guy tells him the story of why he did it and that it will be the last time. at the end i remember the guy being drugged and being followed by a cop, hes runnning around through the city. i also remember him having sex with a teacher or someone whos at a theater. i know this isnt much info but if u've seen it ull know which movie im talking about thanks

There are several movies with this concept but the first one that comes to mind is "O" with Julia Stiles.

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17/F.

Okay, so I dated my ex for like 7 months, I broke up with him almost a month ago because I didn't feel like I was myself and he thought he was the first thing to go which he wasn't.. and after of us hating/ignoring/pissing eachother off for 2-3 weeks, we started talking again as friends and a lot of the things I thought he did... he didn't. And so now we've been sort of hanging out a little bit and when we do.. all we do is like make out and basically all over eachother. He thought I lost feelings for him, I really didn't, I just had a wall up and I was already stressed out about everything else so I felt like I needed time to myself, which helped a lot. Well we both feel like the break up brought us closer because we were always teasing eachother about sneaking over to eachother's houses... well last night he really did.

So when we were in my room, we were making out on my bed and everything and it was very sweet, cute, amazing, etc. Well he was over for about 3 hours and all we did was kiss and everything, we were going to do the usual thing we used to do which was fingering and eating me out (that was embarrassing to say and sort of weird... haha.) but I stopped him because obviously I was on my period and thats just sick if you mess around with someone while your on your period... so we just made out and massaged eachother and shit. WELL he just left for Las Vegas for 2 weeks (which is good because I need time to think about things) and so anyways, the real story...

When we were just laying there... we started talking about him going out on dates with my friend Candice... well I thought they were just going out as friends (just to the movies, not dating). Well when he told me that they were real dates I felt like shit and like a whore and I started crying because she is/was (i don't know anymore) my friend and I could never do that and he was saying that he was still in love with me and I love him more than I ever have... well he doesn't really like her but why do I still feel like a whore? I mean she's my friend... and I told him I still wanted to go out on dates with her... and he asked me what if I knew about them before he came over last night and everything(again, their not dating) and I told him I would have never let him over last night...

WHY AM I SO CONFUSED? I mean I know why, but I feel like a whore but I still want him over at my house in my room, just me and him... a;ljf;lkas;lfkaj I feel so bad because she's such a great person and she's like him since NEW YEARS and I just found out last night... =/
But anyways, I know he doesn't have a title and I shouldn't feel like a whore, but I still do and I still have feelings for him (I'm pretty positive haha.)

Anyways, all of this was just getting some weight off my chest... if you give me advice, that would be fantastic.

Thanks in Advance!
-Ginger.

He is getting his cake and eating it too. He has two women who both like him and want him and the possibilty it will ruin your friendship with Candace is like icing on the cake to him. I would say that if he would do that to you and her- you should both dump him. She likes him and went out with him while you were broken up and I'll bet he hasn't told her about making out with you while dating her. I don't care what he says-- they were real dates. Pretend this is some other person and look at it from the outside and you will see he is using you both. It will be hard but he doesn't respect you or he would have told you what was happening BEFORE you let him come over. He probably will sleep with someone else in Vegas and not tell you too. You're playing with fire here, dear and if you don't let him go you will get burned. You and Candace need to sit down and have a chat and tell each other everything. Chances are when you compare notes he will come out looking like scum. He used you. He will use you again if you allow it.

Furthermore-- he snuck into your mom and dad's home--that is so disrespectful on both your parts. There's a saying that goes like this; "If you wouldn't write it and sign it, don't say or do it"
If you wouldn't tell your parents he snuck in then you should have allowed it. If it was the right thing to do you wouldn't have had to do the wrong thing for it to happen.
You are NOT a whore so get that thought out of your mind. He is the whore who is using you to get what he wants.

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Iam 19 years old and about 2 weeks ago i ran away becouse i got mad at my mom and now iam not even staying at my mom's house anymore i've been staying at my cousins hosue so i can get a break from being around my mom to give us time apart from each other. I also have other problems ever since i've been hanging around my sister snd her gay girlfriend i havn't been acting myself lately i've been doing things that i wouldn't normally do like a few days after i had turned 19 i was curious about what my sister liked about having sex with girls and so my sister let me have sex with her girfriend and then awhile ago i got drunk and before i started hanging out with her i wouldn't do things like that and i love my sister and i don't want to stop hanging out with her becouse i don't want to hurt her feelings what should i do?

First you need to find out why you're behavior is changing. Perhaps it's just a stage of experimentation and you are ready to move on. Perhaps it's that you are scared of something and acting out. No one can answer that except you. You don't have to give your sister a reason beyond the old stand by of "I need some time to myself" and let that be it. It's kind of weird that your sister let you have sex with her GF. That's just strange. Being mad at your mom is normal. You are 19 and feel you are an adult and probably want to spread your wings a little and that's okay too. Just be sure to try and keep a relationship with your mother if you think it's something you want. I miss my mama everyday and I know I'll never get another day with her but I also know that no amount of time would be enough so cherish the time you do have.

Get a notebook and get somewhere quiet with just yourself--even if you have to check into a motel for the night and just start writing your emotions and feelings down. The order doesn't matter just write what you think of even if it's just random words. In a couple of days go back and re-read what you wrote and see if it helps you clear your mind and get your goals set for yourself. Then firmly set your goals in your mind and accomplish them.

Be assured that almost everyone goes through a stage of doing things completely out of character from time to time. It's normal and it's what you do when you come out of it that matters.

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Does porn always give your computer a virus?
cause im too scared to watch it i dont want it to get a virus or to have my parents find out

any tips?

No it doesn't always give you viruses. It depends on the site. There are sites out there but you are supposed to be 18 to use them and if you are afraid your parents would find out then I doubt you are 18. However, google is man's best search engine so google the topic and see what comes up. I'm not saying porn is a bad thing at all just be careful that you aren't trying to use porn as a substitute for real life. It happens. Most porn isn't like reality at all.

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me= 16/f
him=17/m

we've been dating nearly a year and im in need of ideas of gifts to give him on our 1 year. I love him with all my heart he's the sweetest guy ive ever met and a lil emotional. i want the gift for hjim to be amazing and remind him of me since he's gotten me many amazing gifts such as a ring, neclace, and an adorable stuffed animal to cuddle with. I dont want the gift to be something to do with his interests cuz thats more of a christmas/b-day gift. I want it to be just something that reminds him of Us and our amazing year together. we havent taken many pictures so a scrapbook wont work im thinking that for our 2 year when we have more things to put in it.
give me as many ideas as possible i need a ton!!

thanks

What about a silver or white gold ID type bracelet that you can have engraved with his name and some special saying the two of you have on the back? I bought one for a guy I was engaged to with his name on front and on the back it said "one day at a time" because every time someone asked us how we made it work we said "one day at a time" and we are still friends even though we both moved on. If it were for my husband it would say something different that is between us.

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13/f
these two good guy friends of mine, i think they might like me. i mean, theyre good guys, they would be the types of guys i would choose to have a bf if i wanted one, but i dont. i also dont have any feelings for them. well theyre both flirting with me and giving me compliments. the thing is, i didnt realize it b4, which was really dumb of me. i mean, how can i not have realized that? its obvious. theyre complimenting me about my name, about my new shoes, always staring at me and then when i see them staring, they will quickly turn away, blushing. also, ill give them a compliment, and they'll blush for a second and give a very flirty response...like for example i say sumthing like "i like the name ryan(one of the guys). its like my favorite boy name." and then they'll hesitate 4 a sec, then say sumthing like, "i know why, because its MY name, thats why...c'mon admit it..." and with sum very flirty grin. they also call me more than my best friends do. and the worse thing is, theyre like best friends with each other...and if i ever decide to go out with one of them, it would be bad...and you know some boys, they're very competitive and yes, it would ruin their friendship. and yes those types of boys. really, i dont know what to do...i think they might like me.....what should i do? thank you so much if you answer this question. i would appreciate it so much....i really need help...itsz like tearing me apart...i dont know...please...thank you

Don't date either of them. PERIOD. It would be asking for trouble and you don't need that kind of drama in your life. Make it clear to them that while they are your friend, you're never going to be that kind of friend with either of them and stick to it. When you are starting to date (and I didn't allow my daughter to date until she was 15 with just her a boy-- group dates were allowed at your age) you have three categories;

Guys I'd like to date
Guys I WILL NOT Date and
Guys I will date if the subject comes up

These two belong firmly in the WILL NOT DATE category. You don't have feelings for them you say so it should not be too difficult to not date either of them. I'm sure there are plenty of boys available that aren't those two and if there aren't don't sweat it--there will be. Keep in mind that since they are both competitive with one another you may also be a "prize" that they are competing for instead of actually liking you and that's not fair to you.

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