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We broke up .
Well , exactly a week ago my boyfriend of a year and 3 months broke up with me. My heart was literally broken, he acted like he didnt even care. Well we know [ maybe] down the road we could be together again but we just was not happy with the [ relationship ] , the argueing and everything that was going on was to stressful [ so he says ]. Well its been hard for me because i see he's been hanging w/ girls alot and doing his thing. But i feel bad if i do anythng ya know. My question is , should i just not care sense its the summer time & just have fun w. everyone. And just flirt and havve a goodtime ? I just dont wanna like make out w/ people and then me and my boyfriend get backtogether and him have not done anything . I dont want him to do anything ''/ but i know he probley will. idk i have so many emotions in me . Can anyone help with that& tell me how to get through this b/c they say each day gets easier but it doesnt =(
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breaking up is one of the hardest things that us girls have to go through, I am not exactly sure how old you and your boyfriend are (this could change things) but no matter what: it sucks! my advice is to try your hardest to move on. it may seem impossible for you to do right now and it may seem like everything is falling apart around you. this is just because i main part of your life has just taken himself out of your life. my advice as to what to do this summer is to do your best to live it like there is no possibility of you two gettng back together. this way if you guys dont get back together you won't be dissapointed. You don't want to set yourself up for dissapointment. as hard as it may be to realize, if he wasn't happy with your relationship now, there isn't a whole lot of hope that he is going to wake up tomorrow and be happy with it.
So just do your best to move on, see other guys. flirting is always good because it makes you feel good to see that another is interested. and if something comes out of your harmless flirting, then maybe it was meant to be :) whatever you do, don't dwell on the past. honestly if he is expecting you to wait around for him to get over his unhappiness, you deserve better. If he is out moving on with other girls, you should be able to have fun with other guys. I KNOW it may seem close to impossible at first because you and your boyfriend obviously shared some really strong feelings for each other, but it will eventually get easier.
If you need any more advice, or you just want to vent about your ex.. you can either email me [xkelxeyx12@yahoo.com] or write to my inbox.
I hope i helped, and I hope everything works out for you :)
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You didn't list your age and that would change my detailed advice but I'm going to tell you the same thing I told my daughter when she and her first love broke up after almost 2 years--- MOVE ON. It's hard but it will get better.
If he told you he wasn't happy in the relationship and you were fighting a lot them my thought is that he wanted out for his own reasons. It may have been he felt tied down and too young for a relationship that serious or he wanted to date other people.
Few people meet the person they will spend the rest of their life with in middle or high school. Those that do are the exceptions rather than the rule. You're young and growing and changing almost daily (emotionally more than physically) and you are not the same person you were a year ago and you will not be the same person in a year. Sometimes when you fall in love and change the person you love doesn't change and the relationship can't grow if you don't grow together.
Enjoy the summer, stop worrying about what might happen in a few months and have fun. Don't make out with a lot of different people as it's just not safe for your health or reputation but have fun, flirt and enjoy being young and carefree. Children, marriage, careers, bills and those type of responsibilites come along soon enough. You are an adult far longer than you are a child/teenager so enjoy it while you can. Worry about Mr. Right Now and stop looking for Mr. Right.
Think of this: he may decide he wants you back and you might have moved on then he will feel like a jerk.
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