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My Ex, My Friend, And I. AHHHH
17/F.
Okay, so I dated my ex for like 7 months, I broke up with him almost a month ago because I didn't feel like I was myself and he thought he was the first thing to go which he wasn't.. and after of us hating/ignoring/pissing eachother off for 2-3 weeks, we started talking again as friends and a lot of the things I thought he did... he didn't. And so now we've been sort of hanging out a little bit and when we do.. all we do is like make out and basically all over eachother. He thought I lost feelings for him, I really didn't, I just had a wall up and I was already stressed out about everything else so I felt like I needed time to myself, which helped a lot. Well we both feel like the break up brought us closer because we were always teasing eachother about sneaking over to eachother's houses... well last night he really did.
So when we were in my room, we were making out on my bed and everything and it was very sweet, cute, amazing, etc. Well he was over for about 3 hours and all we did was kiss and everything, we were going to do the usual thing we used to do which was fingering and eating me out (that was embarrassing to say and sort of weird... haha.) but I stopped him because obviously I was on my period and thats just sick if you mess around with someone while your on your period... so we just made out and massaged eachother and shit. WELL he just left for Las Vegas for 2 weeks (which is good because I need time to think about things) and so anyways, the real story...
When we were just laying there... we started talking about him going out on dates with my friend Candice... well I thought they were just going out as friends (just to the movies, not dating). Well when he told me that they were real dates I felt like shit and like a whore and I started crying because she is/was (i don't know anymore) my friend and I could never do that and he was saying that he was still in love with me and I love him more than I ever have... well he doesn't really like her but why do I still feel like a whore? I mean she's my friend... and I told him I still wanted to go out on dates with her... and he asked me what if I knew about them before he came over last night and everything(again, their not dating) and I told him I would have never let him over last night...
WHY AM I SO CONFUSED? I mean I know why, but I feel like a whore but I still want him over at my house in my room, just me and him... a;ljf;lkas;lfkaj I feel so bad because she's such a great person and she's like him since NEW YEARS and I just found out last night... =/
But anyways, I know he doesn't have a title and I shouldn't feel like a whore, but I still do and I still have feelings for him (I'm pretty positive haha.)
Anyways, all of this was just getting some weight off my chest... if you give me advice, that would be fantastic.
Thanks in Advance!
-Ginger.
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You are not a whore.
Honestly, if he was in anyway worth anything, he either would not be making out with you behind the other girl's back, or would have broken it off with her before coming back to you.
Seriously, talk to your friend, deal with the problem, and never let him take advantage of your feelings again.
Again, you are not a whore. You're an innocent that is being hurt by someone who is scum. *hugs* Be strong, and push on.
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He is getting his cake and eating it too. He has two women who both like him and want him and the possibilty it will ruin your friendship with Candace is like icing on the cake to him. I would say that if he would do that to you and her- you should both dump him. She likes him and went out with him while you were broken up and I'll bet he hasn't told her about making out with you while dating her. I don't care what he says-- they were real dates. Pretend this is some other person and look at it from the outside and you will see he is using you both. It will be hard but he doesn't respect you or he would have told you what was happening BEFORE you let him come over. He probably will sleep with someone else in Vegas and not tell you too. You're playing with fire here, dear and if you don't let him go you will get burned. You and Candace need to sit down and have a chat and tell each other everything. Chances are when you compare notes he will come out looking like scum. He used you. He will use you again if you allow it.
Furthermore-- he snuck into your mom and dad's home--that is so disrespectful on both your parts. There's a saying that goes like this; "If you wouldn't write it and sign it, don't say or do it"
If you wouldn't tell your parents he snuck in then you should have allowed it. If it was the right thing to do you wouldn't have had to do the wrong thing for it to happen.
You are NOT a whore so get that thought out of your mind. He is the whore who is using you to get what he wants.
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