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Revenge?
Basically, I was stabbed in the back by an ex-girlfriend long after we broke up and stayed friends. And I'm tired of being slanderized for no reason when I go out of my way to avoid her every day of my life.
So, how can I get back at her in a way that's legal, and not going to cause true harm (like pain or death)?
I know I want revenge, but I want it with honor.
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my opinion in revenge will only make you feel worse. you cant accomplish honorable revenge... and if you hurt her chances are you are just going to feel bad and guilty. Just remember what goes around comes around and karma is a real bit**... she'll get whats coming to her, and you dont have to be the one to give it to her. that way she will learn how it feels to be screwed over and your hands are clean
Good luck :)
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The best revenge in living well. It's cliche but it's truth. My ex cheated on me with an internet chick. I left. I am now married to his bestfriend. We didn't get together until well after my ex and I separated and everyone knew it. My ex and his ex tried to say we had an affair before any of the separations which wasn't true. As hard as it was we were the bigger people and walked away.
4 years later we have 3 children, a home, good cars and a decent bank account that allows my husband to stay home and homeschool our children. His ex is living with her boyfriend who beats on her and is strung out on drugs. My ex married his internet girl who was 12 years younger than him, they live in a 2 bedroom low income apartment, drive a rattletrap and fight daily. She has gained 75 lbs since they got together. He is miserable.
Karma evens things out. Hold your head high and keep going.
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revenge never works. the best thing is to COMPLETELY ignore her and show her youve moved on with your life, or the cycle is never gonna end.
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There is no such thing as honorable revenge. It's like saying you want a 'smaller infinite'.
Revenge fantasies are normal. The DESIRE is healthy and by all means think about it as much as you want. It's only human to want things to be 'fair' and to set things right according to some universal truth.
Wanting to ‘get even’ is fine, but you have to recognize that it is mathematically impossible to ‘get even’ with a scoundrel without becoming a scoundrel. That is grade school math for you.
Beyond simply becoming what you hate, which lets face it, is kind of fun and the stuff of good novels… Revenge will make you look bad. Lame, idiotic, immature and scummy. You will feel 'misunderstood', but in actuality you will look terrible to anyone who knows about it. When you look bad to people, you feel worse, not better.
Also, truly twisted people enjoy having vengeance taken on them. It lets them know they still get to you, they get to see you sweat, and they have yet more evidence that the universe revolves around them, because even their ex is still focused on them! They wont ‘learn their lesson’, they will only learn what they want to learn and what they want to learn probably has to do with how great they personally are and how justified they were in treating you like shit!
I am not telling you not take revenge on them because it’s the right thing to do, I’m telling you not to because it simply doesn’t work.
You aren’t going to teach her a lesson (except that she is special and you are still obsessed with her) and you aren’t going to achieve universal justice (it’s an impossibility) and you probably aren’t even going to feel better afterwards (because no one will be impressed, and even if no one knows it is mathematically impossible for you to be impressed with yourself for very long unless you are as petty a human begin as she is).
Depending on her behavior, you might have some sort of recourse to take, but revenge, even the impossible ‘honorable revenge’ isn’t going to be successful.
In the end, if you are the better person you need to find better things to do.
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Im not sure what you could do, but so far as dont do, dont spread rumors.
Yeah not a good idea. Weve all had some experience with that and I think I speak for all of us when I say that it SUCKS?!
Yes, you want to hurt her feelings. Girls are more complicated than you think, I think. I know that I can be.
Anything you say can be denied, defended, and come off as just darn stupid [im not saying youre stupid, thatd be a bit judgemental for me].
If you DO want to fight with words, keep it REAL. I mean as in, try no lies.
I hope youve got some proof with you? Speaking of proof, if you talk to her at all, I suggest you save the convos. Those can come in handy. Just copy, paste, print from computer.
I dont suggest talking to her on the interweb or in any way other than actually speaking "]
she could do what you might do and save the conversations, but Im sure you know if shes smart enough to do that or not.
This is a lot to keep track of, but at least I hope it helped. Good luck!
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