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I'm 16 years old. I'm in 11th grade. Most of my friends that I give advice to have done pretty well.. either they took my advice or I made them think about things they haven't thought about b4.
I'm good at answering questions about sex. not that I'm like a fein.. but I like to know about it so I can be safe, and now if you ask for advice you can be safe and informed too.
I'm also good with frienship issues.. or anything in that matter! I'll be straight with you and tell you what you need to do or what you should/shouldn't do if its that type of question. I won't hold back.
I'm also not going to judge you, if you're 13 and having sex.. HEY! that's your business! I'm just gonna make sure you know EVERYTHING ABOUT IT!! or if you cut or something going on with ur family or watever, I'm not gonna make you seem like you have a disease.
I hope you all can trust me and leave me one in my inbox and I'll hit you up with the best advice and information I can.
Love Always,
!~$*AMANDA*$~!

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okay well theres this guy who has asked me out about 10 times and he wont stop asking me, and i keep saying no with excuses, how kan i tell him NO but in a nice way 2 get him2 go away? lol thanks.

i think u should just be like "dude i dont want a boyfriend right now. can u please stop asking me to go with you. we can be friends."
i think i would go off on him if he kept asking me. lol but thats me
Manda

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I wanna start wearing eyeliner, and in your opinion, should I wear liquid or pencil? Thanks

i think pencil works better

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im 16 and my penis is not that big and im worried
what my girlfriend will think should it matter?
does it matter to girls?

well ima be honest with you... it does matter to some. im not quite sure what to say bc i dont have this problem bc ima girl and bc my bf is sized pretty well... but its not a matter of how small it is.. ITS HOW U WORK IT!!!!! ;)
and if ur gf really loves u then it also shouldnt matter. u can still satisfy her even though its small. trust me.
Manda

ps. my bf and his friends say that they used to be small but then he started to masterbate and it grew... i dunno if thats true but u can try it.

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ok.. Ive been going out with this guy for a while and i just talked to his best friend and told me hes been cheating on this other girl with me.. I have heard her name b4 from his brother and i asked his best friend if that was the name and he said yeah, i really dont wanna lose him, but the bad part about it is i lost my virginity to him and he said he lost it to me, well his best friend told me out of the blue that he wasnt a virgin.. I don't know what to do, i actually fell for him and i know he is going to give me an excuse or make up a lie when i go and try to break up with him !! I dont know what to do!!!I will rate 5's for the effort!!!

wow that really sucks.. but here's wat im going to ask you.. do u trust this guy (ur bf)? and it cant be a yes bc u lost ur virginity to him. answer that to urself honestly.. and when u come to an answer then make up ur mind on whatu want to do. if u believe u trust this bf of urs ask him about what uve been hearing.. and then take wat his answer is wether its "its not true" or "yeah it is" and go from tehre. i cant tell u to break up with him i cant tell u to stay with him. u need to decide on ur own.. if he tells u its a lie, then u have to figure out if u can believe that and if ur strong enough to deal with ppl talking about him cheatin on you. to me.. if u wanna stay with him bc u love him and dont wanna loose him and u hear about him messin around on you u wouldnt be like some would call u "stupid, weak, a fool" bc 1st off ur not stupid bc u hear whats going on and u choose to stay by his side bc u love him. and 2nd off ur not weak bc most would leave the situation bc its too hard to deal with. ur more strong bc ur able to deal with the shit and do what YOU WANT TO DO and not what everyone is tellin u to do. and 3rd off ur not a fool. we all fall in love whether we want to admit it or not and love will make us all do crazy things. but one day.. when it comes.. u will jus have enough and will be able to take the risk and loose the one u love and not get hurt anymore. and u will NEVER kno if him cheatin on you is the truth or not.. u just have to decide if u can believe him or not. and if u choose to believe HIM then dont work urself up about everyone sayin shit. let them think what they want. ur the one dealing with it not them! i went through this.. so if u ever EVER need someone to talk to IM me on MSN or AIM or leave one in my inbox. softnsexy489

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i am 14 years old and my parents decided they are getting divorced,and that means we have to move.. this came as a big shock to me and i dont know what to think of it..i mean i never saw my parents fighting or anything..and when i told one of my friends my parents were getting divorced she started ignoring me and being mean to me..and i dont know why..she should be there for me by my side helping me get through this but shes not..and that really hurts..i am just going through a hard time in my life and i really need some advice here.

wow i feel really bad. i have no clue why ur friend would treat u like u have a disease. i mean its ur parents not you. have u like tried to ask her why she is being like that? i think u should try to call her or see her and ask her whats up and why is she being mean to you. maybe she hasnt gone through it.. or worse she has. but ur parents getting divorced has nothing to do with you. yeah this is going to be a hard time for you but ull get though it and ur parents will always love you. but i dont want to see you and ur friend loose ur friendship over something that deals with ur parents. please do ME a favor and TRY to talk to her and find out why she is acting mean. and tell her how it feels and that u would like her to be there for you rather than her run away from u.
and if u ever need someone to talk to IM me on msn or AIM.. softnsexy428@hotmail.com

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Ok well I went to my friends house and she was flipping I have no clue what she took her boyfriend rushed her to the hospital after I left cuz she turned all blue and she wasn't breathing I'm scared whats gonna happen I can't live without her she doesn't do drugs usually it's all since her boyfriend cheated on her while he was drunk this weekend and now her cuzine/best friend died this monday and it fucked her up I think she over drugged her self...any help I can get to make myself feel better will help...plz I'm hopeless

love cutie_babee

i think right now, one thing that'll make u feel better AND YOUR FRIEND feel better is to talk with her. let her kno ur there for her and that she doesnt need to let what has happened ruin her life. let her kno that she will always have u there when she needs a dry shoulder to cry on or a listening ear. knowing that ur friiend will be ok will make u feel better.
hope i helped.
Manda
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What's a polite way to get off the phone with someone. I'm not annoyed with this person, in fact I'm completely in love with her, but I just don't want to turn into one of those 4 hour conversations every day kind of couples.

lo lwhat i do is say "hold on someone is on my other line" and then push like the flash button or the button that hangs up that wil llet u go to the other line and i click it again to the perosn im talking to and say "hey thats for my mom (or anyone!) i gotta go ill call ya later."
manda
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My bf and i are thinking about having sex were 17
and my worry is his penis is quite big and im a bit worried it will hurt a lot does it hurt?
And can his penis be too big?

ok thats what i was afraid of too that it was gonna be too big. see my 1st time it hurt... ALOT. not to make u scared but when everyone told me "yeah it hurt really bad" i was like "it cant hurt that bad" but i was wrong. and i dunno if his penis can be too big. some have told me that thats true.. but when i did it, i was a complete virgin, never been fingered or anyting. it wasnt even pleasureable all like that the 1st time.. it was more pain than anything. but once the 1st tiem is over it wont hurt so much... just make sure ur "wet" like some call it or use extra lube if u want. so it slides in better. and it might be ezier for u to be on top so u can make urself go down on it at ur pase instead of him thrusting it in you... or if u want him on top let him kno u wanna go slow. but i think ull be fine. it will hurt if u are a virgin or if its been a long time since u had sex. but im pretty sure ull be ok. jus be safe and use a condom and have him check it b4 and after ur done so u kno it didnt break. and just take ur time. if u need anything else answered u can ask.
hope that helped.
manda

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ok.. my grandma is really depressed but when she is like this all she does is drink wut do i do to tell her that by her drinkin its ruining our family... i just wanna be a family again HELP!!

i think u shoulda talk to her only when she is sober, and maybe u can have another family member with you to to help and back u up. if it really upsets u that much u need to talkt o her about it
Manda
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whenever i walk my left ankle always seems to click! its really loud and people say i should get it checked out, but the thing is it doesnt hurt at all!! what do you think i should do?

my ankle does it too. and it does not hurt. i can run jump swim everything. ive had it all my life. and i did go to the doctor, and he said that nothing was wrong.
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Manda

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for a 7 year-old kid who's nice and who would listen to me (easy babysitting) how much shopuld i charge?

i charge 5$ an hr.

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tomorrow i am babysitting my little cousins ALL day. i've babysat kids before, but not babies. I am babysitting for Kaylee, who is 5, and Reilly who is 10 months. i just need some tips on changing diapers, bottles, how to handle crying, all that stuff. because i dont want to ask and sound stupid. please tell me everything you know. thanks

ok i babysit a 1 year old baby. i've learned that when u change a diaper give them something to play with as ur changing it so that way they aren't moving all around and stuff. and when u are gonnna feed them a bottle, u can always warm it up by puttin it in the microwave or in a bucket of hot water. and dont let them see it if its not ready they will go crazy. lol. umm.. i cant think of anything else.. the baby i baby sit isnt bad so i dont kno much else lol.
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manda

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whats a wigger?

LoL. its a white guy/ or girl that acts black. like all out. lol or so im told. lol.

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okay well last night me and a bunch of friends were at the mall and we were just hanging out and this kid i thank i kinda like was there we were hanging out and stuff and i guess you could say we were "flirting" and 3 of my friends came up to me at the mal and were like he likes you you should go out w/ him hes really pretty you should but i really dont know if he likes me or not and im not to sure if i want a boyfriend rite now im so confused

girl follow ur heart. if u dont want a bf right now keep it on a friends basis. then maybe u will have that turn into a bf/gf relationship. just cause ur friends are telling u u should doesnt mean u have to.
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My 15 year old friend engages often in un-protected sex. No matter how much I tell her to wear a condom, or my god, at least go on birth control, she continues to give herself to random guys, especially under the influence. Recently, she slept over my house and woke up with severe morning sickness. She also became constipated, and complains now constantly about her stomach hurting. She hasn't gotten her period yet either. I called planned parenthood for her and it did nothing. I can't think of anything else it could be but pregnancy, and they want to schedule an appointment, which would mean she would have to tell her mom, which, stubborn as she is, would be a struggle at best. She's my best friend, and I cannot see her do nothing about this situation...any advice?

she really doesnt have to tell her mom about going to the planned parenthood... it should be confidential.. but she will have to tell her mom if shes pregnant or wat not.. and if shes not.. i think u really neeed to sit down with ur friend and have a face to face heart to heart friend to friend conversation of how scared u are for her that shes having unprotected sex with random guys and ALLLL the things shes putting herself at risk for!!! if she still doesnt listen.. its outta ur hands.. but u need to keep trying!!!

if u need to talk.. leave one.

Manda (rate me)

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is it bad to want you parents to get a divorce? because you dont really like your dad or something? cause i feel bad, but i kinda want them to split up :( i feel really bad...

i dont think its bad.. but u also gotta think of ur mom... is she happy with him? or are they arguing all the time and stuff.. bc if they arent and she really loves ur dad i think u should just want ur mom to be happy. i mean u can still hate him with ALLLL ur might lol but try to see that she loves him...

if u need anything else or just want to talk u can leave one in the inbox or hit me on MSN or AIM..
Manda

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When after having sex and if the sperm ejaculated in, what kind of pills are good to take to avoid prenancy from happening?

its called Plan B or "the day after pill" and when i got it they said u can take it within 3-5 days after unprotected sex. go to ur local health facility and ask for it. its confidential and no one has to kno about it. it might make ur period come later or earlier.. or might not effect it at all. i hope u get this in time.

If u need anything else be sure to leave one in the inbox.

Manda

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Do any girls know of anything I can do to get rid of cramps? Im having them really severely and its hard to move. Thanks.

i used to get them just like you.. i told my mom about it and we told the doctor n they gave me a perscription for these pills i have to take when i get them.. or u can also get ALEVE those work wonders too. and along with the ALEVE u can use a heating pad or hot water bottle on ur stomache. believe me it works. i get them like that too.
Manda

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well my friend started doing my eye brows for me and she shaved them the top and bottom instead of plucking so now i have to do that everytime they need to be plucked/shaved but now i have really bad breakouts above my eyebrows does anyone know what to do??

when i pluck my eye brows.. i take a really hot rag and put it on one of my eye brows and then when the rag starts to cool i start to pluck em... its less painful and they come out ez... i would say not to shave em and when ur break outs go away do what i suggested.
Manda

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See I was goin out w/ this guy for lyk 2 months then one day he broke up w/ me...but the thing is i don't kno if he really broke up w/ me or if it was his brother that i think likes me to (they r the same age...my bf/x bf was adopted) but idk if my bf did break up w/ me or not my friends said that in his profile it still says that he loves me n i kno that he doesn't forget to take things like that out of his profile...but idk wut am i suppose to do i dont want 2 call him bc it will b to awkward n he is like never on IM so idk n if he did break up w/ me i want 2 kno why but i just feel way to weird tlakin 2 him on the phone n askin him that...plz help me wut should i do????

girlie, i would call him lol. i mean u can just say "look im not really sure if we are together or not and i would like to know whats up. so that way i can leave it alone. if we are still together great, if not thats too bad but then ill kno." i think u should call him and say something like that to jus find out the answer. so u wont have to wonder anymore.
Manda

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