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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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I seriously need help. I am 18 years old and this past year I have noticed that I don't have any emotions towards anyone. I am not anti-social, I have many friends and I don't have a problem in that area. I've tried to tell my best friend that I don't have feelings for anything but he thought I meant I had no feelings for boys, so he basically called me a lesbian or bi. He was no help at all. I tried explaining it a different way but he still didn't get it. I am not happy or sad or depressed...it's like I'm empty. For the most part I'm just blah. I don't really know how to explain it. It's weird. When I'm with my friends I'm fine. When I think about relationships I don't feel a single thing. When I kiss someone, you would think I would feel something, but I feel nothing. I see these couples on TV and movies and I want that. I want to feel happy. I haven't wanted anyone, so I tried sleeping with someone. Still I felt nothing. I thought this would help but it didn't. When someone asks me how I'm doing I respond fine because I don't know what else to say. I'm not sure if I'm bored or if there is something wrong with me. It's just like I'm existing but not living if that makes sense. Can someone help me please.
I think you're just bored with your life. Try new things! Do something to get some excitement in your life! Try taking risks like going sky-diving, going on new rollercoasters, taking a road trip to a place you've never been to and discover new things. It doesn't have to be so grand.. you can try smaller things like dying your hair a different color, getting highlights, new haircut, trying a new fashion taste or going to a different store and buying new clothes there.
I used to be like this too. I had no emotions. No happiness, no sadness, just blah. I was just bored of my life. A major change happened in my life. My mom got a promotion in her job and she had to move to a different country. That was a huge change for me and because of that change, I started feeling emotions again. i got sad because I didn't see her as much. I felt love because I realized how much she means to me. Then I started making changes on my own. I got new friends and I got happy to be around them. I colored my hair which I absolutely love and proud to wear :) I used to be a shy girl who never went out, but I changed that and went out dancing and had fun. Met new people (ahem guys.. haha) and tried new things. It was fun and I enjoyed my life :)
Good luck!!!
good idea, thanks so much !! :) Im going to do this. Hopefully it works out.
no problem! Good luck! If you need anything else, don't hesitate to ask :)
is a tampon or a pad better. and which brand of each is the best.
its your personal opinion. My favorite is tampons because you cant feel them, so it feels like you don't even have your period. You can leave them in longer, you can do things like swim and workout with them in, and you don't have to look at the nasty bloody mess. but again, its whatever you like best.
I was watching the movie Casper and two times he says "Can I keep you?" what does that mean?
it pretty much just means that he wants to be with her forever. "keeping" something means having it. owning it. You keep valuable things. So the girl probably means a lot to casper and he wants to keep her forever and never let her go.
So this guy... (Matt)I like him.
The probelm... I don't know if I stand a chance.
Background: Matt is seventeen, a senior. I'm sixteen, a junior. Freshman year I dated one of his best friends. It ended reeeeally badly on the last day of school. Through out my sophomore year, Matt and my ex drifted, and Matt and I grew closer. But I was kind of in between liking Matt and another guy so it fizzed. But I would go out to lunch with him about once a week, and we'd talk when we saw eachother, always reallly flirty. And he wanted to ask me to prom, but the other guy asked me first... (That's when it fizzed). Over the summer we said we would talk alot but he was out of town (visiting family) for like a month. And the thing is, he hates being on his phone. Like, he doesn't like texting, or even calling. So though we used to hang out one on one, we don't really anymore and we don't have a lot of mutual friends. But recently, it seem's like he's been making an effort to see me more or text me more, but it's reallyyyy not much. I just don't know what to do. I really like him. And I think he likes me, cause he IS really flirty (slaps my butt, telss me to go to all his games) and his friends all think he likes me cause apparently he doesn't "go out of his way this much" for a girl before. But I've never met a guy as confusing as this... So what now??
it doesn't sound too complicated to me.. I think he was just jealous/intimidated because of the other guy who asked you to prom. But now since that guy is out of the picture, he maybe has more courage to talk to you. One thing you should know about guys is that their friends know more than you do. If his friends say that they've never seen him go out of his way for a girl but is for you.. then take that as a complicated. It means that he is really fighting for you. Its good to play hard to get, but don't lead him on. Right now he's fighting for you, give him some reward :)
If it doesn't work out.. then it doesn't work out. You gotta risk it to get the biscuit. Just relax and enjoy the ride, because this is what life is about. taking risks and living life.
Hi I'm 15f I'm still trying to get over this guy I liked for about a year so I'm trying to distract myself from him and try to look at other guys and flirt. I know to be myself and confident blah I'm doing that but I need more tips. I don't have anyone specific to flirt with except maybe this guy in my math I can't tell if he's just bored messing around or flirting or he allways does this... Like whenever I answer a question he either says nope nope your wrong or good job and says this name that's similar to mine but not really.and he sits like diagonal 2seats behind me now so idk like is that flirting bc the guys in my school are confusing they say all that stuff and turns out he never liked you a bit. Idk just flirting tip helps thanks :)
the key is to flirt but don't make it too obvious. Because that way, when/if you find out that he never liked you in the first place, you won't be ashamed of flirting.. but you'll still get the practice. get it?
try to surround yourself with guys that are interested in YOU.. not girls in general. Try to stand out and make yourself unique. That way guys will notice you more, and the ones that like you will make a move, and you'll know they made the move because of you, not because you're another girl.
try getting a little personal with guys. instead of talking about something in general like math.. bring up something personal like a fight you had with your parents. ask for his advice or something. it turns a boring conversation into something special. Next time it will also give you an excuse to talk/hang out. If you get more personal, then you can become friends and hopefully more.
its true :) well i have noticed that in the mornings he goes on facebook but when i check my phone he doesnt text me no good morning text. in the night when he leaves my house he doesnt even text me a good night text!! not even an "i love you" but he does goes on facebook and i dont even know who he be talking to in there :( I dont wanna talk to him about this because then he is going to think im bothering too much and that im jealous. if it was you what would you do ?
I've had a similar problem like this. First, try making the first move. YOU text him good morning and good night. Maybe he's just dealing with stuff and hasn't had the time to do it. If you make the first move, he might start making moves too. If that doesn't work, try ignoring him for a few days. Make him wonder why youre not talking. Make him curious and want to talk to you. If none of those work, then you need to talk to him about it. Just be honest and say you miss getting texts like that from him and wish he did it more.
Good luck!
I was wondering, how do I turn my boyfriend on through kissing? We have been going out for 8 months and I'm 16.
try using your tongue a little. lick his lips and bite his lips. run your fingers through his hair. kiss his lips and make a trail of kissing going down his neck. nibble his ear a little. just try new things
Why dies all my relationships ends abruptly?
well obviously something isn't working out in the relationship.. you need to figure out whats wrong in the relationship and fix it. there could be numerous problems- maybe the person doesn't trust you. maybe you're too clingy. maybe there was a miscommunication. talk to the other person in the relationship and be open and honest with them, otherwise you won't solve anything.
hello,i turned 13 on the 16th august 2011&ive been talking to this lad for quite a while&we always seem to talk about sex,but im a virgin:/,i feel ready to have sex,but i feel asif he's just gonna use me for a fxck&then hate on me. He has been telling me about the positions he wants to use on me&asking me to get on my knees for him,everytime i see him he blanks me,never says a word to me,but when were at home he will inbox me talking about sex,i feel ready and the convo's are making me more ready,should i wait untill i find someone who loves me for who i am and can wait,or do i just go ahead and let him have sex with me,please help me i feel so confusied,i just want to get it out the way but i could be doing the rong thing,all my friends say its good but i dont want to do it to fit in,just think its time for my most loved childhood memory to be given to him:/please help me as you can see im clearly stressed&confused im really scared of doing the rong thing!!!!!!1
you're only 13 and already thinking about sex??!!? holy crap you're so young! you're just a child!!! I'm almost 19 and I had sex when I was 18 hahaha.
You definitely need to wait until you find someone you love. Even if you feel like you're "ready" which I dont think is true.. Ask yourself this- are you "ready" to have a baby? are you "ready" to give something so special to this guy who you probably dont even know that well? are you "ready" to take that responsibility if you get pregnant?? You're 13. If you can't take care of yourself, how the hell are you going to take care of a baby if you get pregnant. You can't even drive!!! Its better to be safe than to be sorry.
Oh and you'll know when you're ready because when you're ready, you won't hesitate. If you have to come on advicenators.com and ask some random strangers if you should have sex with this guy.. then you're definitely not ready.
Don't make a stupid decision and "get it over with".. sex is an extremely special thing. Yeah, its great once you do it.. but that doesn't mean you should just do it with any guy you see. Wait until you find someone you LOVE.
Take me for an example.. i've had 3 boyfriends my entire life. I could have had sex with the first 2.. but i didn't. Why? because I didn't love them. I wasn't ready. I wasn't ready to have a baby. I knew I wasn't going to be with them forever so why give them something that special? My 3rd boyfriend (we have been dating for over a year and still together) is the guy i lost my virginity to. I was 18 and I absolutely adore him and in love with him. I knew I was ready to give it to him because I knew it wasn't just to "some guy".. Its something special and should be shared with someone special. So dont just hand it out to anyone who asks for it.
Be smart.
Im a 14 year old Female and i have bad acne. Does anybody know any quick home remedies for acne?
This is my skin care routine and I swear I will never change it because it works the best! I used to have bad acne too. I used all the products out there- proactiv, clearisl, oxy, etc. They would work temporarily for a few days but then they would stop working. So try following my routine.
Wash your face with Burt's Bee's Cleansing Cream with soap bark and chamomile.
http://reviews.burtsbees.com/8993/-49/soap-bark-and-chamomile-deep-cleansing-cream-reviews/reviews.htm
then moisturize with aveeno clear complexion.
http://www.aveeno.com/facialcare/clear-complexion-moisturizer
Then at night or whenever, put some neosporin or triple antibiotic cream on the area with pimples.
http://www.neosporin.com/firstaid/neosporin.asp?sec=0&page=10
Do those steps 2 times a day for a few days and it should start clearing up :)
hello, right now it's already midnight in my country. Sorry for my English if i am mistake. Almost on year ago my father died and i have to take care of my younger sister and younger brother. My mom did not live us right now. At first even though it's really difficult to handle this situation. Because one year ago my family is very big and i did not worried anything such as my family's expense, revenue, even i didn't worried my college tuition. But since this, only 3 of us live in a home and sometimes it's really lonely. But i want to grow my younger sister and brother well and be disciplined.
but right now i have a problem with my younger sister and brother. The sister is 10years old and brother is 12. They just become teen. And it's really hard to communicate them sometimes. Because they are really shy and always ask me when doing something. It's like permission. But want to grow them confident, brave, and intellegent people. THIS NIGHT I tell of my younger sister, even i hit her. I really regret it because they'are my life's meaning. If i had not my younger sister and brother i have no intention to live. i have to love them a lot instead of my father.
this night i become really angry and cant stop my anger. i think i just too worried everything. i have to work all day. i am 21 year old. Maybe it's too young to take care children.it's because of just my life's everything is suddenly changed.
and i dont have any person to tell my problem. I am afraid to tell my relative that hit my younger sister.
so please give a advice for how to communicate my younger sister and brother. Also give some advise about stay calm and some inspirational advice for life. I really want to your advice.
hello there. I'm so sorry about what has happened in your life. I will pray for you and your family. I'm the baby in my family so I've never really had to take care of anybody. I can't imagine what you're going through. It must be so hard but I am so proud of you for taking the responsibility and wanting to make things better. There are some people out there who are in situations like this but they just give up and don't try.
I think you really need to sit down and talk with your younger brother and younger sister. First talk with your sister alone. Tell her you're sorry for hitting her and that you won't ever do it again. How would you feel if someone hit you?? Not very good. So don't do it to other people. My motto I always go by is- treat others the way you want to be treated. Then talk to your sister and make sure she knows you're always there for her. Reassure her that you're her family and love her very much. After you talk with your sister, then talk with your brother and say the same thing. Ask them if anything is bothering them and if they have anything they'd want to tell you or talk to you about.
I know its tough to raise teenagers, especially since you're 21. But you must stay calm and cool about this. If you lose your temper, it will just make things worse. Whenever you feel yourself getting angry, take a few deep breaths. Another thing you should know is that younger siblings ALWAYS look up to the older siblings. Whatever you do, your siblings will learn from your choices and look up to you. So when you feel yourself getting angry, think to yourself "I have to be a good influence on my siblings. They look up to me so I need to be on my best behavior".
I know its hard and you have a lot of pressure and stress. But you need to find a way to get through it. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. You'll find a way to pull through this and in the end, you can stand up and say you succeeded.
Good luck and I wish you and your family the best!
i'm like a freak about protected sex and me and my boyfriend had sex with a condom the other night and he pulled out and the condom wasn't ripped or anything should i bother with plan b or am i fine? and what are some early symptoms like how soon would i be able to tell if i was pregnant.
well if the condom didn't break or anything, then you should be fine. there's a very very very slim chance of getting prego with a condom. But always be safe than sorry. I suggest getting on birth control. you can't always leave it up to the guy...
And you can start to tell if you're pregnant if you get common symptoms like nausea, throwing up, morning sickness, always tired, craving things. Another big thing to look for is your next period. if you don't get your next period, then you are most likely pregnant. You can take a pregnancy test up to 6 days before your period begins and it will tell you.
is it cool to have a purple streak in black hair
yeah thats pretty tight. Or you could try red :) red is bolder and more fierce. But if that's too much for you, then purple is great too :)
I'm 16 and I've never been kissed. I'm in an all girls school, looking for a way to get a bf??
All my class have had bfs apart from me and two others.
What do I do????!!
Whats a normal age to start kissing???!!
don't worry what other people think. You kiss a guy when you have a special connection with him... not just because you want to get it over with. My first kiss was at 16 too. One of my friends is 18 and still hasn't been kissed. So don't worry. Everyone is different. Look at it from a good view- be lucky that you haven't had your first kiss yet. Make it something special and make the guy work for it. don't just hand it out to any guy who comes along.. make sure he's worth it and worth waiting for. otherwise, there's no special connection and it won't be amazing.
Another thing- you're 16. You're starting to mature and become an adult. So.. you need to start acting like one. Adults don't care what other people think. They say, do, or act what they want and don't let other people's opinions get to them. Stand up for yourself and be proud of who you are.
If you really want guys to notice you, just be yourself and some lucky guy will come along. Don't force it, just let it happen naturally. Flirt and socialize with guys. Hang out with them, and have fun. Let the romantic stuff happen naturally, otherwise it its not mean't to be.
Okay so I'm 5"4 & I'm about 105 lbs. I'm very active with sports & running & working out. I'm noticing that my period is very light this month & is a mixture between old & a little bit of new blood. I also got it like 15 days late. Does being bery active cause anything that's going on with my period?
Yes, being overly active causes your period to be weird. Some people get lighter periods, some don't even get them at all. My friend is a gymnast and she never gets her period. Whereas I am athletic but I still get mine, but they are light. It varies girl to girl.
Hey guys, I'm 18 years old and this is the first month I've ever been on birth control, but I've been having sex for about a year with the same guy. Tonight I take my first "placebo pill" and I was wondering if it's still safe to have sex without a condom while taking the placebo? Since I'm on the pill, we haven't been using condoms but he still pulls out just to be safe. I also know that it's normal to not always get your period during the "placebo week", so if I don't get my period, can we still have sex without a condom? I know I'm not pregnant because when I got the birth control prescription they did a urine and blood pregnancy test and both were negative. So if my period doesn't come, I'm not worried. I haven't gotten a period since May anyways because I've been pretty stressed out over some personal stuff but the doctor tested me just to make sure and I'm definitely not pregnant.
So basically, my question is: If I'm not pregnant but don't get my period during the "placebo pill" week, is it okay to still have sex without a condom?
yeah because the pill starts working after 7 days you start taking it the very first time. After that, the pill is in your system and protects you from pregnancy all the time, even if you are on the placebo pill.
I have a lot of dark acne scars, whats something cheap that can clear it up and actually works?
Ive been using differin for the whole summer and it has done nothing
you can buy expensive acne products like proactiv and crap like that.. but they aren't going to do anything. The best solution that I use and works for me is just putting Neosporin or Triple Antibiotic Ointment on the acne scars. It takes a 2-5 days for the acne scar to go away. If you put it on each day, you can start to see a difference. The ointment has antiobiotics in it which naturally kills all the germs and bacteria which causes acne. So whenever you have acne or acne scars, use the ointment and in a few days it will clear up :) Its the only thing i've been using (besides face wash and moisturizer) and its the only thing that works WELL for me.
It will make your skin look oily because of the ointment, so I suggest you put it on at night and then in the morning wash it off.
long story short, my boyfriend messed up with me , and we broke up, he came back and wanted a second try and worked hard for it, and i told him i need some time to trust him and all that stuff, so im starting to give into him and everything and then he starts talking about how he wants to be with me but he wants to give it time cause hes going to college and all his friends are failing and hes so scared that he isnt as smart as the and he doesnt wanna go down the same road and a relationship is too much for him to handle and that he feels like hes not gonna show me much attention but we can still love eachother and be eachothers, but not in a relationsip but he thinks its a major responsibility cause he has to take care of me and all that, i dont know you guys.. whats going on? hes always online for me, talking to me all the time, telling me how much he loves me, im being so honest, hes not that kind of player guy, that plays around and does all that bullcrap, hes a man, and im not saying that because im inlove with him im saying this cause i know him, but is it UNDERSTANDABLE, that he said that ? or what do i do please help. thank you.
yeah its understandable. I went through a phase in my life when I liked a guy and wanted to be with him, but I had bigger priorities to focus on like school and sports. It sounds like he really does love you. Otherwise, he wouldn't have wasted his time trying to get you back and having a second chance. If he didn't love you, he would have given up by now. Its understandable that he is worried about school. If you really love him, I'd give him that second chance and then tell him that you guys don't have to be so serious right away. You guys can still go out, but settle for a less serious relationship. Tell him you can help him out like helping him relax outside of school and maybe even helping him out with school.
I'm sure that if you 2 were mean't to be.. then everything will figure itself out :) Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
i need a new girlfreind what do i do?
you need a new girlfriend...?? or you want one??
Ok i'm just gonna say it. FYI it will be harsh. NO girl is ever going to want to be with a guy because he needs one and is desperate for one.. Girls want to be with guys who care about the girl. Who loves her and WANTS to be with her. If you feel like you NEED a girlfriend, then you're not going to get a worthy girlfriend.
The best relationships are the ones that happen naturally. Don't force it. Don't force yourself to look for a girl or force yourself to be in love.. because thats just a fake relationship. If you want a real good girlfriend, you need to be honest with yourself. Do you really like her? or are you just forcing the relationship to work, even though you have no interest in her?
I made this mistake with my first boyfriend. I was 16 and I felt like I NEEDED a boyfriend. All my friends had one and I felt like I was missing out. So I was desperate and looked for a guy. I found one and forced the relationship to work for 6 months. After that, I realized I didn't need a guy to make me happy. I wasn't happy. I didn't like him and had no interest in him. The only reason I dated him was because I felt like I needed a boyfriend... which isn't right.
So here's what you should do. Stop thinking you NEED a girlfriend.. you don't need a girlfriend. Its okay to want one. Just be yourself. Be social and nice to girls. Let them come to you and if its mean't to be, then it will happen. Don't force it.