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A few months ago I started to talk to a guy online and we were talking about having a relationship. About a month ago I abruptly stopped talking to him because I was slightly suspicious if he was legit. A week later, I was alone at my house when a man rang my doorbell and when no one answered, started to look in the windows. He didn't have a car with him. Yesterday, a car stopped in front of my house for at least two minutes. I don't know if I should report this because I'm a teen and I'm pretty scared. (link)
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Did you give out your real name/location? If not you're probably just paranoid. If you want my email or something I can help you some more, on wats to talk to your parents about this and stuff.
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14/F
I barely leave my bedroom. I have frequent panic attacks, so that's part of the problem (I'm getting help for it). But I only go outside if I absolutely have to go somewhere. I only sit in my room and go on my phone, play video games, watch TV, etc. I'm not a overweight slob who has no life. I'm actually the opposite of that... I have friends, but we don't hang out much. I am homeschooled aswell. Any advice? I'm going to try to go out a LOT more when I get help for my panic attacks but for now, I just stay inside. (link)
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I'm 13 and you just describes me EXACTLY (except I go to public school). Maybe going to a public or private school hope you meet new friends and get out there. Like try going for a walk or something, idek.
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11 year old female
Ok, so I really like this guy, but he goes to a different camp, luckily the camps like to combine to help us for middle school. Every time we have a trip where the camps combine, I think I'll get dolled up and talk to him. I get dressed nice, and get all worried about how my boobs are so small (I am just able to fit it the smallest training bra, and I haven't got my period yet so I could barely call myself a women) and my hips are big, and end up shying away. There's a girl in my camp who gave him a flirty look, and he smiled back but more politely then romantically he automatically stopped after a second, and that was that, but that means that girl likes him, right? And she is the biggest flirt in the grade, she hangs out with boys 24/7 also she has a much better body she's actually got a nice one I'm skinny as a twig until you get to my hips, wich looks like complete shit, then my ass is no ass. The only time I had a conversation with him was on a feild trip at school where all the district's 5th graders combined and we did activities together, and I ended up pairing up with him for thumb wrestling and we talked. Also we exchanged a smile that lasted for a while on spotlight night, where the district's 5th graders got to buy books for summer reading, and a tour of the middle school. But on that feild trip I talked to him I was whispering to my friend about him and I was trying to point him out, but she didn't know which one was it, because he was in a group of boys so after a while I got pissed off, and when he ran close enough to hear me,I was like, no,I like him loud enough for him to hear me, and I'm thinking, oh shit, the moment he can hear me. And that's like, THE WORSE POSSIBLE THING THAT COULD FUCKING HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What happens when the camps combine I stay close to my friends and whisper, and he stays close to his friends and whispers, I'm just waiting for him to make the first move. What should I do with my pathetic love life? (link)
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You're in fifth grade. Stop worrying about your boobs and butt. Just try to make friends with him (to make sure he's not a douche) and then take it to the next level. Maybe TGAT other girl is pretty, but if she can't entertain him with a good personality, he lose interest in her quickly. (Just btw the age requirement for this site is 13 so..... But I'm not gonna report u, don't worry lol)
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Okay, so I'm male, 5'7, 105-110 lbs, 14 years old, and my grandma just will not stop talking about it. This morning I was getting food and she started making more food and saying I had to eat it all, and I said I wasn't that hungry. She got mad and said I had to eat it because she knew I never ate anything and she threatened to call some fake organization she made up and tell them I'm not eating.
I finally did snap and get really mad. I pounded my fist on the table and yelled, "I DO eat!" She sat there and watched me eat, and when I left she accused me of going to throw it up. WTF? I'm not bulimic.
Now she's ignoring me and saying that she's just the warden. I said "I love you." to her and she just laughed. What do I do? :( (link)
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Alright so I'm your age and I have a similar issue. Unassuming that you live with your grandmother. If she can be reasonable then try to talk to her calmly the next time she accuses you of not eating/being bullemic. Now I'm not suggesting one if those sit down and have a corny heart to heart, just the next time she accuses you just say something like this: "I do eat enough to fill me up and I would never throw up my food, I just wouldn't do that to my body. I'm still growing, I'll probably gain a little more weight over the next few years." You could also point out that if you threw up your food then your teeth would start rotting (the acid in puke wears down the enamel on your teeth), and that you would also be very weak. You could also make a bit of a compromise, you'll eat healthier foods that will help you gain weight, but you'll choose your own portion sizes. Foods/drinks like milk, thick soups, and bread will help you put on weight. You can also try weight lifting to try to get a bit of muscle.
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15/f I did burn myself a few times on my wrist and they have healed in a red/pink way. I really want to reduce to colour to a white skin coloured scar that isn't as noticeable. I would love some remedies for this and also to reduce the look of cuttin scars.. I need them to appear less bright in a few weeks (link)
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Try makeup/long sleeves for now, but talk to someone about your self harm.
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ok, so thats me, the one with the girl hating my guts. I couldnt log into my account, so i had to reset amd i just used a quick account, but, the girl (L) will crumple up my notes when i send them to her, and shes been pissed now for about 4 months. And is anerexsia really that serious? She needs professional help? :0 (link)
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Yes anorexia is a big deal. It has the highest death rate of any mental disorder. You're body literally eats itself from the inside out because you just flat out stop eating, causing your busy to shutdown. Talk to this girl instead of pestering her with notes.
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Ok, so I am I definitely pregnant, been checked at doctor, and I'm 13. My parents and I are trying to consider what would be best and right now we are considering an abortion. Just wondering, what's it like? Is it emotional? Sad? Painful? Thanks for any help
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It is very very emotional if you want to keep the baby but can't, but it's probably emotional either way. Here are some good videos that talk about the different types of abortions and other options besides abortions:
This one is on the different types of abortion:
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=J6vGQiwkI9g
This one is on putting it up for adoption:
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KFaNOV9O_CI
This one is on becoming a mother:
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=p6bfcEGJ3gM
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ok so i was on a cruise a few weeks ago and a boy started talking with me btw we are both going into 7th grade and now he is gone and i go to a private school with no boyz in my class and barely any i middle school and i cant stop thinking about him. And i think he liked me cause he came to me first (link)
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There's really nothing you can so unless you have a way to contact him wherever he lives.(via social media, texting, letters, etc)
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So I know the internet isn't exactly the safest place. But I have a social media account to keep track of like what's going on. But I have met a few people on there. I don't say anything personal or anything, we just talk about the stuff we have in common. I am trying to stop talking to them though because I feel like it just makes me anxious and unsafe.
Anyways, the only things I've told about myself is my name and timezone. I've never said anything too personal like the city I live in, about personal things, etc. But is this "safe"? Is using my first name okay? (link)
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Yes, it's totally ok. I wouldn't recommend meeting them in person or anything though (unless you've talked for quite a whole over phone; and I would recommend skype too.). They can't find out anything about you and they can't find out where you live unless you tell them. So have fun!
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Ok, so this question could be triggering I don't know so sorry if it is. I am an outpatient recovering from anorexia bulimia, depression and mild OCD , (yeah I know pretty messed up). my friend from school is having a pool party and has invited lots of people including the girl that effectively sent me to hospital, she bullied me constantly online and at school and no one knew.(the girl, not my friend) I still haven't told people about my problems with her girl because I know they won't believe me. Anyway I really want to go and I have set it as one of my short term goals to achieve but I am worried about this girl being mean to me, also I will be in swim wear so people will defiantly notice how fat I am now I'm out of hospital and also all the scars on my body due to self harm, I am just scared she will bring it up infront of people and I don't know what to do!? (link)
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I'm a recovering from anorexia/depression as well as cutting so I understand. What I learned in the hospital and therapy is that you're not really fat, it's in your mind, you have a wonderful body. That girl sounds like a real bitch do you go to that god damn party in a sexy swimsuit, hold your head high, and have a good time.
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I am a teenager. I've suffered with Anxiety, Depression, and Depersonalization for the past few years and have decided it's time to fix it. I can't live like this. The doctors want me to go on Zoloft, but I'm scared that there will be side effects or something. I rejected medication a couple years back, and I sort of regret it. I want to get better, but I don't want to have any hallucinations or for it to get worse. Any advice? What do you think I should do? (link)
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As long as you use the right type of medication for YOU, there won't be a problem. See if you can take an antidepressant with dude affects that you can handle. And usually hallucinations are not a side affect of medicines. And yes I feel like you should take medication. I use to cut havd depression and all if that abs therapy didn't help and I turned down medication so I just had to deal with it until I found the willpower to stop myself. Good luck and stay strong!
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i am a 13 year old boy and am skinny. all i do almost is eat and it all goes to my stomach and makes it perk out and i don't like it at all almost all of the kids my age and up have big muscles abs and a good chest and is healthy how can i be healthy, get meat on me and have a good looking body please give me some pointers and tips to help me look good instead of a skeleton. (link)
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I'm a 13 year old girl and I can honestly tell you that girls our age don't really care about you having muscle. Just as long as you're not incredibly overweight, a little pudge is fine. But if you really want muscles, then limit your calorie intake, stop eating so much junk and exercise. Sit-ups and push-ups are really great exercises. Good luck!
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I was with this guy and we were having dry sex. he wasn't wearing any clothes and i was wearing leggings and underwear. during this he came and i was wet from myself. could this cause any problems? I was supposed to get my period yesterday but still havent. (link)
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Unless he was actually inside of you then no you can't be pregnant. If you've been stressing about this that's probably why you're period is late. Stress delays your period.
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So me and my friend were getting revenge on these 2 girls. Yes I know it's bad, and I learned my lesson. But they found out and said that tomorrow I would be sorry. I don't know if I want to tell the teachers either, because then they will talk to her about it. Then she'll know and try to hurt me even more because i'm a "snitch". She's a really violent girl and I'm not a fight type of person. Please help. Yes I know it was bad of me to get revenge and everything but i'm really scared. Please please help me, I don't want to go to school tomorrow.
I have to go to school eventually, and I only have to go like 20 more times before Summer then I probably will never see her again. But I'm scared. The only time she would be able to hurt me would be after school, but there's teachers near me. I still feel like she would try to do something. Please help as soon as possible. Sorry if this is long I just really need advice here. (link)
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You sound like a teenage girl to me (I\'m a teenage girl, too so I\'ll tell you what I would do). I totally understand how you don\'t want to tell your teacher or parent(s). But if the situation starts getting out of hand, you\'ll have to. My advice if you\'re not gonna tell an adult: All day at school travel with a group if friends, don\'t go anywhere alone, and try to stay near teachers/adults, that way she\'s less likely to strike. If you can, you and your friend should apologize and talk to her if you want. (If you choose to apologize, I would do it at a park or some other public place because not only will there be witnesses, but you can have friends hiding in the bushes or just nearby, in case the girl starts to get violent. Best of luck to you!
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I've always known something was wrong with me. I had issues with self harm for a long time. I still have suicidial thoughts. I feel the need to drink and smoke when feeling down. My newest being a need to "binge eat". But I tried to stop all that, and change. It all made me hate myself more than I already do but I snapped a bit today. Just ate a take out carton full of fries, grilled cheese, two sloppy joes. a carton full of sweet potato fries and some funyuns. all within twenty minutes then popped a laxative. never ate a laxative after binging before... but I just grabbed the pack I had in my room (because I heard it was a quick weight loss technique)and did it. who knows why?
Anyway I know to get the help I need I'd have to go through my dad and I can't talk to my family. And I really mean I can't. I'm already the black sheep...and it's funny because I give advice on here and try to be there for people and i'm starting to wonder if maybe all the times I said it was going to be okay was me subconsciously trying to make myself believe that...
I know it doesn't seem like there is a question in here...i guess i kinda just needed to vent. I have no one to talk to. (link)
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Well first of all: you said that you struggle with self harm thoughts, this worked for me but I don't know if it will for you: if you want to cut, take a marker and draw pretty designs on yourself instead, and don't hesitate to find the suicide hotlines phone number and give them a call. Oh, and after the age of 14 you can legally go and see a doctor without your parents permission, so if you want to go see a doctor about all if this, go right ahead. Also, throw away your laxatives, they just make you use the bathroom, which empties your bladder, making you a bit lighter, no real weight is lost. Did you know that exercising gives you endorphins which make you feel good? So go for a run daily.
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Now please don't criticize too harshly, I'm already insecure enough. But I feel like I was meant to be born a guy. And that being born a girl was a mistake. I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual, but I want to be who I think I was meant to be. Am I sane...? :\
(Sorry, didn't know what other category to ask this.) (link)
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Yes its totally normal, its caloed transgender. Look this video up on youtube: Jazz transgender at 11
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So I was at a party and me and my friends were swimming! It was cold outside so we all got in a hug in the pool. Then all the boys hugged us all from behind us! We were in a tight hug and now I'm afraid that I might be preegnan.. Is it possible? (link)
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Youu cant be pregnant unless the guy had sperm coming out and got it in your vagina.
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8th grade- female
So there's this new guy at my school and he's reaally cute. I was talking to him today at recess (he's only in a few of my short, minor classes, so we dont talk at all ) and we were just exchanging the usual, He likes boarding, I told him it was really cool, my friend mentioned I do gymnastics and he was really impressed by it and he asked me questions and told me he has a trampoline at his house - he also said he gets staight B's and I laughed and said me too ,,and basically we really hit it off, and all my friends say we'd be cute-- ?? but the girl who introduced us -my bff, in his class- is really pretty and I'm insecure that he may like her instead of me.. basically my question is- How do I leave a cute and good impression on him? We're hanging out tomarrow at lunch , so please answer soon! thank you- so sorry for spelling/grammar my device is almost dead and I do not have time to go over- thanks!! (link)
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Hey im in eighth grade too! Im jealous that you get recess lol. But anyway, just be yourself. Pretty doesnt mean a thing if your not nice.
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what do i do when having sex 19 woman (link)
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Well, just whatever position makes you and ur partner feel comfortable. If you go online there are various positions for anal and vaginal and oral sex. If you do foreplay, then a handjob, kissing, and undressing eachother or stripping for him is always sexy ;) During the intercourse, you can feel his chest and abs (if he has abs) and his hips.
P.S. I'm only thirteen, but I did already lose my virginity.
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would any body care if i ended my life? my mom dont want me nether does my grandma. my dad lafted us when i was 3 now i am 17 about to be 18 and am getting married nexted yr. (link)
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Hi. My name is Laura. I am 13. I went through something similar a few months ago. I was in foster care(my mom died and my dad was an abusive heavy drinker) and my other family didn't want me) and I thought no one would adopt me. There was a mean older boy there and I thought about having him kill me because I knew that he would if I asked, but then I was adopted my this sweet family, and they helped me get past my suicidal thoughts.
But anyway, your fiance would miss you deeply and after you're gone, you're mom and grandma would regret being mean to you so DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. You have put so much into yourself, your life is SO PRECIOUS. Talk to your mom and grandma if they will listen (I understand that sometimes they won't listen or you're to afraid). Get a little help if I didn't help you.
P.S.: I f you wanna talk you can email me at averyreedtwitter@aol.com
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