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Q: sometimes i get these random balls of bulbs in my mouth that when i go to bite it, it pops and blood comes out. any ideas on what that might be? :(
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I've seen this before... but I was very young. I was going into my dentists office and this kid had balls of blood in his mouth. But sadly I don't remember what exactly it was. My best advice is to go to the dentist or at least ask your doctor over the phone what it could be. I think they might be blood clots or something like that. You should get it checked out. Good Luck!
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Q: Sometimes i feel like giving up when something goes wrong. I am so depressed i don't have any close friends my boyfriend just broke up with me i don't know what to do???? HELP!!!!
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okay I might answer this question a bit differently than anyone else on here. But here is what I think works:
First, you feel like giving up. So do it! Just stop with everything, and take time to shut down and recharge. Often times when we feel like giving up its because we don't have any more energy. And I don't mean physically, I mean mental energy. We just get exhausted from the day to day problems we have and feel like everything is hopeless. But if you take however long time to yourself in your room just sleeping or doing the things you like by yourself (you know even crying sometimes helps), you will wake up one day and realize that while you were giving up, the world kept going. And it keeps going, no matter what we do. And you will feel so refreshed and have a newly found energy that you will want to go out and do something...you'll want to go out and live!
See with depression (unless its severe where you are diagnosed) you sometimes have to just let it run its course. You wanting to give up means that your mind is saying "ENOUGH! I cant take it anymore, this is too much!" You need to take care of yourself both physically and mentally before you can worry about making friends or having a boyfriend, or even living. So trust me when I say you need a break.
As for the fact that you don't have any close friends or a boyfriend...you will have to realize that you have something more important you need to focus on before you can start making friends. And that is yourself. Now look, friends come and go, boyfriends come and go, but YOU...you're stuck with yourself forever. And you need to accept that. People are social creatures...we seek comfort in others so that we don't feel so alone. BUT what many people don't realize is that we are all alone in the end. Even the most popular and loved person in the world still goes home and is alone. Nobody can share our mind with us...we are alone in our own thoughts and we control our actions. You have to be okay with that. You have to love yourself and not need the company of anyone, and only then are you free and happy to have friends and a good relationship. Think about it this way, you wouldn't want to be friends with someone that was always unhappy and needed you and constantly brought you down. We all want happy fun friends that can make us enjoy life. And that starts by learning to love yourself. Making yourself the best you can be. Being okay with being alone. There's nothing wrong with being alone...
Now once you realize that, you can get out of bed and say "Hey, this is me, and I am happy that way, and I am ready to live my life the way I want to." And so you can reconnect then with some people that you think may have the potential to be close friends...Just hang out with them, have fun, let your best qualities shine, and trust me people will want to get close to you. As for love, it too will come when you are ready. And you'll see that life can be amazing. As long as you feel that way! Trust me, it works. Hope everything works out and in the meantime you should also remember that you still have people that love you unconditionally like your family. Be happy and you'll see that life will become happy for you! It always does...
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Q: My boyfriend and I are pretty serious, and I am fully aware that he really wants to have sex. It would be both our first times, but when is the time your least likely to have sex? He'd obviously wear a condom and he said he'd 'pull out' before he 'came' but I just still feel so paranoid, I want to do it but I'm nervous about getting pregnant. I just want to know when the time is that you can least likely get pregnant like in the 28 day cycle.
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Okay so first off, I didn't read anything in there about YOU wanting to have sex. All you said was that you are aware he wants to. So before I answer your question, I feel obligated to say please please please make sure that you want to do this just as much as he does, or else you might regret it.
Okay so now that that's said, I totally understand your paranoia about pregnancy. If it's possible, and trust me this will make you feel better, get on birth control.
Now if that's not possible, make absolute certain that he pulls out, because condoms very often rip. Okay so your best bet would be the week following your period, preferably closer to the day it stopped, because a new egg will take about that much time to travel down to your uterus. So it would be smarter to do it before the egg gets there. However, be aware that sperm stays in your body for a few days after it is released, so if anything goes wrong with the condom or him pulling out, there still might be a slight chance of pregnancy. It's small, but it's there... Be careful and good luck!
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Q: what do guys who are into just one sport (not just various sports or exercise) think about girls who don't get or like sports but make an effort to learn from them? i mean, do guys care if their gf is into sports (not talking about being active)
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well honestly i really don't think they care THAT much, but it is nice if you can support them in what they do. It also depends on how into the sport they are. If they're obsessed then okay it might be to your advantage to get into it a little bit, so you can at least talk to them about it since it is a topic they would love to discuss. If they are just normally involved then its really not that big of a deal to them probably if you are into it or not. Of course its never a bad thing =) you know? It really depends on the guy, and I'm not a guy so I couldn't tell you personally...but hope I helped.
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Q: i got out of the hospital about a week ago, and now the pain is back, im coughing up blood a lot n it came out my eyes and my ass. its severeee pain and idk what to do anymore. we dont have enough money at all for me to go back into the er.. right now im on a medicine that coats my insides to tone down the pain. other than doctors what can i do? any websites or people on here?
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OMG okay coughing out blood that's coming out of your eyes!!!??? you really cant take any chances with your health you need to go to the hospital I know you said you don't have enough money but if this continues, that doesn't matter! They cant reject people that have such emergencies I mean you can worry about paying after you are better. This is your life. When you were in the hospital didn't the doctors tell you what was wrong with you. They should have and not just given you some medicine to stop the pain and get rid of you...I mean that's called malpractice! I don't know what to tell you except for if this continues you should go to the hospital and forget about the money. I know this doesn't really help, but that's what I think you should do. There's only so much reading a website or people on here can help you when your bleeding from the inside.... Good Luck!!!!! I hope you get better!
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Q: Okay i used to live in E but I'm originally from S (i lived in E for 5 years but occasionally in summer break i would visit in S)
So suddenly my amazing (note the sarcasm) parents thought "hey why don't we send her to live in S, she might be a better person than a failure there", cruel fuckers? yeah i know
anyway back to the point I'm trying to make ... Every summer i used to come to Syria, i start having friends, but only hang out with this particular one which we will call T (he is a male), this guy is so cool and i love hanging out with him all the time, he is like my freaking idol you know and i've known him for 2 years even though we only spoke in summer breaks and hang out and no i never developed feelings towards him, he is just a friend but an idol also because he rocks ass
so when i moved here 2 months ago, i discovered he has a girlfriend which i got along with (it's really rarely because i don't get along with my own sex, i like hanging out with guys better) pretty fine.
but the first week i hang out with T , he was pissed at L (his ex girlfriend now), because after 1 year of dating, she asked for a break because she wanted some space and i thought he was one of those guys who is open minded and understands, but he was surprisingly the very opposite which was a surprise as you see
so while they were on a break, he was drunk and confessed that he's been liking me since i was dating his friend two years ago which was creepy for me, but anyways i made it clear to him that i don't date and i don't like him that way and i don't like this type of guys (I'm extremely honest i can make you uncomfortable), anyways we put that behind us and i got a c all that he and L is friends now and by time they will get back together which is awesome because he doesn't want me anymore so no stalking, which is great really
anyway we hang out a lot, and i really like L which is weird like i said i don't get along with girls much but she is different and cool enough for me to like her.
so one day suddenly i meet up with both of them and find them having a HUGE fight, like seriously, T was so rude to L i wanted to snap his head off and my idea of him being my idol changed completely, i mean he told her it's okay to have space and time to decide wether she wants to get back with him and then suddenly he goes like
"I don't care if you decide or not, because I'm leaving your bitch ass, you know L, you're like a pair of my shoes, when i finish with them i throw them away, and now i'm throwing you away"
That's like only 1% of the stuff he said to her which was horrible, but it's not my problem so i couldn't get in between them at all, like i had no right to speak so i watched him telling her horrible mean disgusting stuff for about two hours, i know I'm very patient, anyway but she was so scared of him she didn't say anything in return. I was disguised with them but i didn't really care you know
so the day after he invited me to a party where we all got drunk, and then while going back home, he was dropping me, he asked me "Did you talk to L today?" and i replied "No" and i was about to continue and say 'actually i was thinking about calling her' but he beat me to it and said "Good because i don't you to speak to a bitch like her", i stared at him shocked and said "you can't tell me what to do" and he said " i don't care, it's either me or L"
so i snapped (i was drunk) and start yelling stuff like "i don't care either she didn't do anything wrong and don't put me in this situation" and stuff like that but he was smiling at me all the time like giving me a look 'i-will-take-my-revenge-back-if-you-talk-L'
but i ignored him, said bye and got out of the cab
I didn't call him since but he never calls me because my phone is taken away from (yes I'm always grounded) he always waits until i call him
two days later which is today L called me and i went out with her and i told her what happened, it was slipped out of my tongue because i was pissed
Now i have no idea, a guy i know for 2 years and a girl for 2 months, but she is not wrong and he is wrong, and somehow I'm thrown in the middle, loosing my mind almost going to stop speaking to both.
Now i would like my faithful readers who read all of that for some very comforting advice because I'm going to snap on anyone who comes my way, thanks =]
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Well wow. I would probably snap at anyone if I was in that situation too! That's just so messed up. Okay so he HAS been your friend for longer, but honestly from what you described he sounds like a total ass. Controlling, rude, and just a jerk. I guess if I was in your situation I would probably decide which one of them I would rather hang out with. And personally although I don't know the situation nearly well enough to tell you what you should do, I would stick with L. She really didn't seem to have done anything and honestly I always say sisters before misters. And in this case you don't even have feelings for the guy so it doesn't even matter. It just seems like you would be a lot happier hanging with L because T just doesn't seems like a cool person anymore to you. Well from what I read to me at least... so i would go with L. Guys suck! Good Luck, hope everything works out =)
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Q: what are some flirty lines to use to make your boyfriend wow?
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I like looking at him straight in the eyes and telling him all seductively with a smile "I want you" hahaha they love hearing that of course...
Oh and sometimes I pinch his butt and go "Mine!" =) but be careful to do it playfully and laugh or else you don't wanna come off as possessive or anything. haha have fun with it! hope this helped
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Q: okay so my main question is how to tell if a guy just wants to hook up with you, or if he actually is wanting to date you. there is a guy that goes to my school, before we were really never that close but he saw me at a concert when i was HOT and he never left me that night. and then two days after he wanted to hang out with him and he came over, when he confessed he thought i was really beautiful, smart, nice personality and wanted to hook up with me at the concert. we have yet to hook up, and he keeps texting me and trying to hang out with me. he says he wants to get to know me and he always texts me first. how can i tell if he actually likes me or if i am just another hook up. because it seems like a lot of trouble just to hook up with someone, he could have hooked up with me already.
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I like what the person below said. You can ask. It's simple. If you'd rather not be so direct (because that's how I used to be), then there's another simple way to tell. It just takes longer. Keep hanging out with him, but whatever you do DON'T hook up. Just get to know him, how he is with girls, ask about past relationships (very casually of course) and then if you guys are on the topic of dating, just randomly say "Oh I don't believe in hooking up" As a guy that just wants to hook up, he would probably play it off and then stop contacting you so often. But if he keeps talking to you then keep hanging out with him, and eventually if he sees your really not gonna hook up with him unless you guys are dating, then he will do something... You just need to have patience...just have fun getting to know him in the meantime. take things slow. Enjoy it! =D
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Q: how can i spice things up with my boyfriend, weve ben together almost a year :) but its starting to go bleh.
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Do something totally crazy and spontaneous one day! He's your boyfriend right, so I'm guessing you guys are intimate although I'm not sure to what extent. Anyway doesn't matter. I suggest you get really creative and do something fun. This happened to me once and we were both getting kinda bored with our relationship so what I did was I made up this game for him...I would leave him little notes in his house or car whenever he wasn't looking. Or I would sometimes slip a note in his pocket. It had a riddle on it or a word or an inside thing that only me and him knew about. And he had to figure it out. He figured out it was me that was doing it but I told him he had to play along and he did. Each riddle gave him a clue or told him to go somewhere, and usually I would be waiting for him there and you know =) stuff happened. You can make this totally PG if you wish. Each place was somewhere new, and that's how we got so many secret places that we made our own. I kept it going for a few months, sometimes a week or two would go by with no note and he began to miss it. Haha it always kept him on his toes...always guessing. Really the whole thing was sort of pointless but it was fun and when I decided to stop it was when I gave him the ultimate riddle to sove...and the ultimate prize. :)
Well that's my story I can definitely tell you it made the relationship interesting. But seriously you just have to try new things, go new places, get creative, start a project together maybe. Remodel his room, or yours. Work out together. Learn to dance together (salsa is so much fun). Do stuff you both would enjoy. There are so many things you can do with your boyfriend... relationships are so much fun! Just enjoy each other! Fight a little, then laugh about it. Disagree sometimes...wrestle, be fun. Have fun! Hope this helps =) Good Luck!
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okay so in my notes I wrote riddles, but that you have to figure out cuz you know him better, and I sometimes wrote stuff like "Go to (insert place here) and look for a blue envelope, inside you will find your next clue" haha and that led him somewhere else, and sometimes I got our friends in on it, so he had to go ask people if they had a note for him, etc etc. Sometimes the notes would lead to me, sometimes I would make him his favorite food and they would lead there. I always made little surprises for him. So have fun! =)
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Q: I know people always say you can love one person, then move on and love another person. I'm not sure how to do that though. What was it like for you (whoever decides to answer this question) when you moved on to another person, and fell in love with them? Did you learn anything new? Do you regret leaving the person you loved before that person? Any advantages, disadvantages? ..Any pointers to help me? .. Any advice at all would be appreciated. Thanks!
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I like your question. I believe I like it mostly because I like love. And I most definitely believe you can love another person after you have loved someone else. BUT you can't do it unless you have reached total and complete closure with the other person. You can not and will not EVER love someone else if you are constantly obsessing over lost or unrequited love. So how do you move on to another person? Time is definitely a factor. You need to give yourself time to grow, to learn by yourself why maybe the relationship didn't work out, and to accept it. Time to change as a person if you feel you need to, or to realize you don't... If you are heartbroken, time to heal. When you are truly happy as a singe person, and decide that you don't want back the love you once had...only then are you ready to love someone else. Because then you are your own person and are ready to share your heart with someone new. I have never truly been in love. Yes, I've had insane infatuations but true love hasn't found me yet. But what I can tell you I learned from moving on in each and every relationship is that after every one, I knew a little bit more about myself, and what I like, and what I expect. I do not regret anything. We don't get any do overs in life so regret is really a wasted emotion. Doesn't help you at all. The best advice I can give you is look ahead because while you may have lost the person you loved, you still haven't lost the most important thing you have - yourself. I really do sympathize with you because losing love is one of the hardest things we sometimes have to face. But trust me, you will love again...
just be happy and I really hope everything works out! good luck =)
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Q: In about a month I will be traveling out of state to Florida from Texas with my friend, who had previously lived there. We will be hanging out with all of my friends former friends and etc. Is there any particular style that girls in Florida wear? I'm also looking to buy a some cute clothes for college, so where are various stores that carry cute clothes?
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well i live in Florida and i can tell we are all very laid back here. you wont see too many girls in high heels everyday. it also depends on your age. If you're going to be in South Beach or Miami you might want to have some upscale type clothing but honestly in the summer we are all about the beach, which means flip flops, cute shorts or skirts, and bright fun summer dresses. But of course, like the other person said, its all about what you like and you should wear what you're comfortable in....
have fun! =)
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Q: Okay,
Well, my friend(i also REALLY like him) he's very sweet..and very flirty. ;) Well,after we met he told me that he liked me, probably a week after we met. We have a lot in common, and we pretty much have the same personality. It's pretty weird that we do..but it's sweet.Most recently we were at the pool and he got REAL touchy. I didn't mind him like..touching my shoulders or picking me up and things like that..but he touched me "down there".. like he was acting real flirty and it just landed there ha ha .Well.. it didn't really bother me..i liked it ;) Well.. I asked him out and he told me that he wants to but he can't date people right now (these girls were jealous of his girl friend & him and started rumors to break them up..so he's hurt by that.) one of the rumors was that he was dating someone on My space, it wasn't true though..because he's not like that..he's a great guy and he wouldn't do that. I asked him if we could ever date in the future, and he said we could. He told me that he's not playing with my heart, he's just can't date people right now..I'm not sure if it's because of what happened last or..something else. Well, what i want to know is..what should i do now?? Just wait or find someone else for now?? I really like him..and he really likes me..im just so confused!!
Thanks..don't be harsh or anything..
i'll rate fair!!!
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sigh* ok so what im getting from this whole thing is that he likes you but cant date you because of some rumors that some other girls started??? thats a bit sketchy if you ask me. okay so im not saying its absolutely not true and that hes lying to you, but it seems highly unlikely. if he liked you like he says he does, he wouldn't care about some stupid rumor. I'm not trying to be harsh, but i do think you shouldn't be completely naive with this guy. Dont believe everything he says. Look into his story, if you have mutual friends ask them or go on myspace maybe youll get some info. The best advice I can give you right now is DONT do anything with him if your not dating him. It's ok to keep flirting just dont take it any further than that. If this guy really likes you, hell be with you no matter what. But if you guys develop this relationship where you do stuff but he keeps telling you he cant date you, then hes only after you to do that stuff. So dont give in until your his girlfriend, his reason for not being able to date people right now is honestly sort of lame...
good luck =)
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Q: this past week ive been finding myself...needing porn i guess. i never watched it before until recently and i cant get enough of it. its bad because i feel liek im going against my family or my boyfriend or something...what can i do to get my mind off porn? and is it really bad that im watching it? thanks =[
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haha aw, its not bad at all. people, although not a lot would admit so, are very sexual. not just guys, girls too. why do you think so much money is being made in the porn industry? youre not going against your family just because you watch it. honestly, the only problem i see with porn is that it gives guys unrealistic ideas about sex and makes them want all their partners to be porn stars. but seriously lol its okay dont worry its not bad. if you wanna get your mind off it i think you should discuss things more openly with ur bf. what, you think he doesnt watch it? 95% of guys do...
good luck =)
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Q: I've had a Facebook for like a year now under my name but I have no pic and when people add me I just don't add them. so it says I have no friends... but I have no pic and no ifo or w/e in it. i've ever even touched it.
If you saw a blank facebook like this would u think i am a loser or would you just think that it's just unused? i know it's a stupid question... but just answer it honestly
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I would think its unused. Honest.
I'm curious as to why you're asking though, are you afraid people might think you're a loser because your Facebook is blank?
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Q: hi i was wondering if anyone knows of any good skin whitning creams? i need to get rid of my dark circles.i actually have natually fair skin however,i have really bad dark circles so i force myself to wear make uo to cover them up.And i was wondering where is the best place to buy them, as in what parts of the world carry the best stuff?And please dont write replys saying "love your skin"
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i like porcelana day cream it works well just make sure to use it evenly or u might get white spots instead ;) good luck!
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Q: My Boyfriend. I've never felt so close to anyone.
So I did something stupid and had sex with him too soon on Thursday. He sometimes would talk to me on the phone until I got home which would take 30 mins. He didn't afterwards. He wasn't even going to walk me to my car until I mentioned it or didn't give me a kiss goodbye. Maybe because I had to end it short because I had to go home. Ever since then he hasn't been the same. To think someone could be so cold and to use someone for sex, BUT I have my doubts because these are the good things he did that no one could just think of :
-He'd wake me up everymorning for school and text me after to make sure I was up.
-We text all day and he would tell me everything that was happening at work; even little jokes his coworkers said.
-After I was done with my hw he would call me.
-I texted him saying I was going to take a nap he said, "no, call me so we can fall asleep together."
-I told him I can't help driving fast and one day out of the blue he said, "please don't drive fast. I care too much for you." So, I stopped.
-He wrote a song for me and only let me hear a verse and said I couldn't hear the rest until he was done.
-He always texted me to drive safe, even if it was just around the corner.
-He took my ring finger a lot and said "This will be mine one day..."
-He asked what age did I want to get married and let him kno when I found out.
-He looked me in the eyes and said "please don't cheat on me." (because he'd asked if I ever had on someone because I did...)
-he would hold my hand while we watch t.v. and then smile.
-he would hold me and squeeze me tight while saying he missed me.
-He thought I was sleeping once and kissed me on the cheek.
-He would never hang up on the phone when he needed to make calls; he three-wayed me with them. Especially his parents. AND He always insisted I meet them.
(when he called people he would say, my name and say I was on the phone.)
-He would look me in the eyes and hold my hands and say "forever...?
-He kissed me on the cheek and then I would kiss him on his and then we'd kiss on the lips; a small cute peck.
-He told me then always showed me what an eskimo kiss was.
-He always asked if I was hungry or ok?
-He hated mangos, but I loved them, so one day at work he bought a mango drink and took a pic and sent it to me.
-I knew most of his friends and we'd laugh and play videogames with them.
-If I even mentioned a boy, he would get annoyed and not want to hear it. If I mentioned a girl for him he'd get even more annoyed.
-Right before we were going to have sex, he asked if I was sure and looked me in the eye seriously.
Bad, after sex (Thursday):
-He was getting in his car after I was leaving and said he was going to his mom's, when I got home and asked if he was still there he said he went to get food instead, but was in bed. (usually he would have told me he changed his plans.)
-He did not text me bak that night until midnight (before he had said "if I dnt text you back that means it didn't send. I'll always text back)
I asked him about it the next night and I said "out of all nights we don't talk on the phone, its the night we had sex. he got mad and surprised and confused basically. so I said I guess I'm trippin."
-Friday no call hardly text. said he was moving things with his dad's new house. Last week when he was moving his things, he talked to me on the phone and texted me while moving.
-Saturday a goodmorning baby text. I ask if he's done moving at around 9, he said all he had to do was move the tv. but around 1230 I asked if he was done yet, he said "No, its an all day thing." !! and by the way, he never texted me back after that.
-Around 8 he calls me after I called him on this girl's phone to see if he'd answer n he DID. he sounded like he was driving and said "hey baby I been turnin me phone on and off so I havnt called you. Can you come over at around 1 or 2 tomorrow? I'm leaving my dad's house in the morning. And baby I just want to let you know I have been thinking about you--" I hung up on him and gave him "yea sure" answers. 1st: when someone is lying they make up an excuse, I wasn't going to ask why he didn't call me. 2nd he never says a time for me to come over!
Concluding this: Am I overreacting to things? Is this just me trying not to be a broken hearted girl? Or is he just a hit it and quit it guy? But WHY and HOW could he do those things to me with such sincerity JUST for sex? Is he really that cold........?
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OMG! you're going through what i think is one of my biggest fears. for that to happen to me, i think i would die. but okay ive had some experience with guys and i think i can offer some good advice.
first, you need to calm it down with him a bit. im not saying youre overreacting, i would react the same. but you need to not let him know that you suspect he might be using you. because if he isn't, then youll mess up your relationship and he will begin to think youre paranoid and might break up with you. so act cool around him, play it cool. just imagine how you would respond to him if you guys had never had sex. would you treat him the way youve been treating him so far?
second, that doesn't mean you should blindly believe everything he says. There is an easy way to tell if hes using you, but DONT accuse him until youre 100% sure. If from now on, he only continues to call you to hang out and every time he insinuates he wants to have sex, he may be using you. but sex changes everything, however, you might also be the one that changed after the sex, so for a while act like you always would, and if you notice hes SIGNIFICANTLY different, then yes, sorry to say he may be using you. Now, in my opinion, he probably isn't. because of all those things he said and did for you. the marriage thing was a bit off because im guessing hes older? and you're still in high school? but idk the whole situation. oh and guys will often be perfect at first and then feel like they dont have to work so hard. so you know, it also depends on how long youve been going out. you have to look at all factors. and basically my advice is be aware but DONT accuse him, or you might ruin something good...hope that helped!
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Q: Ok so i dated jake for a year and he was my first real relationship. All my other "boyfriends" were just stupid and last like 3 weeks. At the beggining of our relationship things seemed really good i've never clicked with anyone so well. We had alot in common and always had fun. But we started hanging out constantly he would always get sad/mad when i hung out with my friends. Pretty soon i never saw my friends anymore the social things i got invited to i couldn't go to because he didn't want to ever. He just wanted me to sit with him all day, he became extrememly irrational and controlling. There was an incident where he lashed out at me and the cops came.I just put up with it and stayed with him because i knew i love him but i recently realized he's holding me back from everything so i broke up with him, he took it REALLY hard and is still begging for me back and crying. Meanwhile, i'm having the time of my life being single i just feel so free and i can hang out with who ever i want so now that i can i hang out with this guy who i really like and he really likes me but he wants and relationship and i told him i'm not ready i just got out of a huge one and he got really mad i'm wondering if moving on a week after is moving on too fast? I feel like it is but i really do like this kid and i'm not sure what to do.
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getting a new boyfriend a week after you ended a 1 year relationship is definitely moving on too fast! first you need to think about jake, because he seems to be infatuated with you and if hes lashed out at u before, and he finds out you got a boyfriend just a week after breaking up with him, then he will probably give you and your new guy A LOT of trouble. this has happened to me before, and i waited three weeks before i got with a new guy. my ex made it impossible for us and eventually caused us to break up. and even besides that, its just not a decent thing to do to another person and it will hurt him A LOT.
then again there is that new guy. you said he got really mad when you told him youre not ready? how well do you know this guy? i hope youre sure you want to be with him cuz if its only been a week thats just fast in general when it comes to new relationships. regardless of old ones. i think you should be completely honest with this new guy. explain WHY you want to wait. tell him that you like him, but that you need to see how things are going to work out for you. that being said, you can still date him, get to know him, just dont label your relationship as bf/gf. tell him that you need someone right now who understands and accepts your situation. if he cant respect that then hes not the right guy. and you should definitely get to know him better before making him your boyfriend.
lastly you said you love being single and free so enjoy that, and whatever you do, always trust your own instincts. no one knows the situation better than you do!
good luck =)
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Q: Okay I have windows vista and whenever I try to play the Sims2, it wont work.
Likee after the intro when you put the disk in and the blue screen comes up and its loading the game and its configuring everything.. the game "crashes to my desktop" and UGHH its so friggin annoying!
I have the freaking stupid Norton Security thing but my subscription has been expired for a few months.
Could that have anything to do with it? Because I sooo do not wanna renew my subscription for a freaking one hundred dollars to play a game...
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i have the same problem...the thing is that windows vista is just not compatible with the sims 2. it may still work because i manage to work mine but there are a lot of problems. this is because sims 2 is older than vista and they dont work well together. im not sure what you can do but i can assure you it has nothing to do with norton. you could try uninstalling the game and installing it again....
good luck!
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Q: 13/f
what can i read for the summer thats somewhere from 200-500 pages long? i need some good quality interesting books that ill like
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i agree with the person below. Scott Westerfeld is an amazing author i recommend his series "Uglies". Although they are a bit longer than 200 pages, the story is so good that you wont be able to put it down. im pretty sure ull love it nomatter what you like because the book has a little bit of everything in it - drama, suspense, romance, action etc...
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Q: i was asked out on a group date, but i am sort of socially awkward.
what can i do to lose that and make him think im the best thing since sliced bread?
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I know this may sound strange, but don't think too much. A lot of times we get so caught up in what we think other people think of us, that we forget to have fun. It's true, you should be yourself, and if you say you're socially awkward its also important to laugh at yourself if you say something weird...don't take everything so seriously and just focus on having a good time and getting to know the other person...if it gets awkward, laugh it off. lighten the mood with a smile or a joke...sometimes it helps just to be honest. trust me, chances are the other person is thinking what they can do to make YOU like them. everyone gets nervous and if you can ease some of the tension, you're going to be a success...
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