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Am I moving on too fast?
Ok so i dated jake for a year and he was my first real relationship. All my other "boyfriends" were just stupid and last like 3 weeks. At the beggining of our relationship things seemed really good i've never clicked with anyone so well. We had alot in common and always had fun. But we started hanging out constantly he would always get sad/mad when i hung out with my friends. Pretty soon i never saw my friends anymore the social things i got invited to i couldn't go to because he didn't want to ever. He just wanted me to sit with him all day, he became extrememly irrational and controlling. There was an incident where he lashed out at me and the cops came.I just put up with it and stayed with him because i knew i love him but i recently realized he's holding me back from everything so i broke up with him, he took it REALLY hard and is still begging for me back and crying. Meanwhile, i'm having the time of my life being single i just feel so free and i can hang out with who ever i want so now that i can i hang out with this guy who i really like and he really likes me but he wants and relationship and i told him i'm not ready i just got out of a huge one and he got really mad i'm wondering if moving on a week after is moving on too fast? I feel like it is but i really do like this kid and i'm not sure what to do.
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I would stay single because you can find better out there. It sounds from my perspective that you are happy being single. Also, you need friends in your life. Any guy that takes that away from you isn't worth it, no matter how much you love him because he is taking part of your life away. I think it's time to move on with your life and move to bigger and better things. I hope this helps!
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getting a new boyfriend a week after you ended a 1 year relationship is definitely moving on too fast! first you need to think about jake, because he seems to be infatuated with you and if hes lashed out at u before, and he finds out you got a boyfriend just a week after breaking up with him, then he will probably give you and your new guy A LOT of trouble. this has happened to me before, and i waited three weeks before i got with a new guy. my ex made it impossible for us and eventually caused us to break up. and even besides that, its just not a decent thing to do to another person and it will hurt him A LOT.
then again there is that new guy. you said he got really mad when you told him youre not ready? how well do you know this guy? i hope youre sure you want to be with him cuz if its only been a week thats just fast in general when it comes to new relationships. regardless of old ones. i think you should be completely honest with this new guy. explain WHY you want to wait. tell him that you like him, but that you need to see how things are going to work out for you. that being said, you can still date him, get to know him, just dont label your relationship as bf/gf. tell him that you need someone right now who understands and accepts your situation. if he cant respect that then hes not the right guy. and you should definitely get to know him better before making him your boyfriend.
lastly you said you love being single and free so enjoy that, and whatever you do, always trust your own instincts. no one knows the situation better than you do!
good luck =)
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