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Hey, My name is kendra. I go through a lot in my life and I love to give good advice to people who have experienced what i have been through. Im not the type of girl to tell you what to do, that's not my job. I just give advice and what you want to do wit it..is ur decision. I'll do my besT to understand every problem or question that is being asked. I take any questions and I dont judge. So drop some letters on my page and i will definitly give the advice thats besTT for ya..smoochiez..

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Do they still check "down there" after you get your period? (for a yearly physical/checkup)

yes they do check "down there" but its only gonna be a peak just to see if it looks infected or just unhealthy..well someones got to make sure you're okay..hope i helped

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So, I have this boyfriend of 4 months. But now I want to break it off. But I just don't know what to say. I really don't want to hurt him, but.....idk. I'm also scared that he might do something stupid, because that's just the type of person he is. And he's toally obessed with me and clingy. It's annoying. I know that's mean but it's true. Anyone have anything I can say, because I suck at breaking up with guys, I just don't know what to say or how to say it. Sorry for the stupid question 5's for helpful answers.

Maybe you should try telling him he's annoying. have a friend that will break the two of you up. if you still think he's gonna do something stupid, then you should just deal with it because you're the one that wants to break it off and move on. And that's good that you're not gonna waste your time on a guy that is too clingy and is kinda annyoing to you and even though you dont want to hurt him, it'll probly happen because someone always get their feelings hurt in a break-up..good luck trying not to hurt him and hope i helped

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I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months, I honestly do love her. Whenever I tell her I love you she says I know like it's not a big deal or something, now whenver I tell her I love you she says I think you love me for the wrong reason, it hurts me when she says things like that, not once has she told me she loves me back. Am I just wasting my time? What should i do to respond to her when she tells me I love her for the wrong reason?
Thanks

maybe she is waiting for the right time to say she loves you..I'm sure does love you but cant express it to you. you should tell her how you feel when she says things to hurt you. and ask her why she responds the way she does when you say you love her. If you honestly feel you are wasting your time and doubt the relationship you and your girl have then you should try to move on and if you dnot think you should do that then just give her some time....hope i helped

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16/f...yesterday my right boob(the nipple) started to hurt REALLY bad. and i felt it...i noticed that my nipple felt like a round pepple/rock, and when i touched it, it hurt even worse....i ignored it, and today it feels like it got even bigger and it still hurts....does anyone know if this could be breast cancer...im soooo scared PlEASE HELP!!

you should definitely see a doctor right away.
early breast cancer usually does not cause pain. when it first develops, breast cancer may cause no symptoms at all. But as the cancer grows, it can cause these changes:
*a lump or thickening in the breast or armpit

*a change in the size or shape of the breast

*discharge from the nipple

*a change in the color or texture of the skin of the breast or areola (such as dimpling, puckering, or scaliness).

any changes in the breast should be reported to a doctor without delay. Symptoms can be caused by cancer or by a number of less serious conditions. Early diagnosis is especially important for breast cancer because the disease responds best to treatment before it has spread. The earlier breast cancer is found and treated, the better a woman's chance for complete recovery.

hope i helped you with this information and hopefully everything will be okay..

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i'm 19 years old and a female and was sexually abused when i was very yound by a babysitter. i am not worried about this and dont feel it affects me that much and i am quite open with this fact and the people who are close to me know about it all. The problem is that when a guy wants to get close with me i just seem to panic and just feel well out of my comfort zone. especially if its a boyfriend and its sexual. i have had sex in the past and the guys know about it and are very conciderate of it. But yet i still dont know when its affecting me like this. or even if it is that is the reason why. just finding it very difficult to get close to a bloke. i have loads of guy mates which i mess around with alot but i dunno its just so confusing. could you please enlighten me on this if its possible.

well, i was molested when i was very young also and im not sure whether that affects the relationships i have with boys either..i have never told anyone because it was when i was very young and it didnt really matter to me. anyways i think it could be that your emotions get crazy when a guy wants to get close to you. you have to think sometimes 'do you really want to be close to this guy?' or 'do u really wanna be in a relationship with this guy?'. my advice to you is to be yourself or be true to yourself and relationships that you have with anybody would be comfortable. the fact that you just keep thinking about the past when you were sexually abused could be the reason why you dont feel you're in your comfort zone when close to a guy. maybe you should try leaving all that behind and move on...hope i helped

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13/f well there is this guy i went out with for like 1 year and we broke up but that was a while ago and we always flirt but lately he seems to be liking this other girl. but its weird because these past few days have been different he seems to be talking to me and when i tried to pass through the isle to my seat at school he blocked the way and it was just flirty and he is talking to me alot and stares me but he is my ex. he broke up with me but now i think he likes me. and i really like him alot because he is hott and i like the way he acts. so is that common? i wonder if he likes me? why did he break up with me then? help soon because i rate 5's for good advice!!!!

well i have no idea why he borke up with you but whatever the reason is, he's realizing he made a mistake or regrets breaking up with you..and yes that is common. you are still gonna have feelings for someone that you once liked, whether it's true feelings or just hormones. And i think he does still like you, but that doesn't mean it's just you he likes. The reason he flirts with you is to probly just to play with you or it could be that he wants you back..find out if he does or just move on...hope i helped:)

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I recently sent some pictures to a male friend of mine. They were of me dressed up as a bridesmaid at my cousins wedding. Well I looked REALLY nice- normally I'm just a casual person. I had my hair done; makeup on; and a beautiful strapless empire gown on. I also had been dieting before the wedding and was slim and trim. Well I just got an email from him. He said that I looked awsome and that he could barely recognize me all dressed up; then he thanked me for the pics and said they were GREAT! My question is do you think he's attracted to me by what he said?

you should definitly ask him because no one really knows but him. it seems he is more attracted to your looks. And if he really thought that they were GREAT! he could have been using it to jerk off to (lol)...anywyas dont take his opinion on how you look seriously just take it as a compliment and try askin him if he's attracted to you. hope i helped

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So there is this kid i like, a lot. we are in the same school, and a couple of the same classes. he and i are both scorpio, and we get along great. we have so much fun together! tonight, i was txting him, and he asked if i thought he should go out with anyone this year, and i said idk, so he said that he would like to go out with his ex, which made me a little jelous. then he told me all about how good he is with parents, and then he said, " who knows. maybe youll see it for yourself some day." so i asked what he ment, and he was like "idk." what do you all think?

thanks,

meeee!

i think he is flirting with you..how cute..You shouldn't get too carried away with any flirting he does with you..you two are probly much better off friends until you both know for sure how you feel about each other. hope i helped

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i have a friend and she alwayssss is in love with a new boy everyday, if she has a boyfriend (which she does now and is not going to last very long) shes hooked onto him and sucks up to him . shes always asking me for advice but sometimes i run out of things to say and repeat the same things.. now her and my other guy friend are coming over tomarrow (which she cheated on her bf with him) and i dont know what to do.. like really.. its kind of confusing but i need help ! quick. even if its not today its okay bc i need something to do in the future

well i think you need to tell her to slooow down. It seems like she is too dependent on guyz. She's not a good girlfriend and needs to stop actin like a hoe. and i understand how you can be running out of things to say because she keeps doing the same things. tell her you dont want to see her relationship status be the same in the future. she should try to stick with one guy she really likes and learn to be faithful to him. hope i helped

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alright this might sound immature but this was like 2 years ago ok.. me and lets say bob dated and then i broke up with him and got back together with him like maybe.. 10 times i know I was immature and really didn't know what I wanted then and my family was going through divorce so i was so confused I broke up with him for other guys i thought i liked more.. he thought i cheated on here and all that but really i didn't i just talked to them.. and bout two months ago we got back together he stayed back though and i didn't get to talk to him much and he never calls he always says if she likes me she'll call and i would never call him unless he called me atleast once! he always told people he never trust me from were i did alot of boys bad but i've change since every boy was calling me a ho and all that crap.. well he broke up with me for the first time cause he said he wasn't having any "fun". I loved that boy so much.. I swear.. =P... I think he is immature and doesn't want a "serious relationship" and for some reason I feel guilty like its all my fault for him breaking up with me.. should I be? sorry if it doesn't make since.. I'm jsut trying to get it all out..

i dont think its your fault at all he seems immature and he doens't seem like a good enough boyfriend..and yea i see why he may not trust you because how you did other guys wrong but if that was long ago then he should get over it...dont feel guilty it's not your fault. get over him and find a new guy instead of going in a circle breakin up and then gettin back together..everytime you continue that cycle the relationship just get's worse..just move one and you will be better dont wonder is it ur fault that you're not together and dont dwell on the fact that he dumped you either..it will probly be hard to get over "bob"(lol) since you love him alot but just try cause you are only wasting your time on him..hope i helped

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me and this kid went out a long time ago and he was my first guy that i actually really cared about and then we broke up for about a year and a half..we still talked and i always liked him..i never really stoped...then just recently we went back out..we hooked up on 3/16 and he just broke up with me yesterday because he got a ticket and hes getting his licences(spelling?) taken away and he said that hes won't be able to see me and he has to get a job and he has to move out this summer and he just wants to be single.. it really hurt me because there is no one else i want ..i meann he makes me soo happy and everything..we never got into a fight and i thought our relationship was going great...and i don't know what to do, i just want to be with him ...im so upset about it and i need help on how to deal with it.. hes the only guy that broke up with me..all the other guys i broke up with..help?
thanks in advance

you should defiantly tell him how you feel about him breaking up with you...you've been heart broken and it's nothing you can do about it but just move on, even though that'll take time since you really loved this boy. You'll eventually find someone that is great like him. But if you tell him how you feel hopefully he'll decide to work things out with you. Also i think you shouldn't imagine relationships or anything else as if it is going to last forever and this is just a new experience in your life that a guy breaks up with you. also its not a step by step way to get over a broken heart it happens naturally...hope i helped

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everytime i start liking a guy or think i might like him..i like stop myself. i have no idea why i do this. and everytime a guy starts to like me "or thinks im hot" i feel weird like..i dont know how to explain it. it makes me see them differently. and im always scared to do things with boys..like go to movies with them because im scared there gonna make a move and i dont know what i would do! ive never even had a boyfriend yet but i have madeout/kissed one. i just dont know what to do.

wow thats like my situation..when i like a guy i never tell him or anyone else i just keep to myself and i act like i dont like him when he talks to me...when a guy likes me i feel nervous and insecure because i keep thinking to my self that im not the type of girl he wants. and i think about how i'll feel if he was to break my heart. also i dont feel a boy could really like me for me because im shy and that they'll only like me for my looks..and yes me too i am scared to do things with boys, i'll think about doing things but i don't...i never had a boyfriend except 1 but we broke up because i didnt know how to kiss and i was scared to kiss him(big mistake i should of kissed him)....im a pretty girl but i just dont give guys a chance to go out with me cause im scared.............anywhooo if you can relate to that then i think that you should just forget about feeling weird when a boy likes you. let the negative feelings leave your mind. go to the movies with a boy and if he tries to make a move on you then just go with the flow. you might be a little nevous or confused in what you should do but just follow his lead..(but im not saying let him take control of you). you should give guys chances to be your boyfriend. Be your self and forget about what anyone thinks about you and naturally you wont feel awkard or nervous around a boy or boys you like...hope i helped

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14/f.. I had sex with my boyfreind about 3 or 4 weeks ago and the condom broke!! I took 3 pregnency tests without my parents knowing and they were all positve!! so i think i'm pregent how could i tell my parents? HELP
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well i had a friend who went through the same thing and she didnt tell her parents but she got an abortion before her stomach got bigger which i was against because that's murder. but you do what you want...i think you should defiantly tell your parents.. tell your mom or which ever parent is more understanding and less strict. you need your parents to know so they can help you to decide what to do with it..and yes its your decision weather you keep it or not but your parents are still legally incharge of you...dont be scared to tell them because if you can have sex then you can deal with the consequences. telling your parents that you're pregnant will be the hardest thing to do and you'll probly go through alot of problems but you have to stand up to it..hope i helped

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i am 13 and i really like this guy anthony
1.what are some was i can make him want me??
Like today at school i wore a shirt that showed off my chest. You can see my bra and the sides of my boobs. Well today in class since my friend sits next ot anthony i leaned over on her desk so he can see my chest and he was looking!!! for now on i am wearing more revealing shirts!!
2.i mean i just want him to ask me out so i can hug him and kiss him and hold his hand. I want to do this as soon as possible,especially the kissing and the hand holding. But i never kissed a guy before. but i want this kiss to not just be a peck on the lips i want it to last over 1 minute and i want it to be as described:
first we are walking at school all alone with no one around hand in hand. We walk very slowly. We go behind the handball courts, we stare into each others eyes do a half smile. And then ill say o its cold outside and hell give me his sweater and get closer and grabs me as our faces are getting closer and closer and we kiss. It will be lasting over 1 minute with open mouths and if he wants to put his tongue in my mouth i will slowly let him and make my tongue touch his. And while we are doing this i will have my hands on his hips constantly moving and his hands will either be on my waist or starting at the waist and moving up slightly touching my breasts. By then my shirt would be half way open. And after we are finally done we slowly break our lips apart and ill say i love you and give him a quick kiss on the lips.it will be the best time of my life so far i am only 13 but that is how i would like my first kiss to be and i would like it to be with anthony or with alex but i really wish it was with anthony, well does that sound like a good first kiss.
love always anthony b.
Julie

wooow. i love how you planned that whole scene..that sounds like a really exciting romantic first kiss but from experience i can tell you that it's not always what you plan it to be..you dont even go out with the guy yet and you already want to kiss him and say i love you. i see you want your first kiss right away but you have to slow things down. you cant just plan things and expect them to happen the exact same way.
~have fun wear those revealing shirts(dont look like a hoe)..let him notice you but make sure that if he wants you it'll be for you because kissing a guy that really likes you for you is the best first kiss ever.

*you never know maybe your dream of your first kiss will happen..i hope it does

**but you must be patient and let things happen naturally..hope i helped

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hi i am julie and i am 13. well there is this guy ashtyn and he is kinda hott! well today at school he sad that i always dress like a hoe but i was just wearing a mini skirt and a short shirt and he is constantly staring at my ass so today he was all like hey julie damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn (in a good way) and said i can almost see your ass. and he is always staring at my legs and every once in awhile he spanks my ass lightly but i like it.
what do you think i should do???
do i show him that i like him
luv
julie

freaky freaky lol. well i think it's your hormones he's making you feel good by telling and expressing how attractive you are. you two should continue to flirt with each other and just have fun you're young but dont move into things too fast..also dont let him take advantage of you by letting him spank your ass even though you like it like that, i think you should show respect for yourself/your body... hope i helped

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how much are chanel earrings usually at? are they expensive? can you give me a range

http://www.chanel.com/wfj-global/en-us/index.php?fullscreen=1&x=89&y=0&width=1093&height=842

that's a site to look at their earrings...but usually when you find them in a low price store it is from $20-$30(the hoops)...if it's less than that then it's fake or you just got a good deal.

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My boyfriend zach just broke up with me, and i really love him, and i need help to get over him!

its really no step by step way to get over a guy you love. you just have to realize that it's over between you two. And we all have to be heart broken once in a while, but then we find love again. you're still gunna think about him and everything but eventually he will be just a memory instead of an everyday thought in your mind...everything is gonna be okay. hopefully you'll find some one else soon, who can help you forget about zach...hope i helped

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Yesarday my ex bf went to a basketball game at my school.
And everyone was was saying,that i was talking shit about him.
The preps and stuff.
But i dont talk to them!
So now he wont talk to me at all,and he got a new gf.
I started to cry,because i never did that and i never would.
I like him to much.
So yesarday i told his friend,his friend likes me.
And i was kinda starting to like him.
And then last night,he started to hold me and touch me.
And now he wants to screw me.
But now,im like confused.
Whats wrong with me?
help

nothing is wrong with you...but maybe you should talk to your ex and explain to him that you wasn't talking shit about him and get that cleared up. if he acts weird or doenst believe you then forget about him...hes moved on so its no reason for you not to so yea i think you should go out with his friend..but i can see how you're confused because if hes ur ex "friend" then y would he want to be all over you...there are many answers to that it could b that he really likes you or that he just wants to fuck you. maybe you should ask him..but i dont think you should let him fuck unless u get down like that....hope i helped

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Ok. I just broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and I really miss him! I've tried to get over him but I dont know it's just not working. and like I mean we were going out for about 2 months but I liked him for a LONG time before that! so I don't know if I should try to get him back or move on. We talk a lot and flirt sometimes. And he always seems rly interested in who I like and what I'm doing but I'm just not sure. So my question is should I even waste my time trying to get him back? or should I move... Please help me decide!oh yeah and of course I'm a girl and I'm 14.

yea, you should try to get him back..you seem like you really like him and he seems like he could still be into you...but if he doesnt want you back or keeps playing games that he doesnt like you but he really do then i think you should defianlty move on you're too young to be wasting your time on the same boy when you can move on to another...hope i helped

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my name is Rachel and iam 16 and this boy asked me out yesterday at school,but he told me to keep it secrete is this normal for a boy who just started dating a girl to want to keep their relationship secret from evrybody?If it's not normal what should I do?

well i dont think it's anything wrong with keeping a secret that you and a guy go out but then again you have to think does he want this to be a secret because he has another girl, is embarrass of you and just wants to have sex with you....i think you should ask him why does he wants to keep it a secret..thats the only way you'll knoe if its normal or not...hope i helped

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