hey everyone!im kayy,im always here to help.i love giving advice and one day i hope to be a therapist or something like that :]ive been thru alott and pretty much know what im dealing with. i couldnt live without my friends.music is liife. need help?!feel free to ask
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Age: 14
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I have a traditional family. you know, brothers sisters, a mom and a dad. but I feel like they don't care about me. don't get me wrong, my friends and teachers and church leaders think I'm amazing. They love me so much, and they never ask me to be what I'm not, but none of the people that I think should love me do. my sister is 3 and she's always telling me I'm a bitch and she hates me (I'm not lying), I'm 5'4 and 115 pounds and my brother keeps telling me I'm fat, my mother is always trying to make me dress in trendy clothes that I hate and telling my I'm weird because I'd rather be myself thatn what anyone else wants me to be, and my dad ignores me completely. I was suicidal for a long time and they never even noticed. I know they aren't right about me not being worth their time because how can everyone else in the world be wrong, but how do I deal with the people who are supposed to love me unconditionally seeming to not care at all?
17/f (link)
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you need to tell someone how you feel. talk to anybody.
if you really even want to..tell your parents how you feel.do it in a way that they realize that you are upset and that you feel that way.. im not saying to runaway or something..cause that just causes trouble. but if something happens and it sets you off.let your feelings out and let them know.
just ignore your brother.hes just a boy.. and youre not fat cause thats average for a person your height.dont worry about him
but like i said before just talk to someone. anyone. a friend,teacher,counsellor,therapist, someone at your church,even just talk to god. let SOMEONE know how youre feeling.
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So ive had a few grlfriends over the years, and i feel like each one has taught me something diffrent about what i like and dont like about relationships.
But what i can't figure out is,
why do i always get broken up with?
Im a good boyfriend!! I remember dates, i bring them flowers, i call to see how theyre doing, i do my absolute best. i really do. but they always end up breaking up with ME! i dont know whats wrong with me!
Like my last one, broke up with me RIGHT after i told her happy one month and gave her a ring. right after to my face! am i ugly or something? i dont think so. i like to think im fairly good looking.
this is probably just me rambling and ranting but id like some advice as to what i should do diffrently :)
thanks (link)
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hmm..well i can tell you that its NOT you,
you sound like an amazing boyfriend
and i would kill to have a guy like that..
but those girls probably just have something wrong with them.
well i know this guy and he does all taht stuff you do too..but the girls tell him that hes too much "like a brother..not a boyfriend" ?!?!..idk what that is.cause hes really nice. but that could just be it. maybe they just view you as a friend.
dont get too worried about it..not all girls are like that.and eventually youll find the right one who likes you for you.dont change for them. they should like you the way you are. if they dont, thats obviously their loss.
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mkay. well i'm 16/f. The last time I had my period was April 21st. and that lasted until April 25th. and was completly over April 26th. Then, my boyfriend came over and he fingered me for the first time. Now whenever he comes over, that usually happens. I give him a handjob too. My periods supposed to come anywhere from yesterday and tuesday. I'm scared that it won't come because I heard you can get pregnant from doing handjobs and then having him finger you.
What are the chances of me getting pregnant from that? Sorry, this is an akward question for me.
thank you! (link)
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wow okay i actually have a situation that might help you..
my friend was going out with this guy and she gave him and hand job and i guess he probably fingered her too.
she was afraid of getting pregnant too
its a 50/50 chance that you could. there could be seamon on his hand when he fingers you and you could also get some on yours when you give him a hand job..
so my suggestion would just to be to wash your hands after giving him a hand job and have him wash his too[[i know that sounds so weird]] but it could actually help you.
goood luckk!! =)
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Ok well I have no idea about make up and I'm thinking of wearing it on my friend's wedding next month. I always beleived in natural beauty but since it's my friend's special day I want to look special just to not wreck anything.
Ok Well first thing, the make up is 2 years old but never opened before. Will it give any bad look effects? Will it be okay to use?
There's some stuff in the kit that I have no idea what they are and what they are used for or used with. The words listed in brackets are the ones that I know.
The ones that aren't, could you list what it is possibly, what it's used for, what it's used with maybe, and maybe how to use it if I don't know?:
Ok first drawer:
-Um these small circle boxes and the stuff are coloured dark blue, light pink, red, orange, purple, light orange or peach, black, and brown. Are they eye shadow?
Second drawer:
-(Lip stick)
-(Mascara)
-(Lip Gloss)
-(Nail Polish)
-a small sharpener like for pencils, what in the world is that for?!
-And a pretty big brush, what's the used for and what is it used with?
Third and last drawer:
-Eye Liner, it says. No idea what you use for though I have a clue since it says EYE.
- A TINY brush
- 6 tiny little brushes but the brush isnt' like hair it's like soft material and white and looks like a heart shaped.
-A brush that's big and is wide but it's really flat. =S
- And three circled containers that are bigger then the ones for I think eye shadow. They're Pink, light pink, and some ugly red and brown mixed. Blush?
And I haven't opened any of them as I said so when I lifted one set to remove the clear plastic stuff there's a packet at the bottom that says DO NOT EAT! SILICAGEL! What's that and what's that used for?
I know it's long and I'm really sorry but if you answer everything I asked for, I'm pretty sure you know what your rate is oging to be. Thank you so much! (link)
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that make up is wayyy too old to be using. you need to get new eyeliner and mascara every couple months.
first drawer--
-yes thats eyeshadow
second drawer--
-that small pencil is probably for sharpening your lip liner or a pencil eyeliner.
-the big brush is usually for blush which you can use to highlight your cheeks and make them look rosier or brighter..just dont use too much
third drawer--
-eyeliner--> thats used to like outline your eyes i guess. but you put it right under your bottom lashes or on the rim of your eye. or like right on the line of your top lashes
-the tiny brush is probably for your eyeshadow
-those 6 brushes are for eyeshadow too
-i dont know what that big brush is for..
-the circled containers are blush
make sure you go to the store and buy new makeup!! if its around you..you could try going to a store called "harmons"..they have alot of good products and there are people there to help you pick out the right colors for your skin.
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ok i got my period but i never get cramps or anything so i have no idea when its coming, and it lasts forever!!! like two weeks, is there anything i can do? or am i going to be stuck like this forever, which would really suck, 14yr old f. thnx (link)
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theres no way you really can tell when its coming..so just always be prepared when you think its around that time of the month. i hardly ever get cramps so i usually dont know either.. but when you do get them..they hurt like crap.so for that if its like night time just use a heating pad and it goes away..if you have cramps during school take some medicine or something and you could also try "thermacare"..theyre like tiny heating pads and they work. hope that helps
xo kayy
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Okay so my best friend's gonna have sweet 16 soon, its going to be on the 25th this month and I am in charge of the songs...
I usually listen to rock( although i do prefer rap and hip hop songs at the parties...)
but she loves rap and hip hop..
so anybody have a good list going on for me?? like a good dance musics that's hiphop and rap
this is what i have so far
-Rock yo hips
-Go Getta
-This is why im hott
-We fly high
-Money Maker
-What you know
-King Kong
-Shorty like mine
-Chain Hang Low
-Leather So Soft
-Ice Box
-walk it out
-2 step
-pop lock & drop it
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well heres some moreee =] :
-the way i live [baby boy da prince]
-laffy taffy [D4L]
-its goin down [yung joc]
-i know u see it [yung joc]
-shoulder lean [young dro]
-shake [ying yang twins]
-drop it like its hot [snoop dogg]
-fireman [lil wayne]
-snap yo fingers [lil jon]
-lean wit it, rock wit it [dem franchize boyz]
-fergalicious [fergie]
-glamorous [fergie]
-show me the money [petey pablo]
-imma shine [youngbloodz]
-i wanna love you [akon]
-lose control [missy elliot]
-me & u [cassie]
i hope that helps a little.. also you could try some artists like:
[[the ones listed above]],usher,pussycat dolls, black eyed peas,justin timberlake,christina aguilera,beyonce,gwen stefani,mariah carey,chris brown,danity kane,nelly,50 cent and you could go to itunes and search the itunes store orrrr go to music.aol.com and look at the top 100 songs.
=]
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Can Jump Roping help you with being able to run longer? And is this a good excercise? (link)
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yess! jump rope helps you build up stamina because you have to be able to jump for a long time. it also helps your legs get stronger
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i love my husband with all thats in me, and i know he loves me the same. i have a toriffic marriage to a great man, he is my best friend and whats good we comfide in eachother about any and everythings. this is my question: would he love me less or get tried of me because i don't want to go to his mother house with him sometimes?
can love ever be misunderstood for infatuation or what seperate love from infatuation, whats the defferents between them? answer if you can..thanks (link)
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okay..i dont know if my answer will really help you because im too young to get married or know about that stuff but ill give it a try..
i dont think that your husband will get tired of you because you dont wanna go to his moms house. if he really loved you he wouldnt get tired of you for something like that. but at the same time maybe you should go to his moms house a little more often to show him that you care..because after all it is his mother.
for your second question..
i dont really think love can be misunderstood for infatuation.
an infatuation is more like a crush..or liking someone. which is totally different from loving someone. infatuation is kind of more flirty and not as serious [[i cant think of the right word]] as love. love is like such a strong feeling for someone..idk..its kinda hard to describe..but i think you get what i mean.
i hope i helped =]
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Ok im in such a F*cked up situation.. I was sorta seeing this guy and than he started ignoring me and all that and it was just getting really weird so i told him that i just wated to b friends he said ok and everything was fine.. than i started talking to his buddy who is also a very good friend of mine... and anyway we were starting to get close and than bout a week ago his lttle brother died :(:( r.i... so obviously this made a huge impact on everyones lives.. but anyhow me and this guy started to get close.. and than the other guy starts talking to me and asking me to do stuff with him again. like out of no where... and than the other guy with the brother all of sudden just tells me to go out with him???? like wtf?... i kno that they are really good friends so they dont want to hurt each other.. but this guy doesnt kno what he wants and i dont want to b with him.. i want the other one...
o my i kno i just confused everyone to death but im soo messed up i dont want to hurt either of them.. but i like one more than the other and i kno he'll treat me better.. but its also really bad timing.. help!!! (link)
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simple. dont pick either boy. the timing right now is really bad for both of them..and since this one guys little brother died you should give him some time to himself and just to take things slow for awhile.
but if you were to pick one of them..personally i think you should pick the guy whos little brother died. because why would the other guy suddenly wanna start doing stuff with you again? thats kinda weird.. and it seems like he doesnt want another guy to have you. plus, that other guy sounds like he would treat you well if you were to go out.so just let the situation cool off and go from there.
-- xo kayy
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For my whole high school life, all I wanted was a nice sweet guy to be with. I met this kid from another school recently and hes the sweetest kid ever and he's eventually going to ask me out. You would think I would be so happy. I finally found a sweet person who likes me. But I'm not happy at all. I seem to be in worse shape then when I started. This seems to happen everytime. I think I like someone, then it starts to get serious, then I change my mind and back out. Whats wrong with me? Should I go out with him when he asks me, and see how it goes from there? Or because I'm having doubts should I get out of it now? I don't know, any advice would be appreciated..... (link)
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idk..but to me it kinda sounds like maybe something might have happened to you in your past or something that effects you know..or you could just be shy.its not a big deal. i think you back out because your not ready. but if you feel like you really like this guy..go for it. who knows,it may work out =]
the worst thing that could happen is that things dont work out the way you planned. but god makes us find all the wrong people first so then we can finally appreciate the right person when we found them.
good luckk and i hope things work out!!!
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15/f
There's this guy in my English class, I like him (not like... obsessive-crush-like, more like fond of), I don't talk him a lot though... only on MSN LOLOL, because he's almost always talking to someone else in class, and not to mention he sits at the other end of the classroom.
Right now I'm like... terrified to talk to him because I slept over at a friend's house, with another girl (I'll call them A and B). I was talking to him and then they decided to like kick me off the computer and talk to him pretty much saying "I'm mentally disabled and I like to contradict myself", making it look like I said that. Right after A said that, he COINCIDENTALLY went "Gotta go bye". Later on A and B pretended as if they didn't do anything wrong :|... Not to mention that some other girl flirts with him a lot.
So like.. how do I stop being a chicken and talk to him :|? (link)
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well i think you should just talk to him and tell him what really happened at the sleepover. im sure he'll understand and he'll laugh about it. [[if you are close with A and B]] you might want to tell them [if they dont already know] that you kinda sorta have a crush on that guy. that way they probably wont do anything too stupid later on.
-- xo kayy
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hi. i am 14 and a female. so, i just started going out with this guy a couple of days ago. i just met him about 4 weeks ago. but, he's had a bad past. like, with drugs and stuff. so.. yeah, my friend kinda in a way set us up though. like, i met him when she was around. well, just this last weekend, she told him to ask me out, cause he told her that he liked me. so, the other day, he got my number and called me. and he asked me out. i wanted advice from my friend, and she said that i could go out with him, even though, before this all even happened, she told me all of the bad stuff he has done before. but, in the end i said yes. he's pretty nice to me too. but i didn't want a lot of people to know, but somehow a lot of people ended up finding out. and all of those people are my friends, but today they were all like "you need to break up with him!" and "he's not right for you!" and just crap like that. and the friend that pretty much set us up, today she was like "you know that the only reason i told you guys to go out is so that this would be a life lesson kinda thing, right?" and i was like "what are you talking about?" and she said " i told you you should say yes so you could learn a lesson" and i was like "and what lesson would that be?" and she was like "to not date bad guys". and i was just thinking, omg, one of my best friends has pretty much screwed me over. everyone thinks i sould break up with him. i'm starting to think that, but i think it's because they are putting it into my head. like, ok, so what if hes done drugs and gotton into trouble and stuff before, he's only human, right? like, everyone makes mistakes. i'm pretty sure that he's trying to change. but i don't know what to do. i'm not sure if i sould break up with him, or go out with him. he is my first boyfriend i've ever had. so what to u guys think i should do? i don't know what to think anymore, and i already know what my friends think. thanks. bye. (link)
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dont fall into the peer pressure. i know how corny that sounds but its true. just because people want you to break up with him doesnt mean you should. if everyone told you to jump off the empire state building would you?haha. he may have had a bad past but people always change. everyone deserves a second chance,right? if you really like him, then stay with him and see what happens. if he continues doing the drugs and stuff then you should probably break up with him..because he might try to get you to try them too. i think you should just give it another week or so and see what happens. if he doesnt change, then you can dump him if you want. but its your call. i hope i helpedd =]
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