Hi! I live in Chino Hills, California and I came to this site to see if I can help anyone who needs it. I am 15 years old and am known in my group of friends as the "voice of reason" :)
I want to try to help as many people as I possibly can. I hope someone can find my advice helpful, although I know some will disagree--and that's totally fine.
I always tell people that I give advice to that I'm just a person who makes mistakes so before they consider my advice they should make sure they agree with it. They should also make sure it's the best thing for them to do.
I hope to help you with what I can with the information given!
*hope I can help*
P.S. When you rate my advice, PLEASE don't be kind. What I mean is give me as much constructive criticism as you can! I want to be able to improve in my advice giving! Thanks!
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Well I like this guy... Lets call him Tyler. I've been talking to him about 2 months ago every day and then it kinda stopped.. and well, he isn't really a good conversation starter. He usually responds like "lol, yeah. haha. " You know what I mean? Then a month ago we were talking about some "dirty things" but it was all a joke. Then it stopped. And when we did talk, we would talk for soo long. Around 2-4 hours? Haha. Then yesterday we had this deep conversation and it was kind of random topics but he was saying how he doesn't want to have a relationship until 2 years later. And some stuff about his life and things like that. But about the relationship thing... He said he doesn't like them because people always spread it everywhere and stuff and it gets pretty annoying. Well, I did agree with him. But see, the problem is that I don't want to have like those "going out dates" kind of relationship. I just like this, "yeah we like eachother" and just talk and stuff. But recently, there was this rumour that spread a bit that I liked him (I dont know whether or not they spread it as a joke or did they really know) and then we were discussing about who might have started it and stuff. But he never actually asked me if the rumour was true or not. And since school ended, it may be a bit easier to talk to him through msn? The problem is that those little "msn talks" are kind of annoying since you can't really talk in real life. Well that isn't a big problem for now... But I just don't know if I should tell him that I like him. And if I do tell him, how should I actually tell him? Im just pretty confuesed. :P Thanks ! (: (link)
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i think you should tell him bt not quit yet. Wait to see if there are any signs he likes you back. Also, when you do tell hm make sure you arent too pushy because he already told you he doesnt want to be in a relationship yet
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I am 17, and only around 5'2, with frustrating belly fat. I think I look pretty good, but I need to tone my legs and arms and start working towards a flat stomach.
I haven't been on an official diet, but I do cut down on sweets, grease, and junk food. I like to eat things like blueberries, yogurt, or applesauce, and I don't drink soda. I don't have a big appetite, so I eat small meals which means I eat more snacks.
I usually walk about half a mile with my dogs in the morning or evening. The only exercise equipment we own is a stationary bike and, no, there isn't a convenient gym around here. I can't get outside a lot in the summer when it's hot; the sun makes me absolutely sick. Still, I need to get active somehow...
I'm just looking for tips... Snack ideas, excercise suggestions, or anything else that can help me fit in my jeans better. (link)
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well your dietary habits sound really good. SO you don't need to worry about that.
What you could do is do exercises that you don't need to do outside. Things like leg lifts (lay on your back and lift you legs as high as you can and slowly move them down about six inches off the floor and do small pumps), crunches, push-ups, bicycles (lay on your back on a flat surface and move your legs in a peddling motion), or you can buy small things like exercise balls or rubber bands and use those for exercising.
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hey i have minnior acne and i am 13 and im so afraid that i am never gonna get a boyfriend and i want my first kiss and i keeo reading thease first kiss stories and listening to thease love songs WHAT SHOULD I DO ? (link)
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your 13!!! You are so young and DO NOT need to worry about this, yet!! Just have fun being a kid.. i know how you feel about your first kiss, you want it and you want it now but your just gonna have to wait!! sorry to say, but it will happen. You can't look for it, you have to let it find you. And don't worry, i know someone who didn't have their first kiss until they were 19!! so your not too behind :p
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I'm 13 years old, am 5 feet 2 in and weigh 140 lbs. i have a 28.5 waist line... i used to have 30.2 waistline. i excercise every day...it's been like 2 or 3 months since i have. i do 130 crunches and 50 pushups every day. my weight used to be 133 and i had a 30 in waistline. now i have a 28.5 waistline and weigh 140 lbs? i dont understand... my father says that it's just the muscles forming my body to look slimmer but become heavier from all the so called muscle i have. it isnt really clear to me... can u explain to me what's goin on with my body? (link)
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the type of exercise you are doing is called burn/feed. what you are doing is burning fat and feeding muscle. muscle ways more then fat. so you are losing your fat weight but gaining muscle weight. if you just want to lose weight and not gain muscle weight change your work out style.
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I am 16 years old
I dont exactly know what I have. Back pains head pains,a little weight gain tender brest and sleeping alot. My friends think I am pregant and I have taken 2 test both negative. I dont know what else it could be. I have been sexualy active agian for about 2 months and I was on birth controle I stoped the birth controle just incase but is there anything else that it could be? (link)
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well, there are a number of things it could be. i would suggest you go to webmd.com or see a doctor because it may be serious.
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Ok so basically my sister gets everything that she wants...
Actually what happens is that evertime I finally get something I've been wanting forever, she suddenly thinks she should get it, too.
For instance, whenever I'm going out with friends or they're coming over, she always has to go out with her friends, too.
Or how I had to wait until 8th grade to wear makeup, and finally when my mom let me, my sister asked if she could wear makeup too (she's in 6th grade) and my mom said it was fine and she could use MY new makeup.
Also, she recently got grounded for a month (at least), and mom and dad STILL let her go over other people's houses, or her friend's coming over here, and go out shopping and go on the computer and stuff.
And just now (which really blew it) I had to wait until my 14th birthday to get a cellphone, right? And I've been asking for one for a long time. So I just recently upgraded my old phone, and now my sister gets to have my old phone! And she's only 12! She's sharing my bill of unlimited text and internet...
It's just all very frustrating. I work up the right to do things, and just when I get the privilege, she suddenly thinks she deserves it, too.
So I really need help on what to do and say. I've talked to it about my parents a lot but my dad always has excuses (ex. but this new phone won't cost anything, and it has to go somewhere) and my mom is just stuck on the idea that we get everything equally.
Also, I'd really appreciate if people didn't say things like "You're a spoiled little brat" or "She deserves that stuff, too" because I'd really rather not be yelled at about it anymore. And I also don't need the whole "She admires you by coping you" thing because that won't help at all.
Other than that any ideas will be appreciated.
Thank you very much! : ) (link)
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ok, so i had/have the EXACT same problem. i know it is extreamly stress full. i mean having to work so hard just to have your little sister get what you wanted so quick. you need to talk to HER about it. tell her how much it is making you resent her. and also, talk to you parents and tell them it really is not fair, because it really is not. Tell them that you have to wait for what you want and as soon as you get it your sister does too. tell them that just because you finally get a certain privalage, doesnt mean she needs to get that same privalage. tell them thats one of the few perks of being an older sibling, to get to have certain privalages that your younger sister has to work for just as much as you did.
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There's this guy I kind of like, and we talk from time to time. We're friends but we don't hang out or anything, and I don't have his phone number. I want to talk to him more, but I don't want to come off as creepy, since we just started talking about 2 weeks ago. He's nice to talk to, but I have to start the conversations most of the time. He plays lacrosse at our school and I went to the game today with my friends, but I didn't see him afterwards because we had to leave early. Should I keep dropping little hints like that? How do I get closer to him? School's ending soon so I need this to happen quickly! (link)
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well, if you want to get a closer relationship with him and want his phone number just ask. i mean not like right out but play around with it. be like "we should hang out sometime" and be like "here's my number" or be like "do you have texting?" and if he says yes be like "oh we should text sometime" but if he says he doesnt be like "oh you have to get it, anyways here's my number" or something like that to get things started
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OKAY,SO I HAVE ACNE ON MY BACK.WHAT CAN I DO TO get rid OF IT?
PLEASE I NEED IT SOON,BECAUSE PROM IS CMING UP AND I HAVE TO WEAR A DRESS AND I DONT WANT PPL TO C IT. (link)
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here try this site
www.getridofthings.com/get-rid-of-back-acne.htm
hope it helps!!!
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so one day i was randomly singing with my best friend ana, when all of a sudden she stopped but i continued. When i finished the song, she's like "ohmigosh you can sing!" I honestly dont think so. so ana forced me to sing to my other bestie mary who also sings, and she said the same thing. This continued for the entire week, then they made me sing for my high school friend who is auditioning for american idol nxt year, and he also said i could sing R&B. evryone says i can except me. Should i take a chance and believe them? Or should i just keep it to myself? I know this is hard w/o a sample but please try you best.
thx (link)
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if everyone says you can sing and you love to sing i think you should! but, if you think your voice isnt good, and you are self concious about they way it sounds, stay with just singing around close friends and family.
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so theres this guy i really like and i think he likes me back but im just waay to shy to talk to him. like when i see him in the hallway he smiles and i say hi, but thats it. to be honest i dont like his friends and they dont like me because they know i dont like them haha. sometimes hes alone at the busstation though until his friends come but he's always quite early. should i talk to him then? and i always have issues with smiling. like everytime i see him i freeze up and cant smile. once he's passed me, i cant stop. it really stinks cause i wanna smile at HIM not at the ground :/
help? (link)
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i think you should definitly speak to him! Don't go to fast, though. Just friendly stuff until you have a little bit of friendship, then make your move!
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Well i dated this guy for 3 months and really really liked him. We were like two peas in a pod and everything. He was sweet, funny, caring and basically everything i wanted in a guy. There was a problem though. He wouldn't stop lying to me about things. He kept things from me and lied a lot. But he never was mean other than that. I finally broke up with him about a week and a half ago and we decided to just be friends. But all he is is drama and i cant get away from it. He started calling me names and saying he dosen't care about me because he was mad i wouldn't take him back. So then i stopped being his friend. But for some reason i still have a lot of feelings for him. I know that i shouldn't because he lied and everything but i do. I loved him. I know people are like "Your 15 and you dont know what love is." Well i have never had a broken heart until now and i was the one that broke up with him. He constantly makes me mad but at the same time i want to be his girlfriend and be with him again. The sad part is, i know i will never be with him again because he lied to much. I wanted to be friends with him so much but he screwd that up to. And after all this time i still like him. I don't know what to do. And i don't get it either. He said i was the first girl he loved and he acted that way to. He was so so sweet. But now, he is starting to move on and i know i need to be doing that to but it is killing me! He flirts with girls already and i can't even stop thinking about him. Please help someone and explain to me what to do! thanks! (link)
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Well, you both kind of screwed things up. You knew he was lieing, right? You should have talked to him about it and worked on it together instead of giving up in the snap of fingers. Love is a very strong feeling, and is not what it is in movies. It isn't this passionate fight fest, its a bond.
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I'm 18/F
On the 24th of April I took a morning after pill because the condom broke. 6 days later i had light(and sometimes heavy) bleeding for about 7 days.
I usually get my period on the 16th of every month, and it goes for 7 days. It's the 19th, and i haven't got my period. I had sex on friday night then saturday morning so has that got something to do with my period not coming on time? or is something else going on?? I couldn't be pregnant, could I?
I've had period pain for the past couple of days, but nothing more..Im starting to freak outt! is it possible that when i started bleeding 6 days after taking the morning after pill that i got my period early?? (link)
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it is possible the pill might have given you an early period, depending on which pill you took. Some pill's have different effects so you can't be to sure. If you are suspecting pregnancy, dont do anything risky, like, taking any more birth control. Wait a week and see what happens then, take a pregnancy test or see a specialist. Don't do anything that might hurt the baby, if that is the case.
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Ok, so when I flirt with a guy, sometimes I likke make fun of them for like stupid stuff. & I'm not sure if they like it or not. Do guys like it when girls are nice and happy all the time? or what? I'm so confused with everything. (link)
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Every guy is different. just be yourself and you will attract the right guy, hopefully ")
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hey so how did you get through the stress of living with your parents? (link)
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Ok, so i know this will be hard, but be strong. If you are going to get through this the way i did, you need to stay open minded. Promise yourself you will read through this completely. Before you read further, i need you to know i am a strong protestant and became one through this expierence. First, i will share with you my testimony (how i came to Christ). I do not expect you to read this, but it will help you see how related our problem is. I do not know what religion you have (if you have one) but protestant is not a religion, but a relationship.
Six months ago, i went through this same experience. Me and my parents just could not get along. We faught constantly. I tried reasoning with them, but that did not work. I just wanted to leave some how or another. I resulted to self injury. This made my stress level and my parents stress level raise. It baisically made things worse than ever. My friends hated me for hurting myself. I was alone and hurt. No one to comfort me. I was afraid i would never get through this. One night, i just could not take the stress anymore. I left. I ran to my best friends house. I rang the door bell and from the second she opened the door we were both in tears. We held each other and cried out our eyes. She is a strong protostant. We talked all night and she gave me a Bible. I accepted the Bible but all that ran through my mind was "I dont want to hear about your false hope" or "I dont want to be preached to" also "I dont want to hear about your God, i just want to get out". i heard her, but i didnt listen. I got home early in the morning, before my parents realized i was gone. She called me later in the day to see if i had read any of the marked passages. I told her i wasn't intersted in God and i did not want to hear about him anymore. She told me to be open minded. I finally decided to listen to her, and to go to her church. She told me to speak to her youth pastor. i said no. She was thinking about giving up on me. I finally realized i had no other path to take. I spoke to him. We spoke for hours. I had so many questions, but, by the end of the night, i accepted Christ as the Lord my Savior. Since then, the relationship between me and my parents is still slowly being recovered. It is not completely fixed, but it is getting there.
Mark 8:34
"If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me"
I got through this from that one friend. God is the only way you can get through this trial. He helped me, and he WILL help you. No if, and's, or buts.
Here are a few sites that helped me.
BibleGateway.com
thebabychristian.org
If you have ANY questions inbox me or e-mail me at filiswedeheart@yahoo.com
If you need emidiate advice, call or text me at (909)-217 -0435 i am here to listen.
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14/f
okay heres the point. i want out of my house. its not that i dont want to live with my parents, its the fact that i cant take the stress of living with them anymore. they do a lot of things that bother me. and its making me want to hurt myself. i know your going to say talk to them. work things out. but everytime i try to talk to my parents and work things out they dont want to agree on any solution that works for all of us. a few weeks ago it got to the point were i overdosed on some medicine and was in the hospital for a couple days. and today i came so close to cutting myself because i cant take this anymore. they are supposed to be setting up councling for me but still have yet to do that. i cant take it anymore. and every single day i cry because i cant take the stress of living here anymore. :(
so does anyone know anyways i can get out of my house. maybe go live with a realitive or friend.
please please do NOT try and tell me to work things out with my parents. ive tried it. it did NOT work. and please dont tell me to wait it out. ive waited to long and i cant take it. please please please anyone help.
please and thank you.
-cuttechick24 (link)
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Listen, i am the same age as you AND the same gender and i recently went through the same exact thing that you are going through. I know exactly what you are going through, and i still feel that way at moments. I also know talking to unreasonable parents doesnt solve anything either. One thing got me through it. I know it will work for you if you try it and stay open minded. Don't hurt yourself, it is just putting more stress on you and your parents and making matters worse. I know it is hard, but you need to be strong. Call a relative. A friend. Maybe you can stay with them for a while. But if you really want to know what got ME through this, inbox me.
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I'm not really sure what it is. I always think somethings wrong with me. I don't know if it's because I want something to be wrong with me, or because it'd explain some things or what. Why would I want something to be wrong with me if that's the case? I just don't understand it. The second I get a headache, start having pains, start coughing or anything I usualy look it up to see what it could be. Is anyone else like this? Well thanks in advance, take care. (link)
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Nothing is wrong with you, it is called hypochondria. Most everyone has it, just some worse then others.
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I got a helix piercing in early February.
The piercing is still painful, and puss comes out of it, but the worst part is that if I take out the jewellery and put my thumb and index finger on the piercing (like pinching it from both sides)I can feel a huge, bump type of thing there, which is slightly painful.
What can I do? What could this be? (link)
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Hmm, your peircing is infected. I dont think the bump is relovent, because it is just the feeling of the hole, but the puss and swelling is a sign of infection. The best thing you could do is see a doctor and get a prescription for that thing
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Okay, so i've been friends with this guy for over 2 years. We've both liked each other. He cares about me more, which is sad to say. I always find myself going up and down on whether i like him. Its like when i'm with him, i don't like him, but when i'm away from him i miss him so much. Also my parents won't allow me to go out with him. It's sad but i like his personality, but not so much his looks. I know its shallow, but honestly i just want to find a person that has a great personality and amazing looks. I've told this guy a numerous amount of times i won't go out with him, and we get into big fights, then we get close again. I'm just very confused when it comes to him. We've been through a lot, but i honestly think i deserve better...What should i do? (link)
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Honestly? If you truly care for him, then just push through the pain! Everyone goes through this, but, i think you just need to realize everyone is imperfect. no one is going to be drop dead gorgeous and have a matching personality.
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ok so i have been dating this guy named matthew for about nine months and we have been through alot together....my family recently just fell apart and i got sent to treatment foster care to work on stress and how to relate to a family positively so his mom is going into training to get as licesence for foster care so she can have me in her home i really love his family and i have become so attached to them his neice and nephew call me auntie and everything......anyway i found out last night that he was cheating on me i really love him and it kills me inside to know i cant be there when he wants me to but i dont know what to do if i leave him i have no where to go and his mom would just be wasting her time i dont want to let her down.....i really need help im so lost female/16 (link)
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I think you should talk to him directly. (i mean if you already havent) Told him you found out and straighten every thing out. i mean maybe it was a miss understanding ") but if you feel this attached to him AND his family, it would be hard to let him go, talk to him. Maybe even talk to his mom. If you and matthew truly care for eachother, you'll get through this. People make mistakes, you just have to take them as they come. especially if you love that person
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OK so i know this guy and he's older than me, not by much like a year. So you see both him and i are taken but we can almost never see our partners. Like his girlfriend is younger than me so her parents dont let her date him and my boyfriends parents wont let him date me for religious reasons. So this guy and i have been txting all the time and we do stuff like 'i gotta go do this or that i'll txt you back when i'm done' and we hang out a lot since we live real close to eachother. You see once he was like 'lets hang friday' and i was like 'sure' but then he got invited to go BK with some friends and he wanted me to come with him but i said no, i dont know his friends. so he was like 'i'll come over when i finish here then.' and i was like 'no its ok you dont have to' and his answer was 'No i'm coming and your not stopping me' so i was like 0.0 oh. and sometimes he'll make jokes and i'll be like 'oh no you didn't' and he'll hug me and be like 'oh come on i'm just playin.' and i mean he txts me a lot and sometimes we're not even saying anything just like being stupid. sometimes we talk about eachothers relationships too. and i dunno if he likes me or not but he's left a group of his friends like twice already to hang out with me. He even came with me on a friend of mines date to the movies and when her date was like a real bad guy he wouldnt let me go get her away from him alone, he's also stood up for me when someone teased me but like he then teased my friend. so i dunno, do you think he likes me? if you wanna ask me any questions about it i'll add additional information after being asked (link)
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OK,so, i think this guy reeeeaaallly likes you!! ") But, you have a boyfriend, and he has a girl friend :( so, if you want to presue a relationship with him, you need to make sure you BOTH are single
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