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he is cheating!!....do i leave him?
ok so i have been dating this guy named matthew for about nine months and we have been through alot together....my family recently just fell apart and i got sent to treatment foster care to work on stress and how to relate to a family positively so his mom is going into training to get as licesence for foster care so she can have me in her home i really love his family and i have become so attached to them his neice and nephew call me auntie and everything......anyway i found out last night that he was cheating on me i really love him and it kills me inside to know i cant be there when he wants me to but i dont know what to do if i leave him i have no where to go and his mom would just be wasting her time i dont want to let her down.....i really need help im so lost female/16
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well in my opinion i think you should & shouldnt leave him. have you talked to him about it? if you havent you should. if he deny's it its probably cause he loves you. have you ever heard this saying? "when a man denies it he loves you" if he didnt want to be with you he wouldve just broken up with you. if you talk to him nd he confesses he is then you probably should. but most likely you dont need people telling you. just do what your heart feels better doing
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listen in some way oranother all guys are going to cheat and maybe even you... in some way or another if it is flirting a little to much then you should kissing someone else or other stuff. everyone makes mistakes if he realizes it and apologizes and you feel that he wont do it again then fine dont leave him. i know from experience trust will need to be built but slowly and surely everything will work out chances are he wont ever cheat on you again. if hes the one that confessed and does love you. this whole situation is on what happended so it depends. if you think you should then go ahead do it but i think you should give him another chance we all do.
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I think you should talk to him directly. (i mean if you already havent) Told him you found out and straighten every thing out. i mean maybe it was a miss understanding ") but if you feel this attached to him AND his family, it would be hard to let him go, talk to him. Maybe even talk to his mom. If you and matthew truly care for eachother, you'll get through this. People make mistakes, you just have to take them as they come. especially if you love that person
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Me personally I would talk to his Mom. I would be like "look I found out that he was cheating on me but I really appreciate what you've done for me, and I would still like to live here" but you shouldn't stay with him. I'm not trying to be mean but you don't deserve to be treated that way and you can get mad at me but he can't think it's alright to be such a jerk to you. NO ONE deserves to be lied to or cheated on. I don't think you have to date this guy for his Mom to follow through, and if you do that's stupid and immature of his mother. She should know things happen and SOMETIMES relationships don't last. Also if she's going to be mean about it then she could be even worse about other things too so I would try to get out of it and find a better place. My sister is a social worker. I would talk to someone you feel comfortable with to give them your info so they can find you a better place with a secure situation.... Good luck, I really hope you end up okay...
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well to really tell you. you should just stay you cant still break up with him and still live thier just talk to his mother.his mom is helping you and benng in foster care if you leave the state will pick were you live and thats not always right some kids get moved around alot. so you should stay were you are worry about your future in your education love can come after you still young you got a long life a head of you, and if your working on stress they should have you see a therpist this will help you to coupe with stress its not to be mean but its good for health issues and what you said what happen in your family.and if he cheated on you move on this means he not good to trust its probly just best to be friends when guys are young they dont mature like us women until they no what love really is what being honest and faitful that i what love is some guys do understand some dont but its the fact of life. when you think your word going up side down mabee you need to foces on you and do somthing for you self get a hobbie go for a walk go get your hair done this will help keep stress out and stop worring you gotta keep your self bizzy so it dosnt bother you hope this helps bye.
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