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Hecka random pic from sadies... that my gang signBASICS:
name: Andrew
ht: 6'0
wt: eh 145
build: athletic
age: 16
eyes: blue-ish green
hair: dark brown
my style: laid back and casual dress, i like to look good though
interesting fact: i can do the Rubik's Cube in one minute 20 seconds.
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I went to a private school until this year and everyone was pretty religious and conservative.
Now I go to public school and I have a LOT of more socially liberal friends that I get along with better in a lot of ways. At private school, I was the "weird one." Now I'm not. At all.
Sometimes I can hang out with my old buddies and it's fun, but then a topic like homosexuality comes up and I'm surrounded by people who disagree with me.
I just feel like I'm being pulled in different directions by people who want different things from me.
I miss my old friends, I love them, I grew up with them, but I feel like I'm just too different to really be that close now. I don't know how I can balance my new and old friends, not really time-wise, but in my own mind.
Please help. People who do not write in complete sentences need not answer. If all you have to say is "balance your time," forget it. If you had read, you'd have realized it wasnt about that at all.
Thank you.
I suggest you invite your new friends to hang out iwht your old friends and just try theat. You never know, your old friends will probably be drawn to your new friends just like you were.
Hey!
I dont know if i like a person or if i dont what should i do?
That is possibly the vaguest question I have ever attempted to answer... talk to them about it, that's all I can give with out knowing any details.
ok me and my ex were together for 8 months...my longest relationship. it got to the point where i could totally be myself and everything with him. our last month was aweful. he didnt call me as much, people said he was cheating on me. but whenever i asked him he said he would never do that. anyways, we broke up at the begining on this month. since then, ive gotten a new bf. ive known him for two years and a ton of girls like him and hes really popular and he really likes me. he talks about me ALL the time and hes a great bf. but lately ive been missing my ex so much it makes me cry. i wasnt really that sad after the break up (i broke up with him)...but now its hitting me. we still talk though..he said he has a new gf they got together yesertday and he asked if i wanted to double date!!!!!!! i was like wtf...that would kill me seeing him with another girl..but i just said yea anyways. well hes coming over sunday to get his stuff he left here before we broke up..i miss him so much...and when he signed off last nite he sed he loves me and he always will...im so confused...help..
i dont want him back...but then again i do...i just hate seeing him with someone else. :(
It sounds like you both really like each other still, even if you are broken up and have moved on. And what a lot of girls do is once they break up with one person, they move on to some one new in order to cope with the gap of single life. I think thats what your situation is.
I'm not sure a double date would be the best thing to do. If you still have feelings for him, staring at him across a dinner table with another girl will definately not help your situation. My advice is, that if you two truly care about each other, shift that positivity into a strong friendship instead of a relationship. You can hang out and talk and be yourselves like you use to do, except this time around you won't be together. Try it out and see how it works.
my friends always make fun of me and call me a ditz i dont like it but i kinda have to deal. One of my best friends said she thinks shes only friends with me because it makes her feel smart. Should i take that personaly? How can i change i dont liek to be ditsy.
Don't take what your friend said personally. Ditzy is just your personality and your friends like you because of it. I don't think its necessary for you to change who you are, because being ditzy is what makes you, you.
Im so sick of this. I have a friend and one weekend we were suppost to go to the mall together, Well I kinda ditched her.. but anyway the thing is one my birthday she ditched me!! Well today my other friend basically ditched me.. its not like I havent felt it before and I told her about it. She said "It sucks right?" So I said "Well duh.. but wouldnt it suck more if it was on your fricking birthday?!?" and I walked away... I feel bad.. but then I dont want to talk to her. What do I do?
I have two sayings for you:
What goes around comes around.
Treat others like you wish to be treated.
i like someone and i do everything i know to get his attention. i flirt and wear cute outfits and try to stand out in the classes i have with him. what am i doing wrong? what else can i do?
Relationships backbones are friendships. Be friends witht he guy first, wear these cute outfits and I am sure he'll notice...
Ok, I have this guy I really, really like. I mean... I think I love him and he always tells me he loves me, but we have a delima. Well I have a delima. We talk online alot, but then when we get to school he's just like fine dont talk to me and Im standing right there to talk to him. Well my question is, is this his form of flirting or does he not like me at all. I really need some help. I will rate high for appropriate answers.
Good question. It's happened to me. The online convos are awesome but you get in person and its just kind of awkward. Anyway just go somewhere where you two can talk and be yourselves and everythign should work out fine.
I have this kissing problem. I have this thing where when a guy tries to kiss me, no matter how much I want to kiss him, I always turn away. I used to not be like this. I had this one boyfriend that I made out with all the time. And one boyfriend I only kissed once. And that was a couple years ago. Ever since then I always turn away when a guy tries to kiss me, and I don't understand why. I want to kiss my boyfriend I currently have, but everytime he tries I do the same old thing. I turn away. Does anyone have any ideas on why I keep doing this even though I want to kiss the guy? I've been dating my boyfriend for over 2 months and we still haven't kissed and we are a pretty serious couple. Not one of those I see you at school things. Thanks. Good advice, good rating.
I would not be the one ot know, but deep down inside it sounds like you still have great feelings for your first boyfriend that you did kiss. If that's the case, I suggest just moving on. Only kiss your boyfriend if you feel comfortable with it. I doubt if you did kiss him that he would judge or criticize you. Just go with the flow of things and see how it all works out.
well this kid ryan, in study hall today he walked by me and hit my pen and messed up my paper, so then after that he felt bad about it and sat next to me and asked me if he could re write it for me.. and then after he was done he wrote "i love ryan" all over my red binder in permanent marker, and hes like, "and it'll stay there forever because thats how long you'll love me okay?" and he walked me to my bus. but i dont know what this means.
This guy likes you. If you don't feel the same way then just talk to him about it and you two can be friends. But if this is a mutual feeling then go for it...
for my myspace i want to put music in there, but I already have a layout code pasted under 'interests' and it doesn't work when I paste them both there. Is there any way I can keep the layout and add music? Please don't suggest www.pimpmymyspace.com because I already went throught that.Thanks!
Myspace is trash. Period.
Okay my b/f like never calls me and when I dont call him on the weekends *which i do but he is never there* he goes off *not really but yeah* and i really REALLy like him but i dont know what to do
On top of all that in one day all i get is one maybe two *but not likly* hugs and i well want more hugs so yeah
HELP!!
I'd like to know why you don't call and talk to the boyfriend you "really really like." Also just sit down and have a conversation with him about it. Talk about what is bothering you in the relationship. Then he will respond and you will probably get the answers you wish to hear. The biggest part of a relationship is communication. If you don't talk on the phone and don't take time to work out your problems, the relationship isn't that healthy.
my boyfriend which is 16 and i am 14 we love each other a lot and care about each other but 4 the past couple of days his sister hates me because i am not a virgin and she is trying to do everything she can to break us up and i dont know what to do!! can u plz help? i will rate!! i dont want to lose him i love him with al my heart.
First of all, at such a young age, sexual activity is not the right choice. That is just my opinion. Secondly, if you and your boyfriend really care for each other, do not let his sister stand in the way.
ok, im 15/f and i think i like one of my really good guy friends. he flirts with me all the time in math or atleast it seems like he does..one of my really good friends cant believe i like him..what do i do cause i dont know if i can talk myself out of liking him like i do a lot. please help!!
you are doing what a lot of people do... like someone to fast and too much. do you know anything about him or is it just a physical attraction? i say you try talking to him and finding out more about him before liking him and being serious about it.
Hi, I'm 15 years old and I'm a female and there's this guy (Tom) in my class who I was dating for about 3 months but then I figured out that he was going out with OTHER girls, so I dumped him secretly. Now I'm falling for this other guy (Christopher) and I think he's falling for me, but then Tom said he appolagized and HE GAVE ME ROSES and it's SO hard to not love him but on the otherhand there's Christopher. I don't know who to chose! PLEASE HELP ME!~!~!~!~
being a guy and knowing how guys act, stick with chris. tom cheated once on you, he'll probably do it again.
I have found myself snapping at people calling them complete morons and other such insults. I do it when I am frustrated or even slightly annoyed. I have no patience for anyone it seems. Later on I regret saying such things. I've said these things to friends and family, and even my boyfriend ,whom I adore. But when the moment hits me it seems I can't prevent the waspish comments from bursting out. How do I explain to these people why I say such things? I've hurt their feeling and it really upsets me. I don't mean to be mean. It seems i just can't help it.
The best thing to do is obviously to train yourself out of this habit. It's leading you to trouble. If you are annoyed and impatient often, pick a day and just be with yourself. Watch a movie, go shopping, make yourself dinner, alone time helps you and trains you to think and act like you would when someone else is around. It also lowers your stress level.
I was a cutter for about eh, a few months. Then all hell broke loose I was sent away, skip the drama. I've been clean for almost a year..but now more sucky drama is stirring about in my world. I've been thinking about selfharm, but I've still been clean.
Now that you ahve the background...
What can I do with all of my..'emotions'..(did that ever sound cheesy) I already am a poet and a novelest. I pound out on Bass, too...
Danke
-Mistress Maddy
what i find to help is just take some crayons or colored pencils and 'color how you feel.' it brings out a lot in you.
OK. i have been going out with this guy for a month and we are both in love. problem: we never see each other outside of school. Another problem: he is 6'2. i am 4'11. as you can imagine i have a hard time kissing! please help!
first of all i dont think its possible for you to love someone after a month... this sounds like a typical middle school/high school relationship.
i wouldnt worry about the height issue. and if your interested in having this be a real serious relationship you probably should take it outside of school as well, hang out on the weekends and stuff
I'm going to a banquet later this week and I got my outfit today, but the thing is, I have no idea what to do for my hair or make-up. Just something simple, but cute Any ideas?
(My hair is about shoulder-length and I'm wearing a white tanktop with a cute yellow sweater over it.)
well being im a guy i have no idea about makeup, but i can tell you what you could do with your hair based on what i like.
on shorter hair like a little less than shoulder length i like the bottoms just flipped out a bit
but being that this sounds like a more formal occasion, id go with one of my favorite things on girls... soft long curls
i can talk to guys fine in person i just sound so stupid on the phone i need some pointers on how to like start in depht conversations oh im 13 female
just talk about the basics, dont spit off random questions though. you have to make conversation flow... (example: you hear his pet bird/dog in the background, ask about it how old it is, whats its name, so on) also, if you dont have anything to call him about but you just wanna talk, call and talk about school (i dont like 'teacher's name' how bout you? or ask about a certain homework assignment, and the best if you really wanna get close... ask for tutoring!)
one group of my friends drink a lot and i dont really care that much about it. im not against it or anything. my only concern is that i know sometime i will be involved in a situation where i will be asked if i want a drink... the thing is, i have never drank before, i don't want to say no, but i don't want to get the reputation that i always do that stuff. whats your advice?
oooOOhhH PeeER PreSSuuure... lol
ive never encountered peer pressure of that kind, but i would have to say always turn alcohol down. it can only lead to bad things and if your friends are being dumb with it, oyu shouldnt be involved. plus, once you start driving (if your not already) things can be a lot more serious