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well homecoming is coming up soon ** i dont kno exactly when ** but i wanna be in shape for it. im 13, about 5'4 and 140 lbs * :[ .. most of its muscle tho * but yeuh i just wanna get my Legs slimmer, arms slimmer, and a flatter stomach. any ideas whut i can do for exercizes??? im in volleyball so there is activity there and i do cheerleading but i want liek kinda fast results. Puhles help. thnxz i rate high****
Pardon being another anti-anorexic, but you're weight is healthy. If you want to do more, get into the habit of walking. Take about 15minutes each day to hav a brisk walk and you'll be getting lots of exercise.
However, volleyball and cheerleading already are very effective excercises. It may seem contary at first, but try to eat more healthy food in addition to being active. If your body doesn't get enough energy to provide for your activity, it will start storing instead of using.
In the end though, remember that you don't need to be skinny to be pretty. Some of the most beautiful people I know really are overweight (which you are not).
My dad's mom is on the verge of dying. I really never met my grandma so I can't really feel sad about it. Today my dad got really mad and blew up at my sister and said "My mom is F*ckin dying! You hear me? She's gunna die!!!! I don't need any grief from you!!!" What should I do to make him feel better?
I know it doesn't seem very fair for him to take out his sadness on your sister, but he's probably is overloaded with all sorts of feelings and the best thing you can do is try to stay of trouble. Don't try to be rebellious, do your chores and keep up with school. A
s to interacting with him, just take hints from him. If he secludes himself, give him space and if he's just openly sad, give him a hug or two and let him know you love him. Just keep in mind that this is a very difficult time for him and I'm sure you'll be okay.
Ok mii friend like ditches me and she leaces me out of everything!! And im sick of it!!!! and she like trys to act mature and tells me to get over it!! and stuff and it makes me mad!! whaat should i say to make her like mad or even cry!!?? i dont wanna sound mean but it has gone to far..!!..!!
Let her know that her behavior is unacceptable for a friend. If she doesn't think you're worth spending time with, you don't need to spend time with her. Talk to other girls, spend time with other friends.
If she cries and tells you she wants to be friends, you need to make it clear that she either needs to have a really good and rare reason to cancel any plans/leave you out or she needs to "deal with it".
Frankly, it sounds like she's using/abusing you. If you continue to let her push you around, you're pretty much letting yourself down. So put your foot down and give her the choice of either wanting your company or quit pretending to be the friend she's not.
Ok yesterday at lunch he decided to come and bother me and my friends (with his 2 friends) and EVERYBODY was like can you leave bcuz they HATE him and SO they wouldnt.... SO we all moved to a diff. table so when i got home i was iming him asking him why he was so immature and shit and he was calling me a bitch and never to talk to him again and that hed die if i ever got a BF (loser)... SO he blocked me and today at lunch i walked by his table coming from the snackbar and he and those two friends screamed "slut" as i walked by and they were all laughing and shit... WHAT DO i do hes my frigin cousin and he totally embarassed me in front of this BOY I LIKE and everything...
There's two things here. He's disrupting your learning environment (the lunchroom still counts) and that's plain harassment. Talk to both your parents and school counsellor/principal. Bloodline is absolutely no excuse for being an asshole.
He wants to block you on IM? So be it, you can block him too, he doesn't need to talk to you if he can't make a decent conversation.
Obviously he has personal issues and it may just be that you seem like an easy target because he knows you (and is related to you). Let him know that those "games" aren't acceptable by reacting as you should with any guy who puts out this shit - see first paragraph.
My best friend who isn't a virgin, and I am 18 and am still a virgin, by choice I feel that I should wait until I am truly in love. Well any ways we got in to a fight to day and she said some ignorant thing, saying that I am a virgin because I can't get none. Which is so not true. I don't know if I should still be friends with her or not. And then we get in to fights because she is with her boy friend all the time, and we never spend any time together except for school. what should I do
If she wants to spend time with her boyfriend, let her. You don't need to spend all your time with her. That doesn't mean you should stop being her friend or ignore her, but it'll help soften the pain than being a girlfriend became a little more important - enough to threaten friendship.
Just remember that as long as you keep your cool and be there when she needs a shoulder, she'll always come back to you. Guys come and go for many girls (not that they're being "slutty", but relationships don't get very far or just plain don't work), but girl-friends are near forever - with the love that made you friends in the first place.
As to the fight, yeah it wasn't nice of her, but people tend to get nasty when they're on the defensive and may actually bite when they meant to bark.
Just hang out with other friends and don't let her comments made in anger bother you, as hard as it may be. There's more important things in life.
MY parents do know, and theyre fine with the age difference. My mom just wants me to be happy. She loves me no matter what.
I am glad to hear this, I've heard many stories (and have had a bad experience myself) of problems between parents and children that easily could be prevented if the parents would have opened their minds and hearts.
As long as your happiness isn't something you had to convince yourself of, I think don't think there's any problem. :)
Me and my bestfriend had a fight...I told him that I was talkin to someone that he doesnt like, im the kind of person that doesnt judge before actually getting to know a person, so he got really mad and told me never to talk to him again. I dont know what to do he wont answer me when I talk, and he ignores me. It's hard to just say "oh well i'll move on" because we shared so many things we even thought about going to prom together (im a girl) and now he doesnt even want to talk to me or anything. I dont know what to do I want him to be my friend again. I know he wont talk to me b/c he is doing it (not talkin to her) to someother girl who was talkin to his ex. He is the kind of person who holds grudges alot and cant forget things easy.
I just want him back :(.
Something very close and similar happened to two friends of mine. I don't recall exactly what it was about, but things got a little heated cause one was super-stressed out and lashed out (with words) at the other and so for quite a while they didn't talk to each other and it was hard to talk to talk to one about the other cause they each wanted to be friends, but couldn't connect. While they haven't been close as they once were, they are okay with each now.
The moral of the story? Just be patient. The stressed one, the gay guy, in my case also is the type to hold a grudge or two, but he came around eventually. If a friendship is worth it, you just have to have patience and caring. You can't force your friend to speak to you.
In the meantime, hang out with other friends. Of course it won't be the same, but there's no reason not to have a good time cause one person has issues and put you in the middle, even if they are your friend.
Have fun, enjoy life. He'll be around eventually.
For some reason my boobs are pointy, I have had boobs for a long time, but they have always been pointy. I am now 13, and is this normal, and is there anything I can do about this. Another thing I need to know is, is there other who have this problem to??? My mom told me she had the problem to and after she had me that her boobs got round. I think the reason why they are pointy is cuz I have know fat under the, its like its not round there. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME???
Absolutely nothing is wrong with that. You are only 13, still have plenty of time to grow (and trust me, you're going to still be growing in a few years). Even if you still have "pointy" boobs when you're 20, it doesn't really matter. Boobs are blobs of fat surrounding glands made to produce milk for babies and size/shape isn't the important thing in milk production. If any guy thinks they're made for him and should be some other way, you need to smack him and move on.
Sides, your mom says hers changed with pregnancy, it'll likely be the same for you. Of course I wouldn't recommend having children, especially for a reason like that and at your age, but just a thought if nothing else is comforting.
Im 15 and my boyfriend is 18. weve been together for almost a year. He was really sweet the first 5 months, but now he has gotten so jealous that we get in fights all the time over it. He doesnt like me talking to guys or even looking at them. He doesnt like me wearing slutty clothes. (he considers skirts slutty) We both work at the same place and when our manager tells me i have to work the drive thru with a boy, he gets so mad at me like i can help it. Ive broken up with him several times hoping that he will change, but everytime i get back with him, an hour later hes right back at it again. Each time i break up he calls me up or comes over telling me how much he loves me and i always take him back. He tells me often that i will NEVER find anyone who will treat me better, and that im lucky to have him!! I told him i dont want to live like this, but he doesnt seem to get it. If i accidentally piss him off he'll go and start flirting or talking to other girls to piss me off. He was like this with his first girlfriend, but it didnt seem to cause problems in their relationship like it has ours. Shes basically the same age as he is, so i dont know if that has anything to do with it. He was very sensitive to her needs, and would hold her if she got upset or mad, but i feel he doesnt care when i get mad. I do know that i dont want to be controlled! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
I have add my agreement with the majority. It's time to say no to this loser.
He doesn't love you. He doesn't care about you. You're an object. A piece of ass. You're worthless to him. And he's full of shit.
Don't believe for one second that you cannot do better. You CAN do better. This piece of shit doesn't deserve you. It'll be hard to say "No more" but you owe it to yourself to realize the truth, you are a great person. Don't let this fool belittle you anymore.
If you're worried about violence towards yourself, you need to talk to somebody in person. A parent or teacher, because this is wrong in more ways than I can say. Even if he doesn't physically harm you, he's at least mentally abusing you, something no girl deserves.
Also, I'd like to point out that a 18yo having sex with a 15yo constitutes statuatory rape. That means even if you did agree, your parents can sue on your behalf. And I wouldn't blame them for wanting to do so for him abusing you like this.
i recently asked about the gynocologist. well..how bad do they hurt? like REALLY bad or just a little bit ?? i mean...i'm scared like really scared
-Confused
They don't hurt, but if you're really stressed about it, you're going to feel a little uncomfortable cause they'll have to fight your muscles. Just remember they won't purposely hurt you and try to take deep breaths and you'll be through sooner than you realize.
A basic routine involves a basic breast exam and a quick swabbing of your vagina. It's not much different from a regular doctor visit except the only shot you might get on a regular visit is maybe a depo if you're doing that kind of birth control.
What's that thing you type in when your talking to someone on AIM and it shows ur IP address? Does anyone know what im talking about? Or does anyone know another way to get someones IP address?
Ip addresses are like house addresses for computers and technically, anybody can get yours if they really tried and had the right tools.
I don't recall the code you use on AIM but I do know what you're talking about. However, unless somebody is harassing you online or you have permission to directly connect to them, there's no reason you need to know any particular person's IP. In the first case, you can easily report the offender without the getting the IP address yourself and in the second case you're generally given the IP address.
Two questions about pre-marriagal sex... first one, am I spelling it right? I just like to know how to spell things, sorry to waste your time. Second one, before Advicenators, I was always under the impression that pre-marriagal sex was just for the screwed-in-the-head potheads and the sluts/whores. But now I'm looking at these questions, and seriously folks, it's just insane how many people are saying "I've been with my b/f three months and we had sex last night, is that too little time?" or something like that. Are my thoughts on pre-marriagal sex wrong? Note: Smartasses get 1s and will be reported. Give me real advice.
While I find it concerning that people not ready are doing it, I don't think premarital sex is horrible in itself.
I'm no virgin or wife (yet), but I am in a long-term relationship with a caring partner that I know will be by my side through thick and thin. While we have had a pair a sessions involving another person, our attention is for one another. That's how it has been for the last 5 years and we're still going.
However, I do understand where you come from. Teens shouldn't be having sex when they're ignoring the risks and can't say for sure that they'll be okay with it in the morning. Frankly, I'm tired of hearing my younger peers saying they've been with someone for quite a while and what they mean is for two weeks.
Is it the stupidest thing to want a baby when u had a miscarriage earlier on in the year, when earlier in your life u had bad things going on with your dad but knowing your mum would give you full support, having the bestest boy friend in the world u’ve been with him for a year and just wanting something to fill that hole in your heart you just want something more to love.. at the age of nearly 15..?
Stupid is far from the right definition.
There are two big things you need to do. Talk to your boyfriend and read up.
Your boyfriend needs to know because it just wouldn't be fair to him for you to end up pregnant when he's not ready. Even if this is just an intrigue, he needs to know where you stand if you get pregnant again. Especially considering dads are responsible for their children too.
Babies are blessings, but they are royal pains of blessings that you don't see the results for many years. Having a child really is a lifetime commitment and while your mom may be supportive, it's you and your boyfriend that must be the parents. And that's not getting into how much care you must take of yourself while you're actually pregnant.
I wondered what it would be like to be a mom at that age too, but please know what you're getting into before you let your desires decide. Being a mom is hardly full of frills.
Ok well I have light brown hair, freckles, green eyes, and pale skin. I don't know how to do my make up. I don't really want to use foundation only bc I don't want to have a "mask" on my face. I don't know what eye make up and stuff to use. Plz help.
You sound a lot like me. I understand what you mean by mask, I don't have sensitive skin but I can definitely feel makeup. Aim for the "less is more" approach. If I'm going to wear any makeup, I usually wear a eyeshadow in a soft color that adds just a little bit of glimmer and a lipstick just a little bit darker than my natural lip color. I prefer the creme/liquid bases, especially the Wet n Wild MegaEyes Creme Eyeshadow. They feel a little wet at first (as expected with liquids) but they end up being very light.
hey i was just wondering about something... well you know how girls think that boys are weird and what they do to try to impress girls are weird and not attractive at all? wel is there anything about girls that you guys hate? i just wanted to know because there's this guy that i really like and i was wondering if there's any like really annoying habits about girls that guys dont like about them.. ok please answer i rate high!!
Not a guy, but I'm sure the guys will agree with these...
Don't diss yourself or other girls. It makes you look insecure and possibly like a clinger.
You like spending time with your friends, so let him spend time with his buds.
Don't automatically assume that him talking to other girls means he's gonna skip on you. It's stupid and bitchy.
No fix-him-up games. If you don't like what you're getting, get something else. As entertaining as it is to joke about training men, they're not projects to be fixed.
Don't drool on other guys you think are hot. Would you want to hear him drooling on other girls?
What are some healthy snacks you can replace with junk food to not eat just a bunch of swets- but somethign actually nutricious! Lol please don't send me to a website to look b/c i hate it when they do that...
Thanks in advance- I rate high!
Try making food at home, that generally healthier and more balanced. Often women's and home magazines feature light snacks that are easy to make.
In addition, there are many appetizing fruits and vegetables which can be sweet while healthy. Some being apples, grapefruit, cantelope, and carrots (I love baby carrots).
Regardless of what you specifically eat, just aim to eat a variety of foods throughout the day and the majority of your body's needs will be met.
16/m ok i really need help on this one im stuck and dont know what to do i love my gf to death and we have been going out for 11 months but she works at a local gym called lifetime as a swim instructer and the other day she walked out and a guy walked out with her and she knew this guy but he walked her all the way to her car and when she got in her car the guy reached for a drink inside the car and as he did that he kissed her on the lips she said she didnt kiss back and pushed him away and i talked to some of her freinds and she told me the truth but i feel like i need to do somthing and the fact that she came forward and told me about it. she started out by saying that she really doesnt feel comfterble telling me this because i could meke us worse but its tearing her up inside so she told me. and im really glad she did this but i want to beet the crap out of the guy not only for kissing her but he made her hurt and made her scared to tell me somthing she went 2 days with this inside her. what do i need to do
p.s hes a soph. in college and we are soph. in highschool
The guy should've gotten the message by her refusing his attention, so approaching him is unnecessary at this point. It's only if he is intent on pushing his affection that the school counsellor should be talked to.
Your girlfriend's fear isn't so much as the guy's fault as the fact she was probably worried that you would misunderstand what happened. For all she knew, you could really be an insecure guy and lash out at both of them. This isn't unreasonable as many guys are easily threatened by even the faintest hint that their girl might be involved with some other guy.
I know what it's like to want to beat the shit out of someone for messing with your mate, but getting violent over something already handled really isn't the best decision.
okay well for the past 2 weeks of school ive dressed up really nice... and ive looked classy. well im kinda tired of gettina ll dressed up, so what are some ways to make myself look cute, but not too dressy?? also, i want to wear a sweatshirt tomrow and jeans, but do guys look down on girls who dont get all dressed up, or do they not care?? please help!! i need some ideas
As long as you're not making a clown of yourself (un-complementary colors/patterns and random shows of skin), you'll be okay. Don't be afraid to take some good downtime with dressing up. If a guy can't stand to see you in jeans and an old t-shirt, he doesn't matter.
And just use some common sense for special social events.
ok so i'm really flatchested and i don't feel very secure. any suggestions?
Anybody who thinks your breast size makes you unnattractive aren't worth their opinion. Don't worry about your breasts, they'll end up size they're supposed to be.
Instead, focus on being healthy. Unfortunetly, many people today are stuck on looking a certian way rather than being healthy (which makes people naturally beautiful). Eat healthy and be active. What fools think about a lump of fat won't bother you so much then.
If it helps, go to your doctor. They'll give you the best, honest advice.
my friend is 13 and she had sex with a sixteen year old and she got pregnant because her cheap boyfriend couldn't spare the extra 3 dollars to buy the good condoms and it ripped, so now she's all excited about having a baby and i told its nothing to be excited about and i told her that when your that young and have a baby that its not very safe and you could die is it true?
and by the way i love my friend to death and i have know clue what to say to her about the whole thing and she's mad that everyone is calling her a slut which she is!
The absolute biggest, most important thing for your friend to do is go to a doctor. Multiple studies have shown receiving prenatal care can greatly reduce the chance of complications (such as miscarriage or birth defects). Her doctor should explain the importance of eating right and following healthy behavior.
As to her being excited, let her be. Pregnancy involves a huge hormonal and status shift (regardless of whether it was planned or if it's difficult) and woman can feel a wide range of emotions, even very surprising ones for the situation.
Why is "everyone" calling her a slut? Because she was foolish with one guy? Bluntly, you need to tell people to fuck off. Pregnancy is a major life change and it doesn't matter who's pregnant, there is no reason to bash her. That's rude and stupid.
Yes, she will need to talk to her parents, but no stunts about it. Unless there is a chance of abuse, her parents just may be the best support she has (especially seeing as nobody else has the balls to stand up for her).
And I'm curious, where is the father? He has a legal responsibility to her and the child. By having sex with her, he agreed to at least financially assist in the case of pregnancy.
edit-in: Have her go to www.birthright.org or www.plannedparenthood.org to get information on services if she needs some professional help finding services. If she doesn't have internet at home (or is uncomfortable there), usually libraries allow short usage of certain computers for the internet.