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jealous boyfriend
Im 15 and my boyfriend is 18. weve been together for almost a year. He was really sweet the first 5 months, but now he has gotten so jealous that we get in fights all the time over it. He doesnt like me talking to guys or even looking at them. He doesnt like me wearing slutty clothes. (he considers skirts slutty) We both work at the same place and when our manager tells me i have to work the drive thru with a boy, he gets so mad at me like i can help it. Ive broken up with him several times hoping that he will change, but everytime i get back with him, an hour later hes right back at it again. Each time i break up he calls me up or comes over telling me how much he loves me and i always take him back. He tells me often that i will NEVER find anyone who will treat me better, and that im lucky to have him!! I told him i dont want to live like this, but he doesnt seem to get it. If i accidentally piss him off he'll go and start flirting or talking to other girls to piss me off. He was like this with his first girlfriend, but it didnt seem to cause problems in their relationship like it has ours. Shes basically the same age as he is, so i dont know if that has anything to do with it. He was very sensitive to her needs, and would hold her if she got upset or mad, but i feel he doesnt care when i get mad. I do know that i dont want to be controlled! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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I have add my agreement with the majority. It's time to say no to this loser.
He doesn't love you. He doesn't care about you. You're an object. A piece of ass. You're worthless to him. And he's full of shit.
Don't believe for one second that you cannot do better. You CAN do better. This piece of shit doesn't deserve you. It'll be hard to say "No more" but you owe it to yourself to realize the truth, you are a great person. Don't let this fool belittle you anymore.
If you're worried about violence towards yourself, you need to talk to somebody in person. A parent or teacher, because this is wrong in more ways than I can say. Even if he doesn't physically harm you, he's at least mentally abusing you, something no girl deserves.
Also, I'd like to point out that a 18yo having sex with a 15yo constitutes statuatory rape. That means even if you did agree, your parents can sue on your behalf. And I wouldn't blame them for wanting to do so for him abusing you like this.
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ok dont let him bring you down like that.if he loved you the way he said he did, then he shouldnt care what you wear or who you talk to.love is all about trust.if the relationship doesnt have trust then it isnt a healthy and strong relationship. but whenever you two get into fights dont throw his ex girlfriend in his face.i think that is what makes them mad the most.i think that you should spend a couple of days away from each other.maybe he will clear his mind.one more piece of advice,if you love him, never let go and never stop trying!
good luck with your relationship,
sexybabe13
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Why are you with this guy?
He doesn't treat you well.
He doesn't trust you.
You don't feel appreciated.
You don't feel loved.
He doesn't respect your feelings.
He generally behaves like an asshole.
That is not the way someone who loves you will behave. That is a possessive little boy throwing temper tantrums whenever his favorite little toy (aka you) doesn't work the way he wants it too.
You are not happy. He refuses to improve. Love shouldn't make you miserable or make you feel second rate. Dump him once more, for good this time.
Don't let anyone, even someone you love, treat you like crap.
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omg
break it off with him now! thats how it starts him controling you a little bit and then he takes over your whole life . he dosent care about your feelnigs or what you want to do he just wants to feel superior and people like that are discusting ..stuff like this leads up to abuse trust me i know you have to leave him now before it gets any worse
i wish you luck
love tina
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This is an Easy one (for me anyway),
HELLO!? You're "BF" is NOT a BF. He's a self-centered, immature, pathetic JERK! Girl, youre at work and he freaks out b/c u have to help a CUSTOMER. He's too controlling. He can't tell you how to dress, he's so insecure its disgusting. Also, not like I really care about ages, but You being 15 and him 18, is ILLEGAL. Unless, do your parents know? And if so, I hope they help you realize that you'll be happier without him!!!
You Know You Love Me,
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First of all I think on eproblem is that your younger than he is. He probably thinks that b/c your younger than him he can control you and that your suppose to obey him. You either need to set him straight and demand that you not be treated this way or break up with him and don't listen to his lies and don't talk to him when he call. Break all contact with him. He need s someone to control and if you let him control you it will only get worse.
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Hi there,
Jealousy in your love life is one of the strongest and most unpleasant emotions. You suspect there is a rival for the attention or affections of your lover. It could be another person, or even your partner's work or hobbies.
People who suffer from jealousy are often very insecure, and their worst fear is that their partner will leave them. If there is no real reason for your jealousy, then your shouting, pestering or nagging could really drive them away.
If they are jealous over you:
If you have been behaving yourself perfectly well, but he is being a bit jealous, he might just need a bit of affection and reassurance.
Signs that their jealousy is starting to get out of hand include the following; calling to your mobile phone while you are apart to check up on you, listening in on your phone conversations, banning you from wearing clothes you look good in, and going through your bags looking for evidence of an affair.
Someone who flies into possessive rages for no good reason needs professional help, especially if they are violent. If they refuse to get help, get out of the relationship - it is unlikely that they will change (however much they promise they will) and you could be putting your personal safety in danger.
Goodluck
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well my advice may not be that appreciated!
I suggest you break it off with the guy. He is to possessive and to controlling and that usually means bad news. He has no right getting mad about things that are beyond your control. When you don't do things his way he plays childish games flirting with other girls.
You WILL find someone better out there. Someone who will trust you. Show him the door. :)
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my advice is to dump him and not take him back
this is an unhealthy relationship
you cant let him control you like this
its not right for him to tell you how to dress and its not right if he gets mad over little things like working with a guy
it might be the age difference he might think just because you are younger then he is by 3 years he can control you but guess what he cant and you need to tell him that
get rid of him and you will find some one better then him believe me
♥
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LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!!
This is ABUSE.
You may think that is a strong word, but that is what it is. He wants to control you, he thinks he owns you, he doesn't allow you to do anything. Maybe he hasn't physically harmed you but it is still abuse and you never know, he might hit you or otherwise hurt you. Get out now before that happens. It is a common occurance and most girls do not know what to do, they feel like they need to be with the guy. Well you don't need him. I cannot stress this enough: BREAK UP WITH HIM!!! You might have to quit your job...or you might not! Talk to your boss privately and say that you are being abused by this guy. Hopefully there is a sign in your workplace that says "SEXUAL HARASSMENT IS ILLEGAL!!!" and explains it. If you tell your boss about it the guy can get fired and likely arrested, and he deserves it. Why? BECAUSE IT'S ABUSE! AND I REPEAT: LEAVE HIM NOW!
I sincerely hope it works out for you.
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