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hey everyone, i'm kaleigh.i've been through alot, so feel free to ask me
anything, i'll probably be able to relate.
im not a shit talker and ill tell you straight out what i think, im no afraid of what people think of me, i'd acctually like to know, so inbox me and let me know.
feel free to inbox me or ask me a question.
ill try my best to help yah out.
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My friend Michelle told me lies in high school in our senior year in 2004. I had lunch by myself and Michelle had a short day at school every day because she had work and she can leave the grounds in the middle of school around noon. When she left I had lunch and sometimes she didn’t have work. So I was hoping she will hang out with me at lunch. But then I never see her come visit me. Last time she came up to me at lunch time and she told me “I can’t stay to long because my mom wants me home” I ask “why?” she said that her mom doesn’t want her to stay at school if she can go home at noon every day. That was the most worst lie I ever heard. My past friends lie to me and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I only had her and Josh at school because my other two friends were at a different high school. Josh came by once in a while to hang with me at my lunch he ditch class for me! I cry so hard that day when I found out she’s been lying to me everyone in class
ask me if I was ok I couldn’t stop crying I had to go to counseling. It was a trouble year. I Ask Mandy why she lies to me and she said she has a hard time trusting people because they lie to her too in the past.
Now we are good friends and hang out all the time but deep down I feel like I can’t rust her anymore. How can I trust her again?
I think Em231 is right, a real friend wouldnt lie to you, but it's up to you weather you give her another chance or not. but, if you do decide to give her another chance and she lies to you again don't give her another chance.
people can change,
but the past never does.
hope i helped. :]
I have a friend who knows i like her more than a friend. She has a boyfriend, she tells me almost EVERYTHING!
Today she told me she's going to break up with her boyfriend. He only has one more chance which is a day to make it up to her.
If they do brake up, what's a good way to ask the girl out??
Thanks so much for all suggestions and advice!
And if it wouldn't be a problem, what's a good activity for a FIRST date?
Thanks in advance.
Kronix
well, if they do break up i think you should give it some time to let her "recover" but, before you acctually ask her to be ure gf hangout a couple times first then if you "hit it off" ask her out.
and for ideas about the first date,
well, i wouldnt go to the movies becuase she might feel a little akward.
uhm, maybe go out for something to eat, like a slice of pizza or something.
maybe, a hockey game, basketball or hockey.
ask her what she likes to do and think of ideas from there.
hope i helped. :]
As, from the beginning i know he wanted to be bf/gf but i just didnt have that chemistry for him so he said im just treating you as my sister and a freind also. He calls me everyday and lately i had some problems at work and he would
show his concern and yesterday he said ''i've been thinking about you the whole day.'' ''I'm wondering how were things at work and what did your manager say regards to your problem?''
There was some guy i dont know who added to my msn and i asked him do you know that guy who added me? He said, no i don't i won't give out your email address to anyone without ur permission but you should be careful dont let him hack your account just block him if you dont know him. Why don't you just give me his email so i can tell him to stop hacking you. He said can you delete him? I said no,I think your going over board here i might know him. I'll find out first if I don't then I'll delete him. So, I asked him do you really meant to be my brother? I told him straight from the heart that when you said you're willing to be my brother I was pleased and felt thankful to have someone that treats me like a real sister. I always wanted my own biological brother to treat me like his sister although he would beat up a kid to protect me when i was being picked on from others at school and deep down knowing he loves me but he never nice to me. Anyway, ''I'm sorry to say that I wasn't sure why you came in my life.''One thing for sure I know God let us to be friends cuz i pray for whatever the outcome would be plan by God's hand and it seems like God has given another brother to me.'' He said ''You have clearly put where we stand but since then it was hard for me to put it all down but to see you as my sister and a friend
i was a little unhappy at first but its all ok now. I i think you already know or i have shown out to you already.'' ''i had the like feeling from the beginning that is why i kept you as a friend because i didn't want to lose you as a friend and to be my sister.'' ''i had put all feeling down and just put the mean that you are my sister don't misunderstand.'''' Of course i want to be your real brother and replace your brother that does not treat you good i would not do that to my sister i would be there for you anytime you need me but rather you accept me to be your real brother.'' So, after that we changed the topic and he said Its almost x-mas and he would buy me a gift to show just to show a friendly guster as friends. I said, then I must return you a gift too but he stated clearly no i know it makes you feel bad but I have my reason i need to do this I need to show you my apprecitaion that God has given me a good sister. Anyway, he continue to ask for the hangout like from the start of our conversaion. You want to meet tomorrow? I was tired and not in a mood and he was kind of pushing me for a hangout and said ''no i just want to help you to open more up like the first day i met you were really shy.'' ''I would feel happy if I see you talk more.'' ''We should talk on the phone everyday.'' Well, somehow i kind of prospone our hangout and said there would be more time to get together later on when i quit my job and I know he woulnd't hang up the phone until I say so and he respect my way.
it sounds like he still has feelings for you, but he doesnt mention them because he knows you don't have them for him, well. at least it doesnt sound it. and i think he truely loves you like a sister but maybe a little more and it's just going to take some time to get all of the "more than a sister feelings gone. but, if you still have feelings for him tell him before he slips away. but, if you don't. then just keep going as you are.
hi. 15/m
i've known this girl for about a month. i met her at a football game. she's really pretty and just all around great. great personality, etc...all the good stuff.
so last night, at another football game, i asked her out. we'd been talking over aim/facebook since we'd met and i really like her.
well after i asked her she thinks for a minute, then turns to me and says "i need to think about it". then i give her a hug because i had to leave.
well i got a message from her this morning after i got home from saturday varsity swim practice that said "i really really really like you but i don't really want a boyfriend right now...not saying i wont in a couple weeks or months but i dont want it to be awkward around us..." etc.
well we've been talking litterally like....all day. and so i think what i'm trying to ask is do i try again in a couple weeks or what? i don't really have much experience with girls...i've only ever had one girlfriend and so idk if i should try again later or if i should look for someone else...
thanks a bunch
G.M.
i think you should just give her some space right now, because you never know what could be happening with her like maybe shes going through a tough time and doesnt need anymore stress, not saying your going to stress her out but with trying to hangout and make plans might. so i suggest, if you see her at a football game or basketball or whatever hangout with her, become better friend with her then later, in maybe like a month or so ask her again.
hope i helped. :]
i have a boyfriend that im in love with! we've been together for a year and a half and in general he makes me happy but we do argue alot, thats just what we do and it doesnt bother me. but... theres this guy i just met, i cant believe it but he takes my breathe away everytime i see him. hes incredible, and i love everything about him(atleast from what i know about him). i really like him and i cant get him out of my head!!!!!! he makes me smile, and has the most sexiest dimples EVER!!!! i love my boyfriend but the fact that im thinking about even considereing being with another guy breaks my heart. and i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!! i try everything to get him out of my head! i'll sit there and think about how much i wanna spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend and ill convince myself that this other guy is just a silly infatuation and i forget about him. that is until i see him again and i totally forget i even have a boyfriend. im having a mental breakdown. please help!
i think you need to think about everything you and ure boyfriend have been though, i bet theres alot... since you've been dating a year and a half! and i think this guy you just met is an oubstcle put in ure way just to see how much you truely love& care for ure boyfriend.
i really hope i helped. :]
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and recently we started hanging out with this guy. I am really getting to like him he's cute, nice, funny etc. I still love my boyfriend but i feel like I'm distancing myself from my boyfriend because of this guy. What should I do?
well, youve gotta think. you have been with your boyfriend for almost a year now and i'm guessing you knew him before you started dating. and you just met this guy i think you should give it some time and if you feel you like the other guy more then ask ure bf for a break or break up with him.
hope i helped& best of luck.
So I'm a 19 year old guy, and to sum it up I've never been in a real relationship. I've had lots of opportunities to go out with girls and I've been asked out by about 5 so far. The problem is that I really want to be in a relationship and I'm very attracted towards women, but whenever things start going right with girls it's like I need to get out of it. And no, I'm not gay. I feel really confident in myself physically and mentally, I'm very involved at my university, and I have lots of friends both guys and girls. I don't have lots of experience with girls as far as in relationships, but I feel very confident when talking to them. Sometimes I plan to ask a girl out, but then I lose interest in her within a week or so. It's like I have to make sure it doesn't work out even if things go well. Everyday I think about how I still don't have a girlfriend and it drives me insane!
What advice can you give me to start dating chicks and getting more comfortable with dating? Anyones advice is welcome of course.
-Thanks a lot
it sounds like your looking at all the negatives, like maybe thinking that oh, shes nt going to like me because i don't have alot of experience.
I think you should focus on the positives, like wow, i really like this girl and she likes me back.
well, good luck :]
she cries and does things so sweet and fights to keep me but shes always so secretive.is she a true lover?
well, maybe she just needs some time to break out of her shell.. she should come around, i suggest talking to her about how you think it effects the relationship. she could also just be going through a tough time that she doesn't feel like talking about at the moment.
-hope i helped.
Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out now for a few days he came over the other day when he asked me out and we ended up just hanging out with my family but i guess he thought it was fun. But he's gonna be comming over again this monday and i dont want it to be boring yet i dont know what we could do. i live in a small town with well nothing to do and we could hang at the park or something to get away from my family but its gonna be really hot soo idk What are some things we could do? we dont get to hang out much because he lives 40 minutes away and i cant drive and he has work that we kinda ruins times we can hang out and school starts for me this comming wednesday which is gonna make things even harder so i want to have fun things we can do when he's here so we can make it work. got any ideas?
if its gonna be hot, go swimming, or go to the beach. thats always fun. :]
hope i helped.
okay, so theres this boy. and hes 5/4 years older then me. and everyone hated him, so i eased off with talking to him. and he was so sweet to me, and my bestfriend told me she wouldnt be my friend if i dated him. and all this stuff, so i stopped acting like a girlfriend type. and he was so heartbroken.
and now he has a new girl, and all i want is for that to be me. and please, tell me how to show him i do care about him.
well, if shes really your friend she would want you to be happy, but ask her why she doesn't like him and etc. then think, do i really really like this guy? and think about why you like him.
hope i helped.
some one pleaseeee help me. i want a cool background for my buddy4u site. (aka like the itunes, or surfers, lip gloss, polka dots, ect..) i really want a fashion one (aka paris, shopping, clothes, vogue, teen vogue). instructions and links are perfect!
andd
my website is going to be a fashion magazine type thing if that helps. thank you!!
alright, i'm not a pro on buddy4u but i have seen layouts on other peoples sites, i don't really know that much about it.. but i hope i helped.
Whenever I try to log into my webmail page to contact my boss, the page finishes loading, but I don't see anything on the screen I've tried refreshing the page and typing the address again... but nothing. I need help, fast!
well if you click on the icon on your desktop try to open up a new internet page and type in whatever your email is from, yahoo.com, msn.com, aol.com etc. then access your mail from there. if that doesnt work try using a diffrent computer.
hope i helped.
good luck.
ok, so theres this guy and hes in nearly all of my classes.. i really like him and have never had the guts to tell him cause i dont know how he would react seeing as there are heaps of girls who have liked him in the past and still do.. so he will probably think im just following the trend or something like that.. which, im not a big fan of doing.. but anyway, to the point, next year, im going to an all girls school and i will probably never see him again, maybe occasionally at the shops or something.. but really, i just dont know how to tell him, hes always around his friends so i cant catch him alone, so when he is with his friends, i will face major embarrassment and probably he will too.. i know that he is really, a shy person inside, even though that is not the image that he wants to portray.. and any advice on how i can talk to him would be great..
thank you in advance!
p.s. sorry its so long and if it doesnt make sense.
alright, well.. if hes always with his friends just go over to him and ask him if you can talk to him.. alone of course. then just bring him over away from his friends and tell him that your going to an all girls school next year and you probably wont see him as much, but that you have liked him for awhile, and if he doesnt say anything back be like.. well, i just wanted to tell you because i have been wanting to tell you for awhile now but i havnt been able to.
hope i helped& good luck!! :)
so i need to know what to do for my hair so that i can look better than my bfs ex lol. my hair is like, a poofy dark blonde, and i need to know if i should straiten it, scrunch it, or straiten it then scrunch it??? i have to get it damn so that i can scrunch it but wouldn't that take out the straiteningness??
i say try something diffrent: something he has never seen you wear your hair? maybe straighten it then use a curling iron to make loose curls: and then when your done with the curls lightly spary with hair spray then kind of fluff it: and if you dont like it you could always straighten the parts you curled: but be careful! if theres too much hair spray& you dont like then you try to straighten it again it could get hard and sticky!
good luck and have fun ;)
maybe you could even look up some diffrent styles on the internet if you dont like that idea :)
I rreaaally like this guy; but i moved 3 hours away. We liked each other for a while and went out for a couple of days but i broke up with him which was really stupid. I told him that i missed him and he just said gtg. i dont know what to do! Please help me.
ps. I love my best friend!
i think you should try and meet new guys in messina i mean wherever you are :) its probably going to be hard letting go of him but face it hun he has a girlfriend :( and if you two did have a long distance relationship you would never see eachother (DUHH! on my part)
good luckk: i miss& lovee youu :* :)
i am 19 and i dont know whatto do. i was living with my babys father and we are still together but wantedto move back to my moms so i could get a job and car. i couldnt do it with my boyfriend so i thought this would be a good thing to do before we went any further in the relationship. well i moved yesterday and now i think i made a mistake. he told me that i was breaking up our family and i didnt think i was doing that untill recently.now i think i made a mistake. what should i do i mean should i move back or not? we have been together for almost two years and i dont want emily to not be around her dad growing up but if i dont get my stuff together here at my moms i just dont know what to do please hlp me.
its definetly normal to take sometime away from him: just a break: however long you would like but make sure emily(love the name:)!) gets to see her dad
best of luck& hope i helped! :)
Apparently my so called best friend is jealous of me. She sent an email to my boyfriend saying that we spend too much time together and she never gets to hang out with him anymore. I dont understand this cause she has been trying to get me to break up with him for a while now. I hate that everyone is trying to break us up. I really want to die. No one wants me happy. I think Im just going to tell him we need a break once again. Idk. I thought she cared about me but I guess she just wanted him. I love her to death and I dont even know what to say anymore. I cant trust anyone.!!!!!
i think you should get both of them at the same time and talk to them so that way no one will lie: and if they do theres going to be someone else who has a diffrent true story
good luck&hope i helped :)
Okay, so there's Storywrite.com, which I'm addicted to. But anyways, I am still in the process of writing a story for one of the contests. I was going to make it around 5000 words, but I kind of underestimated how developed I was going to make my story. Now it's over 10,000 words long and it's not completely done. I mean yes, I can end it where I am right now but there are problems with that:
X-I'll have the strongest urge to write an epilogue
X-Story will feel incomplete [lose points]
X-I won't be satisfied
X-It will feel like I rushed things at the end [again, I will probably lose points]
So my questions are:
1)Would you be annoyed/pissed off to read like a 15,000 word long story if you were the judge of a writing contest? [The judge hosting the contest has no word limits]
2)Should I just submit it or make it shorter?
3)If I should make it shorter, should I make it into chapters, just shorten the whole story, make it into prologue, story, and epilogue, or what?
AHH please help me. I asked the judge what he wanted and he hasn't replied yet. The contest ends in 5 days and I'd like to have plenty of time to make adjustments...
i say keep writing& write until you are satisified with it: you dont want to rush a story because then it could either not make sense or like you said loose points: and if theres not a word limit take advantage of that! and make sure next time you limit yourself :)
hope i helped&best of luck!
15/f
so, my ex best friend, who was my friend of like 3 years, all of a sudden moved. i mean, me and him stopped being friends, because i messed up. i mean he liked me, i didn't like him, and yeah you get it. but anywayss, so now, all of a sudden he just moved. like i mean, my friends all live right by him, and there was never a for sale sign infront of there house. and i mean, usually your house takes like a little while to sell. [espically his, because his is like a piece of junk.] so anyways, it was like june 29th or something, and i saw something on his away saying packing getting ready to move. and like he moved yesterday. and so, i just, don't know what to do. i mean, i planned on telling him i missed our friendship, one of these days. but now, i can't . and i dont know, what should i do?
well first off i dont think he should have stopped being ure friend cuz you didnt like him? if thats even what happened but if not pretend i never said anything :)
but well i still think you should tell him you miss(not missed!) your friendship: and that your sorry that the relationship wasnt going to happen but you think you guys should still be friends: and sooner the better: just come out and talk to him tell him all the qualities you liked in your friendship or even in him: but dont mention qualities like eyes and stuff that cuz you dont want to lead him on unless you like him :)
hope i helped&best of luck! :)
so i got my best friend or i think so, lets call him bill. anyway hes really competitive with me like in skateboarding if he lands a trick i cant do hes always talking about it and wanting to go skating. When i was way better than him he didnt want to go. i know this other guy who we will call john. he skates to. i just metioned to bill that i went to johns house for a sleepover and we skated. john was having a party and he invited me first. i didnt tell or boast to bill. then when bill was invited he came straight up to me and asked was i invited to johns party. now john is always boasting about how hes going to johns house to swim and skate. i know its pathetic. then bill said john was makin fun of my skatin on aim. also when i was a fridget he kept on telling other people in our new school and girls. when infact i found out he was ne too. later somehow everyone knew who i had kissed and apparently she was a real minger. i kept all his secrets but he spreads bullshit about me. also when wer talking to girls he blocks me out and when i speak he speaks over me. same on aim. hes really my best friend though and wer tight but hes got these bad qualities. should i just ignore him or like do what?
well think of it this way: would a real friend talk about you behind ure back& put you down? hmm also when you both are talking to girls dont just let him push you out of the way: push him back: girls love guys fighting :) but dont take it too seriously: but yah gotta get in that action somehow :)
hope i helped! :)