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Q: Ok so I was at this party and this really cute Spanish guy was there, I've briefly met him before but I didn't think he would remember me but he did :)
And there was some Spanish salsa music played at the party and and he asked me to dance at the begining and then closer to the end of the party he asked me to dance again to a Spanish song, so both times was to salsa music
I was just wondering does this means he might like me because he asked me twice?
I'm 16/f and he's about 19 (he doesn't know how old I am though so don't take age into account too much)
Thanks

ok well i think that it could mean he likes you or he just likes salsa music and loves to dance, but sense you said, he remembered you then he might.You never know maybe if you should wait until you see him again to get to know him because you said he didn't know your age and maybe then you can find out if he likes you. Hope i helped (:

Q: Ok so Im 13/f and I came home today hurting alot in my vaginal area. I went to the bathroom and looked at it to see what was wrong and this big rash type thing has grown around my vagina. I have never had sex and Im not sure if its a yeast infection? Well what is a yeast infection? It hurts to change sitting positions and its really irritating. I dont wanna talk to my mom because it could be awkward and I dont want her to look at it if I tell her because that would make me uncomfortable. Is there anything that can help me? I know you cant be 100% sure about this description but,: Its around my vaginal area pretty big and really red. It rises a bit above my skin and is irritating and uncomfortable.
Please help me! Will the rash go away on its own? I looked up pictures of people with the same problems and most people say its a rash. ive never had a rash before. Will it go away on its own? Help!!!

I am not 100% sure about your condition or on what you have but my advice is that for the age you have it is always hard to tell your mom about things that are uncomfortable i know from my experience but when something goes wrong with your health trust me your mom has to know i don't wanna scare you but it could be something bad..Will it go away on its own? i don't know.You should try to see a doctor and see what happens.Hope i helped (:

Q: Well my boyfriend is like really shy and is not at all intimate with me in any way .ive read other articles about this and all of them are telling me I should make the first movebut the problem is I'm also very shy so I was wondering is their a way for me to like entice him to make the first move.pleeeaaaassseee help!

I know making the first move is hard but this is what i think. I feel that you should maybe tell your boyfriend how you feel i know its hard or ask him why is he so shy about kissing you i mean you are his girlfriend he should be able to show u how much he loves you.He might even have something going on you never know until you say something.Hope i helped (:

Q: Welll, Im Friends with this guy and i been talking on the phone with em for couple Days we dont sleep at alljust to stay on the phone and uhh we be talking dirty like him getting boners and im telling em im bi and stuff like that but i dont know if he likes me . he told me that my voice is sexy im like ahh weird

I think this guy likes you but i dont think he likes you for real because the things he says to you are just nothing. Well i'm just going to tell you that if your looking for a good real serous relationship.He might not be one because he sounds like a guy that just plays games and stuff.
Hope helped good luck!(:

Q: I've been going out with my bofriend for 1month now and he lives 2.7 miles away from me and when he comes down to see me him and my best friend always flirts and when I ask them something,they completely ignore me:-( then after my boyfriend goes home they text eachother:-( help? Please:-( it gets me down so much:'(

sorry to say but that's not a good best friend you got. I think the best thing to do is talk to both of them and tell them how you feel if they ignore you just let your boyfriend go and maybe your friend too. Don't let your boyfriend get you down especially if hes going to be that way.hope this helped good luck(:

Q: I'm live in Canada. So a while ago I asked a question on this site about how to tell a guy how i feel about him and everything.. Someone said to message him on facebook to tell him that i like him and how I feel about him and everything.. But I really confused on what to say! Any ideas?

well start by saying Hey and start a conversation about anything and just stay calm don't say things that might make him feel uncomfortable cause it might not end well. Then when you find the right time to tell him you should go for it. Good luck(:

Q: It sucks because I'd love to have a boyfriend or a best friend but it seems so out of reach and out of my control. I'm 18 and it's just embarrassing that I haven't experienced such things and I feel depressed over it. I don't think it could be my looks, cause being totally honest I think I look good. The only thing I want to change is my weight, cause I'm slightly overweight, according to my BMI, but it's hard to get motivated to work out and eat healthy when I feel depressed over my adolescence. I'm 18 but I don't even feel like an adult, really. I just feel like curling into a ball and hiding away from everyone. It's hard to even get motivation to clean my room. But my mom exaggerates my room being messy when I think my mental state is far more important than clothes being on the floor. My mom took away my laptop for not cleaning my room, so I have to use the one in the study room, but it's annoying because I'd rather just lock myself up in my room all day, and only leave to get food. It's pathetic but I don't know how to change. I just feel like my life has been going downhill since I was 6 and my family moved here to America from England. Last year I thought was the worst year of my life but this is, and it shouldn't have been, as it was my final year of high school. But there's absolutely nothing good about these past 2 school years, except the concerts I went to, and the two times I got to travel overseas. Everything else was total crap and I blame myself, cause I think it's mainly my fault, so I don't know why I'm causing soo much pain to myself. and then there's other issues I have to worry about, like race, because for some stupid reason most people aren't colorblind and a lot of people believe racial stereotypes and are racist in a way, when, as someone who's lived in 3 continents, I see the world as my home and I'd never not try to be friends with someone because of their ethnicity because I don't think that way at all. we're all individuals. but I've had some fake friends, like some people who used me and then if I saw them in the hallway they wouldn't even acknowledge me. what the hell? I find it hard to trust people. I even have trouble sharing really personal things with the therapist I just got. I'm just afraid. I criticize myself so I don't want someone else to criticize me for things I'm already worrying about. And I hate how I only get to see her once a week cause I feel like seeing her everyday. There's so much pain I just keep inside. And then I feel guilty, too, cause there's people who have way less than me who are happy and here I am moping about, so why can't I just be happy and move on?? I'm just so mad because I'm such a mess right now and I don't know how I'm going to be able to break free of this and be able to reach my dreams.

trust me i know how you feel about wanting things wishing,dreaming about so many things and nothing happens.I always blamed myself i always looked for help but i realized that all i needed was a friend and to not feel alone.All i needed was time take things through. i finally feel good about myself! i think nothing you said is your fault it's just a part of life.You just have to live with people making life suckish but if you prove to people that your not what they think you are and feel motivated,get goals.i'm sure you could get somewhere. I know you said you didn't have anyone or felt motivated i know that feeling. If you want to became friends email me i'm a great listener. hope i helped(:

mntsrrtm@gmail.com

Q: I have had a crush on the same guy all my life (and no, that is not a dramatic exaggeration) and now, he has a girlfriend. I am surprizingly not bothered by this, why? All I really care about is if he's happy. Does this mean I've given up?

That's really good that you care so much about he's happiness.Have you given up? I don't know but you look like you truly like him.I think you should maybe wait until they brake up and i know you probably waited to long cause maybe you didn't have the confidence to tell him before but you could also have your friends help you and tell him how you feel. Hope this helped! (:

Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months, and he's amazing... He is very respectful, funny, so caring, and absolutely selfless. He does everything for me. I have a prince charming. But I'm selfish.
I've always been a very depressed person, and lately I am so off and on. He gives me everything, and I'm never happy. I always bitch and get jealous and freak... and I just feel horrible. He stays by my side no matter what but I am so close with just breaking it off because I know I shouldn't treat him this way.

Your not selfish because selfish people don't admit they are, most of the time.If you have a great awesome guy that loves for who are don't let him go there's so many girls that wish to have a guy like that.You should let him know that you feel that way and see what he says he might even be there for you. If your planing on getting help for your depression you should let him know. iv had a depression before and i know how you feel. hope this helps (:

Q: my room bores me to death and i need some thing new that goes along with my personallity
basically im an emo girl so i like only black n neon colors (always have always will) so are there any ideas to make my room match me better i already have nice bright pink walls but wat could i do 2 decorate it??????

well i think you should think more about who you are and what you are because i used to decorate my room with so many things i thought i was like bands,pictures of family but now that i'm older i started to think that my room had to give me peace not the same old feeling of seeing the same things over and over. sometimes its good to change your room like every other week or even month. Just be you an I'm sure you'll find how you want your room to look like.(:

Q: I am still in love with my wife but she is with another man while we are still married what should I do I dont want to divorce her but I dont know what to do

well if your thinking of getting a divorce that is the best thing to do in your situation. I think its unfair for you and the man shes with.Maybe talking to her about how you feel about getting a divorce. Always be honest and tell her you have feelings for her but its not going work anymore sense shes with someone else.good luck!

Q: 18/f

I'm going to college in the fall and want to make a lot of friends. I'm generally shy but I'd like to push myself out of my comfort zone and become more outgoing. What can I do to be a more outgoing person?

well i am also shy myself and i could relate with you with making friends. making friends is basically going out and being confident and of course being you because if your not you.You will never be able to find the kind of friend you would like to have as a friend also if you would like to be more outgoing is mostly showing the people your ideas and your passion towards whatever you like to do like art,music etc activities.Remember to be you and you'll be fine(:

Q: i m 18 years old n my name is shamima.i m a university student.all on a sudden i noticed that my color of nipple is different.1 is brownie pinkish and another 1 is dark brown.but i never seen like this before.also i have a boyfriend n we have physical relationship but its been 2 weeks we havent done anything.i m very tensed about the color:|:| waiting for ur rep

It could be temperature changes or level of arousal but is always a good idea to ask a doctor. You could take pictures and show your doctor if needed.

Q: I don't honestly know what to do. This guy made me feel really special, and it wasn't just in a friend way, he would use the words beautiful, babe and much more. I really fell for him & when I told him... He stopped texting me, he would ignore my messages because obviously he would of read them. He still acknowledges me whenever I see him, like with a smile. But avoids the question whenever I tell him how I feel (I've told him more than once) but it seems like I'm not getting anywhere. The only thing I could think of was telling him in person, so from across the room I mimed “what's wrong? Don't ignore my messages. You need to tell me where I stand” he was saying he couldn't hear me, and kept repeating what? I kept frowning and then laughing, then he started laughing. (I'm a teen at school also) when I got out of the room, he was stood with his friends so I didn't say a thing. I don't really know what to do? I never have a chance to speak up front. Now that I'm no longer at that school, I will hardly see him. Can someone please tell me what could be the possibly reasons for why he's done this? What I need to do, to possibly solve it? Please, that would be a massive help.

honestly i feel that this guy was just either is trying to make you feel better with his kind words for whatever reason it could be or he might of just liked you but might of been shy or even embarrassed around his friends. He might just be like the kind that just plays around or even is afraid to tell his feelings. you never know it would have been better if you would of asked him a better question like why were you being all nice and now are ignoring me but sense you said your in another school you should Probability let it go unless you want to talk to him again you should just find him and tell him your feelings sense he doesn't answer you messages(:

Q: hi im a 16 year old girl, how do you get waterproof mascara off?? i usually buy non waterproof mascara and i just take it off with water, but i bought the wrong one and now i can never take it off? any suggetions at home that i can take it off with?? or anything cheap but really good that works?
thanks! :)

i think you should just use some vaseline(:

Q: 14/f i've liked this guy for about a year. i was going through really hard shit with my family and everything a year ago and he helped me through it. last year we just started talking, i have a lot of guy friends so it wasnt unusuale i didnt even like him like that in the beginning. but i started realizing we have a lottt in common. even our signs go together perfectly. but at the time i was really self conscious and i knew people were going to start to notice that we were becoming more than friends. usually i wouldnt care because i dont give a fuck what people think about me, but at the time it affected me. so thats when i started liking him. and im pretty sure he liked me too. but his ex girlfriend is this popular girl who is such a jelous person and is just demented. so i was having a hard time with friends and family. so i thought oh you know what i respect her as a person im not going to date her ex boyfriend. but in reality thats just crazy becase she had stopped dating him for about 8 monthes and she wasnt even my friend. i relaized i should've picked him over her for sure, because me and him would i guarantee still be going out. so i jusft started ignoring him and i could tell it hurt him that i wouldnt give him a hug and talk to him, it hurt me too and i did it anyway. and i totally regret trying to push him away. so then going into this year, 8th grade we didnt have a lot of classes together like we did last year and we dont sit next to each other like we did last year. so it makes it hard for me to to talk to him. but about 2 monthes ago our class was going to the computer lab and i called him over and was like hey sit next to me and as he was walking over he looked really puzzled hes like why? im like idk bc i feel like we havent talked in awhile and he said something like oh well im going to sit over there, and he sat with his friends. im like wtf? it never crossed my mind that he would reject me. but then again thats what i put him through for a year. i wanted to cry and punch my computer screen because it really hurt me. i thought if he had sat down i would have been like hey whats up what are you up to? and eventually saying look i know we havent talked in awhile but im sorry for pushing you away i feel really bad about it, but no he didnt even want to sit down. but he also now gives me alot of mixed signals like saying hi to me occasionally when its convenient for him but he goes up to other girls and hugs them like he used to do to me. but i think hes also scared of me a little bit becasue i come off as this very tough girl and not afraid to tell you how it is and hes a little more sensitive and hes tried so many times that i think hes given up. but i guess the good thing is he wont ignore me he still says hi. i know that if we talk more or if we have more classes next year i know our relationship is still there we just need to work on it, and i need to say im sorry. i mean i have his number, but we havent texted in over a year, were not close anymore and that would just be awkward. and i dont know if should just go up to him and tell him how i feel or what. im really confused and scared. i mean on the other hand i think he'll accept my apology but im still nervous. what to do?? thankyouuu

hey think you should just tell him that you still would like to talk and if he say yeah sure and you know stuff like that then you should be like i miss talking to you and act like you don't have his number. Make an excuse like i lost your number or something like that and well maybe you guys can start messaging again and became the friends you guys use to be. If he doesn't look convinced with the whole i miss talking to you then you should just sorry to say but you Probability want to move on(:

Q: I know what you think oh how stupid she want to kill het self... But if you where in my place you would have done it long befor now...
I can't say the country but let's say I am from country (A) but I grow up in country (B)... I had a lot of dreams and I worked hard so hard studied up all night to go to the best universty... But the country(a) and (b) got in a war so country (b) took my father and we don't know where they put him and my mom left me my bro and my sis to go out and try to help... but she did not for 4 years but after 4 years we meet my mom onther country that is (c) we stayed there for 1 year and then came to other country that is Sweden and we asked for help here but they said no you can't stay here go back to country (b) now my mom is about to go crazy and I am not Going to school also my sister and we don't know what to do if we go back to any of the countrys we will get killed like my dad... I don't know what to do all I am thinking about is killing my self... Pls help... You don't have to tell me a way out but keep me alive till I get a way out...:'(

well i don't know what to say but i can imagine that you feel very hopeless but sometimes life gives challenges that we don't even understand at all or even make you feel like all this is unfair but you sound like you are a very strong person and with wonderful dreams don't let all this bring you down because there is far more even more worst things than this. please don't kill yourself you wont do well it might make it worse. there's Probability so many people out there that wish they weren't dying either because of some kind of disease of some kind or something like that.i just hope you realize life is a gift. i wish you the best of the best please don't kill yourself (:

Q: I am startong summer camp and we go swiming on my first day of my period need help it is tomorrow!!!!

i think it all depends on if you use pads or tampons
but if you use tampons it could work out better because they don't absorb water but you might want to change them more often if you swim a lot but if there isn't a way for you to get a tampon then this is what you do.when you get in the water you should just not use a pad because you already would have enough pressure. if this doesn't help just go to this link(:

http://www.wikihow.com/Swim-on-Your-Period-Without-a-Tampon

Q: I am 13 years old. I have a friend that is 27 years old. In a month or less I will be moving to California . My friend is supposed to be moving with us. BUT a few days ago he had told me he's good at making out and I should try it with him. And I'm like huh ? And then he told me how he liked me and stuff. But my mom had just asked 3 days before, if Dustin (the friend) was weird or if he made me feel uncomfortable,etc. (basically if he was a pervert). And I'm like no , because I didn't know yet and she's like okay . Because he claims to be gay also BTW. And he has this crappy job with crappy people and lives in a small crappy hotel too. And IDK if I should tell my mom 'cause I would be the reason his life sucks and I don't think I'm in the place to take away dreams just to feel more comfortable. Help me! Should I tell or not?

well i think you should tell your mom.You might regret not tell your mom before because the situation with "this friend" could get more difficult especially how you said "this friend" is a higher age then you are. think about the loss of trust your mom might feel if you don't tell her i know its hard but trust me your mom wont get mad she even thank you and don't think about taking away other peoples dreams just to make you comfortable. It all about being nice to yourself and liking yourself and if you believe your uncomfortable then listen to yourself because you are Probability right and hey think about your dreams too(:

Q: How do you glue weave in your hair & add a straight bang in the front?

http://www.black-women-beauty-central.com/image-files/hair-weave-styles-11.jpg

How do I get my hair like the one in this picture gluing it in?

here are some links that can maybe help(:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2xVt2W_AUs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?src_vid=mzeyFpUFeDY&annotation_id=annotation_577424&feature=iv&v=GLiOK8DrKIg

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I'm here to give advice and maybe get some back too.Iv been through a lot of issues with family and even trouble making friends but i always made it through hope this helped understand that i'm just a person always happy to help out.