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Hello.
My cousin is going through a hard time at the moment, with his parents recently separating. He goes to school, comes home, and works in the same room until he decides to eat/sleep. He rarely goes out, which is odd because he seems to be the type that would be quite popular: good looking, good at sport, intelligent etc.
Long story short, his father made an insensitive comment the other day. My grandmother, my uncle, and my mother have asked for me to do something with him to cheer him up. This is fine, but I don't know how to ask without it sounding like a pity invite? I was thinking of just heading into the city, do abit of window shopping, grab a bite to eat, and maybe catch a movie.
The wierd thing is, never have I done anything with him apart from family meetings etc. I feel odd just randomly texting him asking if he wants to do something, because it will seem so obvious.
Can anyone shed some light on how I can ask, without it seeming like a pity invite? It is of course a pity invite (so to speak), but I don't want him to feel that it is?
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ask for a family dinner and bring up a movie you like while your talking but say your mates not into it is he keen?
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i am a 44 yr old woman and i am finally in a place i feel at home.i'm single disabled and have the biggest heart anyone could ask 4. But my problem is my youngest daughter 22w/child i addore so much that lives with me for the forth time and her daddy raised her in nc,where i'm from and he stole her from me when she was 2 but she came back to me when her stepmother left to 4 the same reason i did,, drugs...he was on and 4 me physical and mental abuse. i left my home state because he threatened me and my land lord that he was going to burn my house down if he didn't get shed of me.well that was 13 yrs ago and 2 wks ago he called my daughter and asked me if he could stay here temporarily and of course i said yes. well now 3 wks later he caused me and my babygirl got in a fist fight today. i have fybromyalgae and now have bruises on me and then she left with him but said theyd be back tomorrow. well my pt. is i don't want to live anymore because stress brings alot of pain to me and they are taking over my home and won't help clean all they do is ask for money that i have not gottten so i'm miserable i want to kill myself cause well my child told me to die today that it would make her
life so much better well i am sick and tired of being sick and tired.signed MISERABLE (link)
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phone a womens helpline in your area.tell her your situation and find sumwhere you can stay in meantime.when your safe look into some AlAnon meetings so you can help yourself.this will help your daughter too.put a tresspass order on him .and your daughter or give her a time frame to move.really look into AlAnon its for people like youwho have been with people with addictions.youl find heaps of support and people like you who have been in this situation.talk to a womens refuge helpline in the area.
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Okay first off I am 20. I have two children. I am a stay at home mother. No smoking drinking or anything.
My pain in my hands are if I am folding laundry my hands hurt so bad like an ache that I cant finish the laundry I have to do it later. I can look at it and feel the pain. If I get cold my wrists, ankles knees hurt so bad. Tonight has been the worse even to the point of my bawling. I can usually can a hot bath and the pain goes away. Most of it has gone away but it still hurts and tonight I had my husband wrap my legs in a blanket and he said my legs wasn't even cold. My legs sometimes jerk a little on their own.
I don't have health insurance nor can I afford a doctor appt. Yes I have tried to get health insurance threw the state they say we make to much. but after our bills we barley have enough for gas. I know you are not doctors but maybe you are someone or know some one with the same symptoms. (link)
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get to the doc u can always set up an automatic payment and pay 5 a week.your money dosent matter as much as your health.cld be a serious or something you can manage with pain medication.you dont know til u ask
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15/m
For quite a long while I have been mopey and unhappy and my head full of suicidal thoughts, and this is making life a sluggish pain for me nowadays and I was wondering if anyone knows of any good tactics to get ones self motivated to do homework and whatnot. Please I do not need a schpeal about "Don't commit suicide it's the wrong way to go" I know this and I guess im lucky that I'm too much of a pussy to do it anyways.
I am a questioner and a heavy thinker (yes thinker not drinker) if that helps any. (link)
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watch the movie "the secret"(if u havnt already)its movie /doc changes lives.
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I'm M/16. Recently I've been starting to believe that I'm crazy. Not crazy as in jumping ans screaming crazy but by the way I think about myself & others. It's like I analyse things in my head in such a weird way. I'll think something, then I'll think back to myself like, "What the hell is wrong with you" Then I'll do something like judge someone in my head, then I'll get mad at myself for thinking that. THEN I'm always thinking about myself sometimes. Like, in my head, I'll call myself a cocky bastard or something bad. Then next minute I'll like forgive myself and blame others. Then that'll make me feel horrible again. Its like I'm stuck in a cycle. One minute I'm motivated to do something, then I'll lose interest or feel there's no point anymore. And if someone says something good about me, I feel like they're wrong or that they shouldn't say it. I'm basically not doing what I need to do to get what I want. And mentally attacking myself because I can do it but I don't. Its like physical vs. mental. (link)
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talk to a councilor youve got a lot going on in your head get it out by talking to someone.
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Im nine years old and im a girl how do i get someone to have sex with me (link)
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Your not able to have sex yet.your too young.what about hobbies?books ?tag?boys have germs anyway they yuck.when u get olderthey be ok ,for now enjoy being free!(germ free)
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Hello,
I am a teacher in a low-budget school. Does anyone know of any creative type of art?
For example:
Trash Art
Nature Art
Collages with magazines
3-D Art
Clay
... Any other ideas? I have a really low budget.
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work with them with music buy a large roll of newsprint ask them to draw/paint for 5minutes or less maybe play diffrent tunes.ask them to draw diffrent emotions at 5 minutes most at a time.an exersize in patterns go outside with newspaper and charcol or crayon make rubbings of leaves ,tyres ,stucco walls etc
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Well my ex's best friend came up to me and said that he wanted me back... i just dont know if i still really like him. he gets a little phisical i mean most the time its pokes and grabing whitch i dont mind at all but then he will get a little carryed away, he will kind of shake me and the other day he lightly pushed me while i was walkin down the stairs i almost fell and he was saying he was sorry and he kept hugin me... so should i take him back???
please help!!! Thx!! :)
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NO.def not hel hurt you hes not the one move on.
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i think about suicide very often. i think about how i would do it. ive writen at least 12 suicide notes in my life.i would carry them around just waiting for the right time i guess. i dont see the point in life we all die someday so why not when and how we choose. (link)
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you can go tomorow just use your time and day as you can enjoy plearures in life while your stil here.it dosent make much sense to think about dying youve got a life now.watch "the secret"doc/movie.it helps.
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im addicted to pot.
im not ur average pothead. im a girl and look normal. i have friends and im extremly normal i just LOVE weed. all my frineds know it. i dont buy pounds like extreme addictes do but i try to have a gram on my at all times and i just alwyas smoke whenevr I can. I smoke so many times a day , everyday. i dont know what it means how why i do it and i want to stop but i enjoy it. the downfall is that i gained a lot of weight.
it got so bad that i brought weed with me when i was babysitting 2 kids and i smoked inside the familys house.
no one knows when i do things that shady but i dont know what to do because i love weed, its not killing me and i love the feelong but i waste money on it, gaiend weight and cant be without it.
what it mean?
what i do?
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u cant do much when your a stoner its all in the head!try looking up Narcotics Anomoynous and where you live you should find something.listen to other people.
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Every day, this is wearing me down. I think I'm really starting to get into a depression and because of having a positive personality, I've been able to get by. But, I really need some GOOD advice. On Wednesday, I'm turning 21. Everyone in my house thinks I'm 12. Or at least treats me like I am. Let's start with my mom. She loves me a lot. She has OPENLY ADMITTED that she is obsessed with me. I'm adopted and found out when I was 18. Even the way she speaks about the adoption... she says she was OBSESSED with finding me. It's nice to have someone love you. It's not nice to have someone be obsessed with you. Not to mention that I'm like her entire life. She has no job. My parents are divorced, so she has no husband/boyfriend. She doesn't want a boyfriend either. She says that is disgusting and that it would take time away from me. She doesn't even want any friends. She says she doesn't believe in friends. The only way she goes "out" is if she goes to dinner with me or drives me to my point of destination. A lot of people who meet my mom for the first time think she's "so cool." But, her obsessive ways have caused really big problems. She determines who I date, what colors I can dye my hair, the way I wear my hair, what I wear on any given day, what I put up on facebook, what friends I should hang out with, etc. We live with my grandparents. Therefore, my grandmother encourages my mom to drive me everywhere, especially at night. Personally, I don't always enjoy being driven around. I get motion sickness, which is not so much the case when I'm driving myself. She literally yells at my mom telling her that I can't go by myself out at night, throws herself on the floor crying. If I go out with a friend, so that my mom won't have to drive me, she calls me about 100 times in one night, and that's NOT exaggerating. More than anything, it's just frustrating because I think I've proven myself to be a responsible adult. I do not drink, and CERTAINLY do not drive if there's alcohol served at a party, I do not smoke, and my mom also knows that I have never had sex. Obviously, I know how to control myself. I get good grades. I know what I want to do with my life. Yet, she still loves to control me.
No one in my house cares about my school work. I'm studying to be a teacher. Those of you who are education majors know that it's hard work. In my school, you actually have to go to an elementary school and do hours. I need to take a minimum of 15-18 credits (which is about 5 to 6 classes) in order to keep my scholarship. I also need to keep a B average. I found this to be very stressful last semester because I was working. Usually, at least in my school, education and nursing majors are recommended to not work. Experience is great on a resume, so that is why we have to do so many hours in the schools. Nursing majors do their hours in the hospital, and so on. That's why there's so many scholarships available to us. It makes sense. But, to have all this, I have to work really hard. In my house, I don't have a desk or working space. I've asked a million times if I could get a desk and there's never "enough money." When I was working last semester, I was making nothing. About $400 a month. It was really horrible. I was working at school as a work-study and they really abuse of the work-study students. However, with those $400, I was paying bills. Remember, my mom doesn't work. I decided that since there was absolutely no money at all for me to even purchase food, that I would just quit my job and focus on school for now because I graduate in like a year and a half. And it's better to get what I have to get done so that I can enjoy my career!
I live in Miami and everything here is extremely expensive. A studio starts at like $900. And that's only enough space for one person. On a part-time job, I can only make like $600-$1000 IF THAT. That's not enough money to move out and support myself. I really need to finish school, most importantly. That is my main priority. I need to be a full time student (5-6 classes) to keep my scholarship. Another reason why I can't work full time is because none of the education courses are taught online. They have to be in person. Therefore, working more is not an option. Working at all isn't really an option either. My mom rents a property and gets money from the property. So, it's not like she has NO income. But, she spends the day helping my grandmother clean the house. It takes her ALL DAY to do this, yet... she can't make a tiny space for me to do my work? What she does is use my room as a storage/garbage. She takes all the dirty clothes and throws them on my bed. She goes to my make up counter and makes a HUGE mess. I usually get to school around 10am and am there till 10pm because of class/meetings/the hours at the schools, and I see underwear on the make up table. Just sitting there. I know I didn't put it there. I have been out of the house all day. I really do try to do my own things and keep my own things in place. But if I'm not home most of the time, what can I do?
To make a long story short, I feel tired. When I'm around my family, I'm just tired. I was beginning to think there was something wrong with my health, but when I'm with other people, I'm fine. When I go to other people's houses/places, I feel like cleaning and organizing. But, with the mess that they have created in my room/house and their controlling ways, I just feel exhausted. I have attempted at getting a dorm, but I got into a huge fight with my mom because she didn't want me taking out loans. I just try to brush off everything and not even care about it anymore. But, then I feel even more depressed. I've come to the conclusion that their never going to change and I have to learn how to deal with them. But, it's very, very hard.
I try to tell myself that at least I have a roof over my head, food to eat, and so on. But, it seems that in every direction I turn, I stumble into something. Like I'm in a maze. If you have advice to give me and were generous enough to read all of this, please do so now!!! (link)
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hold out til graduation and put plans in place (job ,a place.you might just have to run,make it short andsharp and painles..its not your job to work it out for them you have to look after you.they need to look at themselves not you and if you leave youl do them a favour .you an adult you have choices.
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Hi I'm 18 years old and I have a little sister who's 10 years old. I found her fingering herself on the bed on her bed but when I look at her fingers they were covered in cum!.
I have 2 question.
Is she going to be pregnant and how do I stop her fingering herself.
PLEASE HELP NOW!!!!! (link)
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no she wnt get pregnant and u NEED TO HAVE A SERIOUS CHAT WITH HER find out where she learnt this she might need protecting
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Hello, my boyfriend is addicted to meth and I'm trying to find a rehabilitation center. He understands that he needs help and is willing. I guess I'm just not clear on what kind of rehab or program I should be searching for? He can't exactly take off from his job; he works every other week a few hours away, and comes home every other week. I realize his health is far more important but I didn't know if there were any programs that would be helpful that didn't require him to be there 24/7. Thanks! (link)
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.if he wants to start somewhere look up Narcotics Anomonous and the area your in and he can go to a meeting listen to other peopels stories.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months now and I have had the most amazing times of my life with him and his friends. He was the sweetest, most amazing and understand boy...until he got depression. Our relationship deteriorated since the summer and has now reached a point where I was considering leaving him because I did not know why he was acting the way he was. He quit everything he was doing, stopped talking to his friends and would basically only go out with them because I wanted to. He also started being closed off and mean towards me, impatient, would always make me feel bad whenever I did something he did not think was smart.
The other day I had a long talk with him and told him he was going to end up alone if he didn't change and he told me everything. How hes lost interest in everything, he gets angry instantly, hes always tired, he tries to go out (were only 20) and immediately wants to go home. He never remembers a time when he actually felt happy his whole life. When I met him he was experimenting heavily with drugs but in a completely recreational and non addictive way and I didnt think anything of it because all of his friends did too. But he now tell me the only reason he did that was because they brought him to a normal level, while everyone else was at a whole different level, and he stopped because he felt like he was living a lie. He is severely depressed and agreed to get help but I don't know what to do anymore because I love him and all that I have gone through with him but he was so different before and I'm starting to be afraid that it was all a lie and the real him is how hes become now. Kind of cold and stubborn. I want to think its the depression and I am willing to stick it out to help him get through it but it puts a serious toll on me. It hurts when you love someone that is in so much pain they cant properly love you back. Any advice? (link)
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no hes not a fake he feels terrible and so he dosent remember ever feeling right.depression let s you overdramatise things .like its all black.he needs a doctor
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hi
im james
i wanna ask u something tht im verymuch attracted towards my elder sis so is it ok to have fun with her is incest sex is right or not ? plz reply me fast thanks.
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no dnt.this is somethng u cant take back never cross that line!
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I’m totally ruined, I can’t tolerate any severe pains that I’m suffering, I feel I should end this and kill myself.
I have to, every second my mind tell me this spontaneously!
I’m 25 years old, male and I live in Iran (yeah a hellish country as you probably know that!)
I have no job, no activity, and I struggle with severe depression since I was 15, I actually commit suicide once when I was teenager, I never had any girlfriend and no one ever told me that I like you.
just now I have anxiety too, I’m on medication now for 2 month but I feel it just getting worse.
my life spent for music and instrument (some traditional Iranian music and Guitar). I had all playing and practicing in the darkness of my room in a total loneliness, but now for six month I’m afraid to lay a hand in any instruments I’m afraid all I would hear is my loneliness or delirium.
I hate my country, I hate Islam, and I hate the dictatorship of tyranny which is ruling and forcing its power into each Iranian life. And because I didn’t serve mandatory service in military I don’t have the right for working, or passport and right to leave the country or a global identity.
when I was teenager or a kid I used to talk to god, but now I truly doubt his existence, when I talk to him it’s like I’m just talking to myself in a total darkness. I am a spiritual guy but I’m afraid I sense all religions and all things about god is a big lie! There is no meaning in life. I’m scared.
Sometimes I stay in my room for total 3 weeks and I have great tendency to not leave the house.
Now I have a plan to leave Iran illegally and accept all the risks which would be in the way and I bring myself to UK. There is the only hope only light for me. But I’m scared. Because I know a lot of people there would behave me with discrimination and racism. I’m afraid I would be rejected. Sometimes I feel I’m just a garbage which should be get ridden of. I need help….!
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is there really no other way to leave country...?snds like thts what u need to do to survive.religons all the same to me too.ido believe were energy and we attract like...have u seen "the secret"?worth a watch.
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I'm a junior in highschool, during the school week I take my best friend Jessica to school and home ai dont charge her gas money. At the beginning of the school year we would hang out on weekends and basically every chance we got so I didn't mind giving her a free ride. but, recently she has only talked to me when it's convenient for her. She doesn't text me on weekends, like i'll text her on friday and ask if she wants to hang out and she'll never reply but then she'll reply to my text messages that involve her getting to school that following monday. Right now, where on christmas break I haven't hung out with her once! i've texted her so many times and she doesn't reply, i'll get on twitter and see her tweets. If thats not being used, then I don't know what used is. When we go back to school, I want to tell her either you give me gas money or no ride for you, but I don't want to be harsh about it. I've been thinking this through and I honestly dont want to give her a ride period but since we have the same first period and the same last period it's kind of hard to get out of that. How can I tell her from now on I want gas money without being rude? and how can I confront her about how I am tired of her using me again without being rude? (link)
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just tel her your short on mny can she help with gas at same time ask if she wants to stop for icecream at mcdee..
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Quotes for people talking behind my back? (link)
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im so popular.dnt hate me cause im beautiful.ur full of shit and two faced why dont u say that to my face..tell somone that believes ur lies cause i dnt(or they)
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Okay so im writting a story where the main characters have a child. He is a little boy and i cant seem to name him. So does anyone have any suggestions.
The name has to have:
- four part (first, two middles, last)
- one of the middle names has to be celeste
- and the last name is richards
Id prefer a long first name but anything works. THANKS!!! (link)
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james johnson celeste richards,anthoney brook celeste richards,.
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I'm a 14 yr old girl and the other day my dad found weed in my sisters jacket he went ballistic. He punched her several times and then choked her. All our mother did was say No, Stop,No. Like wtf is that going to do? My dad is a very big and strong man. When I do something wrong like forget to vacume my dad wraps his hands around my throat like he's about to choke me. It's been like this for me ever since I was About 5 or 6. I just can't continue to live in constant fear. The even that happened recently with my sister I just can't seem to get it out of my mind. I get drunk next day wake up have a hangover still remember. Get high still freaking remember! I just don't know what to do. Please help me (link)
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your dads a bully next time call police make an anomoynous cal(if hes loud)as a "a neighbour" thats hard.ur mums probably scared to.can u talk to anyone u trust?
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